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vinylgroover
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PHATchik said:
Lol. Hun, I wouldn't expect any less from you.
yes you would, and anyway i'm not an assman anymore........all i want is a pair of 36C's and i'm happy
If you've worked hard on your body then you deserve a physically attractive mate.
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yes you would, and anyway i'm not an assman anymore........all i want is a pair of 36C's and i'm happy
well i workout a ton, but its not for vanity, i dont see it as keeping myself looking good or physically attractive, theres alot more to it than that...its become almost a spiritual thing for me, my only time to myself where i get lost inside my head and my thoughts as my conscious mind is distracted by the things my body is doing, my subconscious mind seems to piece together the questions of the day...anyway blah i could go off on some stupid jedi gym monkey shit...but at any rate i dont do it to be attractive, i dont consider it to be hardwork as much as it is enjoyment, so the idea of saying 'i work hard on my body so my mate should too' doesnt really apply to me, just because i love working out doesnt mean everybody has to, and to be honest the girls and body types i prefer dont frequent gyms anyway
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Baoh
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You deserve what you settle for.
I prefer a physically attractive person (of which I consider there to be multiple types), but I can be more than happy with a "work in progress".
Personality is a must. I don't mind teaching someone new manners of perception, though, either.
I prefer a physically attractive person (of which I consider there to be multiple types), but I can be more than happy with a "work in progress".
Personality is a must. I don't mind teaching someone new manners of perception, though, either.
HansNZ, if that is you in your avatar, then I just do not understand why you are having any problems meeting guys. Hell, you probably fight them off with a stick and can pick the cream of the litter.
Unless your personality really sucks. (But you seem fairly articulate and intelligent so I don't think that's true.)
Unless your personality really sucks. (But you seem fairly articulate and intelligent so I don't think that's true.)
HansNZ
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Hengst said:
I have no problems meeting and attracting people. I get heaps of attention. But the fact is that there are NO physically attractive gay men in my city. It is small (only 250,000 people). When most people say NO attractive people you'd normally accuse them of exagerrating. But I promise you I am not. I am not the only person to hold this opinion about the local homos.
The whole concept of body beautiful among gay men has completely by-passed my city. They either look like they're 20-going-on-12 with bony skinny bodies that would make a concentration camp survivor jealous, or their idea of exercise is to drag their beer gut up the stairs to our only gay bar to drink more beer. There are attractive guys here, I see them at my gym everyday, but they're straight. I think all the cute gay ones move to Sydney to meet other attractive gay men. I meet so many gay New Zealanders over there.
When I visit Sydney I get with guys that you just can't find here. It's like being a kid in a candy shop with the amazing men I can attract. If the rest of my life here wasn't so good, i'd be on a plane tomorrow.
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circusgirl
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vinylgroover said:
yes you would, and anyway i'm not an assman anymore........all i want is a pair of 36C's and i'm happy
there are surgeons out there who can help you obtain those 36Cs ya know....
HansNZ
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Re: Re: appearance vs. personality.........
I agree that you have to be compatible as people. But I think a lot of people fall into the trap of thinking that looks and personality are mutually exclusive. I find the opposite. I find that the gym types are often outgoing and sociable. I find that the scrawny geeky looking types are often personality vacuums.
It is indeed true that some beautiful types are up themselves. But I find that most physically attractive men are not conceited or any less likely to be intelligent or personable. Their healthy bodies usually reflect a healthy mind.
vinylgroover said:
I agree that you have to be compatible as people. But I think a lot of people fall into the trap of thinking that looks and personality are mutually exclusive. I find the opposite. I find that the gym types are often outgoing and sociable. I find that the scrawny geeky looking types are often personality vacuums.
It is indeed true that some beautiful types are up themselves. But I find that most physically attractive men are not conceited or any less likely to be intelligent or personable. Their healthy bodies usually reflect a healthy mind.
Zander1983
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Looks are very important initially, but their importance decreases as time passes.
Big Brother Val
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Baoh said:
That "work in progress" comment is what I actually prefer the most.
I'm currently dating a gal that doesn't have the best body. She's not bad, mind you, she's 5' 4" and 113 lbs. Very petite. But she's soft. Her idea of working out has always been running and VERY light weights.
We started out as chums, and it's starting to develop into something else. She's very pretty, and she's starting to go to the gym with me now, and I'm helping her make improvements to her exercise program.
The best part about this, is that WHO she is makes her better looking than her body does, but her body will be improving a lot, which will make her more physically attractive. And she will make the progress WITH ME.
The advantage to this, is she doesn't have an ego, and she's not arrogant at all. She doesn't walk around flaunting it for everyone to see, as she's more confident in her personality than her body (which I find VERY attractive). However, her body will get better week after week, and I think it will actually bring us closer together, as she becomes more physically confident as well.
I about shit myself when she told me she's going to get her chest done next month.
My last gal had an incredible body... like one you'd see on a Muscle and Fitness magazine... but her personality just makes her ugly.
atlantabiolab
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Hans, your socialistic concepts have even permeated into your love life: you "deserve"?? You deserve nothing in this world save the opportunity to accomplish that which you can.
I agree with you on the looks concept. The first senses of the mind is that of sight, and that which is beautiful is beautiful to the mind, so looks will be the first impression of the mind. After beauty has been met, the mind requires more stimulation, which is why beauty without substance loses value quickly.
I don't believe that beauty and personality are mutually exclusive, either.
You deserve nothing in this world save the opportunity to accomplish that which you can.I agree with you on the looks concept. The first senses of the mind is that of sight, and that which is beautiful is beautiful to the mind, so looks will be the first impression of the mind. After beauty has been met, the mind requires more stimulation, which is why beauty without substance loses value quickly.
I don't believe that beauty and personality are mutually exclusive, either.
