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If a widow / widower remarries...
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Spartacus
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time to shower up and head out
EnderJE said:
Bought a new life insurance policy sweets? Are you getting worried she'll decide to erase you and get a REAL man
lol...no...Frisky said:Bought a new life insurance policy sweets? Are you getting worried she'll decide to erase you and get a REAL man
Just something that I saw earlier today with a friend's dad and it got me thinking...
Maybe I've seen to many fairy tales and maybe drank too much tonight, but sometimes I would like to believe that some things are meant to last forever...
like my grandparents...
10 years after my grandfather died...my grandmother still went to his grave every Saturday 2pm...the same time he was buried...up to until the day she died...
I don't people like that anymore...not its all replaceable with divorces left and right...makes me sad...
strangebrew
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Stop watching the Notebook bro.
n0th1ng
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EnderJE said:
"Till death do us part."
Theres this guy at my dad's church and his wife just died of cancer after being in the hospital for a longtime. Anyway, he hooked up with another girl at the church like a week after she died. What a fucking douche.
He was probably cheating on her the whole time.
n0th1ng
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EnderJE said:
I know what you mean. I overheard my brother talking about how he cheated on his wife. It made me feel pretty disgusted because shes really close to our family, she puts up with all of his shit, she makes twice as much money as him, and shes hot as hell. I don't understand it.
wutangnomo
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EnderJE said:lol...no...
Just something that I saw earlier today with a friend's dad and it got me thinking...
Maybe I've seen to many fairy tales and maybe drank too much tonight, but sometimes I would like to believe that some things are meant to last forever...
like my grandparents...
10 years after my grandfather died...my grandmother still went to his grave every Saturday 2pm...the same time he was buried...up to until the day she died...
I don't people like that anymore...not its all replaceable with divorces left and right...makes me sad...
Unfortunately the days of your grandparents and mine don't exist in our generation and the ones to come.
My parents have been married for almost 50 years. Seeing them everyday makes me smile to no end. My grandparents were married for almost 70 years, until my grandfather passed away. Shortly thereafter my grandmother passed away. During my grandmother's time as a widow, she suffered severe dementia as a result of Parkinson's. She forgot all of us and couldn't recognize our faces, but the one person she never forgot was my grandfather.
c-sharp minor
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I was a widower at 35 (technically).
Staying single for the rest of my life?
Not gonna happen. It doesn't mean you love your previous spouse any less by moving on with your life.
Staying single for the rest of my life?
Not gonna happen. It doesn't mean you love your previous spouse any less by moving on with your life.
Bikini Mod
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Why would you want someone that you love to be alone until the day they die?
Dealing with death is far different than dealing with a divorce. Being involved with a widower is a very difficult thing for both parties; a lot of guilt, loneliness, familial obligation. Until the surviving spouse is ready to truly make peace with the fact that their spouse is gone you can never truly have a "whole relationship", a lot of hurt feelings involved on both ends.
But I love him very deeply, so I must wait for him to work these things out.
Till you've gone through it, I suggest you re-examine your initial thoughts.
Dealing with death is far different than dealing with a divorce. Being involved with a widower is a very difficult thing for both parties; a lot of guilt, loneliness, familial obligation. Until the surviving spouse is ready to truly make peace with the fact that their spouse is gone you can never truly have a "whole relationship", a lot of hurt feelings involved on both ends.
But I love him very deeply, so I must wait for him to work these things out.
Till you've gone through it, I suggest you re-examine your initial thoughts.
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jenscats5
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EnderJE said:
Why wouldn't they still love that person, even in death??
And why couldn't they continue to love them, yet still be able to love another?? Plus, people take different amounts of time to grieve, etc.....a lot of people "complete" their grieving process if the death is long & slow....
The ability to love is an incredible thing. You can find that one person who makes everything perfect, from the way they smile to the way they know what you're going to say before you do. You can't ever picture yourself with another person. If something happens to them it crushes you, literally. You go through all the stages of grief, some more than once. Then after a while, when you think that you are going to walk around with the horrible empty feeling inside you for the rest of your life, you begin to remember what made you fall in love in the first place. The sadness that has enveloped you is replaced by memories of the time you spent together, and you begin to feel like you can breath again. Then one day you find a person who makes you laugh again, and you think..... maybe I can. It doesn't lessen your love for the person who has passed away, in some ways it makes it stronger.
