bump!
V - I hear your frustration with trying to get the program working. I've also used various trainers in the past with mostly success but some rather catastrophic failures as well. At the end of the day, you can work with trainers if you can find a good one, but it can only help you to take ownership of basic training / diet / cardio knowledge for yourself and apply it yourself so you can learn what works best for you and your body, because only you will really know what will work.
To that end -- there are all sorts of approaches, with some very generally successful programs like the one listed in "Shadow's Project" & "Project Summary" at the top of this board. You don't have to follow this particular one but it will give you some guidelines to start with.
To start, can you post up your current training schedule and a listing of your daily meal plan -- what you eat, when you eat it & how much you eat. This will give us the context to start the conversation. You do NOT need to even consider AAS right now because you don't need it. I also recommend, if you haven't done it already, enter your meal plan into a food counts program like Fitday.com so you can see what exactly you are eating. This will also help us make any tweaks that will help get you back on track.