I just got offered a job

[onerepmaximum]

For 20k more a year than I am currently making. Here's the catch. It's in Dallas, TX and I would have to be there in two weeks. My wife and kids would have to stay in Mississippi until she finishes her last two years in the Marines. Not only is it a pretty significant pay increase, it would be a great opportunity that opens a lot of doors for my an my family's future. My head is swimming right now.

 

[Dial_tone]

And you're sitting here instead of packing because.........

 

[hoosier]

I am going thru the same thing, except that I don't have a wife, come to think about it, I don't have any kids either........I do however have another job opportunity that i have been wrestling over. You have made me feel much better about my dilemna

Thanks, and hope whatever choice you make is the right one

 

[Seashell]

Is there no possible way your wife could get transferred down there Onerep?

 

[Themachine01]

Ive had to make this decision a couple times in my life and I know what you mean by your head swimming. Im actually going through it right now, Ive been offered to make a career change and it wouldnt be a big deal if I wasnt getting married in less than a year with a wedding to pay for, house to buy, and most likely a kid not too far after. My advice to you is that you make sure your decision is based on whats best for your wife and kids, which Im sure you already know, but, if you honestly feel that this move will benefit everyone in the long run, then its a good move. The future is what I think matters the most, especially when there are children involved, even if you have to take a step back or suffer for a year or 2. In my decision I will be taking a pay cut for a couple years, but in the long run I will make more money and have a better retirement plan. Good luck man with your decision.

 

[onerepmaximum]

And you're sitting here instead of packing because.........

I'm thinking that i won't be here for long.

 

[jerkbox]

shit 20k.....good luck in the decision bro

 

[onerepmaximum]

Is there no possible way your wife could get transferred down there Onerep?

I don't think that she could. Definitely not on such short notice. I'm thinking that with the pay increase, travel back and forth shouldn't be too much of a problem.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

Take the job. See if the company will throw in like 6 round trip plane tickets. We do that for some of our people who comute.

 

[The_Ghost]

That is a big chunk of change, look at the big picture and what it could do for ya in the long term.

Good luck bro.

 

[onerepmaximum]

I definitely feel it would be an investment in our future. She agrees. A lot of things have to happen in a short period of time though. Everything changes. I'm 8 weeks out from a contest and quite honestly I had/have really high expectations of how I would do there. Thanks for all the well wishes.

 

[Becoming]

sweet bro, congrats......

 

[solidg]

what field?

 

[onerepmaximum]

IT training

 

[Dial_tone]

Hell, train me and I'll take the job. I got someone in Austin I'm trying to get closer to.

 

[onerepmaximum]

Hell, train me and I'll take the job. I got someone in Austin I'm trying to get closer to.

You should be leaving computers alone and become a professional body builder with a back like yours.

 

[Lestat]

20K is relative.

What is that in terms of a percentage of your current pay?

If its more then 25% definitely do it

Less then 10% don't bother

between 10-25% you gotta really weigh every factor carefully and make a decision with your family.

 

[onerepmaximum]

20K is relative.

What is that in terms of a percentage of your current pay?

If its more then 25% definitely do it

Less then 10% don't bother

between 10-25% you gotta really weigh every factor carefully and make a decision with your family.

Yeah, it's a pretty big jump for me. About 30% of my current salary. Although all I do now is post on EF. I wouldn't mind having a job that keeps me a little more occupied.

 

[Dial_tone]

You should be leaving computers alone and become a professional body builder with a back like yours.

I would but I can't handle doing gay for pay and selling used workout gear to support my juice habit.

 

[onerepmaximum]

I would but I can't handle doing gay for pay and selling used workout gear to support my juice habit.

Well there is that.

 

[DocHoliday]

I have had to work away from my wife and family several times in the past few years. it is hard to be a long ways away from the people you love most. I was only out of town a few days to a few weeks...never a permanent move. I know you love your boy and your wife, and I can tell you this...it will be hard and you will be more miserable than you can possibly imagine.

I am not trying to be negative, just be prepared for a serious "gut check". If you can deal with the distance and the time and all the things you would miss, like walking, talking, and all that stuff because it is better for your family's future...then go for it.

Personally, I had a hard time being away for a couple weeks, let alone months or years. I would not be able to do it bro, but I am not you. Follow your heart and talk it over, and never make a hasty decision on things of this magnitude. Think it over and go with what feels best for everyone involved.