I don't care for drinking.

[gettinlarger]

I really don't. It's not something I enjoy often. I've said it before, that I will drink maybe 4 times a year. Get drunk maybe once. Anyway, my girlfriend drinks. Not too too too often, but tonight would be twice this week. I don't really like it. But ... Who am I to tell her what she can and cannot do, right? I'm not like that, and hate people that are.

Should I just leave her be? To each his own style?

I love her, and don't want to be a dick and be like "Stop drinking so much or I'm losing you," but it really is a huge turn-off to me.

 

[Lao Tzu]

tell her to switch to pills. Thats what i did with my woman. not only that, but she is usually so out of her mind now that she doesn't even realize i am renting her out.

 

[biteme]

I really don't. It's not something I enjoy often. I've said it before, that I will drink maybe 4 times a year. Get drunk maybe once. Anyway, my girlfriend drinks. Not too too too often, but tonight would be twice this week. I don't really like it. But ... Who am I to tell her what she can and cannot do, right? I'm not like that, and hate people that are.

Should I just leave her be? To each his own style?

I had the same problem as you when I was married. I rarely drank and my ex drank too often and too much. I was concerned what it would do to her health and it was a turn-off. She also could never kick the smoking habit as she promised. After our separation, she said she resented me because she felt that she had to hide her smoking from me. Valuable lesson learned. I will never get involved with someone that has these habits again. To each his own.

I love her, and don't want to be a dick and be like "Stop drinking so much or I'm losing you," but it really is a huge turn-off to me.

 

[gettinlarger]

biteme, I hear you man. My ex smoked, and I hated it so much. Never again will I do that ...

Another thing is smoking weed. I will not tolerate it. She did that once, and I told her, do whatever you want. I don't care. It's your world. Just don't expect me to be a part of it if you wanna smoke weed ...

I'm thinking of saying this about drinking too, but it is kinda harsh ... Then again, where does being nice ever get you in life?

 

[biteme]

biteme, I hear you man. My ex smoked, and I hated it so much. Never again will I do that ...

Another thing is smoking weed. I will not tolerate it. She did that once, and I told her, do whatever you want. I don't care. It's your world. Just don't expect me to be a part of it if you wanna smoke weed ...

I'm thinking of saying this about drinking too, but it is kinda harsh ... Then again, where does being nice ever get you in life?

Yeah, I'm kind of a hard guy to please, so I doubt I'll ever find anyone again. I want them to eat right, and workout also. You just have to have a lot in common.

 

[gettinlarger]

Yeah, I'm kind of a hard guy to please, so I doubt I'll ever find anyone again. I want them to eat right, and workout also. You just have to have a lot in common.

Yeah bro I'm the same way. We have so much in common too. That's what I love about her. But this little thing man ...

 

[MassiveGunz]

bros im not real big on it ether.

i maybe drink a few beer s every night and get fucked up maybe some coke to but its about doing all things in modurating

LIT UP

im gonna get a beer theres some good chattin going on tonight

 

[Warik]

You are her man. You have every right to tell her what she can or cannot do. Voice your opinion or you'll be the one wearing the dress at the wedding.

-Warik

 

[beefybull]

biteme, I hear you man. My ex smoked, and I hated it so much. Never again will I do that ...

Another thing is smoking weed. I will not tolerate it. She did that once, and I told her, do whatever you want. I don't care. It's your world. Just don't expect me to be a part of it if you wanna smoke weed ...

I'm thinking of saying this about drinking too, but it is kinda harsh ... Then again, where does being nice ever get you in life?

You sound like an idiot. It's one thing if your woman has a few drinks a couple of times a week, its quite another if she's getting drunk as fuck 2-4 times weekly. It's either one or the other, right?

And what exactly is your explanation for your stance on marijuana? Ever tried it? Ever researched it?

 

[PolishHammer1977]

Stand up and make you points known. Sounds lik you'd be wasting time and making yourself aggravated either way.

 

[TEXgrl]

tell her how you feel about it, let her make the decision on what she wants to do. its ultimately her life, and like someone said above, if you start making demands, she will resent you for it and your relationship will never survive if she feels like she's being controlled. ultimatums and controlling behavior have no place in a relationship. jesus, the men on here act like having a girlfriend is like having a child or a pet, that they are in charge 100%. everybody needs to be able to make their own decisions. a night or two a week drinking doesn't sound like alot to me, unless shes just getting absolutely wasted. how much is she drinking? if its just one or two, whats the big deal?

 

[PolishHammer1977]

Texgrl = Dr. Love ?

 

[jesus 2]

You sound like an idiot. It's one thing if your woman has a few drinks a couple of times a week, its quite another if she's getting drunk as fuck 2-4 times weekly. It's either one or the other, right?

And what exactly is your explanation for your stance on marijuana? Ever tried it? Ever researched it?

he needs to see what lovin from mary jane can really be like.

 

[TEXgrl]

Texgrl = Dr. Love ?

 

[bullett]

biteme, I hear you man. My ex smoked, and I hated it so much. Never again will I do that ...

Another thing is smoking weed. I will not tolerate it. She did that once, and I told her, do whatever you want. I don't care. It's your world. Just don't expect me to be a part of it if you wanna smoke weed ...

I'm thinking of saying this about drinking too, but it is kinda harsh ... Then again, where does being nice ever get you in life?

Yea, I told my ex-wife the same thing about breathing air......

 

[beefybull]

he needs to see what lovin from mary jane can really be like.

Haha, definitely. Comments like the ones Gettinlarger made about weed really piss me off because chances are he's never tried marijuana, never gotten high, and doesnt know anything about weed other than what D.A.R.E. and the government taught him. Or maybe he's one of the types that buys into the latest string of bullshit govt propaganda ads (the "Marijuana: Harmless?" ads).

In case you didnt know GL:
- You cannot overdose from marijuana
- You cannot get physically addicted to marijuana
- Marijuana has been proven to be non-carcinogenic
- There are NO long-term effects on the brain
- Daily weed use still has a place in a fitness-oriented lifestyle, unlike daily tobacco smoking or drinking alcohol

If anything, you should want your girlfriend smoking weed instead of drinking for her health's sake

 

[louden_swain]

Haha, definitely. Comments like the ones Gettinlarger made about weed really piss me off because chances are he's never tried marijuana, never gotten high, and doesnt know anything about weed other than what D.A.R.E. and the government taught him. Or maybe he's one of the types that buys into the latest string of bullshit govt propaganda ads (the "Marijuana: Harmless?" ads).

In case you didnt know GL:
- You cannot overdose from marijuana
- You cannot get physically addicted to marijuana
- Marijuana has been proven to be non-carcinogenic
- There are NO long-term effects on the brain
- Daily weed use still has a place in a fitness-oriented lifestyle, unlike daily tobacco smoking or drinking alcohol

If anything, you should want your girlfriend smoking weed instead of drinking for her health's sake

I have never tried it, and I have never thought about trying it. To me there are other things to worry about.

 

[louden_swain]

Like which dress to wear when your ass-ramming buddy comes over to give you your nightly dose of man-chowder or what?

Was that even called for? Did I personally insult you somehow? I have no interest in drugs. I bet you are an 18 year old kid that tries to start stuff with people. I had no intentions of starting anything, I was just being honest. I am busy with grad school, training, my gra, and helping young athlete achieve their goals.

 

[MsBeverlyHills]

Im sure you do sh1t that she doesnt like... ya know thats how relationships work-- compromise!!

anyway- if its such a turn-off-- tell her not to drink when your around.

 

[cure]

God why don't you be a little more possesive! Maybe your relaxation is hitting the gym, doing some roids, spanking your monkey but hers is having a drink to relax. If she doesn't get drunk off of it and only has like 1 beer a night or 1 glass of wine then let her be. There are so many more things to worry about in this world and you pick this to bitch at her about. Imagine when you have money problems or if she gets into a depression what are you going to do then? Let her have some fun, don't force your likes and dislikes on her. Let her make her own choices.

 

[lamamacita]

What is it exactly that turns you off about her drinking? Is it because the places she goes when she drinks? The people she sees? I just don't see the big deal as long as she isn't cheating on you...

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

i don't understand how everyone can get plastered every weekend, and even weekdays. Girls especially love this it seems. They must have extremely short term memories, because the next day is never very cool. I don't know if its just me, but i could do with prohibition again and be fine with it just as much as how things are now. is it a way of getting back at their parents for never letting them drink? sure, i like having a beer, especially budlight, rolling rock, and guiness, but i'm not going to go buc wild just because its there? a 12 pack could last a month for me and i'd be fine with that. most of the time i forget it's in the fridge. i only feel the urge to get a little drunk if there's a decent party, or i'm feelin shitty. same with weed. i actually think the world would be better off if it were legalized. probably be less problems. all in moderation i say.

 

[beefybull]

I had no intentions of starting anything, I was just being honest. I am busy with grad school, training, my gra, and helping young athlete achieve their goals.

Sorry broly, I was just kiddin with ya.

Take it easy, LS.

 

[collegiateLifter]

the guy seems a bit intolerant, but it is his right to be. Stoner friends can be pretty annoying though if you aren't smoking much , and they are brain dead forgetful all the time. I imagine it would be a lot worse w/ a zombie gf. if the girl acts like a drunken idiot, then i see his point. if she just gets buzzed, then i dont see his point, BUT still his call, and he should just be upfront with her.

 

[anythingbutsane]

i just scored a vial of ketamine. tell her she can share if she blows me.

btw, the best drug for knocking your bitch out before giving her the pumpcicle is ruphies...

 

[vinylgroover]

If you don't like it move on. You're her boyfriend, not her husband. If she drinks in moderation, or gets drunk then choose not to be with her those nights......do something with your mates instead. Let the girl live and chill out a bit.

 

[alien amp pharm]

tell her how you feel about it, let her make the decision on what she wants to do. its ultimately her life, .....everybody needs to be able to make their own decisions.

Females have a brain capable of that?



(you know I'm joking )

 

[Y_lifter]

Drinking and getting DRUNK are 2 different things IMO..

Getting Drunk often shows weakness and can add many dangers to ones life.

If she is only going out and having a couple of drinks, watch for an increase in this pattern
before mentioning it.

My compromise on this situation was to Never drink and drive and this limits my times when I drink.
Its either when Mrs Y is driving or at home.

Tell her how Fattening Alchohol is, and then look at her hips and thighs
with a disapproving snicker...

Problem solved my broly..

 

[Big Brother Val]

The funniest thing I see on this thread, is people saying you're a dick for disliking something your significant other is doing, and telling you that you are possessive and controlling for having an opinion that you are completely entitled to have.

What's the difference between your opinion on what she's doing, and the people on this board disliking the way you are handling it? So if I come on here, and say they are all dicks for voicing their opinion about your opinion, am I wrong?

Or is it because this is a chat board, so you can voice your opinion to total strangers, but not to your significant other?

Hmmmm....

As for me, I am with you 100% on the subject. People say... "what's the harm in a couple of times a week?" Well... what's the POINT of a couple of times a week?

If you aren't getting drunk, why are you drinking? I'm sure the people who drink are the ones who defend it... just as the people who use steroids are the ones to defend that, and the ones who smoke pot are the ones to defend that.

It's self-justification, nothing more.

Are you controlling? Yes. Are you controlling her? No. What you are doing is controlling the elements in YOUR LIFE. If you choose that you don't want alcohol in your life, and she chooses to have it and she knows your position on the subject, then she is choosing to have it DESPITE your feelings on the subject.

ANYONE who says they would NEVER do that same thing is FULL OF SHIT. For example... if anyone who says you're a dick, found out their significant other was doing heroin, would they say it was okay because "it's their life"?

No.

They'd either tell them to quit, or they'd take the trail.

Let me guess... "that's not the same, heroin is totally different than alcohol or weed." And that's true... but the situation, TOLERATING OR NOT TOLERATING SOMEONE'S BEHAVIORS BASED OFF OF YOUR OWN BELIEFS AND FEELINGS is the exact same. I'm sure there are a lot of people who wouldn't mind if their significant other was doing heroin. You know why? Because THEY DO HEROIN.

If you drank like she did, you wouldn't mind it, right?

People are too close-minded when other people believe something different than they do.

A relationship is a COMMITMENT to eachother. It's give and take. If there's something that she's doing that bothers you, it's YOUR RIGHT to tell her that it does. Granted... you can't tell her to stop... but you can tell her you don't want it to be a part of your life. If she loves you, and you are more important, she'll make the decision for herself. If not, then you'll know where you stand.

 

[cure]

A relationship is a COMMITMENT to eachother. It's give and take. If there's something that she's doing that bothers you, it's YOUR RIGHT to tell her that it does. Granted... you can't tell her to stop... but you can tell her you don't want it to be a part of your life. If she loves you, and you are more important, she'll make the decision for herself. If not, then you'll know where you stand. [/B]

That's the thing. He says she doesn't drink often but because she had drinks 2 nights in a row she deserves a lecture from him on why he doesn't like the fact that she is drinking? If he picks on everything she does, eventually she will get fed up and leave. I have learned this from experience. Hold them too close and they leave, give them too much space and they leave...you need to decide when to step over that line and when to sit back. Relax and see how things turn out. Give it some time before you call her an alcoholic because she had a drink 2 nights in a row.

 

[Big Brother Val]

That's the thing. He says she doesn't drink often but because she had drinks 2 nights in a row she deserves a lecture from him on why he doesn't like the fact that she is drinking? If he picks on everything she does, eventually she will get fed up and leave. I have learned this from experience. Hold them too close and they leave, give them too much space and they leave...you need to decide when to step over that line and when to sit back. Relax and see how things turn out. Give it some time before you call her an alcoholic because she had a drink 2 nights in a row.

I don't think he's saying he'll lecture her or anything like that. I personally believe if it's something you feel strongly about, they need to know sooner than later. I think he's afraid of what it might be. If it's something he's really not comfortable with, why wait to see how long it's going to go? As you said, it's up to him when to step over the line.

People are just so tight nowadays, if you prefer your girl in pink rather than purple, they say you're trying to control her life, and that you have an insecurity problem.