Hypothetical Situation

[Warik]

Suppose that you've been busting your balls at work for the past 5 months and finally won an all expenses paid 3 night stay in Cancun for you and a guest.

Suppose also that you invite your girlfriend of over a year to accompany you, who refuses on the basis of some ancient set of morality.

Suppose also that you, as a result, are thus not "allowed" to go alone or with a different same-sex or family guest, and failure to comply would have apocalyptic consequences on the relationship.

Discuss.

-Warik

 

[gymrat]

no

 

[HappyScrappy]

am I allowed to sell it?

 

[c-sharp minor]

no

 

[vinylgroover]

Why would you take your girlfriend to cancun anyway. That's like taking sand to the beach.

 

[Puddles]

If she won't let you do this now, imagine what it'll be like in the future. Get out NOW!

Cancun is beautiful...enjoy!

 

[Puc]

obviously it is jealousy on her part.

point that out to her.

pull the common "If you trusted me, you would let me go." argument and use it.

Also, notice the use of the word "let." obviously she cannot stop you, but using that word will make her feel better about it.

it is childlike logic. I don't want to go, but i do not want you to go either because than i might miss something!!

also, invite me. I will get u laid!

 

[HappyScrappy]

tell her that you agree with her that she shouldn't go. tell her that you would be embarrassed to be with her on the beach because she is too fat to look good in a bathing suit anyway.
then say you are going to find someone better looking and that it is just as well this came up.
then tell her that you faked all of your orgasms - even while masturbating.

 

[KnoXville]

The real question is, what would He-man do in this situation.

I'll tell you this much, chances are he wouldn't be pussy whipped by his girlfriend due to some morality bullshit, thus being prevented to enjoy himself after months of hard labour in a well deserved exotic location.

 

[Puc]

u are getting ass from her arnt u?

u seem more melooo than u used 2 be. i thought u were getting ur nuts off. at least bjs maybbbb?

 

[Warik]

I have no intention of "getting out," but I don't have any intention of submitting to this unreasonable request. My moral principles of being faithful to my girlfriend are just as strong as my moral principles prohibiting me from acting against my own self-interest. I WANT to go to this trip not just because of the fact that it will be FUN, but because of the fact that when I'm the boss some day, I'm going to have to know what the hell we're selling. I've already made my decision - I am going. I'm just afraid of the consequences that decision will bring.

It's not really jealousy Puc it's more like insecurity. She refuses to believe the fact that she could lock me in a room for an hour with a naked horny goddess and that I'd still be faithful to her. The if you trusted me/if you loved me/if llamas were sexy argument was to no avail. Even her family agrees with me... only dissenters are her damn friends who have never had a decent guy in their lives. bah

-Warik

 

[supersizeme]

yeah what up with the ancient set of morality? i'm gathering you two aren't sleeping together, and she sees going on a 3 day vacation with you that you'll want to hit it. first off, i would want to hit, too. that's the whole point of going on vacation with your girlfriend...so you can have crazy hotel ape-sex in the butt. that and eat good food. off of her. whatever. but i think her saying that you can't go on this trip because she refuses to go isn't right. you are a logical thinker...you know that isn't fair and doesn't make any sense. tell her that on the phone while you're packing your bags. then fart right into the phone and tell her she's being immature and acting like a 5th grader.

if nothing else, know that He-Man would already be planning his 3 day agenda in Cancun if he were in the same predicament.

 

[Puc]

i agree with on the insecurity part.

here is the thing... IF she does not accept your decision, then you are finding out something about her that you want to know. Better to find out now than 5 years from now. This is an issue that will have to be dealt with at some point.

I bet she will be mad, but she will get over it. As long as she does not find women's panties in your luggage when you get back, that is...

 

[thx9000]

I would give the trip to Puc and Fonz.

Sorry, couldn't resist.

 

[KnoXville]

 

[casavant]

Why would you take your girlfriend to cancun anyway. That's like taking sand to the beach.

Ah, but you have to commend those who suspend youthful irreverence in favor of faithfulness to their significant other.

 

[bwood]

three words bro...

pull the plug...

youre only young once...

crippling morality is for us old people...

 

[Racer-X99]

Yeah, I hate to say it, but you need to think about whether you want to live with that or not for the rest of your life. If someone doesn't trust you, they are insecure or cheating on you. That is a big obstacle to deal with, but if you love her and you are willing to deal with that in your life, just go and call her everyday to do your best to keep the peace.

If she loves you, then she will appreciate the calls and will really want to see you when you return.

 

[Paulos]

Suppose that you've been busting your balls at work for the past 5 months and finally won an all expenses paid 3 night stay in Cancun for you and a guest.

Suppose also that you invite your girlfriend of over a year to accompany you, who refuses on the basis of some ancient set of morality.

Suppose also that you, as a result, are thus not "allowed" to go alone or with a different same-sex or family guest, and failure to comply would have apocalyptic consequences on the relationship.

Discuss.

-Warik

The girlfriend would have to let me pound her in the ass every night for a month straight while wearing a Richard Nixon mask or I would break up with her for fucking up my trip to Cancun.

 

[Night Fly]

You need to go. You also need to let her know that you were being considerate when asking her...that you really want her to go with you. Tell her that you are going either way...and need her to understand WHY you are going. Seriously....if she doesn't trust you now...how will she ever?

 

[Frackal]

Warik please tell me you're driving your He-Penis into her shegina on at min a 4x a week basis...also may I ask what is morally stopping her from going to cancun? Does god not allow her to associate with mexicans? I mean if you guys have been celibate for a year what makes her think cancun will change things that much.

 

[supersizeme]

frackal brings up a good point for once in his elite fitness posting career. fill us in more on what's going inside Teela's head so we can get you two out of Eternia and over to Cancun faster.

 

[Pamela]

You must go!!
This has happend to me.
I got a chance to go to Acapulco.
All I had to do was to pay for the plan fair which was $275.00 at the time.
All other things were paid for..

The guy I was with at the time didn't want me to go...
I really couldn't understand why!!

So I went, and I've never regretted it..

She really should understand...

 

[Ceebs]

Why does she object to your having a good time? If she doesn't trust you even after you've been together for a year, how will she ever?

 

[Fonz]

I have no intention of "getting out," but I don't have any intention of submitting to this unreasonable request. My moral principles of being faithful to my girlfriend are just as strong as my moral principles prohibiting me from acting against my own self-interest. I WANT to go to this trip not just because of the fact that it will be FUN, but because of the fact that when I'm the boss some day, I'm going to have to know what the hell we're selling. I've already made my decision - I am going. I'm just afraid of the consequences that decision will bring.

It's not really jealousy Puc it's more like insecurity. She refuses to believe the fact that she could lock me in a room for an hour with a naked horny goddess and that I'd still be faithful to her. The if you trusted me/if you loved me/if llamas were sexy argument was to no avail. Even her family agrees with me... only dissenters are her damn friends who have never had a decent guy in their lives. bah

-Warik

Warik,

1. Talk to her.

2. Get a cell phone that works in Mexico. T-Mobile has them
Give her your number.

3. Tell her that she can call you any time.

Ultimatums are a recipe for DISASTER specially in a relationship
thats still relatively short(1 year you said).

Its always about compromise.

You have to have foresight here. Think a bit more long-term.

Once you get through this, she'll be MUCH more trustful regarding
your life.

Fonz

 

[WODIN]

three words bro...

pull the plug...

youre only young once...

crippling morality is for us old people...

LMAO!!!!

Cuz its true....

 

[danielson]

warik

i sense this is less than hypothetical

seriously......how can you let her layu down some bullshit ultimatum like that. take whoever the fuck you want, and tell her if she wants to call she can, but you have been going out long enough for her to trust you enough not to clutch onto a redundant sense of morality and hideous insecurity on her part

except say it nicer than that

 

[velvett]

So many people have already given you great advice (Fonz, Night Fly, Pamela, Danielson, etc) so I really can't add much other than while I would respect another persons morals, even if I did not agree with them but that sort of ultimatum should be considered a real big RED FLAG in any relationship.

 

[slickdadd]

Word. Anyone who is going to give an ultimatum instantly should be jimmy sticked in the crotch. That's incredibly immature. Also, take her to a doctor or something. Why in the hell wouldn't she go to Cancun. She could at least hold out the action and enjoy the free trip.

Hell I'll bang you if I can go.

 

[the nature boy]

I'd go. she's taking a rediculous position. if she doesn't trust you then you shouldn't be together anyway. it's good that you've seen this side of her, better now than if you waited to get married and discovered this personality trait later on.

 

[madbomber31]

Suppose also that you, as a result, are thus not "allowed" to go alone or with a different same-sex or family guest, and failure to comply would have apocalyptic consequences on the relationship.

ok, so no matter what you have the tix for this trip? correct? now, supposing all you have mentioned is true i would kindly tell the girl that she needs to learn that in relationships people comprimise... you worked your ass off for this trip (lots of net talking is hard work) and you have earned it... as a result you want what is yours.

she was given the offer to accompany you, that was your comprimise... she refused.

she needs to allow you space now or you will be suffocated in the future... go to cancun, enjoy the sun but "check in" with her once or twice... if she refuses this comprimise then she is making the statement that you are not trusted now and will never be trusted in the future. and if this is the case, why would you want her to be part of said future?

you are honest and faithful, and therefor should be treated as such.

as for her friends, come flat out and tell them one night that you are not like the guys they have been dicked over by... you will never win with friends that are jealous, make your stand... choose your battles wisely though...

 

[Warik]

I never had any intention of turning down the trip, and I don't think she is serious about her silly ultimatum. Wasn't even really an ultimatum like: "if you go, I'll leave you," but rather "if you go then I will be very upset" i.e. "I really really really don't want you to go but every other guy I've met was a piece of shit so I'd never leave you, but I just don't know what else to say to keep you here."

Just wondering if my decision was the "right" one (mental note: Warik you fool... every decision you make is the right one, you just wanted to "sample" what other people thought... yeah... that's it).

Thanks for the advice. Grade A stuff.

-Warik