How to help a friend or give advice about training?

[CobraUTAH]

My buddy just called me and started asking me about NO2 and other supplements wanting to know whats best and what will make him ripped and help loose weight plus have energy to workout and not get so tired.

I hate calls like this because there is know easy answer. He has tried working out on and off for years but never really been into it or spent more than two weeks at a time in the gym. He's a busy guy and is always going out of town or doing something. I told him that there is no real proof that any supplement works all that well or to the level advertised. I feel like a dick but I said that the most important part is being dedicated and sticking with it for years not just a few weeks or months. I know he'll go buy everything in the store and lift maybe twice this week and then not again for 3 or 4 weeks. He knows I'm there 4 days a week giving it everything I have and he is more than welcome to come join me. How do you make someone understand the true dedication and complexitiy that is necessary to make a significant change. I tell him that no amount of money or supplements will help him loose weight if he doesn't make lifting and his diet a true priority. What article or site other than here could I recommend to him.

 

[BOOEY]

People want short-cuts. Period. That's why you see all these fad-diets come out (most of which are not healthy, *Atkins*). He's going to have to realize on his own that dedication and consistency are the only ways he'll get "ripped". I wouldn't worry yourself over it. At the most, I would point him to this forum and let him read for himself.

 

[Bonkme2]

Aside from a couple of guys I hang with and my wife, I won't even help people anymore. I've gotten so tired over the years of laying out workouts and diet plans and anything I could to help, only to find that they didn't really want to put that much time and effort into it.

Now when someone asks me for advice, "I get $25 an hour."
What? you can't just help me?
"OK...stop all the sugar you eat...drink a gallon of water a day...no more getting loaded 2 nights a week...you need to eat 4 or 5 small meals throughout the day..."
Very rarely do I have to finish that sentence anymore.

Booey is right. Everone wants the easy way out. If your buddy isn't willing to make a whole lifestyle type of change, then he's only kidding himself.

 

[Lord_Suston]

Sorry Cobra these type of people will never make the true commitment, these always want the easy way out

 

[WalkingBeast]

Sorry Cobra these type of people will never make the true commitment, these always want the easy way out

Agreed

 

[d3track]

Aside from a couple of guys I hang with and my wife, I won't even help people anymore. I've gotten so tired over the years of laying out workouts and diet plans and anything I could to help, only to find that they didn't really want to put that much time and effort into it.

i right there with you on that