How should I go about asking my wife for a woman on the side?

[DIVISION]

Does your wife still shwo a lot of iinterest in sex???

Bingo!~

I think that is the problem in gonelifting's marriage; his wife probably doesn't have much interest in sex anymore......

All it takes is some creativity to keep things groovin'.....

DIV

 

[spongebob]

It would be just a one time thing, that`s it. Just have sex with another woman and never see her again and never even talk about it or ever bring it up again.

My wife definately would not go for it, but if I play it right, who knows... I know I should start out the conversation by saying how much I love her and stuff and gradually start hinting about another woman. or Maybe I should just say it outright and simple enough to get my point across.

Any ideas? This will NOT be a 3-some or anything like that. Just sex for one night with another woman.PERIOD.

Thanks bros. Also, should I ask on a certain day of the week? A holiday? When we`re out to dinner? Any good suggestions would be great.

gonelifting, just by your post im gathering your wife has never mentioned this or seems the type. if this is the case then you have some hard work ahead of you if your interested in accomplishing this. im talking anywhere from 1yr to maybe 3 or 4.

the second point is this, if your wife does not party, say drinking or use recreational drugs, such as white, X, or maybe G, then i believe your chances are slim. not impossible though.

 

[gonelifting]

Nah we have sex as much as possible. It IS harder with a 2 year old around to constantly watch but I have no real complaints other than being tired. We have to take advantage of the opportunities as they`re presented to us, that`s our biggest challenge with sex for us. It`s not the lack of desire but lack of time/quality time and privacy.

One more thing, should this other woman be a total stranger or someone we both know, so my wife can be more secure with it?

 

[milo hobgoblin]

Well if his wife has lost interest in sex.. I doubt she would go for thuis..

Wives seem to think that becayse THEY've lost interest their husband should too.

It amazes me how woman think that putting a ring on a mans finger should basically castrate him..

I have no illusions that whatever woman I marry wil still have interest in other men.. and I FULLY expect her beforehand to understand that she WIL NOT be the last woman I ever sleep with.

If more couples made this clear to each other before they got married there would be a lot mro hapily married couples out there.


Someday peopel will figure out you can be emotionally committed to someone and it doesnt mean you have to be sexually committed.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

...Too much to lose, IMHO.
If you gota do it, do it, and roll the dice.

 

[DIVISION]

The onley thing I`m worried about is, what if it does`nt go well, will our relationship ever be the same? What if she flips out on me for even asking? She might just do that, so I`m thinking the chick I find to do this with better be worth it for one night.

I may be digging myself a hole here.

That's the very thing you are risking by even asking her this, bro. Women are strange like that, once you ask them to cheat you can't really take that back. That's why it's important for you to understand how she'll react. You are married to her, how do you think she will react? If I met her I could tell you, but we don't have that luxury, bro.

Just remember, once you ask you can't turn back and pretend it never happened and yes, she might really feel betrayed by this. It's on you, nugga.


DIV

 

[spongebob]

One more thing, should this other woman be a total stranger or someone we both know, so my wife can be more secure with it?

it can cut both ways. some women will feel more secure if it is a stranger. fucking your wifes friend is a very slippery slope bro. been there, there is alot involved.

 

[milo hobgoblin]

Hey gonelifting.. have you ever thought about talkign to your wife about swinging???


Make it about BOTH of you instead of just you..

 

[spongebob]

Well if his wife has lost interest in sex.. I doubt she would go for thuis..

Wives seem to think that becayse THEY've lost interest their husband should too.

It amazes me how woman think that putting a ring on a mans finger should basically castrate him..

I have no illusions that whatever woman I marry wil still have interest in other men.. and I FULLY expect her beforehand to understand that she WIL NOT be the last woman I ever sleep with.

If more couples made this clear to each other before they got married there would be a lot mro hapily married couples out there.


Someday peopel will figure out you can be emotionally committed to someone and it doesnt mean you have to be sexually committed.

you sir are very wise. im glad you have figured it out beforehand so that your not in the least bit unhappy afterwards.

 

[gonelifting]

gonelifting, just by your post im gathering your wife has never mentioned this or seems the type. if this is the case then you have some hard work ahead of you if your interested in accomplishing this. im talking anywhere from 1yr to maybe 3 or 4.

the second point is this, if your wife does not party, say drinking or use recreational drugs, such as white, X, or maybe G, then i believe your chances are slim. not impossible though.

Does`nt use drugs or parties. Just an occassional glass of wine. That gives me an idea, maybe I should buy her a nice bottle of wine and get her a little tipsy for the evening before I ask. hmmm The only problem with that is I have to make sure she keeps her word if she agrees while drunk. How can I do that? Write up a contract or something? lol This IS getting ridiculous. Maybe videotape it with her agreeing.

Also, maybe I should ask her on a night where she declines sex from me and is either too tired or not in the mood... That may push her into saying "alright go ahead, because that would take some burden off me". hmmm I have to play this right. There`s a lot riding on this.