How do you handle death?

[big_bad_buff]

Do you really feel bad, stop and think about the deceased and the family? Like the 911 tragedy, or the earth quake in Iran that claimed over 30,000 lives. Or even day to day murders, suicides accidents etc. does it bother you for a long period of time when you know someone(doesn’t even have to be someone close) that dies?

My cousin was murdered two years ago, shot in the neck, she was 18 years old, and it’s weird. It bothered me for a few months then it just faded away. My whole family(huge family) kind of just goes on with life pretty easy(except my cousins parents and bro and sis of course) but it’s just like they don’t understand it and try to forget it.

A close friend of mine died in a car accident last year, and it was really weird because we really didn’t hangout as much as we used to, then we were on the same job site(really weird because it was the first time ever his crew and mine were working on the same job) we worked together for about a week just catching up, hanging out, and goofing off on the job, it was a blast hangin with him again. It was a Friday, and the last thing he said to me was “later pussy” and I said “later puss” I remember getting the call around 8 or 9 that night from one of my best friends, all I said was ”oh, that’s fucked up” and that was about it. It wasn’t even a big surprise to me for some reason, same with my cousin. Is this weird? How do you handle death?

 

[wutangnomo]

I know what you mean bro. UNLESS it is someone of my immediate family or someone I was very very close to, it is difficult for me to feel "anything" in the event of someone's death.

Reason being is because death is part of life, so I will not be crying everytime I hear that someone passed away. Death happens everyday and to everyone eventually. It is natural. The deaths that occurred on 9/11, in the war in Iraq, in the recent quake in Iran, etc are all sad yes, but did they affect me? In all honesty no. I don't know these people so it is difficult for me to shed a tear or make a big issue out of it. The ones affected are the families of the deceased. I have my life to lead and must keep living and cannot let every single death affect me or else my life would be pretty difficult to lead.

 

[JT Iron]

Fearlessness is better than a faint-heart
For any man who puts his nose out of doors
The Length of my Life
And the Day of my Death
Were fated long ago
--Anonymous, For Skirnis


If the person lived well and fully, there is nothing to be sad for.

 

[ZKaudio]

death doesn't even phase me... I never see it as a tragedy unless unfair circumstances are to blame. I.E. car accidents/dui I don't have the authority to determine if that person is in a better or worse place now, therefore i cannot feel sorry for them, only for the people who have to live with their loss.

 

[beefybull]

Bump this shit when they bury me
And leave the funeral, smokin weed
Thats how we mourn in the Top City
Midwest Thuuuuuuuug! D-M-K-B!

 

[Raina]

I've had to deal with death since I was little (my dad got killed when I was almost 4). Since then I've lost a lot of other close relatives. I've grown up not being scared of death at all but being completely aware that it can happen at any time with no warning. Thus I see it as just another part of life and try to live my life to the fullest. If I died today I wouldn't want to have regrets.

 

[Y_lifter]

Death in itself thinking about the actual person that has died
makes me happy if that person was a believer that dying is just the beginning. Whatever you believe after death is...

What tears me up to no end is those left behind that are mourning. I can be fine until I see crying from those close to me
or children crying for a lost loved one.. I feel their pain for some reason very strongly.. empathy if you will ...
Open the flood gates..

 

[AAP]

Well because of recent circumstances, it has visited upon my door this week.

What I feel is a mixture of "WTF" and "no, it's a joke". I can understand car wrecks and such, but this death is really troublesome for me. A lost life, just over an orgasm. And I have found out this morning that the "bag" that was over his head was a custom made one that can be PURCHASED in most sex novelty shops. That amazed me to no end. These stores are casually selling objects that directly lead to accidental death. I simply can not picture being a business owner and knowing that people die from this and still selling it to the public.



Can anyone find that poem that goes something like ....

"I have not died, I have simply left the room...."

(don't know the author. sorry)

 

[danielson]

lot of deaths recently, no-one i was especially close too, but it makes me worry about the death of loved ones and my own mortality....i have been questioning whether this is 'just' it......

 

[digger]

Big question.

I figure I'll get through mine; everyone else does. Being left behind is the bitch.

It's not the same every time, either. There were a couple of people I really admired but didn't know, and I only found out they were gone quite a while after the fact. It was still a shock, but knowing it had happened a year ago and the world hadn't ended sort of put things into perspective. Hadn't heard anything about them for a long time, so nothing really changed.

With the people I knew, there was generally time to brace myself. (And to get angry when the cause of death was "Chronic Stupidity" AKA lung cancer.)

There's always going to be unfinished business. There's always going to be something you wished you'd said. You can try to say more of it while they're still around to hear, but don't beat yourself up, because there will ALWAYS be one more thing. That's part of being alive.

 

[from zero]

Eh. Everyone dies. I'm not going to mourn for every single person that gets killed.

 

[coldblue1955]

i feel bad that a loved one is gone but i also beleive that God will bring back our love ones one day.

 

[plornive]

I haven't really known someone whom later died. I don't think it would affect me at all unless I was very close with that person.

 

[c-sharp minor]

Well.......I don't really feel like talking about it right now, but thought I would reply with this:


http://www.tassos-oak.com/online/09death.html


Very good article. It is only one small section of a much larger piece.


BTW: AAP~I've heard of a few people dying in that manner. Seems to be becoming more common.

 

[rnch]

VERY badly

 

[big_bad_buff]

exactly bro

I know what you mean bro. UNLESS it is someone of my immediate family or someone I was very very close to, it is difficult for me to feel "anything" in the event of someone's death.

Reason being is because death is part of life, so I will not be crying everytime I hear that someone passed away. Death happens everyday and to everyone eventually. It is natural. The deaths that occurred on 9/11, in the war in Iraq, in the recent quake in Iran, etc are all sad yes, but did they affect me? In all honesty no. I don't know these people so it is difficult for me to shed a tear or make a big issue out of it. The ones affected are the families of the deceased. I have my life to lead and must keep living and cannot let every single death affect me or else my life would be pretty difficult to lead.

 

[big_bad_buff]

Did you understand death at age 4? I mean do you think it really affected you since you were so young? I’ve always wondered about this, like at what ages it's really the hardest to go through

I've had to deal with death since I was little (my dad got killed when I was almost 4). Since then I've lost a lot of other close relatives. I've grown up not being scared of death at all but being completely aware that it can happen at any time with no warning. Thus I see it as just another part of life and try to live my life to the fullest. If I died today I wouldn't want to have regrets.