Hmm girls....wtf

[skacorica]

So interesting thing: I used to be in great shape aka my avatar/profile pics, or at least really good shape. That was when I met my girlfriend. Now fast forward a year, things are goin ok, until I decide that Im getting back into shape after not lifting and growing a gut due to too much traveling, business dinners, and beer. Things are still good. Now a month ago I decide to get back into shape and the GF starts flipping out on me every chance she gets. Im back down to about 12% bf, abs are comin back, getting bigger again yet relationship has gotten fuckin terrible. I have tried buying us a romantic weekend, leaving her cute notes at work (we work together) and all sorts of stuff to kind of rekindle things, but nadda. Its like the better shape I get in the worse things get. She flipped out tonight because I took a different PATH home than she wanted.

Seriously, what the hell?

 

[guest username]

She must be jealous you're working out for someone else. It sounds like you're showing her attention and trying to persuade her otherwise, which doesn't appear to be working. Perhaps she is becoming self-centered that her body is out of shape or not worthy of you making such an effort?

Keep complimenting her on her body, make comments that she's cuter than her friends, etc. If she catches you looking at another girl that you think is hot, find a fault in that girl you were looking at and tell her why she is better (your girlfriend, not the other girl!).

Women just need reinforcement that they're wanted. (Sometimes you just have to lie too.) :laugh:

 

[Gymgurl]

You getting back into shape is a threat to her for some reason...My guess is that she is afraid you will find someone else if you start getting lots of attention

 

[needtogetarmy]

If it is not the gym then it may be something else.

Communicating with her is critical. Have a 1 on 1 and see where she is coming from. You seem very open minded and caring you at least on your end you are in a good situation to be objective and listen to her.

Good luck!

 

[Longhorn85]

Now fast forward a year,

A year is a good enough run for a girlfriend, isn't it?

 

[gonelifting]

You now spend 2 hours at the gym, that you could be spending on her. Maybe?

I agree with just sitting her down and having a talk. Ask her what's up? Don't play games.

Also, is she fat? Then that's the reason. Ask her to come with you to the gym. Healthy people sex is the awesome! good luck man.

Oh shit, how did I get in bts?!?!

 

[Bikini Mod]

The girl has insecurity issues, clearly. Have a heart to heart and if she is still insecure then it is time to cut bait. MUTUAL SUPPORT is a very important aspect of any healthy relationship. It sounds as if you are already trying to make her feel better about your relationship but if she isn't willing to deal with her own issues then the relationship can not be healthy by that very definition.

Good Luck.

 

[SpyWizard]

yea, if she can't handle it.. unless your bod was the reason she was attracted to you, and or her daddy was a slob and her mom told her a way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

many women believe if they can make their husbands undesirable to other women they won't have to worry..

 

[JO_M]

she luuuvsss you you'r hot and she is jealous...

 

[Trendsetter21]

Get back in shape and then upgrade your gf...........she clearly doesn't want you to be happy!

 

[skacorica]

thanks for all the replies

Little update....she's definitely trying to sabotage me now. Suggesting happy hour, etc

 

[Bikini Mod]

People are changing and growing, at least, one would think that this would be a desirable characteristic in a mate. However, that isn't always the case. Change can be very scary for some.

Sounds to me like you should really have a sit-down with your lady; one where you guys can both "come to Jesus" and put it all out there then the two of you can make an intelligent decision on whether to stay together or part friends and go about your lives without one another.

I could never be in another relationship where my partner held me back from evolving into someone better than I am again as I find that to be utterly suffocating.

 

[Acela]

i would get rid of her, most definately.