Help needed

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you'll be moving out soon enough.

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

Today i snapped at the both of my parents and just started this whole thing over nothing. So my parents told me that i need help.. wtf should i do? See a psychiatrist or what? This isn't the first time it's happened.

Provide mroe details.

What exactly happeneds before you snapped.

What caused you to snap? Did they piss you off?

Do you see a partner in these snapping problems? Does it usually happen during a particular time of day, week, month? After you do a particular activity?

Etc.

 

[WarriorPL]

Today i snapped at the both of my parents and just started this whole thing over nothing. So my parents told me that i need help.. wtf should i do? See a psychiatrist or what? This isn't the first time it's happened.

 

[argent]

Re: Re: Help needed

Provide mroe details.

What exactly happeneds before you snapped.

What caused you to snap? Did they piss you off?

Do you see a partner in these snapping problems? Does it usually happen during a particular time of day, week, month? After you do a particular activity?

Etc.

bump for these crucial details.

 

[WarriorPL]

It's my mom that makes me snap all the time, and this time my dad took her side which he never does.. that made it worse. She's an annoying bitch that i seriously hate and can't live with anymore, but i have to...
Today it happened because i went to the store and bought something for her and it was the wrong thing, and she just started making a big deal about it and indirectly stating that i'm worthless.

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

It's my mom that makes me snap all the time, and this time my dad took her side which he never does.. that made it worse. She's an annoying bitch that i seriously hate and can't live with anymore, but i have to...
Today it happened because i went to the store and bought something for her and it was the wrong thing, and she just started making a big deal about it and indirectly stating that i'm worthless.

I'm sure there is more to it.
Are you in school? If so, talk to a counselor or someone similar there. They will be able to help you. You don't necesarilly need to see a psychiatrist.

 

[revexrevex]

This is a normal thing especially when teenagers suddenly want to claim their independence and their free thoughts. Many healthy teens go through these phases before they finally become adults. Just try to think rationally and remmeber that whatever wrong your parents did, they still raised you for so many years, and you owe them for that.

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

revex, i've had beef with the mom since i was like 10. She doesn't do much for me to be honest, except get on my nerves constantly...

nvr, i just finished HS, going to college come fall.

Also, every city has free community outreach resources. You could get help there.

You mention this has happened since you were 10. If you really want to change this part of your life you may need to seek help.

If you are in a large city you can find free resources that will offer help. Larger cities have more. Otherwise if you can, wait until you get to college. However, it may affect your school performance if you do not get help and it continues or even gets worse.

 

[WarriorPL]

revex, i've had beef with the mom since i was like 10. She doesn't do much for me to be honest, except get on my nerves constantly...

nvr, i just finished HS, going to college come fall.

 

[Parabellum]

This is normal. Your getting older and getting ready to move on. Your mom knows that and is trying to hold on to you. It gets rough sometimes. Some parents want to live out thier expectations in their children knowingly or unknowingly. She'll never tell you but I'm sure she is in total agony over what' s going on. Your dad maybe just trying to comfort her by taking her side.

I don't know what its like for you, just trying to help out.

Wait until you get married and your mother in law is worse then your mom.

 

[argent]

FUCKING BINGO, DUDE.... karma for you.
listen to Parabellum, he hit the nail on the head.


wiz, this SAME shit happened with me bro... arguing only makes it worse mang. hit me up on AIM if ya got any questions.

Same thing happened to me as well.
My mom threw a skillet at me one time. You'll get past it and have a much better understanding of each other.

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

I'm not dorming... i'll be commuting from home.. she still has me for a few years... unfortuantely.

I think i'll just go find a psychiatrist or something... i think i'd help me a bit. I don't think i can be cured until either she or myself move out.

A psychiatrist is not what you want. More than likely they will prescribe drugs which may or may not be what you need.

You need a behavioral analyst.

 

[jackangel]

Are you still able (at times) to speak with your parents in a meaningful, respectful, and relaxed manner? If your relationship with your father is better, you can also consider talking to him about whatever is bothering you. Eventually, one way or another, you'll need to have good communication with both of them. You've got to express yourself, and encourage others to do the same. For example, if you are upset that your mother called you worthless, you should probably tell them about that. Mention all the things that piss you off. It's not easy, but talking to them, openly, is a good first step. And it's something you can continue for the rest of your lives.

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

A psychologist would be better than a psychiatrist.

 

[WarriorPL]

I'm not dorming... i'll be commuting from home.. she still has me for a few years... unfortuantely.

I think i'll just go find a psychiatrist or something... i think i'd help me a bit. I don't think i can be cured until either she or myself move out.

 

[slickdadd]

Dorm. Do it. Don't commute. You are missing out.

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

Family therapy would work, it could be your mothers problem too. What you describe seems natural/normal.

Family therapy may work. I'm sure he isn't positive that his mother would go. You can't force someone to get help. They have to want to get help for themselves. She may think she has a rude child. She may put all the blame in the situation on him and not see it as her causing any of it.

He is willing to get help for himself. That's the first step.

 

[gymrat]

It's my mom that makes me snap all the time, and this time my dad took her side which he never does.. that made it worse. She's an annoying bitch that i seriously hate and can't live with anymore,.

Shit bro. Those are some harsh words. I never refered to mom like that.

I lost my mom before I turned 18, so i guess i was never in your situation.

But man, calling your mom an "annoying bitch," that's just mean.

 

[jackangel]

By the way, where are you going to school?

 

[The Red Dragon]

Family therapy would work, it could be your mothers problem too. What you describe seems natural/normal.

 

[biteme]

It's my mom that makes me snap all the time, and this time my dad took her side which he never does.. that made it worse. She's an annoying bitch that i seriously hate and can't live with anymore, but i have to...
Today it happened because i went to the store and bought something for her and it was the wrong thing, and she just started making a big deal about it and indirectly stating that i'm worthless.

I had the same problem with my mom. My dad would have left me alone, but my mom constantly bitched about trivial matters. What do you expect, they're women.

 

[big4life]

Try to get your parents to go to therapy with you. Also, look into sharing an apartment or dorm with some friends. Some distance might do you and her some good.

 

[biteme]

No need for family therapy since the family doesn't need it... i do, LOL

I regret not choosing to dorm, but it's too late now.

biteme... i know what you mean. She just bitches to no end because she has to have that last word... even though she's not always right.

You just brought back some bitter memories. My mom always had to have the last word. Don't most women?

 

[WarriorPL]

No need for family therapy since the family doesn't need it... i do, LOL

I regret not choosing to dorm, but it's too late now.

biteme... i know what you mean. She just bitches to no end because she has to have that last word... even though she's not always right.

 

[WarriorPL]

You just brought back some bitter memories. My mom always had to have the last word. Don't most women?

Sorry abotu that... but that's how it is..

 

[revexrevex]

Ill take Wizkid with me to the gym, and we'll do some heavy deadlifts.