Girlfriend Break Up help Please.....

[GreekMonsta]

Hey boys, i've been going out with my girlfriend for over 3 years now, and i've love to spend the rest of my life with her, she's beautiful extremely smart etc. But as of late there has been a real lack in the phyiscal part in our relationship (not my fault), it almost feels like we are friends not lovers......how do i say to her to have a break for a little bit, and then come back and give it another shot? I want to start fresh over with her (not right away but after our break), cause honestly i think a break would help us out a lot, so what is the best way i can say this without having to put up with crying etc....

any help would totally be appreciated....

p.s. we are both 22 yrs old (if u wanted to know)

thanks

GM

 

[hookuprx]

First of all this is the wrong place for this post...

However, if you are thinking about breaking up your intrest level is obviously lower than it should be for a long term relationship. If she really really loves you then your not going to avoid the crying, etc. Women sometimes go through phases where sex isnt that important to them, as it is to us. My suggestion is to not talk to us about it, rather talk to her and get your feelings out on the table with her. Best of luck.

thederrickm

 

[rickw]

What's this got to do with AAS.

 

[GreekMonsta]

well u know, when u need somewhere to vent, this is the only place i can think of to get some feedback from different ppl other than my friends.....

so that's why i put the post up here...

sorry if this is an inconvenience to anyone..

GM

 

[-SD-]

Why dont you just be honest with her and tell her exactly whats bothering you instead of rushing to leave her.

 

[gilly6993]

tell her what you told us....

 

[aNuBiS]

I'll spicen up the story for rick

He didnt know how to tell her he wasnt interested, so he sliped 30 d-bols into her coffee in the morning, then came home that night to break up, and she tore his arm off.

 

[Green]

Just remember that if you "take time off" she may want to get her fuck on elsewhere. Not being a dick, talking from experience. If you truly lover her and want to spend the rest of your life with her then this is an unnecessary risk on your behalf for some strange pussy (don't try lying).

Just a thought...

 

[MrDbol]

This post brought tears to my eyes. Just broke up with my girlfriend recently. God I loved that girl. We were going out for a year. I wanted to marry her. We had the perfect relationship, as perfect as it can possibly get.

She wanted some time off, she said she had college finals. And she said she wanted to be alone. I said no fucken way. You take some time off, we break up. So, we broke up. And the next day I caught her seeing somebody else. Anyways its a long story. I had to get it off my chest, because I am still in pain.

But to answer your question. Don't tell her you want time off. That usually means that you want to see somebody else. That's a cruel thing to do if you actually love her. If you need some time to relax, just see her once a week or so. Or every other day for a short while. Keep yourself busy. Tell her you are temporarily working longer hours. Whatever you do, if you really love her, don't tell her that you want some time off. It will devastate your relationship.

I hope you 2 get married and live happily ever after. <sob> <sob> <sob>

 

[hitmansb]

I have a couple of comments.

1. I agree 100% with Green. Chicks tend to just fuck the first guy that pays them some attention when they have their self-esteem called into question (ie. break-up). Trust me, even if you go and bang ten hot chicks and find out she just had a one-nighter with some miscellaneous stranger...you won't ever look at her the same.

2. Asking for a break, no matter how intelligent a case you present, is going to result in the aforementioned 'crying' you want to avoid so desperately. After three years, it's a given...and having the chick stalk you is a distinct possiblilty at this point too.

3. Take a step back and look at the situation for a moment...just how infrequent is the sex? None at all, almost never, or is it just not as often as it used to be. If it's none or almost ever....then you might want to talk about it before doing something drastic. If it's just not as often as before, then give it a little while to come around on it's own. Chicks tend to have external influences in their lives outside of the relationship (ie. problems at work, problems with family) have an adverse effect on their sex drive. Where we as men tend to have no problem wanting to fuck anything that moves no matter how stressful our lives become, women are a completely different animal in that regard. Talk to her and find out if something is bothering her...then do your best to be supportive and help if possible. That could very well solve the problem if that is the case.

Good luck, bro. And before you take the jump...don't just think about all the positives of being single. Remember that there are plenty of negatives as well.