Gettin a divorce and need to vent! Any lawyers?

[ryker77]

Ok been married for about three years. She would make most guys happy but we just don't get along and have no common interest. Etc, Etc. Fat, lazy, not willing to be productive, wastes money, doesn't earn enough money, moody, bitchy. ETC!

What I need to know is what she'll get money wise from me. I have made nearly 95% of the total household income and she has worked less than 30 hours per week at real low wages while attending school. No kids. We have a house and new car that is not paid for. I have a harley and a nice gun collection ( going to let my dad take them ). Since I have made and paid for all we have she shouldn't get nothing.
I am willing to give her all household items minus the king size bed, I got to have a place to sleep. She can have everthing else including tv,vcr,dvd,digital surround,playstation,computer, everthing in kitchen and bathroom.

Any advice so I can keep what I paid for.

 

[KrazyK]

You need to go see a good lawyer, don't take advice from people on this board, not a flame, but the advice may be wrong, since the laws where you live will probably differ from wherever else. Most good lawyers will give you a free one hour consultation so you can ask whatever questions you need and get good advice.
I am going through the same situation, but we are trying to work things out right now, it keeps going back and forth, one week we talk about getting divorced, the next week we are trying to work things out. Mainly because of the same reasons you listed about your wife, mine is basically the same way, but she pays half the bills and paid for half of what we have. We don't own any real property, but I own a car that is not paid for and the lawyer I saw said it should not be a problem for me to keep the car since it is in my name, not that she'd want it anyway cause she doesn't drive, another reason things aren't working.
If the house is in both of your names there may be a bit of a battle going on there, so go see a lawyer! The least a lawyer can do for you is give you peace of mind that everything is going to be handled properly and nothing is going to be left hanging out there to come back and haunt you.
Hope this helps, I feel for you, I know this shit is real stressful. Good luck.

 

[Bikini Mod]

If the law in the state where you live saez' "equitable distribution".....ummmmmm sorry, if it is a marital asset - she gets half.

Divorce is A BITCH...or so I have been told.

Good luck, I hope things work out for both you brothas.

 

[Kahn]

Krazy is mostly correct about not listening to people here because the advise might be wrong. States have diff laws. Be god damn glad you aren't in mine. Mine got through college and made her first business decision(lose me). I couldn't do shit in response. The only advise is to be the first to throw the elbows. You can always back off but do not be nice. I am assuming you are a good guy. If you aren't......

 

[fiatconspiracy]

Depends on what state you are in, in california you bend over and take it up the ass, but yes of course the first thing is go talk to your lawyer and start writing checks, be prepared to just start over finacially speaking, if you guys can sit down with a mediater great

 

[Steak Helmet]

I CAN HELP...

 

[ryker77]

The main problem is I am in the Military and need her to pay the bills and take care of the house while I am gone.

And yes I am going to get a real good lawyer's advice before I make my final choice. This will give me plenty of time to get everthing in order before I suprise her with the paperwork.

I don't want to screw her. I do care about her but no way in hell does she have a right to the stuff that I bust my ass paying for. All she has done is leech of me while attending school.

 

[guards]

That is why a prenuptual agreement is a must in this day and age.

 

[Ferrus]

see your duty station JAG officer

Kahn is right...it's nice to think that you will be able to go through this with a positive attitude, etc., and that no-one has to get hurt....but

that rarely happens in the real world...it always ends up with the ex-spouses fighting over assets, and it almost always ends up ugly

if i were you, i would be polite, courteous, and mature throughout this process, but i would also be aggressive...protecting yourself now (legally) will save you a lot of heartache in the long run