Gather ye rosebuds....

[buksoon]

I originally posted this in response to KingKong's query about doing a virgin, but I want as many responses as possible so I thought I'd create new thread. Here goes:

I can not believe I'm posting this... I confess this to no one.

But I am one of these older female virgins (28). I am totally paranoid that men will find this repellent (Is she frigid? Why did no guy prior to me ever want her? Will I fit in her hole? Dude, will there be cobwebs down there?)

None of the above. I'm just shy, okay? I see a guy who is beautiful and virile and smart and funny and nice and just get fuckin' bashful, okay? Start shaking and everything.

If I'd been sexualized earlier (as a teen), I'm sure I'd be fucking up a storm now. But since I waited this long, the waiting becomes easier.

Anyway, my question is: Is this really such a turn-off? All opinions welcome, thanks.

 

[Test boy]

You will now get 50 offers to de-virginize you. I think being a virgin is cool until a girl is in her early to mid twenties. Then I would perhaps start to worry about her. You start shaking when you see these perfect men? Personally I think that is too shy. I find it very annoying when a girl is that shy. But many guys are attracted to shyness so don't worry about me. Lots of guys will think that being with a virgin is the coolest thing in the world. I prefer that a woman has had sex with at least one man whom they really cared about and at least 1 one night stand because she just could not control her passions. There are pros and cons to everything...make sure that your first experience is a good one. This board has a multitude of world class lovers accoding to my readings.

 

[orca]

It is in no way a turn off, kind of sad that you've wasted all of those good years that you could have been out there screwing up a "storm". What I think you should do is go out and find a nice little pretty boy and bounce around on him until you feel comfortable. Then you will be comfortable hooking up with real men.


later ORCA

 

[Test boy]

I sort of cringe when I read the posts encouraging people to be very promiscous. I hang out with a group at the lake. They have mostly "been around the block" about 3 too many times. Stories of child support, rampant sexuality, divorce, unwanted kids, even STDs, are very, very common. I will admit to being a big talker, I kind of have to be that way because I always seem to hang with lovers and sluts. I'm not sure why either. Guess I believe in a middle ground in the real world but it is more fun to talk big when in cyberspace. Be very thankful you have no unwanted children, STDs, divorce or other baggage in your background. Now go get laid.

 

[WombRaider]

It's not a turn off, believe me. It's a BIG turn on!! Of course, I would be happy to take you to newfound pleasures, but I also have a great amount of respect for you so I probably wouldn't be able to get it up!! (remember that dad in American Beauty?). If we were together, and you told me you were, I would have really love you to do it. Again, it's because I would have such great respect for you that if I didn't feel strongly about you I would feel like a real asshole. But Iif I did have strong feeling for you..... WATCH OUT!!! It's the greatest gift you can give a man!

 

[hardbody_jr]

Post a pick and we'll see what the deal is.

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[SeXKiTTen_CanDy]

My sister was a bit like this, she was pretty shy when it came to guys, and she didn't lose her virginity until she got married, at the age of hmm 25-28 (somewhere between there), she said to me, the longer you wait the HARDER it is. I don't know.

I guess when you find the right fella, it all starts from there.

I'm so opposite to my sister.

 

[buksoon]

Wombraider, I know you meant no insult (really, thank you), but what you said: "If I found out, I wouldn't be able to get it up."

Great, what every girl longs to hear! "Babe, you make me flaccid!"

The shyness comes from doubting my powers to whip a man into a slobbering frenzy on the floor, having never done it. Why should shyness be--as the other poster said--annoying?

I'll tell you something: Once I was semi-drunk at a bar. It was my birthday, and I lived in a different state. I just grabbed the guy I was talking to and kissed him so hard ... then I fainted. I swear to Loki, norse god of mischief. Just passed out from adrenalin and lust.

Yes, yes, the idea of find a hot guy to roll around with ... me like. But most guys out there ... no offense ... are just big doofs. And if I ever was to find this wonderful guy whom I love, I'd feel like I betrayed him. I know: that makes no sense.

But please guys, keep answering. Is it a turnoff? I like the multitude of opinions.

And Hardbody, about posting my pic: Much as I'd love a parade of cyber gawkers evaluating me to "see what the problem is" (not ), I don't have a scanner, and I wouldn't do it anyway. I'm cute, though. Trust me, babe.

 

[Test boy]

Guess I need to clarify things a little. Shyness can be cute in a way but you said that you start "shaking and everything." That would be annoying to me. I can relate to the scanner problem, I have a SCSI scanner and my SCSI card freaked out on me. I've had it with computer problems so I live with it. When I tried to hook up my $1400 digital camera, everything freaked and I had to format my hard drives and start over. I think that is when my SCSI card did the meltdown. So I sit flirting with hot chics and I can't even send a pic. To make things much worse, I'm a photographer and a good looking guy...so the girls tell me. Trust me...noyone will believe you without a pic. That should help keep your virginity intact. You really don't talk like a typical virgin though.

 

[buksoon]

Shyness can be cute in a way but you said that you start "shaking and everything." That would be annoying to me. though.

You wouldn't find it *flattering*, rather than annoying? You wouldn't think: "Wow, I am making this chick shake just by standing near her." You wouldn't think it was maybe sweet, and you wouldn't anticipate how insane she'd ultimately be in bed? All that release?

And if I did decide that you were special enough to me to be that guy, you wouldn't think--as another poster said: "What a gift..."?

I guess I'm just real paranoid, and those are my "wildest fantasy" reactions. I mean, it's pretty unusual.

Keep being honest, guys. If it is a turnoff, I'd like to know your opinion why. I appreciate this.