Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below dunno what the hell to do w/ myself. its over w/ me and the lady. need to go have a drink but don't even feel like moving out of this fucking chair. just sitting here and trying to accept the fact that i fucked up w/ the best girl i've ever been with because i can't control myself when i get horny. i think i just need to stay single for a while and realize how to handle a relationship.
feelin REAL down.......
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dude im going through close to the same thing. i know whats up. sorry to hear it man. that sux
argent
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If you can't be with her bro b/c you feel like shit for what you did is a respectable decision. I don't know if it's the best thing or not, but it is respectable. You need to suck it up and tell her though bro. As much as it's gooing to suck for you to say and for her to here it. If she's worth the feelings your feeling right now, she deserves the truth. Best thing to do is not to act emotionally. You need to be rational.
The Red Dragon
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Just make sure she doesn't know of it, just think that she'd do the same to you and see if you can justify what happened mentally...after all you didn't ask your ex for the BJ 
. Trust me, you adapt to guilt . Anyway feel better.
. Trust me, you adapt to guilt . Anyway feel better.my situation is really funny. I was in my hometown last summer watching my younger brother play baseball and i ran into a girl that i went to high school with, but we didnt know eachother and we just went crazy for eachother. well we had some problems and i really leaned on my best female friend for advice. well she decided that she liked me and did her best to steal me. she didnt, until she just kind of walked away from me as a friend due to it, then i gave in and we kissed a couple times. well i told my gf about it and she was upset but forgave me. her and i split for a while and while we were split this girl and me had sex (both of our first times btw) and since then my (ex) gf hasnt trusted me. i dont know if my pride is hurt or my heart is. the girl that i was dating was amazing. shes gorgeous, was head of her class, homecoming queen, and still hasnt given up her v-card. all she wants to do is be a nurse and help kids get better. i dont know but i really think i f'd up. maybe im just still shocked i dont know
slickdadd
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The Red Dragon said:Just make sure she doesn't know of it, just think that she'd do the same to you and see if you can justify what happened mentally...after all you didn't ask your ex for the BJ
Note to self: Don't date The Red Dragon.
c3bodybuilding
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Everyone makes mistakes in life. I respect your decision to walk away from her, as it is the right thing to do.
You should tell her why you are leaving her, and make sure she knows it's because you don't want to hurt her any further, and you regret what you've done. Perhaps because of your honesty, and obvious regret, you may be able to work it out. Whatever you do, don't pressure her. Give her any space she may need, and try to work on yourself during that time. You need to work on a few things, but everyone does in life. Don't beat yourself up, things will look up again.
You should tell her why you are leaving her, and make sure she knows it's because you don't want to hurt her any further, and you regret what you've done. Perhaps because of your honesty, and obvious regret, you may be able to work it out. Whatever you do, don't pressure her. Give her any space she may need, and try to work on yourself during that time. You need to work on a few things, but everyone does in life. Don't beat yourself up, things will look up again.
jackangel
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Do you really believe you're unworthy of her, and that you are completely unable to handle a relationship? If so, then let her go. If not, then talk with her and see what happens. Either way, I agree, she must know the truth, because that's the only way to properly take responsibility for your actions. If, after that, she choses to drop you, or you're too torn up, then so be it.
Generic MALE
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If she does not know DO NOT TELL HER. If she is really the best thing to happen in your life, then why have 2 wrongs in your life?
You did a wrong thing - tomorrow is a clean sheet of paper. Live it faithful to her.
If the other girl tells her - deny deny deny. It would have worked for Pres. Clinton if there had not been a grand jury - and I doubt you will face a grand jury.
You did a wrong thing - tomorrow is a clean sheet of paper. Live it faithful to her.
If the other girl tells her - deny deny deny. It would have worked for Pres. Clinton if there had not been a grand jury - and I doubt you will face a grand jury.
Spunky said:
Well spunky, if you really can't live without her, and you can live with the guilt of cheating on her, then don't tell her anything. If the guilt is eating you up inside, then tell her the truth, apologize, and see how she handles it. Living with huge guilt over your head will never work out, either you are fine lying to her face or you are not.
Although I've never cheated in a relationship, I came very close a few times and I really wanted to. Personally, I'm just a horrible lier and too honest of a person to get away with something like that. However, in all of my situations, it made me realize that I was not really happy in the relationship I was in, something was missing (usually something sexual too). I'm married now for four years, and I would never dream or even think of cheating on my wife, to be honest I've had a few chances and I've turned them down. Cindy Crawford could strip naked in front of me and offer every hole in her body to me right now and I would turn her down, thats how happy I am with my wife.
What I'm trying to say is if you are as honest a person as I am, then maybe you aren't as happy with this girl as you think. If you are just a horndog and willing to do it with anyone who offers, then you better learn to handle situations like this.
Mandinka2
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Yeah , its her life 2 man , she deserves to know and make that decision herself. Im surprised to see Flexy say this tho , considerin her story recently about some poor guy marryin some cheatin bitch , doesnt he DESERVE to know too? Anyway , I agree with this sentiment , just learn from it the next time. Oh and dump her too , because I know women and even though she may stay with u now , she's gonna get u back in spades.flexygrl said:
Mandinka2
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Hey sister , how are u? Ok ,so u dont know him , but even still , u said that u saw her cheat with ur own eyes , so basically everyone knows cept this poor bastard , great! Most people make donations to kids in Africa even tho they dont know 'em , whats the fuckin difference ? Lend a hand to a poor bastard in need , thats what I say , ur gonna save him a whole lotta pain which to me is a pretty great reward for upsettin some lyin bitch. And I'd say the same thing (and have lost guy friends over their cheatin) if it was a guy.flexygrl said:
People these days.............sheeeesh!
flexygrl
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Trust me, if I could I would. I didn't know his name, what he looked like, nothing. I thought she was single. Then on the way home my sister told me that she was seeing someone else. I was in total shock. I told my sister what I thought about the whole situation. If it were me, I would want to know too.
Mandinka2
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I'm good , surprisingly at peace with myself these days. Most people these days are selfish fucks , dont fight the urge to fuck over these types every chance u get. They always moan "Im weak" AFTER they're caught and beg forgiveness from those they secretly laughed at while they were doin them wrong. Fuck em , id burn em all if I could , help out the poor unfortunates who fell in love with them , they only deserve your sympathy.flexygrl said:
flexygrl
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Man,
We are both on the same page. It really sucks. If you even remotely care about someone, why on earth would you want to hurt them? Being cheated on is horrible. It makes you question your own worth. I can still feel the pain the first time it happened to me. My heart felt like it was being squeezed really tight and then I had a burning feeling in my stomach. I thought I was going to die. Now, why would you want someone you love, or even like to feel this. Why can't people just keep their pants on? Being cheated on, has made me into a person who doesn't trust very easily. Even though my husband didn't cheat on me, I still have a hard time trusting him.
Oh, and by the way....this is the reason why so many women, my age and older are completly fucked up.
We are both on the same page. It really sucks. If you even remotely care about someone, why on earth would you want to hurt them? Being cheated on is horrible. It makes you question your own worth. I can still feel the pain the first time it happened to me. My heart felt like it was being squeezed really tight and then I had a burning feeling in my stomach. I thought I was going to die. Now, why would you want someone you love, or even like to feel this. Why can't people just keep their pants on? Being cheated on, has made me into a person who doesn't trust very easily. Even though my husband didn't cheat on me, I still have a hard time trusting him.
Oh, and by the way....this is the reason why so many women, my age and older are completly fucked up.
Mandinka2
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Yeh sista , totally.flexygrl said:
And I also agree with u on the young women thing , they still believe in love before some fucko bastard ripped em into little shreds. The only problem is all their girlfirends who tell 'em that they might be missin out on sumthin if they havent had many men , while mostly they're jealous themselves that they hadnt got their own shit together earlier to make it work for themselves.
MODERN LIFE IS RUBBISH
The Red Dragon
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I think confessing would be a bad idea unless you are sure she's not confident. Plus its not like you asked for the BJ...and oral sex isn't as serious as if you had actual sex with her. Wait it out and see where the guilt takes you, if you feel it subsiding, there's no use in spilling the beans. You made 1 mistake and I doubt you'll repeat it.
Mandinka2
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Dude , point of fact here , his ex is a ho , he had sex with a ho while he was with his woman - he is a ho. Doesnt mean he has to be a ho for life , actually i think GIVING oral is much more intimate than intercourse so thats about all he has going for him. But he can still transmit shit to his woman from it (herpes and the like).The Red Dragon said:
