Examples of Confidence

[fyxgel]

Hey ladies, (and guys who want to respond too)

Supposedly if a man has 'self confidence' his attractiveness increases tenfold in the woman's eyes. Okay, so something tells me that this confidence thing must be good, and a good thing to get as much of as I can.

But what I'm wondering, is, what exactly do you girls mean by self confidence? lol, like what are some examples of it? Do you just mean like, feeling that you have some value to yourself, believing that you have a great chance of success when going after the girl you want, thinking you are the shiznit, not blaming yourself and calling yourself a failure,

am I hitting anywhere near the dot here? Because if so, it seems like all guys have a pretty good self esteem, except for the rare exception of course, so I dont get how its a factor.

Could you women (and guys too) elaborate, on what you mean by self confidence? maybe give some examples?

It doesnt seem like you need anything to have self confidence. It doesnt seem like you need looks, like you need a good car, smarts, athletic talent, money, social status, or anything like that to be confident.

 

[Swiftme]

Ask Tony Robbins

 

[gonelifting]

Confidence comes with experience of success. Do you have that?

Then fake it for a while until you do.

 

[Lao Tzu]

Not caring about outcomes is a good confidence booster (although you should still be rational and not dig yourself into holes). I have no idea beyond that, i have little experience myself.

Probably sounds stupid, but visualization and self hypnotism might help you gain confidence too.

 

[bran987]

feeling that you have some value to yourself, believing that you have a great chance of success when going after the girl you want, thinking you are the shiznit, not blaming yourself and calling yourself a failure,

 

[Swiftme]

Trust me, buy some tony robbins CD's, or maybe you can download them I don't know.

 

[fyxgel]

Confidence comes with experience of success. Do you have that?

Then fake it for a while until you do.

you see this is what i wonder about. is confidence really about past successes?
Because honestly, I dont see how the past matters. Take girls for example: if you've had a lot of success talking to girls in the past and hitting on them, etc, yea you could walk into some new scene with confidence, and hit on some cute girls.

Or maybe you havent had success in the past, either you are new to the game, or you were a 'failure' before, but if you walk into the new scenario with the "i dont care attitude" (which is the attitude we all should have, since we never lose anything through rejection) then I dont see how the results would be any different.

whether the attitude is "I've had success in the past, it could happen again!"
or the attitude is "I havent talked to girls before, but Im going to now, and I dont care what the results are"

I dont see what the dif is. I think you could be just as successful with either attitude.

 

[nvrbuffenuff_girl]

I think where you fail when it comes to dating isn't so much because you lack things girls are looking for in men but because you aren't being yourself. Be yourself and see how that works for you. No girl wants to meet someone who is fake or fits into a mold because they show that they pocess every quality they look for in a man.

I made this observation solely on your posts about relationship the past two days, so yes I do realize I could be wrong. I also did not read every detail included in your threads.

 

[gonelifting]

Well you had to have been there before to know what to do. You can`t just get rejected all the time and say "I don`t care" Where`s the experience in that? You talked for 5 minutes?

Confidence is being able to go into a room with 6 women in a group and talking to all of them at the same time, making them laugh, making them COMPETE for you. Letting them KNOW you`ve been in this situation before. Making them KNOW that you KNOW what you want and you`re not waiting for their answers and hanging on every word they say like a little boy. Your a man, show them. Look them in the eye and tell them something about themselves that could be a little provocative but classy at the same time WHILE the other girls are wondering why you did`nt tell THEM that.

Experience gets you that. Not rejection and "not caring" about rejection.

PS I`ve been rejected a thousand times, Not everybody is compatible. But every time I get rejected I usually still have them genuinly laughing and having a good time. They just are`nt attracted to me in that way. No problem. That`s getting rejected and not caring. You can leave knowing it was HER loss.

 

[bran987]

I dont see what the dif is. I think you could be just as successful with either attitude.

fake it till you make it

 

[Gambino]

Dude, maybe your style sucks. Sloppy hair, mismatched clothes, greasy zits, etc. Seriously, email Tiger88 your picture and he will critque your look. He's gay so he'll give you a honest opinion. Anyway, new clothes will give a boost of confidence...so go get your self a zebra skin suit and matching top hat, alligator skin loafers, tie-dye feather boa, fake diamond studded grail, and pimp through campus with authority.

 

[slickdadd]

You are either confident or you aren't. It's kinda hard to really fake that. If you are faking it, you are a confident fake douchebag at the very least.

 

[the_only_sepe]

Dude, maybe your style sucks. Sloppy hair, mismatched clothes, greasy zits, etc. Seriously, email Tiger88 your picture and he will critque your look. He's gay so he'll give you a honest opinion. Anyway, new clothes will give a boost of confidence...so go get your self a zebra skin suit and matching top hat, alligator skin loafers, tie-dye feather boa, fake diamond studded grail, and pimp through campus with authority.

Oh damn, here comes the campus pimp!

 

[the_only_sepe]

examples of confidence are when u know you are the shiznit! Or right after some hot girl comes by and rubs her tits on you and proceeds to give you her #, now thats a feeling of confidence! Let that happen a few times and you will be the confidence king!

 

[sigweed]

brother, if you spent half the time studying as you did worrying about girls, you'd be a millionaire by the time you're 25 and would have girls swarming you 24/7

 

[-SD-]

The more time you spend working toward your own successes, the more confident you will become, and the more attractive you will appear to women.

 

[tripleblonde]

fyxgel:

are u dating anyone right now? or have you recently?

is there a specific girl your interested in?

 

[chewyxrage]

Dude, maybe your style sucks. Sloppy hair, mismatched clothes, greasy zits, etc. Seriously, email Tiger88 your picture and he will critque your look. He's gay so he'll give you a honest opinion. Anyway, new clothes will give a boost of confidence...so go get your self a zebra skin suit and matching top hat, alligator skin loafers, tie-dye feather boa, fake diamond studded grail, and pimp through campus with authority.

lol, here comes tiger's standard reply of :

"no bro i'm straight like this -----------"

 

[150shot]

I totally agree with Gonelifting. He got it on the spot. I am confident to a point but try not to be cocky. Girls love when you walk into a place whether a club, gym, wherever like you own it....how it works.....

My current training partner is a cute chick, for a while she would never talk to anyone, but finally we started talking and eventually became partners. I asked her one day why she didnt turn me down when I struck up conversation and stuff, and she finally admitted she liked the way I carried myself in the gym and how it looked like I knew whats up and felt good about myself...

 

[the_only_sepe]

I totally agree with Gonelifting. He got it on the spot. I am confident to a point but try not to be cocky. Girls love when you walk into a place whether a club, gym, wherever like you own it....how it works.....

My current training partner is a cute chick, for a while she would never talk to anyone, but finally we started talking and eventually became partners. I asked her one day why she didnt turn me down when I struck up conversation and stuff, and she finally admitted she liked the way I carried myself in the gym and how it looked like I knew whats up and felt good about myself...

U fookin pimp u!

 

[Razorguns]

if you're a drama queen in life. You DON'T have confidence.

lord knows we got enough of them here in la.

 

[Swiftme]

here are some tips

If you want to create success in your life, there are four steps:
1. Know your outcome (know what you want)
2. Get yourself to take action by deciding to do so.
3. Notice what you're getting from your actions
4. If what you're doing is not working, change your approach.

The biggest trap that keeps people from taking action is fear: fear of failure, frea of success, fear of rejection, fear of pain, fear of the unknown. The only way to deal with fear is to face it. Look it in the eye and take action in spite of it.

How long would you give the average baby to learn how to walk before you didn't let him try any more?
Answer is however long it takes

Why wouldn't you apply the same formula to yourself?


And remember, Success leaves clues.

To save time and energy use role models to accelerate the pace of your success:
1. Find someone who's already getting the results you want
2. Find out what that person is doing.
3. Do same things, and you'll get the same results.

It's impossible to fail as long as you learn something from what you do!


there's lot more to it but that's a good start

 

[150shot]

U fookin pimp u!

THANK YA! too bad she's married!!!!

 

[fyxgel]

fyxgel:

are u dating anyone right now? or have you recently?

is there a specific girl your interested in?

I am going to spit you the truth:

I am 20 years old, and have not had a girlfriend, or even anything close like that. I want one. I have girls that are friends, but not girls that I am friends with that I hang out with regularly.

Right now I'm not dating anyone, or really interested in any particular girl, I just want a girl. A good girl, a girl who is attractive and has a great personality and is a good fit for me.
I feel like I have lived too long without tasting the romance side of life, so I want to get my feet wet.

I dont care if you guys say "I'm too young" the fact is: that life passes you by very quickly. If I take on the "i dont care" mentality, I could easily end up like my brother, who is 24 years old and has not dated anyone before.

So yea, basically I am asking for girl advice, because I want to hookup with someone, I dont know who she is yet, but I want to figure that out.

 

[fyxgel]

I think where you fail when it comes to dating isn't so much because you lack things girls are looking for in men but because you aren't being yourself. Be yourself and see how that works for you. No girl wants to meet someone who is fake or fits into a mold because they show that they pocess every quality they look for in a man.

I made this observation solely on your posts about relationship the past two days, so yes I do realize I could be wrong. I also did not read every detail included in your threads.

In regards to this...
Honestly, I'm not trying to front you or anything, but I just want to say that I thought I have always been trying to be myself. People tell me that, and tell me how it is really important to do that
and I agree with that phrase. Thus I thought I always have been myself. I dont think getting a better build so you can get a hotter chick violates the rule of 'being yourself' I just think that you gotta make sure you arent overdoing it (trying waay too hard to look a certain way).

btw, I like asking a lot of questions on this board, because I like to make sure that the bridge is safe, and all points of stability are checked, before crossing the bridge. It's just my way of doing things, and I think that for me personally it will work, and it will be the most effective method. But then again I could be wrong.

BTW I do go out and talk to girls, its just that it seems like i cant ever get to know them well enough.

 

[fyxgel]

if you're a drama queen in life. You DON'T have confidence.
.

BS, I have confidence.

 

[vinylgroover]

P60, just get yourself laid and you will look at things a whole lot different.

Spend good coin($250) on a nice hooker (maybe even pay the extra's and get some ass action) and just enjoy yourself.

Your problem is you don't take enough risks........just say wtf and get out there and ask some broad out on a date. Who knows......you may surprise yourself (and me, lol).

Too much analysis, meanwhile guys are taking what culd be your's and giving their ass a workout.

I have fallen on my ass plenty of times with chicks, but unless you're in the game you don't have any chance of winning.

 

[gonelifting]

Agree with VG. Ask the next cute girl out. TODAY!

 

[the_only_sepe]

u can be your self bro, and eventually some one will come into your life, but if u want it to happen sooner u got to go and get it

 

[tripleblonde]

I am going to spit you the truth:

I am 20 years old, and have not had a girlfriend, or even anything close like that. I want one. I have girls that are friends, but not girls that I am friends with that I hang out with regularly.

Right now I'm not dating anyone, or really interested in any particular girl, I just want a girl. A good girl, a girl who is attractive and has a great personality and is a good fit for me.
I feel like I have lived too long without tasting the romance side of life, so I want to get my feet wet.

I dont care if you guys say "I'm too young" the fact is: that life passes you by very quickly. If I take on the "i dont care" mentality, I could easily end up like my brother, who is 24 years old and has not dated anyone before.

So yea, basically I am asking for girl advice, because I want to hookup with someone, I dont know who she is yet, but I want to figure that out.

20 is young.....i'm only 21 myself......my best advice to you is to just approach a girl you find attractive/sweet/whatever qualities your looking for. Girls LIKE to be approached and they like a guy who does it w/confidence (not arrogance), but confidence. Rejection is ALWAYS a possibility, and it's probably going to happen sometime in your life no matter what you look like or how you act....just be prepared and let it roll off your shoulders if it happens....basically, you just gotta get out there and try.....good luck and let us know what happens

 

[GoldenDelicious]

confidence is about being able to ask yourself "what would the lone ranger do?" and come up with an answer in time to actually say it

big tip for people shitting their pants talking to women...its better to talk slowly with a smile than rattle out some bullshit too fast and stutter. dont laugh...ive seen it. did a damn good job of holding my laughter in until the guy went away too

 

[tiger88]

Dude, maybe your style sucks. Sloppy hair, mismatched clothes, greasy zits, etc. Seriously, email Tiger88 your picture and he will critque your look. He's gay so he'll give you a honest opinion. Anyway, new clothes will give a boost of confidence...so go get your self a zebra skin suit and matching top hat, alligator skin loafers, tie-dye feather boa, fake diamond studded grail, and pimp through campus with authority.

hahahahahah lollllloooooollllll


ya bro wheres the fucking pic of u [email protected]


for awsome confidence coke + test = superman like balls


a few bumps u are will lit up quite nice

 

[tiger88]

lol, here comes tiger's standard reply of :

"no bro i'm straight like this -----------"

undefinedhahahahahahahahahaha u was up wasp

 

[fyxgel]

P60, just get yourself laid and you will look at things a whole lot different.

Spend good coin($250) on a nice hooker (maybe even pay the extra's and get some ass action) and just enjoy yourself.

Your problem is you don't take enough risks........just say wtf and get out there and ask some broad out on a date. Who knows......you may surprise yourself (and me, lol).

Too much analysis, meanwhile guys are taking what culd be your's and giving their ass a workout.

I have fallen on my ass plenty of times with chicks, but unless you're in the game you don't have any chance of winning.

I agree with your overall mentality on this stuff, like getting your ass into the game instead of sitting back on the sidelines and thinking about it.

but please keep in mind that I am not in it for the sex. Granted wanting a girlfriend to snuggle and kiss is similar to wanting a girlfriend to have sex with,
but just remember, I'm putting sex off until marriage.

So... getting a hooker is not an option,

however taking more risks, and asking some girls out, is an option.

 

[fyxgel]

20 is young.....i'm only 21 myself......my best advice to you is to just approach a girl you find attractive/sweet/whatever qualities your looking for. Girls LIKE to be approached and they like a guy who does it w/confidence (not arrogance), but confidence. Rejection is ALWAYS a possibility, and it's probably going to happen sometime in your life no matter what you look like or how you act....just be prepared and let it roll off your shoulders if it happens....basically, you just gotta get out there and try.....good luck and let us know what happens

now the tricky part is when the girl does not outright reject, but agrees to go out with you just to be nice
Then it takes a lot longer to figure out if you have a chance with her or not.

What do you do in this kind of situation?

 

[the_only_sepe]

flog the dolphin and do it! find u a shy girl and talk to her

 

[B0ARDIN087]

confidence radiates its not really something u do, if u wake up and are truely happy with everythign abotu the day then they WILL COME TO YOU. the same way u can sense things about girls is the way they sense you, u know when i girl is being a fake bitch and u know when i girl is being sincere. The best thing to do if ur worried is apprroach girls in common places that you dont see everyday, and ask them how they are doing and everything. Also, if ur in a situation where u meet a girl and start talking, HAVE SOME IDEA ON HOW TO CARRY ON THE CONVERSATION ELSEWHERE. ask her if she wnats to go get a cup of coffee or grab a bite to eat. if she says no she doesn't have time its actually ideal because then you can have an excuse to get her number.

but anyway, my guess is u haven't suceeded because you haven't tried. you thought about trying but u never actually did. i used to have the same problem but what i realized was....... if pretending to try didn't actually work the other 50 times, whats going to make it work now?

 

[bran987]

confidence radiates its not really something u do, if u wake up and are truely happy with everythign abotu the day then they WILL COME TO YOU. the same way u can sense things about girls is the way they sense you, u know when i girl is being a fake bitch and u know when i girl is being sincere. The best thing to do if ur worried is apprroach girls in common places that you dont see everyday, and ask them how they are doing and everything. Also, if ur in a situation where u meet a girl and start talking, HAVE SOME IDEA ON HOW TO CARRY ON THE CONVERSATION ELSEWHERE. ask her if she wnats to go get a cup of coffee or grab a bite to eat. if she says no she doesn't have time its actually ideal because then you can have an excuse to get her number.

but anyway, my guess is u haven't suceeded because you haven't tried. you thought about trying but u never actually did. i used to have the same problem but what i realized was....... if pretending to try didn't actually work the other 50 times, whats going to make it work now?

listen to boardin he is a smart bro.. he started a high school message board to get laid by high school chicks all across the country.. brilliant!

 

[d3track]

please make these threads stop

dude, seriosly, join a club, or team or sumthin
thats all it takes

 

[fyxgel]

please make these threads stop

dude, seriosly, join a club, or team or sumthin
thats all it takes

dont tell me that joining a club is all i need to do. I was in a youth group in highschool for three years, and I didnt get anywhere with the women in it.
There's more to it than that, far more to it.

 

[Gambino]

i will repeat mysyelf, once again, on what you need to do. dude you're in focking college, meet these ladies in class, get in their work groups...talk to them about class shit and then weazel your way in...

 

[Taps]

For God's sake man, just START asking chicks out. The absolute worst thing they can say is "no." Besides, after you get rejected a few times, you'll stop giving a shit -- and at that point, women will flock to you.

 

[Gambino]

damn, I think your bro is probably giay...

 

[vinylgroover]

but just remember, I'm putting sex off until marriage.

So... getting a hooker is not an option,

.

you could always just pay for a hooker and talk to her for an hour, lol.

whether you are in it for sex or not, you still need to make an approach to a girl.........how else are you going to meet her.

Let me tell you, you will get knock backs and your confidence will go down with each knock back but you bounce back quickly. If we won at everything in life it would make life pretty boring and predictable. When you have a win, it will be evern sweeter.

It's a numbers game my friend. There is no one person out there who is right for you........there are a number of decent, good looking chicks who could be right.

Less talk more action.

P.S How about throwing me a dime for a hooker for all the great advice i've given you over the last year.

 

[fyxgel]

I think I've realized my problem. I do a crappy job of weasling chicks in the slow way, so maybe i should just go up to them and ask em out for coffee right away.

I dunno, I think it would honestly help more if i wasnt in college right now. because knowing that i have homework that i need to do down the road makes me not in the mood to do anything else for that day. homework sucks. if i just went to work and came home afterwards, i would have all the time in the world for chicks, and everything else in life. too bad such a job like that wouldnt pay jack diddly unless i went to college first

I think another problem is that I spent too much time on the internet, on these types of discussion boards and what not. I need to get off, for good. because i have a hard time moderating my time spent with this kind of thing. lets just pray that i only have the willpower to get off. (these damn computers in the library are too much of a temptation)

Vinyl and everyone else on this board who has given me good advice, thank you very much for doing so, being patient, and putting up with my naiveness over the years. Unfortunately I'm not sure if I can repay you, because all I could really do is try to offer advice back for your own problems, and I'm not sure that hanging out on these boards or on the internet in general is the best idea for me.

 

[bran987]

I think I've realized my problem. I do a crappy job of weasling chicks in the slow way, so maybe i should just go up to them and ask em out for coffee right away.

I dunno, I think it would honestly help more if i wasnt in college right now. because knowing that i have homework that i need to do down the road makes me not in the mood to do anything else for that day. homework sucks. if i just went to work and came home afterwards, i would have all the time in the world for chicks, and everything else in life. too bad such a job like that wouldnt pay jack diddly unless i went to college first

I think another problem is that I spent too much time on the internet, on these types of discussion boards and what not. I need to get off, for good. because i have a hard time moderating my time spent with this kind of thing. lets just pray that i only have the willpower to get off. (these damn computers in the library are too much of a temptation)

Vinyl and everyone else on this board who has given me good advice, thank you very much for doing so, being patient, and putting up with my naiveness over the years. Unfortunately I'm not sure if I can repay you, because all I could really do is try to offer advice back for your own problems, and I'm not sure that hanging out on these boards or on the internet in general is the best idea for me.

I would agree we could probably help you a lot more if you had actually gone on a few dates and gave us feedback on what happened during the dates. until then, we've told you all you need to know and more. you are right, don't come back for awhile! this place is not making you happy, or teaching you anything new for the moment.
I hope we see you again, and don't you dare pretend to go on a date this weekend and then come back monday. we'll know you're faking. it has to be a REAL date.
one more thing, if you go on a date, get decaf, you don't need anything making you appear more jittery and nervous than you already are dude.
best of luck!

 

[the_only_sepe]

I think I've realized my problem. I do a crappy job of weasling chicks in the slow way, so maybe i should just go up to them and ask em out for coffee right away.

I dunno, I think it would honestly help more if i wasnt in college right now. because knowing that i have homework that i need to do down the road makes me not in the mood to do anything else for that day. homework sucks. if i just went to work and came home afterwards, i would have all the time in the world for chicks, and everything else in life. too bad such a job like that wouldnt pay jack diddly unless i went to college first

I think another problem is that I spent too much time on the internet, on these types of discussion boards and what not. I need to get off, for good. because i have a hard time moderating my time spent with this kind of thing. lets just pray that i only have the willpower to get off. (these damn computers in the library are too much of a temptation)

Vinyl and everyone else on this board who has given me good advice, thank you very much for doing so, being patient, and putting up with my naiveness over the years. Unfortunately I'm not sure if I can repay you, because all I could really do is try to offer advice back for your own problems, and I'm not sure that hanging out on these boards or on the internet in general is the best idea for me.

This is where u learn! If you feel you have enough knowledge now go and do your thing(which I think you do)

 

[tripleblonde]

I think I've realized my problem. I do a crappy job of weasling chicks in the slow way, so maybe i should just go up to them and ask em out for coffee right away.

I dunno, I think it would honestly help more if i wasnt in college right now. because knowing that i have homework that i need to do down the road makes me not in the mood to do anything else for that day. homework sucks. if i just went to work and came home afterwards, i would have all the time in the world for chicks, and everything else in life. too bad such a job like that wouldnt pay jack diddly unless i went to college first

I think another problem is that I spent too much time on the internet, on these types of discussion boards and what not. I need to get off, for good. because i have a hard time moderating my time spent with this kind of thing. lets just pray that i only have the willpower to get off. (these damn computers in the library are too much of a temptation)

Vinyl and everyone else on this board who has given me good advice, thank you very much for doing so, being patient, and putting up with my naiveness over the years. Unfortunately I'm not sure if I can repay you, because all I could really do is try to offer advice back for your own problems, and I'm not sure that hanging out on these boards or on the internet in general is the best idea for me.

fxygel: let me say one more thing and i mean this in the least bitchiest way possible....

you are waaaaay too serious. seriously. and imo a lot of that is the fact that you are prob. a pretty caring guy, someone who pretty thoughtful, deeper thinker about what to do and how to to it, etc...

this all has its positives, but you are overthinking all this shiiiat waaay too much. I have went to a private Christian schools since the 3rd grade and I was all set to go to a college one till I saved myself from the insanity

but my point in saying this is that private Christian schools are a whole nother' world and I understand this.....you hit on girls like some of the guys have said to in this thread and it just doesn't fly....(doesn't mean their not right and the girl doesn't want you to), it's just harder to do it in the atmospher you are in.....sooo, I say take your own advice....coffee...one girl....casual date.....studying is always a nice "in" and then you can start talking about other things (like your next date to see a movie perhaps....)

don't overthink it, don't get down on yourself, just ask someone out for coffee, i can almost guarantee you they will be flattered, albeit a bit shy if this is the kinda school i think, and go have some fun

 

[d3track]

dont tell me that joining a club is all i need to do. I was in a youth group in highschool for three years, and I didnt get anywhere with the women in it.
There's more to it than that, far more to it.

high-school--college
youth group--volleyball/ultimate frisbee

ummm totally different

i had a lot of friends from the christian school when i was playing ball in JC
they would come to almost all of the home games, and they were all in some sort of group
its an easy way to meet people and give you all common ground
ie.....MAKE SOME FRIENDS MAN!!!!!!!!!

 

[Lumberg]

In regards to this...I like to make sure that the bridge is safe, and all points of stability are checked, before crossing the bridge.

that could be part of your problem right there.

 

[Lumberg]

Also my mom has always told me to volunteer. That's where you find lots of "good" women.

Recently I decided I want to volunteer with kids. Just because lately I have realized I really love kids. I talked to the volunteer coordinator for a center for children in the area and when we talked after I submitted the application she said, it is so great to get male volunteers because there are so many women around here. Things that make you go "hmm."

 

[Swiftme]

Also my mom has always told me to volunteer. That's where you find lots of "good" women.

Recently I decided I want to volunteer with kids. Just because lately I have realized I really love kids. I talked to the volunteer coordinator for a center for children in the area and when we talked after I submitted the application she said, it is so great to get male volunteers because there are so many women around here. Things that make you go "hmm."

That's a good idea, I might have to do that myself.

What kind of places did you volunteer at?

 

[Lumberg]

Places where orphans and children from fucked up families get put.

 

[fyxgel]

lol,

i love how I make a post about how college sucks, and internet forums suck, and how i cant repay all you nice people,

and then everyone responds back with stuff like "go out and get her" lol. and report back here when you do!


no, but seriously, college does suck and I do want to get out of here (just dont know what else I would do, I would do anything besides more schooling I guess) I think that might make my mood on life soar a little higher. Although college is the best meeting ground for chicks, I shouldnt be here if I cant tolerate college.

And internet forums suck too, because you can waste so much time on them, when you could be out there and living your life instead. I wish I could make it so it was impossible for me to come back to these forums, its nothing against you guys,
its just that i waste entirely too much time doing nothing, particularly when I have to get schoolwork done. And when I'm not getting schoolwork done, I know thats when I could be spending my time doing fun stuff like hobbies, or macking on chicks, or hanging with friends, but somehow I'm just not in the mood to. particularly when I know I got a paper that I am going to have to do in the next 24 hours, or something. grrr.
am i making any sense?

 

[bran987]

am i making any sense?

I think what you're trying to say is that you're not leaving?

 

[tiger88]

lol,

i love how I make a post about how college sucks, and internet forums suck, and how i cant repay all you nice people,

and then everyone responds back with stuff like "go out and get her" lol. and report back here when you do!


no, but seriously, college does suck and I do want to get out of here (just dont know what else I would do, I would do anything besides more schooling I guess) I think that might make my mood on life soar a little higher. Although college is the best meeting ground for chicks, I shouldnt be here if I cant tolerate college.

And internet forums suck too, because you can waste so much time on them, when you could be out there and living your life instead. I wish I could make it so it was impossible for me to come back to these forums, its nothing against you guys,
its just that i waste entirely too much time doing nothing, particularly when I have to get schoolwork done. And when I'm not getting schoolwork done, I know thats when I could be spending my time doing fun stuff like hobbies, or macking on chicks, or hanging with friends, but somehow I'm just not in the mood to. particularly when I know I got a paper that I am going to have to do in the next 24 hours, or something. grrr.
am i making any sense?

bro u been on clomid too fucking long


just 3 weeks

300 mg -1-100 mg 2-11 50 mg 12-21......thats it bro

 

[fyxgel]

I think what you're trying to say is that you're not leaving?

probably not until our city gets some kind of internet outtage which will last forever,
(yea right)

 

[tiger88]

pics !!!!!!!!!


we wanna see what u look like

 

[Lumberg]

And internet forums suck too, because you can waste so much time on them, when you could be out there and living your life instead.

Dude, what are you talking about? This IS your life. The rest is just pretend.

 

[UA_Iron]

lol,

i love how I make a post about how college sucks, and internet forums suck, and how i cant repay all you nice people,

and then everyone responds back with stuff like "go out and get her" lol. and report back here when you do!


no, but seriously, college does suck and I do want to get out of here (just dont know what else I would do, I would do anything besides more schooling I guess) I think that might make my mood on life soar a little higher. Although college is the best meeting ground for chicks, I shouldnt be here if I cant tolerate college.

And internet forums suck too, because you can waste so much time on them, when you could be out there and living your life instead. I wish I could make it so it was impossible for me to come back to these forums, its nothing against you guys,
its just that i waste entirely too much time doing nothing, particularly when I have to get schoolwork done. And when I'm not getting schoolwork done, I know thats when I could be spending my time doing fun stuff like hobbies, or macking on chicks, or hanging with friends, but somehow I'm just not in the mood to. particularly when I know I got a paper that I am going to have to do in the next 24 hours, or something. grrr.
am i making any sense?

what year are you in college?

sounds like its not a confidence issue, its an issue with your attitude. At first I didnt like college but now I am loving it. I am 20 and making progress with chicks where before I wasnt making a whole lot of progress. Chicks love confidence, but dont be a jackass about it.

PS. confidence is having a chick break up with her distance boyfriend, banging her a week later (for her first time!).

 

[Swiftme]

Well I came to a conclusion that you are a typical depressed loser.
But that's ok since you can fix it.

But untill then, I don't think you'll be getting to much play

Get a hobby, start changing your life little by little.





One thing you need to do is to start thinking differently, right now you are thinking what if I ask that girl out and I get rejected. The way you should be thinking is "what if I don't ask the girl out, what if I dont talk to that girl, what if she is the one and she wants to go out with me"

rejection can be painful but thinking about all that 24/7(which is obviusly what you do since you are here posting this type of messages) can be a lot more painful.

Now you can't have any doubts when you do that, if you want to change your life you need to follow through(once again, you seem to be very pesimistic, you have a mentality of a true LOSER)

you can change that. just start doing what I told you.

 

[Swiftme]

another example.

When you see one of those commercials on tv about collect calls. Theres this grandma whos going "oh my, my son hasn't called me in past 15 min he must not love me!!!!!!!" then they show her son in the office and thinking oh my I havent called my mom in so long she must hate me now....now all the grandmas in the world are thinking "he must not love me, he has no time for me etc etc" and than you got all the sons/daughters in the world thinking that "man I havent called her in so long she must hate me, and the worlds going to end" but than BAM... what do you see on tv? a great ending where guy fights through his fear and calls his mom and they are the most happy people in the world...

start watching commercials and you'll see that, they make millions that way BECAUSE THEY KNOW WHAT PEOPLE WANT AND HOW PEOPLE THINK, thats more important, theres patterns how people think and its very obvius.


I can go on but I'm in real hurry so I'll get back to you with this.




start changing you life NOW.

YOU AND ONLY YOU HAVE THAT POWER SO USE IT, USE THAT POWER TO YOUR ADVANTAGE.!

and think about the LONG TERM pain, from all this girls that could be yours and end up with someone else BECAUSE YOU DIDNT ASK THEM OUT IN TIME...




and for gods sake start changing your mentality( it wont happen in 1 day but its jsut like weightlifting, it takes time... 1 step at a time)


good luck little fella

 

[gonelifting]

Seriously bro, go up to the next hot chick you see and ask her out. Just walk up to her and SMILE and ASK... Get rejected and smile and leave. You may not get a "no" JUST DO IT. Go NOW!
Go.


Go. Now.

See sig...

 

[tripleblonde]

See sig...

lol

listen to gonelifting!

 

[Lao Tzu]

Seriously bro, go up to the next hot chick you see and ask her out. Just walk up to her and SMILE and ASK... Get rejected and smile and leave. You may not get a "no" JUST DO IT. Go NOW!
Go.


Go. Now.

See sig...

Do you really think that is good advice, telling a confused, anxious kid to approach a total stranger who is extremely attractive and ask her out point blank? He will probably get yelled at for that. At least tell him to approach a plain or slightly cute woman instead.

Im in the same boat he is in. haven't worked my way out of it yet. I realize its (within reason) my own doing but i am not sure how to get out of it. I need serious mental work to work past some limitations i have on this issue.

 

[bran987]

Do you really think that is good advice, telling a confused, anxious kid to approach a total stranger who is extremely attractive and ask her out point blank? He will probably get yelled at for that. At least tell him to approach a plain or slightly cute woman instead.

Im in the same boat he is in. haven't worked my way out of it yet. I realize its (within reason) my own doing but i am not sure how to get out of it. I need serious mental work to work past some limitations i have on this issue.

the chances of a woman yelling at you for politely asking her to go have coffee are about 1 in 1,000 or LESS

the fear of this happening is completely unfounded. it just doesn't happen in real. the woman will just politely make up an excuse and say no thank you, or I have a boyfriend.. etc.. and he'll walk away embarassed for 5 minutes then realize it was really no big deal and he'll never see her again.. next time he'll be a little smoother.. and on and on

you just aren't going to get yelled at or slapped unless you are a total rude prick and insult her, or grab her ass after saying hello

 

[Lao Tzu]

the chances of a woman yelling at you for politely asking her to go have coffee are about 1 in 1,000 or LESS

the fear of this happening is completely unfounded. it just doesn't happen in real. the woman will just politely make up an excuse and say no thank you, or I have a boyfriend.. etc.. and he'll walk away embarassed for 5 minutes then realize it was really no big deal and he'll never see her again.. next time he'll be a little smoother.. and on and on

you just aren't going to get yelled at or slapped unless you are a total rude prick and insult her, or grab her ass after saying hello

I hope this is true. My understanding of women has always been that they are supercilious and that men are so spineless and syncophantic with their eternal 'hitting on' that they are disgusted by all the attention. This mentality is largely what prevents me from meeting women and i dont know how to work beyond it.

 

[gonelifting]

Do you really think that is good advice, telling a confused, anxious kid to approach a total stranger who is extremely attractive and ask her out point blank? He will probably get yelled at for that. At least tell him to approach a plain or slightly cute woman instead.

Im in the same boat he is in. haven't worked my way out of it yet. I realize its (within reason) my own doing but i am not sure how to get out of it. I need serious mental work to work past some limitations i have on this issue.

Come on bro, it`s not like he`s gonna unzip his pants and walk up to her. Just go up to ANY attractive (to you) woman and say"Can I call you, we`ll go out?" Either she`ll say "Sure" or "No thanks" DING DING DING That`s ONE experience, then go from there, see what you may have done wrong. See her initial reaction, did you smile? Did she smile? Go do itNOW

RIGHT NOW GET OFF YOUR COMPUTER AND DO IT NOW!!! I`m serious. You`ll feel awsome after you do it.

 

[bran987]

I hope this is true. My understanding of women has always been that they are supercilious and that men are so spineless and syncophantic with their eternal 'hitting on' that they are disgusted by all the attention. This mentality is largely what prevents me from meeting women and i dont know how to work beyond it.

well, one day when you do, you shall be pleasantly surprised my friend

 

[Lao Tzu]

RIGHT NOW GET OFF YOUR COMPUTER AND DO IT NOW!!! I`m serious. You`ll feel awsome after you do it.

No, im just going to sit on the computer and bitch about my situation instead. Besides i would rather do something like that in a situation where i dont have to see the people again.

 

[Lao Tzu]

well, one day when you do, you shall be pleasantly surprised my friend

I know. virtually every woman i've ever hit on responded positively to me but i still believe this and i dont know why.

 

[fyxgel]

btw, for the ppl who want pics of me, or that girl that I used to be interested in,
please visit this thread:

[url]http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?t=315931 [/URL]

 

[fyxgel]

and folks, one more update:

Yes, I will mack on chicks, and take some action,

but I am going to wait until I am not in school (When finals are done, and after that I dont think I'm going back) Either that or I will hurry up and just finish my school, (do my last 2 years in 1 year, and just get my BA)

Because I hate the idea of trying to live a life while in school. Bottom line: school puts me in a bad mood. bad mood = not compatible when macking on girls or trying to do anything productive for that matter.

And unfortunately folks, in order for me to have success stories to share, I'm going to probably have to pry myself away from these forums, which will only happen if I swear off of them forever. Which means I'll have to do that, and you guys probably wont get to hear the success stories.

So instead assume this: If I'm not on these forums, and I havent been on in months, it probably means I am raking in success.

So, this is me, signing out, forever hopefully. If you don't hear back from me, it means I am probably having success,

FYXGEL / P60 out.

 

[Lao Tzu]

I think its best for people like us to figure out what is holding us back and fix it, then get out and get some experience more than anything.

 

[tiger88]

btw, for the ppl who want pics of me, or that girl that I used to be interested in,
please visit this thread:

[url]http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?t=315931 [/URL]

busted ass up fuckd dead link bro


drink some beers

courage in a can

 

[Swiftme]

Okay let me make this more clear... here is where the confidence comes from

When you say that you will now get up and go clean your room and you actually do it, thats one little step to improving your confidence.

It might not mean alot today but this little things will add up, be a man of your word because you have that POWER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you said that you will get up at 5am to run that mile go and DO IT!!!

with little steps like these everything will slowly start changing because you will become more confident in whatever you do.... you know why????

BECAUSE YOU CAN, YOU CAN DO IT CAUSE YOU GOT THAT POWER. This little things will bring you to the point where you will go up to any girl and start a conversation with her and end up asking her out.


If you said to yourself that you will go and ask that girl out than DO IT, if you get rejected consider that you learned a great lesson and it will actually make you feel better because look where you are now... at the bottom, you can only go up from here....

but again, if this girl rejects you and you still want her try A DIFFERENT APROACH, and keep trying and guess what happens if it doesnt work? YOU TRY SOMETHING ELSE

you're body will tell you when to stop when you realise theres other girls out there if you just go out and look around

Be yourself, but pleaseeeee be the man of your word and do what you say. THATS THE CONFIDENCE YOU ARE LOOKING FOR!!!!

REPETITION!!!! very important, nothing comes in one day



A famous athlete once told me, " you know I hate people who just come up to me and tell me that I was born with this talent"

you know why? because he worked on his game since he was a child!!!! the phrase that "champions are made and not born" is completly true.

skeptisism is your worst enemy!!!!



one other thing... what does your life consist of? you go from one box to another and thats it, you go from your dorm room to classroom, you get in your car you sit in your box.... GO OUT, go on the beach, go somewhere you can meet peoeple, get a hobby...

BE HAPPY YOU HAVE THIS LIFE, ENJOY IT...



or you can just be like other fat lazy basterds out there and say, " hey my lifes not that bad, I just need to work on few things"

WRONG!!!!
you can always make your life better, more interesting, more exciting...

Girls will be more interested in you go they will want to share that fun with you!!!!

GIRLS JUST WANNA HAVE FUN!!!!!

and you should do the same



Be the man of your word and that is what confidence is, no games, no strings atached...

Girls who dont understand that are not worth your time



but untill you find that girl you are lookin for, DO WHAT YOU SAY

that will turn into a HABIT and slowly but surely lead to you being a very confident young man.

 

[Swiftme]

I hope this is true. My understanding of women has always been that they are supercilious and that men are so spineless and syncophantic with their eternal 'hitting on' that they are disgusted by all the attention. This mentality is largely what prevents me from meeting women and i dont know how to work beyond it.

as for you my friend, you need to stop associating pain with "hitting on girls"

It's easy to do, not VERY easy but its not hard either

Everyday you see those anti-drug commercials because people who make those commercials associate smoking with burnt lungs and rotten teeth. Key word here being repetition once again, at some point it gets in peoples had that smoking is bad!!!! and thats what drives them away from smoking

on the other hand, people in tobbaco industry are thinking... PEOPLE ARE DUMB, we can make them believe whatver we want. So when advertising they associate smoking with being "COOL", independent, bad etc etc. That also gets in some peoples heads and they say, "wow smoking is cool, I need to do it more often"
what happens when they first start smoking? coughing, tastes like shit, smell like ass etc etc but they still do it cause they were fooled by that certain commercial that advertised smoking as being "BADASS"

Same with cocaine... its a billion dollar industry, do they really have such great salesmen? no but there are lot of people who associate the drug as a instant well being, and all the pain in the world is gone... what if you start thinking differently? what if you say, yuck cocaine is nasty and it gets me outta control and why should I do that when I can have more fun without it?

Your mind is better than any computer out there, you have the power to do anything with it as long as you use it....

Now knowing that, you can practicly associate pain with pleasure which some people actually do and have a blast

or

you could associate being a maaajor pimp by aproaching any girl out there and talking to her, associate girls being very flattered everytime you do that




start reading some books on human behavior and you can practicly take over any womans brain, know what they are thinking and what they want...

its not easy fellas but it takes time and practice like everything else




or you can hope like some people "well fuck it, I may one day win a lottery so why should I do anything"


well in that case, you have one sad life and you might aswell be dead cause you practicly are if all you do is sit on your asss





but theres lot more to it...

 

[Swiftme]

to close the deal

tell me this, would a girl rather be sitting home alone or going out and having fun?

you must be out of your mind if you answered she would rather stay home by herself

and if by any chance thats not true, than that girl has problems and she needs to see a doctor

find something exciting to do and ask the girl if she wants to have some fun too, go out or just have a drink on a nice day... you dont necceserely need to be "macking"

you can just talk to the girl, make her laugh

now if you just sit there without movement and fun, she will most likely not like you and thats why your life needs to be exciting if you want someone to fall for you

all the girls in the house tell me that aint true

 

[Frackal19]

The more time you spend working toward your own successes, the more confident you will become, and the more attractive you will appear to women.

Yes... also, don't believe a girl when she tells you some sappy bullshit like "be yourself" ...that's along the same level of horsepuckey as "I like nice guys"