ever felt a connection early in the dating process

[SoreArms]

I have been dating this girl a short while and although I've known her in the past, I can't help to feel so strange at how natural it feels to do the things that usually take me months to feel comfortable doing with a chick (like rubbing noses and crap like that). This time around, we have only gone on a couple of dates and we are already at that point and we both agree that it is strange at how natural it feels. I don't nescessarily think its love (yet), I don't get into that side of my emotions that easily, but the connection is strong, our frequencies communicate.

Have you ever felt a strong connection with some one early in the dating process that it scared you?

 

[Paulo]

Yes, I have.

and then I proceed to run like hell.

 

[hardrock]

Pretty much every time. If not I'm outta there.

 

[Y_lifter]

I remember a girl like that..
We would have a blast even when we were just stopping at the Grocery store or some such.. Lots of intimacy of the the non sexual variety..

I met my current wife and broke up with her..

She got real REAL heavy years later, so I guess I made the right choice regardless..
I still wonder (WHAT IF ! )

 

[Moderate_THIS]

what we have here is a case of celestial incest

 

[string_bean00]

I met my current wife and broke up with her..

She got real REAL heavy years later, so I guess I made the right choice regardless..
I still wonder (WHAT IF ! )

Did she have big ankles when you were dating her?

 

[The_Ghost]

If I don't feel that natural connection the first time I am with them, there is no second date.

 

[avenirup]

If I don't feel that natural connection the first time I am with them, there is no second date.

Yeah but what if she is really hot???

 

[javaguru]

God yes, it's scary as hell and she ran right away. We still run into each other now and again and we both can feel the attraction in the air.

 

[Y_lifter]

Did she have big ankles when you were dating her?

No, but she had HUGE Winnebagos...

 

[string_bean00]

No, but she had HUGE Winnebagos...

I'm ignorant.

What are Winnebagos?

 

[avenirup]

I'm ignorant.

What are Winnebagos?

Boobs...she had huge boobs...

 

[string_bean00]

Boobs...she had huge boobs...

I'm an idiot.

 

[Fina Junkie]

I've always called it a one night stand.

It does get scary sometimes. It's amazing at all the pretty women there are when you have on the beer goggles.

 

[SoreArms]

The weird thing is that, although there must be some type of connection, I am very apprehensive about proceeding with my feelings. It takes a very long time for me to have actual feelings or an actual desire other than physical. I dated my last GF about 8 months before I decided it was time (for me) to be exclusive with her and the previous one about 2 years. This is just a bit scarry to me, but I think I'll take the ride and see where it leaves me.

BTW
although this is not what is dictating the way I feel, this chick is very hot. You guys would be giving me high 5's if you could see her.

what we have here is a case of celestial incest

our frequencies are so in tune that she could be my celestial sister

 

[The_Ghost]

Yeah but what if she is really hot???

Don't matter, there are other hots ones out there. There has to be more then a hot face body to get me interested. Hot woman are a dime a dozen, why be with one where there is no connection.

 

[jh1]

Yeah... a few times. Feels great..... euphoric.

 

[Y_lifter]

Winnebago

Largest of the Motor Homes back in my day..
You couldn't miss them coming down the road at you..

 

[avenirup]

Don't matter, there are other hots ones out there. There has to be more then a hot face body to get me interested. Hot woman are a dime a dozen, why be with one where there is no connection.

Yup, pretty sure someone else is posting with BigDawg's handle today.....

 

[SoreArms]

Hot woman are a dime a dozen, why be with one where there is no connection.

very true, there are many men that will never understand this concept

 

[string_bean00]

Don't matter, there are other hots ones out there. There has to be more then a hot face body to get me interested. Hot woman are a dime a dozen, why be with one where there is no connection.

Very true.

 

[javaguru]

It's practically impossible to find a beautiful, independent, intelligent woman with depth in this god forsaken city.

 

[The_Ghost]

It's practically impossible to find a beautiful, independent, intelligent woman with depth in this god forsaken city.

There are some in Toronto!

 

[SoreArms]

beautiful, independent, intelligent woman with depth

Lucky for me, this is exactly what I seem to be dealing with right now.

 

[PHATchik]

Yes and it proved to be right on the money.

 

[from zero]

Make sure you tell her you'll like if she takes it in the pooper while you call her names like Ray and Lance.

 

[The_Ghost]

Lucky for me, this is exactly what I seem to be dealing with right now.

Right on bro, got me one of those myself I think.

 

[SoreArms]

Make sure you tell her you'll like if she takes it in the pooper while you call her names like Ray and Lance.

FZ
this chicks a total metal head too

 

[Turd Ferguson]

I have and I married her. Regardless of the size of her camper.

 

[SoreArms]

The only obstacle I see is being able to deal with her being a hot chick and not getting bothered by the attention that she gets (by horny, drooling dudes). Right now I'm not, I hope I can keep it that way.

 

[string_bean00]

The only obstacle I see is being able to deal with her being a hot chick and not getting bothered by the attention that she gets (by horny, drooling dudes). Right now I'm not, I hope I can keep it that way.

Jealously is a shitty attribute to have. I know that firsthand.

 

[The_Ghost]

The only obstacle I see is being able to deal with her being a hot chick and not getting bothered by the attention that she gets (by horny, drooling dudes). Right now I'm not, I hope I can keep it that way.

Time to grow up man. You want to be with a beautiful woman you better accept that she will always be looked at and and hit on. Its just the way it is.

She is with you, so don't let jealousy destroy what could be good.

 

[SoreArms]

Time to grow up man. You want to be with a beautiful woman you better accept that she will always be looked at and and hit on. Its just the way it is.

She is with you, so don't let jealousy destroy what could be good.

agreed

 

[jh1]

The only obstacle I see is being able to deal with her being a hot chick and not getting bothered by the attention that she gets (by horny, drooling dudes). Right now I'm not, I hope I can keep it that way.

Only problem I ever have with that is going to Mardi Gras or someshit where a bunch of drunk guys think the regular rules of interaction, etc are out the window.

Looking is one thing, staring is even OKAY at a place like that. But when they try to grab at her.... watch out. It is not jealousy - it is outright kicking someone's ass for being a cock.

Other than that... I love it when I walk in the room with a beautiful girl and everyone looks at her for a second. Makes me feel like THE MAN. Then I get over it and just realize I am a schmuck that got lucky.

 

[SoreArms]

Looking is one thing, staring is even OKAY at a place like that. But when they try to grab at her.... watch out. It is not jealousy - it is outright kicking someone's ass for being a cock.

ditto

Other than that... I love it when I walk in the room with a beautiful girl and everyone looks at her for a second. Makes me feel like THE MAN. Then I get over it and just realize I am a schmuck that got lucky.

double ditto

I know there are a bunch of guys who have been after her that are probably like "whaaaaaaaa, him over me?!!!!", haha suckers.

 

[SoreArms]

God yes, it's scary as hell and she ran right away. We still run into each other now and again and we both can feel the attraction in the air.

So you guys never tried to see what would happen?

 

[PHATchik]

I have and I married her. Regardless of the size of her camper.

Glad you didn't let her get away.

 

[fyxgel]

Don't matter, there are other hots ones out there. There has to be more then a hot face body to get me interested. Hot woman are a dime a dozen, why be with one where there is no connection.

So are you saying you would take a woman who wasnt hot, but lets say you did have a connection with her?

and also i dont think hot girls are a dime a dozen. only about 1/4 of the girls at my school would I consider hot, and only about half of those would i even consider dating.

so i dunno, i think a hot and cool girl is a hard find to get. okay, so i get your point, hot girls are at least twice as common as 'hot and cool' girls.

 

[Gambino]

So swole dude finally warmed up to you? I'm glad to see things working out...

 

[fyxgel]

I have and I married her. Regardless of the size of her camper.

does this mean she has a big butt?

 

[flex123]

Jealously is a shitty attribute to have. I know that firsthand.

same here I know it first hand myself. I now know to take it more as a compliment but in the past I've gotten extremely pissed off about it. Just the fact of someone thinking that way of my girl is annoying.

Like I said it's a compliment up to a limit. I've had guys basically stake out me and my girl till I've left to use the bathroom to approach her. Guys asking if I could hook them up with a peice of ass like that.

All of these types of situations happened only in bars/clubs so I guess thats what you get at places like this.

Last week at a bar I was talking to a old friend and he was rude enough to say that my girl must give awasome head because of her lips...She wasn't with me but he knew who she was from highschool...that you really can't take as a compliment at all and I find shit like that rather offense. I never discuss sexual situations about someone i'm dating with people I'm not extremely close to.

At other places you get the guys that will compliment and that actually makes you smile and feel good and you just say thanks.

 

[javaguru]

So you guys never tried to see what would happen?

It would never work because she has some VERY serious issues and my pride prevents me from giving her another chance even though she has been hinting around about wanting to see me again. She admitted to me that she never dated a guy who could "hurt" her but said that had changed. The fact we have such an amazing connection and she sent me a cold ass e-mail saying she couldn't see me again eleven hours after saying how amazing we would be together indicates to me nothing has changed.

 

[-SD-]

I am going through the same thing you are except I only met her Friday (3/26). I dont fear getting close to a woman soon if it is right.

 

[gonelifting]

I only read the subject title... My wife tells me (now) she knew she wanted to marry me the night we met.

 

[Werd]

Depending on your state of mind at the time that connection to lead to heaven or hell...

It takes a lot for me to feel any sort of connection to a man even though I am very outgoing and charismatic... people are drawn to me, but I do not allow anyone to get close to me anymore.

Slowly I am trying to get over that...

Until then I am satisfied to have guy friends. But if a guy is friends with me, there have been occasions where I had developed a connection with a guy over time.

 

[SoreArms]

It takes a lot for me to feel any sort of connection to a man even though I am very outgoing and charismatic... people are drawn to me, but I do not allow anyone to get close to me anymore.

I am exactly the same way (except with women, of course). That is what is so strange with what is going on right now, I've never been in this situation this early in the game and it is mutual. I'm pretty scared and weirded out by this whole situation, but the way I see it, this can either bring lots of happines or heart ache. I've been hurt before and I know that I can heal, so fuck it, I'll take a chance (at least this one time).

 

[Werd]

Good for you! Luck to you!!!




Maybe someday I will grow a set again too.... until then, this works for me.

 

[velvett]

Have you ever felt a strong connection with some one early in the dating process that it scared you?

Sure, of course.
And at different times it was different things.

Yet all in all I think it's just a sign of compatibility - not a sign of anything bigger or some sort of serendipitous meeting.

You know this specifically when you look back upon the moment once time has passed with the moment being over and you are curious at your own feeling of behavior at that time.

But that doesn't mean you shouldn't enjoy every moment.

 

[jh1]

Good for you! Luck to you!!!




Maybe someday I will grow a set again too.... until then, this works for me.

Your supposed to love like you've never been hurt....

It's good for you to feel... makes you feel alive.

 

[SoreArms]

Yet all in all I think it's just a sign of compatibility - not a sign of anything bigger or some sort of serendipitous meeting.

I totally agree. I, by no means, think that I am "in love", it's just so strange (and since I'm so picky and hold a high guard, rare) to find that comfort and compatability so early in the game.

But that doesn't mean you shouldn't enjoy every moment.

I'll try

 

[velvett]

I'll try

Damn Straight you will.

 

[lucidblue]

I felt a strong connection immediately when I went on the first date with my b/f 2.5 years ago... very odd for me. I knew I was in trouble, because I definitely wasn't prepared for how I felt. Of course that caused me to act guarded and I didn't show how I really felt because I was scared of getting hurt. We've had ups & downs, but I think we both feel that strong connection and are trying to move forward with our guards down. Love is definitely worth the risk of heartbreak.

 

[sorerotators]

Yes, I have.

and then I proceed to run like hell.

LMAO

 

[velvett]

Love is definitely worth the risk of heartbreak.

Amen.




I may have to quote you on that.

 

[Optimus B]

i'm glad to hear that all is going well with you bro!

i just recently started dating a great woman and we're having a very powerful connection like you are with your gf. almost feels surreal.

 

[TheProject]

Sure, of course.
And at different times it was different things.

Yet all in all I think it's just a sign of compatibility - not a sign of anything bigger or some sort of serendipitous meeting.

Wish I'd seen this a few days earlier...

 

[velvett]

Wish I'd seen this a few days earlier...

Why?

 

[PHATchik]

Wish I'd seen this a few days earlier...

We never see things when we need to.

 

[flex123]

Sure, of course.
And at different times it was different things.

Yet all in all I think it's just a sign of compatibility - not a sign of anything bigger or some sort of serendipitous meeting.

You know this specifically when you look back upon the moment once time has passed with the moment being over and you are curious at your own feeling of behavior at that time.

But that doesn't mean you shouldn't enjoy every moment.

I'm a guy and you're a woman so I'd assume our views would be reversed. Your way of viewing a good connection as only compadibilty and nothing more is a rather crappy way of looking at things.

I guess you're not the typical Romantic woman who falls in love easily.

I agree that looking back you might see that it was nothing major but I can and would hope that certain people have love at first sight.

 

[calveless wonder]

The only obstacle I see is being able to deal with her being a hot chick and not getting bothered by the attention that she gets (by horny, drooling dudes). Right now I'm not, I hope I can keep it that way.

You'll get a trip off it bro...as long as no one disrespects her, there's no worries. If anything, it should boost your confidence/ego and the attention can be fun. I have the same thing with my girlfriend now, who gets hit on CONSTANTLY because of how beautiful she is, but as long as you can trust your girl then it's all good. Just don't let anyone disrespect her

As far as the connection thing goes, i have the same thing with my current girlfriend....it actually scared the shit outta both of us at first but it's turned into the greatest(and most intense) relationship either of us has experienced. We have the same outlook, mentalities, tendencies and there have been countless times where we've taken the words out of each others mouths. Just go with it bro...
if the connection is real, then just enjoy the ride

 

[avenirup]

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