Ever break up a relationship when you didn't want to?

[DBCooper]

Have you ever ended a relationship with someone you liked for some reason? I mean like because you were focused at work and would know you were not going to see them that much, or because you knew taking them out and treating them right would cause a conflict for some reason like race/financial/religion etc? Or because of something else?

 

[lucidblue]

I haven't, but I've had a couple guy friends that broke up with girls for the types of reasons you listed. They usually really wished they hadn't later.

 

[Generic MALE]

Man, I jump on just about every thread on this chat board. I ought to pay George just for the therapy this provides.

When my wife and I got engaged this girl tried to get us to break up. Sent me a few letters telling me that I was the type of guy she wanted to marry etc. She was a college cheerleader and one of the hottest girls I had ever dated. We had dated for a few months, she was alot of fun - like to wrestle in the pool which drove me mad, I was trying real hard to be good -and she looked unbelievable in a wet bathing suit. whew ... But....

She did not match my list. I had made this list of all the qualities the girl I was to marry should have - 7 areas of focus : homemaking, hobbies, education etc. She had the most marvelous legs I had ever seen, but not all the other qualities. SO I went with my wife.

Saw this girl years later (like 10 years) at a friends house and felt nothing for her - although it was good to see her again.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Yes I did, but I already posted a really long post on this a while back that ended up becoming around 4 pages long. I did it because she was so crazy that I couldn't take it anymore and felt she was going to kill me in my sleep (she said she was going to). Why... what are you planning to do, DBC?

 

[DBCooper]

Well, a friend brought up how racist his family still is, and I know a few in my family that might be(extended family) and it struck a cord with me. Also I have changed everything recently and there is basicly no room for going out to often anymore due to overtime-lifting-bills etc, and I will end up juggling dating soon with a person that I have gone out with a few times and the last time she expressed how much she liked me and I hate not treating someone I date the way they should be treated.

 

[biteme]

I've never regretted breaking it off with a woman. I regret if I caused them any pain.

 

[DBCooper]

Yeah, think is I can pick extra money bouncing but that would take away more time lol. I'll figure something out, women are a good motivator.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

DBC, I don't know if that is a good reason. Still, its your choice man. Do you like this woman?

 

[velvett]

She did not match my list. I had made this list of all the qualities the girl I was to marry should have - 7 areas of focus : homemaking, hobbies, education etc. She had the most marvelous legs I had ever seen, but not all the other qualities. SO I went with my wife..

I guess the moral of your story is that you need to burn those lists and not start new ones.

 

[velvett]

I ended one and I have prevented one from happening.

While saddened - I choose not to regret my choices in life.

 

[AAP]

Yes.

Some to my benefit.

One to my deep regret.

 

[-SD-]

I did about 4 years ago. I was with her 9 months and I decided to go back to school, and she thought I was going to meet a hot college girl and leave her. I under enough stress with the decision to go back to school and working full time so one day I went over to her house and broke it off. She did not take it well. Right now she is married and has a kid and lives about 4 hours away. She always wanted to be a wife and mother but I wasnt sure when I would be ready for that. She was the best girl Ive ever had and it will be a long time until I have a relationship like that again, if at all. I sometimes wonder what if......

 

[The Shadow]

There's a yearning undefined ...

 

[AAP]

The worst part about Fate is it never gives you a second chance to go back and fix a "what if.."

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Wow this is a sad thread,and I didn't even post the regrets on mine. Love sucks.

 

[biteme]

There's a yearning undefined ...

There's a song that has those words. Are you familiar with it? I'm trying to figure out which one, on the tip of my tongue, but can't get it out.

 

[The Shadow]

I ended one and I have prevented one from happening.

While saddened - I choose not to regret my choices in life.

...the song is Heart of the Matter....




The following is from Rainer:

All Things want to fly. Only we are weighed down by desire
caught in ourselves and enthralled with our heaviness.




A friend turned me on to his stuff a while back

 

[Buffy Beffy]

'There's no such thing as what might have been.
It's a waiste of time....
Will drive you out of your mind.'

Yeah, I broke up with someone once because I just didn't feel like I could give him the time that he deserved when I started school and athletics. We had been together for a year and a half. After our break up, more reasons not to be with him arose. Now, though it was a wonderful relationship, I just can't see how I was so in love with him. I have no feelings for him whatsoever. But we're still friends. I guess it just wasn't meant to be....

 

[b fold the truth]

There's a yearning undefined ...

I still keep you in my good thoughts and prayers my friend...

...and I still thank you very much.

B True

 

[JOKER47]

The worst part about Fate is it never gives you a second chance to go back and fix a "what if.."

I think that's one of the best things about fate.

 

[b fold the truth]

I think that's one of the best things about fate.

Wow...Nefi and I realized that the other night. We were both talking about our pasts and how we thought that we had figured everything out...

We had...till we met each other. We are so wrong for each other in several ways...yet so perfect.

Had the second chances not been taken away...we would have never met.

B True

 

[JOKER47]

Wow...Nefi and I realized that the other night. We were both talking about our pasts and how we thought that we had figured everything out...

We had...till we met each other. We are so wrong for each other in several ways...yet so perfect.

Had the second chances not been taken away...we would have never met.

B True

There have been many tims I sat and wished I could go back and do something over. Many times. It's only years later I realize how glad I am that I can't.


Joker

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

"I remember how it used to feel back when our love was strong and real, and i remember tears in your eyes when i looked at you and said goodbye... all i want right now is to forget every single thing that i regret, and drown out these embers... but i remember."

boy if that aint the story of my life.

Even though im really burned right now, i feel like its best for me to stick to my philosophy that "life is not tried, it is merely survived if youre standing outside the fire" things might suck right now but if nothing else youre a better person for having learned something, even if its just not what to do.

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

I've never regretted breaking it off with a woman. I regret if I caused them any pain.

thats a karma worthy post right there.