Elite Moms Post up!

[cindylou]

Okay so here in about two months I'm going to have a new little girl!

ANYWAY. I want to know how you guys squeeze in workouts with a newborn.

I have the most energy in the morning, but who knows what kind of energy levels I will have or what type of schedule Abby will have

so I was hoping for some advice. I will be breastfeeding. Im serious about that...I hope I dont give up on that. I really want to do it (plus the perk of how much cals that burns...lol)

I have a home gym which helps which I have not touched in months. I know I probably will never be able to workout to music for awhile, it will probably be to the sound of a baby monitor but oh well....I'll take what I can get.

 

[ironwings]

Hey cindylou. Although I did not give birth to my son he came home with me at 15 months and might as well have been 3 months old. I was living in another country with my sister so my son had to sleep in the same room as me. I would wake up at 4:30 praying I wouldn't wake him so that I could get a run in and shower. Some days I would get the run in and no shower!! LOL/ Some days neither would happen! I found that I had to let the idea of a routine out the window.

The best advice I have is to concentrate on your newborn. Find joy in every moment. Weight loss and being healthy doesn't only come from diet and exercise. Joy greatly enhances your health and connection to your body. Take the opportunity to fine tune your nutrition and experiment with ways to get exercise. You'll find something that works for you and will feel great about having that awareness with your body. Listen to it carefully and treat it very well. Relieve stress in ways that are condusive to you and make it a priority - over exercise.

Lastly, find a support system. The father, your mom, sister, friend. Anyone who can help ensure that you have some time to care for yourself. In the moment it often doesn't seem necessary as you want to care for your baby 24/7. But, by doing this and being aware of your needs the mother in you will shine brighter than it ever could without self care. Your body will thank you!

Best wishes, these moments will be with you forever.

 

[myway]

YAY!
I breastfed for the first few months but my doc said I wasnt putting enough fat in the milk because of my sleeping disorder. So, make sure you get plenty of sleep. It seems funny for me to say that because next, I am going to say:
My biggest problem with working out with a newborn wasnt finding time but it was just being TIRED. At first, they eat about every 2 hours and it makes sleeping very difficult.
As far as time, I made several short workouts for myself. When the baby took his first nap after breakfast, I jumped on the treadmill for my cardio. This worked well. As far as any weights, I just did them when I could. I kept dumbbells in the bathroom. I did some quick arm stuff whenever I had a few extra minutes. I did lunges and squats the same way. Same with abdominal stuff. Just every single time I thought I could squeeze in 10 minutes or so, I did something. I left reminders around the house(weights in the bathroom, for example) because the busy times with a new baby will make you forget.
Good luck! I am sooo excited for you!

 

[needtogetaas]

AAAAH I got 3 and I hope to god I never have another.

And the worst part is I didn't even do half the work.

 

[myway]

AAAAH I got 3 and I hope to god I never have another.

And the worst part is I didn't even do half the work.

Yea,lol. My hubby gained more weight than me and was more stressed. U menz dont handle pregnancy well,lol.

 

[needtogetaas]

Yea,lol. My hubby gained more weight than me and was more stressed. U menz dont handle pregnancy well,lol.

You get to watch your woman get fat as shit and can't say a word about it. You get half the sex if any at all till about the lst two months. Then they want to have sex all day every day but you don't know hoe to tell them at that point there so fat and miss shaped you really don't want to have sex.

Then it pops out and you get 0 sex at all for a good 2 months and nothing but cry cry cry cry from the kid and bitch bitch bitch bitch from the mom.

O and to top it all of your bills just tippled.









Ya I think I will pass.

 

[myway]

You get to watch your woman get fat as shit and can't say a word about it. You get half the sex if any at all till about the lst two months. Then they want to have sex all day every day but you don't know hoe to tell them at that point there so fat and miss shaped you really don't want to have sex.

Then it pops out and you get 0 sex at all for a good 2 months and nothing but cry cry cry cry from the kid and bitch bitch bitch bitch from the mom.

O and to top it all of your bills just tippled.







Ya I think I will pass.

lol. wow. never thought of it like that....

 

[cindylou]

LOL thanks for all the good tips guys - thanks so much!

LOL @ needto. I will demand sex everday after week 37 and anyone else who has any labor inducing tips, I'd gladly like to try them.

I told Johnny that he will have sex with me. lol. He didnt look too enthusiastic about the idea of sexing me at 37 weeks...Im huge now, I cant imagine how much bigger I will possibly get but I know its gonna get worse!

 

[myway]

LOL thanks for all the good tips guys - thanks so much!

LOL @ needto. I will demand sex everday after week 37 and anyone else who has any labor inducing tips, I'd gladly like to try them.

I told Johnny that he will have sex with me. lol. He didnt look too enthusiastic about the idea of sexing me at 37 weeks...Im huge now, I cant imagine how much bigger I will possibly get but I know its gonna get worse!

I can't imagine being that pregnant in the summer time. I bet the heat is HELL! A friend of mine was pregnant in the summer time. At about week 35, she just camped out on the couch and ate about a billion oranges until she finally popped.
I can't help you with the labor induction part. I had a c-section because my son wouldn't turn. Actually, I am glad that I had the c-section, now. My scar is almost completely gone and I never had a labor pain... kinda makes me feel like I cheated.

 

[cindylou]

I can't imagine being that pregnant in the summer time. I bet the heat is HELL! A friend of mine was pregnant in the summer time. At about week 35, she just camped out on the couch and ate about a billion oranges until she finally popped.
I can't help you with the labor induction part. I had a c-section because my son wouldn't turn. Actually, I am glad that I had the c-section, now. My scar is almost completely gone and I never had a labor pain... kinda makes me feel like I cheated.

My baby has yet to turn - so Im starting to prepare myself for a c-section

I wont mind a c-section cuz I get to control the date. lol.

The heat SUCKS. Im either indoors or in a pool. Im sad. This 4th of July is gonna suck. Im so sad about that.

 

[myway]

My baby has yet to turn - so Im starting to prepare myself for a c-section

I wont mind a c-section cuz I get to control the date. lol.

The heat SUCKS. Im either indoors or in a pool. Im sad. This 4th of July is gonna suck. Im so sad about that.

I was REALLY worried about the C-Section. After the fact, I felt lucky. Plus, the scar isnt like the ones women got years ago from it. It's way low, about 5 inches long and as thin as a pencil line. Seriously, I gotta look for mine to find it, now.

 

[the_alcatraz]

I think babies are beautiful and you should be very proud of yourself when you give birth. It really is a beautiful thing, despite of how hard it may seem to be. I am not yet a father, just a husband, but some day

 

[cindylou]

I was REALLY worried about the C-Section. After the fact, I felt lucky. Plus, the scar isnt like the ones women got years ago from it. It's way low, about 5 inches long and as thin as a pencil line. Seriously, I gotta look for mine to find it, now.

Im worried about going overdue...I sooo dont want to go overdue.

Im scared of both labor and c-section but my biggest fear is a 10 month pregnancy

and I have a feeling those Centerpoint docs dont like inducing so I pretty much dont have a choice lol

 

[cindylou]

Bmom - I suppose the reason I would be afraid to work out to music is because I wouldnt want to not be able to hear her if she needed me.... I think its a first time mom thing. I even registered for one of those baby monitors that monitors breathing and sets off an alarm if she stops breathing

lol

 

[myway]

Im worried about going overdue...I sooo dont want to go overdue.

Im scared of both labor and c-section but my biggest fear is a 10 month pregnancy

and I have a feeling those Centerpoint docs dont like inducing so I pretty much dont have a choice lol

A 10 month pregnancy would be HELL. Yea, I dont see the Centerpoint docs inducing... unless you have a c-section.
Good luck and keep us updated.
Is your real first name Cindy? I wanna send u flowers since I could throw a rock from my house and hit the hospital,lol.

 

[cindylou]

A 10 month pregnancy would be HELL. Yea, I dont see the Centerpoint docs inducing... unless you have a c-section.
Good luck and keep us updated.
Is your real first name Cindy? I wanna send u flowers since I could throw a rock from my house and hit the hospital,lol.

Yep my real name is Cindy - Im in the rural part of Indep (if there is a rural part of Independence lol) almost Bucker. Fort Osage school district...know what I mean? We live too close not to meet up. maybe after I have this kid we can meet up and have a drink. I'll meet you at Buffalos, thats close to you right? lol! I have to get this kid out first though.

Everytime I see an EMT or ambulace I wonder if its you lol

 

[cindylou]

You are going to drive yourself insane. I had each baby next to my bed when I brought them home. Made sense as I was nursing. Each baby lasted ONE NIGHT as every time they yawned, breathed, or the fabric rustled I jumped out of my skin and had to see "if the baby was ok." After that I shipped them O-U-T! I NEEDED some sanity. I thought to myself, "My mother and grandmother and all of my aunts and great aunts and every other woman on the planet raised their children without a monitor. So WTF do I need one for?" Seriously, DONT GET ONE.

I raised four children without a monitor, nothing bad happened to any of them. I swear all the marketing scares the crap out of parents and turns them into crippled worried wrecks.

I remember my exbitchsters-in-law would ask me, "Well how do you know if the baby is getting enough nourishment?" (They bottle-fed and were OBSESSED with the amount of formula). So I loooked at them like deer in headlights. The thought had NEVER occured to me to even wonder. I am eastern european - EVERYONE NURSES THEIR BABY. So I said, well, if the baby is putting out enough (which goodness knows I was AMAZED AT HOW MANY DIAPERS THEY WENT THROUGH) then I would think that there is enough going in. You take them to well-visits and they are weighed. If they aren't gaining and growing then duh, they aren't getting enough nourishment.

I actually had to nurse my sister's oldest because she had a very hard time nursing him. She called the lactation consultant and it turned out that my sister had inverted nipples so when her milk came in (it doesn't come in until the 3rd day I think after delivery before that it is colostrum) there was nothing for her son to latch onto. Plus her son was always messy. He would nurse just long enough for her milk to let down and then pull away and the milk would go squirting all over. LOL Wasn't funny then, but we laugh about it now. We knew my sister had a problem because her son was "too quiet." I asked her how many diapers he had soiled/wet and she said "not many". All newborns poop and pee like no tomorrow. So I knew he was in trouble. I didn't say anything to my sister. I just nursed her son and when I could tell he was better. I told her to call the lactation consultant. I didn't want to freak her out. Everything was fine. My nephew is now 12 and smart as a whip, strong as a horse and giving my sister all kinds of shit. LOL

As for sex. When I was pregnant with baby 1, 3 and 4 I wanted NOTHING to do with it. By the time the 6 week check-up came around I would have nailed him in the parking lot of the doc's office if the kids weren't with us. LOL

With my 2nd I wanted sex night and day till I was too big, just about 7+ months. He wasn't interested. Looking back I realize he was cheating on me as he would nag me to death for sex with other pregnancies.

Don't worry about your baby not turning. It is common for them to turn towards the end. If not then a skilled doc should be able to turn the baby if *all conditions* are optimal. (Happened with my niece). And if that isn't possible then C-sections are TOO common now. So don't fret.

I know you are anxious and getting very uncomfortable. It's normal. Everything will go SUPER! I'm so excited for you.

If I was just 6 years younger, I so would have two more.

I dont want to be an insane stressed out Mom. I really really dont want that. And yes all the stuff I hear about SIDS turns me into a nervous wreck. I had to make sure the spindles on the crib were a certain lenghth apart, blah blah blah. I felt like I was being negligent if I didnt but I HATE being stressed out and dont want to be that way. I told myself I wasnt having her sleep in the bedroom with me I want her with the crib in her own room from the beginning. No bassinet...no nothing. i dont know if this is a good plan or not but its the one I have so far.

So your babies slept in another room without a monitor?

I hate not KNOWING anything - it makes me feel stupid - but I know NOTHING about babies. nothing at all!

I know I'll be a better Mom if I dont worry. I just have to find a way to keep her safe and only sweat the big stuff. I just have to know what stuff I SHOULD worry about ; and what stuff is no big deal. I dont! lol

I thought the baby movement monitor would keep me sane because unless the alarm went off I could get a good nights sleep. I woudlnt constantly feel like I had to check on her unless she needed to be fed

 

[myway]

I dont want to be an insane stressed out Mom. I really really dont want that. And yes all the stuff I hear about SIDS turns me into a nervous wreck. I had to make sure the spindles on the crib were a certain lenghth apart, blah blah blah. I felt like I was being negligent if I didnt but I HATE being stressed out and dont want to be that way. I told myself I wasnt having her sleep in the bedroom with me I want her with the crib in her own room from the beginning. No bassinet...no nothing. i dont know if this is a good plan or not but its the one I have so far.

So your babies slept in another room without a monitor?

I hate not KNOWING anything - it makes me feel stupid - but I know NOTHING about babies. nothing at all!

I know I'll be a better Mom if I dont worry. I just have to find a way to keep her safe and only sweat the big stuff. I just have to know what stuff I SHOULD worry about ; and what stuff is no big deal. I dont! lol

I thought the baby movement monitor would keep me sane because unless the alarm went off I could get a good nights sleep. I woudlnt constantly feel like I had to check on her unless she needed to be fed

+1 on the monitor. I started with the one that went off to detect "no breathing". Remember, I am a paramedic and those dead babies REALLY DO haunt me. Well, by the end of the first month, I realized that his screams alone would wake me and the rest of the block, despite my attempts to calm him.

 

[ironwings]

You get to watch your woman get fat as shit and can't say a word about it. You get half the sex if any at all till about the lst two months. Then they want to have sex all day every day but you don't know hoe to tell them at that point there so fat and miss shaped you really don't want to have sex.

Then it pops out and you get 0 sex at all for a good 2 months and nothing but cry cry cry cry from the kid and bitch bitch bitch bitch from the mom.

O and to top it all of your bills just tippled.









Ya I think I will pass.

How do you think the woman feels? LOL

We don't like being fat and we certainly don't like that our libido is shot to hell. We hate that our hormones go insane and cause us to wig out, and more than anything we hate that our partner/husband/whatever hates us for it. All we can think about is our a@# dragging the ground and wondering when our breasts are going to deflate. All the while we have this bundle of joy that we have full responsibility for and are seen as a bad mom if we ask for help or assume that the father will take an active roll in baby caring. It leaves us crying at the end of the day and wondering where in the world are out motherly instincts that everyone tells us about. Meanwhile we are giving evil glares at the father for expecting us to take on that "god given" motherly instinct. By the time we get to the bedroom, or wherever your favorite place for sex is, all we can think about is how uncaring you are and how miserably fat we feel. The last thing we want to do is perform an act that got is into this place to begin with but at the same time wishing we had a vibrator to take care of our "needs." LOL

Not that I have any experience with this. Adoption is a beautiful thing

Got a question for the ladies....what is the deal with not having sex during pregnancy? Is it that you do not desire it? I can't imagine. Shoot, I'll blind fold him and tell him dirty stories, he doesn't have to look at my fat ;-) What's the scoop?

 

[cindylou]

The sex thing? First trimester I felt too sick/tired. Second trimester I wanted to have sex all the time, but once I started to show, I just wanted to take care of it myself. (lol) The tird trimester? Really, its uncomfortable to be on your back ; you cant breathe, and most positions are too exhausting. The guy does not exactly wanna do it either considering you can see the baby move in your stomach. You really have to have a good imagination (shut your eyes) to keep yourself in a sexual mood. Most guys are not good at doing that anyway. A guy should only try hitting it from behind in my opinion. lol. Sex is possible, but you almost have to force yourself to be in the mood.

But sex is good especially towards the end. Sex stimulates labor. Sperm thin the cervix and orgasms help start contractions. I dont care if my husband wants sex or not and I know I wont want it either but: starting at week 37 I will insist that we have sex. I will also be eating lots of eggplant and pineapple and drinking raspberry leaf tea.

Anyone want to share any other labor inducing tips go ahead and share em!

 

[Rebecca D]

I read in church that if you ride on a donkey to Bethlehem it should induce labor.

Congratulations. Mine are 11, 9, and 3. I would have three more if possible but I'm 40 and my husband said enough. I loved being pregnant, food taste wonderful. I also preferred natural birth. My first born, boy, was natural but my other two ,girls, were c-sections. I didn't like having my babies taken away after the surgery. I also don't like my scar. I do love my babies though.

The best thing you can do initially is concentrate on diet. Don't beat yourself up over working out. Enjoy your baby, they grow up fast. Workout when you can and you will gradually get back into it. Invest in a nice jogging stroller. Just my two cents worth.


Rebecca D

 

[cindylou]

God what is up with all these women who loved being pregnant? Are you kidding? lol! j/k you guys

I hope this isnt a sign that I'll be a bad mom! I had a horrible first trimester and this being pregnant is really losing its luster.

I cant wait until I can sleep on my stomach or back

 

[cindylou]

Not at all. My sister HATED being pregnant and she is an AMAZING MOTHER.

Every woman experiences pregnancy/childbirth differently and it has ZERO BEARING on what kind of mother you will be.

PERISH THAT THOUGHT OR I WILL PINCH YOU GOOD!

thanks....i wont think that again

i pray im the best type of mom that she needs. whatever kind that is i pray im that.

 

[OMEGA]

a Loved one of mine just had a Baby Girl

I am the only one that can sooth it and stop it from a cry

kiss, sincere touch, and holding.swaying in arms helps alot

 

[Cutiebaby]

God what is up with all these women who loved being pregnant? Are you kidding? lol! j/k you guys

I hope this isnt a sign that I'll be a bad mom! I had a horrible first trimester and this being pregnant is really losing its luster.

I cant wait until I can sleep on my stomach or back

omg lol. I remember sayin the same dang thing when I was pregnant. I could not wait to get back on my tummy. My back hurt to much to sleep on my back, so I had to sleep on my side, which sucked.

I enjoyed my pregnancy to the point that it was great knowing there was a baby growing inside me, a whole new life. Other than that it sucked. I already have low blood pressure, being pregnant made it lower. Therefor I was Captain passout!! I am only 5 feet, so being pregnant I had torpeedo belly and looked totally stupid with little arms, legs, head and a giant tummy.

 

[OMEGA]

When you haven't slept, bathed, eaten or had time to go to the bathroom for several days/weeks at a clip, your patience wears thin REAL FAST... then add hormones, fear, feeling overwhelmed and the next thing you know all you can do is:

you are soo right

in fact the mom voiced here level of being drained

I offered 2 days a week of my time to take the little one for the day

 

[tbuzzell]

I remember reading an article where it stated that a mother could identify an article of clothing worn by her baby based on the smell alone also they would play tapes of crying babies while a new mother slept and regardless of how the infant howled the mother would only wake if it was the slightest murmur from HER baby.

There is a lot that nature builds into the mother-child bond.

My third daughter never cried. I mean we really thought there was something wrong with her mentally because she would only make the slightest, "Meh, meh" type noises when she wanted to be fed. And yet I was in another room of the house (small house, 3 bedroom ranch couldn't have been more than 1200 ft sq, if that), two doors completely closed and I ALWAYS heard her. The sounds she made were barely audible but I always jumped right up and went to the crib to nurse her. My ex was like, "What do you have bionic hearing?"

No, that's just MY baby.

... and then she "turned 2" on her third birthday and made me feel like I had really gotten away with something as she had been soooooooooo affable for so long.

My fourth, now THAT CHILD was birthcontrol. LOL And yet, she became the child that was the easiest to deal with.

Not trying to sound like a smarty pants but what you are talking about is the node in the brain called the reticular activating systems (RAS). Like you said it only occurs with your own baby. My husband could sleep through the crying and it pissed me off.

Its has been a while since I have been on elite due to college and starting a business. I am back and ready to roar. Cindylou, I am due in September with my second baby and I too am having a girl. I see that you have some fears but don't you worry you will be a wonderful, caring mother. Breastfeeding may or may not come naturally to you so keep up with it even if it is a battle you will get passed it.

For the rest of you talking about pregnancy, I absolutely HATE IT. If I could pay someone else to carry the baby for 10 months and then I labor and deliver it would be great. Oh, I could also do without the post partum depression too. I never thought I would get it because of what I eat and how I work out and Yoga like crazy, but it happened. I also look like a little troll with a basketball belly because I am short too. It's funny how we can pick on ourselves.

I have enjoyed reading this thread and I hope it keeps up so I can get more information too. You can never be too prepared.

 

[goin on 4T]

You get to watch your woman get fat as shit and can't say a word about it. You get half the sex if any at all till about the lst two months. Then they want to have sex all day every day but you don't know hoe to tell them at that point there so fat and miss shaped you really don't want to have sex.

Then it pops out and you get 0 sex at all for a good 2 months and nothing but cry cry cry cry from the kid and bitch bitch bitch bitch from the mom.

O and to top it all of your bills just tippled.









Ya I think I will pass.

Hard to argue with those fine points; however I do love my girls and would not could not go without them!