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- Thread starter Moe
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Depends on how strong the relationship is. If it is a new relationship then person who does not use (and if they never did and couln't relate to rec drugs) may decide to look elsewhere before getting too attached. However, you never know I have seen it go both ways though. Either the person who parties gets the other non-partier to try some stuff usually E, then more as time progresses. Or the person who uses decides to clean up; however you cannot tell how the cards will fold because there is no definitive answer...
The problem is not with the drug use itself, rather the motivations behind it. There are really no problems with MY use of gear, aside from a fear of me turning into an 'asshole". But recreational things are looked upon somewhat differently. Gear has a positive outcome, while the recs only last a night and then the after-effects can be REALLY hard to be around.
A relationship based on real understanding is difficult when one person has absolutely NO experience with a significant portion of another's life, nor a willingness to learn (via experimentation).
A relationship based on real understanding is difficult when one person has absolutely NO experience with a significant portion of another's life, nor a willingness to learn (via experimentation).
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Citruscide
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My thoughts on that are I don't need to try rec drugs to know they are bad for me... the same way I don't need to shoot myself in the foot to know it hurts.
People that like rec drugs will most usually always like them, and want to use them from time to time. I do not want this in my life... so I don't tolerate it... it's just not something I want around me... relationship or otherwise.
You just have to come to grips if it is that important to you.
C-ditty
People that like rec drugs will most usually always like them, and want to use them from time to time. I do not want this in my life... so I don't tolerate it... it's just not something I want around me... relationship or otherwise.
You just have to come to grips if it is that important to you.
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nikolai_bolkov
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Seriously, I would use that situation as an opportunity to ween of rec drug use, or to decrease the tolerance and use-level.
If all you're buddies are doing it, there's no real need to stop using. But if there's an outside force, like in a relationship that indirectly can put pressure to limit or stop the use, then that's an opportunity to do so.
Because as fun as it is, eventually there's a time to stop, and now is as good a time as any, even if it's just recreational.
I'm not saying this in a 'preachy' way, because I'm in the exact same boat.
If all you're buddies are doing it, there's no real need to stop using. But if there's an outside force, like in a relationship that indirectly can put pressure to limit or stop the use, then that's an opportunity to do so.
Because as fun as it is, eventually there's a time to stop, and now is as good a time as any, even if it's just recreational.
I'm not saying this in a 'preachy' way, because I'm in the exact same boat.
Just be careful, bro.
I'm in the middle of a 'gettin' messy' divorce. Despite the fact that my "worse half" often used E with me (She had experimented with (her words) "every drug there is" before we met - including crack, heroin, coke, weed, etc) she's now bringing up my rec use of E in our split up.
Bottom line - you can trust no one these days, it seems.
If this is a good person, don't mess it up for something as worthless as some partying. HOWEVER... also don't let this be a "measuring stick" for her (or you) to see if you can "change them".
"You can't change people... People can only change themselves"
Lou Holtz - Head Coach-University of South Carolina
I'm in the middle of a 'gettin' messy' divorce. Despite the fact that my "worse half" often used E with me (She had experimented with (her words) "every drug there is" before we met - including crack, heroin, coke, weed, etc) she's now bringing up my rec use of E in our split up.
Bottom line - you can trust no one these days, it seems.
If this is a good person, don't mess it up for something as worthless as some partying. HOWEVER... also don't let this be a "measuring stick" for her (or you) to see if you can "change them".
"You can't change people... People can only change themselves"
Lou Holtz - Head Coach-University of South Carolina
AAS is a rec drug it elevates mood and has psychologically addicting factors, Denying is first sign of abuse, j/k depends on waht is going oni'd imagine, i mean i have a liberatarian philosophy do whatever youw ant as long as it isn't hurting anyone and not draggin down society
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WARBIRDWS6
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one of my ex's did weed/morhpine shit like that when i was with her, as well as crack and all that before i met her. and always drank and smoked too. i on the other hand was mr clean perfect. but she made me happy for some reason....so i just overlooked it. but it is destructive behaviour and i wondered why she did it. now i tend to take valium and lorcets. as well as AAS, so i guess in retrospect i am a hypocrite. but AAS and something to help with an obsessive personality isn't as bad as the other stuff....at least in my opinion. i'm looking to help myself (better body, help relieve my fucked up mind), not just get fucked up or get lung cancer and take every friggin drug i can get my hands on. basically boils down to if you want to put up with it or not. if the person makes me happy, i will overlook just about anything. but that is me.
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harddtime
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if they simple don't understand but let the other half do whatever they want then there's not really a problem. IMO theres a problem, when one person trys to force the other person to change the way the other person is. If it's voluntary cool, if not then there's a problem.
