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Does Anyone else hate confrontation

theoak01

theoak01

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i honestly hate it,i have been wanting to book a week off to go away but there are only 3 people at my work now and i didnt think i would get it off,well my dad goes down there and starts asking my boss if he is easy to talk to and saying im hesitant to ask for it off,now i feel like a total ass and very uncomfortable .i totally went off on my dad telling him to let me live my own life and not get in my business.then a girl from my work calls while im sleeping and asks if i can go in to work,and i had planned to goto the gym tonite and my dad starts bitching about me being lazy and shit.im gonna feel so weird at work now and all thanx to my prick dad.this is my week to party because some girl took the weekend off so im working everyday and its long weekend,i get no time and a half and now i have no time to get all my workouts in before the weekend.
i know i bitch alot but fuck i cant stand this shit
 
im really shy in person,i cant tell anyone no,i try to be nice because i would want that to ,i do need to grow balls
 
T-H-E-R-A-P-Y.....GET SOME:)...seriously though your gonna get walked all over in life unless you learn to stand up for what you want...and that what is entitled to you....
 
Make friends with the . (period) key.
It's down there below the L and :
Hint: Mark Twain has already taken credit for the worlds longest run on sentence (about 2 pages).
 
i was just taught to be nice and help other but when i need time off work i cant get it but when somebody else wants off they get it. i guess im just stressed out lately,and i hate missing a workout
 
Confrontation will always be necessary-----at least as long as you are self-assertive and stand up for yourself...
 
john937 said:
Make friends with the . (period) key.
It's down there below the L and :
Hint: Mark Twain has already taken credit for the worlds longest run on sentence (about 2 pages).
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I'm sorry. I type what I'm thinking. I don't think in sentences unless I'm bored with that whom I'm writing to, and/or about. ;)
 
Confrontation makes me uncomfortable too. But I feel so much better if I can get things on the table. Also, some people are just really shitty to deal with, no matter who you are. The more you get used to expressing what you need, the better you will feel because you will realize that you do have control over things. I need to follow my own advice.
 
The Canadian Oak said:
i was just taught to be nice and help other but when i need time off work i cant get it but when somebody else wants off they get it. i guess im just stressed out lately,and i hate missing a workout
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It's very simple . . . the longer you take to grow a sack, the more you're going to get walked on. When people see your easy to intimidate they will take full advantage of it. Expect it to get worse if you don't have the guts to face it.

Nothing wrong with being nice, but there's a time for diplomacy and a time to kick ass if you no what I mean. You have to learn to put the two in there proper place.
 
Oak, I used to have the same problem when I worked at a restaurant around my way. I wound up quitting before I went on vacation though.

They were dicks to me. Say Tim says he can't work, well they would erase his name from the chart and put mine in b/c I was new and then when I question them about it they denied it. Well on my last night, I wasn't supposed to work, but they said I was scheduled. Well my asshole manager said something to me about not knowing if I could work Sat. night and to get my shit together. I turned around and just flipped on him and starting yellin shit like "Don't tell me to get my shit together, why don't you learn how to make a fuckin schedule that works and when someone calls out don't fucking call my house saying I'm late or I have to be there in 15 minutes b/c I know when I'm scheduled." He went to say something back to me, but I told him to shut his face and walked away. He wasn't going to fire me on the spot b/c he'd be out of a worker for the night. Turns out my friend was sitting on the steps out of site listening to my schpeel and told everyone at work. Now noone respects him and tell him off when he gets pissy.

Moral of the story: You got balls, use them. I used to be afraid of my manager b/c he was big and shit, but then I realized he can't hurt me and the worst that can happen is I get fired and go find another job. Put your thing down when you want something or they'll just walk ovdr you.
 
i was just taught to be nice and help other
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I was taught the same thing, as were many people here. But why is it that some people, even those who were taught this take advantage and manipulate others who would do this? Who gives a shit. It sounds like you have passive-aggressive tendencies coupled with having a peacemaker personality and the tendency for feeling guilty.

Two choices: keep living this way or change it. You don't have to turn into a jerk to change it either. You just have to learn how to disconnect the part of your mind that allows you to build up a guilt complex. Learn how to stop worrying as well.

Solution: join a boxing gym and start working this shit out with your hands. Take a kava pill three times a day. Make it a habit to laugh at damn near anything, including yourself. Realize that if you don't change this problem that one day you'll be old and gray (and alone) and wishing you had stepped up to the plate and taken your swings. Guilt and pacisfism suck. Stop letting them get to you or you'll die of cancer.


Good luck.
 
Just say NO dude, you don't have to work if you don't feel like it if you weren't scheduled. Just say to yourself (Fuck her, I don't care what she has to do, it has nothing to do with me so why should I care) and if you can't flat out say no think of an excuse. THere are a billion of em
 
thanx for the help guys,i will be bitching like crazy tomorrow,i was only suppose to go in from 530-830 and the girl would call if she could not make it back,well no call and no show,she is gonna get hollered at,i coulda atleast got to the gym if she came at 830
 
No don't take it out on her, man. Take everything in this world with a grain of sand. Laughing at everything will solve your problem. Either you control the situation or it controls you.
 
Don't hold back dude, always let it out. I used to hold my anger in check, and when it got to the point where I couldn't hold it back it wasn't pretty, I nearly broke my hand and broke a few other things. Express yourself and do take it out on her, just remember to be thinking something like what I wrote above and nothing else
 
oh i know alot about built up anger,i get pissed about things but cant express it to the people im mad at until i snap,that ended my boxing career there,i put my fist through a wall and into a stud,i broke my knucles and now dont wanna screw it mroe by boxing,but she needs a bitching out
 
you guys will be the first to know,i had some fun on the speed bag tonite which helped some,im still going to express my displeasure
 
It is not what you say, but how you say it so be tactful and express yourself !!!!! Let mr or mrs downpressor know you are not going to be IT all the time or any of the time for that matter. I know it may be hard at first but everyone else is looking out for themselves and YOU have to do the same, because YOU deserve to be treated better. Once you let them know how you feel I guarantee you will see a change and quick! IN LIFE YOU HAVE TO EXPRESS YOURSELF OR FOREVER BE WALKED ON AND BETTER TO SPEAK UP THAN TO SUFFER IN SILENCE...... ENOUGH SAID GO GET THEM!!!
 
Oak: You gotta let it out! And the you have to learn not to let anyone walk over you. Stand up for yourself. When I didn't get along with my parents (especially my father) I walked out - I was 16 then. Today they give me plenty of respect and wouldn't dream of telling me what to do, because I'd tell them where to go if they did.

hardgainer (tell it like it is)
 
This girl I'm dating is the same way as you Canadian. It pisses me off, she's too nice to everyone and they walk all over her. She is always taking other people's shifts but never getting someone to work for her when she needs it. Its fucking pathetic cause she always bitches about it but never does anything about it. And I never see her cause she is always working.

I was this way in high school, but I put on about 50lbs since then, now I walk over everyone and don't take shit from anyone.

If you avoid confrontatoins all the time, people will walk over you your whole life.
 
dumb bitch was working today so on my way to the gym i stop by and say why did you not call to tell me you would not be back,she comes up with a dumb excuse she lost her cell,well it was sittin beside her on the desk at work,i say its right there what the hell do you mean,then she gets all smart,i say its time for you to take responisbilty for yourself and grow up,she start swearing,i chuckle and say atleast i wont be pumping gas for a living when im 23,i turn around and say never ask me to cover again,then proceed to the gym.

i feel good
 
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