Do you expect people

[cindylou]

to answer the phone everytime you call? And if they dont, do you expect them to return the call when they see the missed call? Or to return every single text? I know it takes two seconds to text back but sometimes I cant be bothered. Other times I text right back, omg tee hee. Sometimes I dont. Fuck. Dont get all pissy at me. People like that MUST think the world revolves around them.

I cant have friends like that. They stress me out. So annoying.


Thank You.

 

[shrimp poboy]

to answer the phone everytime you call? And if they dont, do you expect them to return the call when they see the missed call? Or to return every single text? I know it takes two seconds to text back but sometimes I cant be bothered. Other times I text right back, omg tee hee. Sometimes I dont. Fuck. Dont get all pissy at me. People like that MUST think the world revolves around them.

I cant have friends like that. They stress me out. So annoying.


Thank You.

Depends on who it is and what im doing

 

[cindylou]

Im just bitching about high maint friends

 

[KillahBee]

i don't know, i'd say it's pretty much common courtesy to call your friends back. strangers? not necessarily.

 

[princesa]

to answer the phone everytime you call? And if they dont, do you expect them to return the call when they see the missed call? Or to return every single text? I know it takes two seconds to text back but sometimes I cant be bothered. Other times I text right back, omg tee hee. Sometimes I dont. Fuck. Dont get all pissy at me. People like that MUST think the world revolves around them.

I cant have friends like that. They stress me out. So annoying.


Thank You.

Everytime I call I make sure to leave a message. If it's not important I don't expect them to call back right away, especially if I was just calling to say "hi". I hate those people who call repeatedly and don't leave a message. If I don't pick up the first time, sure as hell i'm not picking up the second third or fourth time. Don't get me started with the unknown/blocked numbers, it's a touchy subject


oh, hi cindy!

 

[cindylou]

i don't know, i'd say it's pretty much common courtesy to call your friends back. strangers? not necessarily.

I understand its common courtesy to call them back and most of the time I do call them back.

I think its retarded to be pissy about it.

 

[myway]

I am tha worst. My phone is usually off or the volume is all tha way down. I look at it about once a day and MAYBE call someone back...within that week...at some point.

 

[cindylou]

Everytime I call I make sure to leave a message. If it's not important I don't expect them to call back right away, especially if I was just calling to say "hi". I hate those people who call repeatedly and don't leave a message. If I don't pick up the first time, sure as hell i'm not picking up the second third or fourth time. Don't get me started with the unknown/blocked numbers, it's a touchy subject


oh, hi cindy!

Hi princesa

I think some people expect you to call them back ASAP and I sometimes forget but its not reason to get all fucking upset.

 

[cindylou]

I need to purge my vocab of all the profanity. What is the deal with me? To even TYPE it. lol

 

[KillahBee]

I think its retarded to be pissy about it.

what are your thoughts on posting on a "fitness" forum about it to a whole bunch of faceless strangers?

 

[princesa]

I need to purge my vocab of all the profanity. What is the deal with me? To even TYPE it. lol

It's okay girl, let it out lol

 

[iggy]

some of my buddies always pick up. i do most of the time. if im pissing i wont ditch doing something (like while im working out) to pick up a call.

 

[musclemom]

to answer the phone everytime you call? And if they dont, do you expect them to return the call when they see the missed call? Or to return every single text? I know it takes two seconds to text back but sometimes I cant be bothered. Other times I text right back, omg tee hee. Sometimes I dont. Fuck. Dont get all pissy at me. People like that MUST think the world revolves around them.

I cant have friends like that. They stress me out. So annoying.

Thank You.

Frankly, I consider the telephone first a means to convey information, and far second a way to socialize so that being said, 90% of the time if I'm calling someone and I catch voice mail I'm perfectly content to leave a message and they don't need to return the call unless something like that is required.

I'm not a hypcrite, I do tell all my friends I screen my calls (and I don't own a cell phone) so they need to talk to the machine (especially if they don't come up on caller ID).

Granted, I'm vaguely antisocial ... well, that's not right, I'm just content with my own company. I'll go a week at a time (or more) and not speak to anyone other than my husband.

 

[cindylou]

what are your thoughts on posting on a "fitness" forum about it to a whole bunch of faceless strangers?

What you are trying to imply would be valid if I posted this sort of stuff all the time, or if I was here all the time or even alot, OR if I bothered to meatup with said fitness strangers lol

Since I dont....I dont feel too bad about it, no.

Just a random thought trying to figure this crazy bitch out

 

[Smurfy]

to answer the phone everytime you call? And if they dont, do you expect them to return the call when they see the missed call? Or to return every single text? I know it takes two seconds to text back but sometimes I cant be bothered. Other times I text right back, omg tee hee. Sometimes I dont. Fuck. Dont get all pissy at me. People like that MUST think the world revolves around them.

I cant have friends like that. They stress me out. So annoying.


Thank You.

Tell Puddles to back the fuck off

 

[Cutiebaby]

Nope.
Most everyone I speak to on the phone are the same way as me. If I don't feel like talking right now, I am not going to. I will sit here, look at my caller id, and ignore the call..When I feel like calling people back I will, and if I don't well then I don't.

 

[stilleto]

cindy, funny you brought this up NOW.
i saw my boss on tuesday, briefly. we have a HUGE project going on, which he's supposed to be in charge of, and seems to be leaving everything up to me. all decisions, everything. i'm totally over my head. so Wed., he is out of town working with our sales woman and not answering calls. I am so busy, i can't figure out what to do next, and I take work home with me. ON my way home, i call, thinking he's at dinner (so i'm already annoyed that he has time to eat and i'm eating dinner in my car). i leave a message telling him how much work we (I) have to do, and to please call me anytime that night, because i have questions and i'll be up till midnight writing.
No call back. I called again at 7:30. "Damn, i have to start on this, and I need you to call me back! It's due tomorrow!"
at 9 fucking 30 i call him again, and just hung up when the VM came one. I stopped working.
Do i get a call today? at all? no. nothing. he forwarded an email to me at one point and I replied "you know i've been trying to get in touch with you since tuesday night, right?"
He said he's sorry, and that we could have a call at 5pm. I told him i was leaving then, for a dr. appt, but i'd call from the car and not have my notes.

so guess what? he sends me an email "no call at 5 today, sorry. i'll call you later."

it's almost 7. i'm fucking DONE working for the day, and tomorrow he's on vacation. what the hell am i supposed to say is the reason why nothing got done this week? take the blame? no way. i'm going to say "i havent' been able to talk to my boss since tuesday."
this sucks and i'm pissed.

sorry cindy. i totally ranted in your thread. sorry. xoxo

 

[Bikini Mod]

The phone thing is simple. High maintenance ANYONE does not last 10 seconds with me, never did. If you are my friend then YOU KNOW I rarely answer my phone. I don't care WHO you are, if you are not my husband or my kids you are lucky if I pick up. I don't even check my vm's sometimes for weeks. My dear friends know this and they don't take offense. They understand that if I am hiding from the world it is because I am not feeling positive and don't want to spread that to them or that I am simply wrung out from MY LIFE and will be THRILLED to hear about THEIR LIFE when I have recovered.

I reply to texts when it is convenient but I do get back quickly. I used to text and drive all the time. Now I have trouble focusing from the small letters on my phone to the distances on the road so I DONT DO IT AS IT IS NOT SAFE. If it is someone like my kids then I pull over and reply IMMEDIATELY.

My sister and I skype (She is not in the US) and she is having a hard time and I just couldn't deal with it so I turned the skype off for weeks. She contacted her husband who contacted my best friend who finally called my husband so that my sister could talk to me. She reamed me out for hiding from her (she was justified to a great extent) but she also realized that for me to hide from her for THAT LONG I must have been growing through some hairy crap... so we cool now.

As for the cussing. It will be consistent with your level of frustration. I know you are probably tired out from being pregnant and all the stress this will continue to cause in your life, even happy stress is still stress. Don't fret too much on it.

As for your friend... just don't answer any of her calls/texts. If she can't *get* that your life is about to major big change and you are putting yourself first (for the last time for a very long time) then fuck her.

Stileto - I feel you on the whole working with incompetent peeps/being put in a shitty place thing... sucks ASS when your boss drops the ball and it is made to look like YOU are somehow failing.

 

[cindylou]

cindy, funny you brought this up NOW.
i saw my boss on tuesday, briefly. we have a HUGE project going on, which he's supposed to be in charge of, and seems to be leaving everything up to me. all decisions, everything. i'm totally over my head. so Wed., he is out of town working with our sales woman and not answering calls. I am so busy, i can't figure out what to do next, and I take work home with me. ON my way home, i call, thinking he's at dinner (so i'm already annoyed that he has time to eat and i'm eating dinner in my car). i leave a message telling him how much work we (I) have to do, and to please call me anytime that night, because i have questions and i'll be up till midnight writing.
No call back. I called again at 7:30. "Damn, i have to start on this, and I need you to call me back! It's due tomorrow!"
at 9 fucking 30 i call him again, and just hung up when the VM came one. I stopped working.
Do i get a call today? at all? no. nothing. he forwarded an email to me at one point and I replied "you know i've been trying to get in touch with you since tuesday night, right?"
He said he's sorry, and that we could have a call at 5pm. I told him i was leaving then, for a dr. appt, but i'd call from the car and not have my notes.

so guess what? he sends me an email "no call at 5 today, sorry. i'll call you later."

it's almost 7. i'm fucking DONE working for the day, and tomorrow he's on vacation. what the hell am i supposed to say is the reason why nothing got done this week? take the blame? no way. i'm going to say "i havent' been able to talk to my boss since tuesday."
this sucks and i'm pissed.

sorry cindy. i totally ranted in your thread. sorry. xoxo

Oh DAMN. That would stress me out too. Go ahead and vent. I think thats why I started the thread. I also clearly wanted other people to tell me that I was right and my friend was wrong. lol. I feel like a decent friend but I cant live my life 100% for them on their schedules, and I am a little peeved that this girl thinks that she should just be able to get ahold of me whenever she wants, and feels like its okay to be mad when I cant or dont want to talk. A little self-centered imo. She's always had those type qualities so I think thats another reason why Im irritated. Def not your situation though. Hope he calls you soon.

 

[cindylou]

The phone thing is simple. High maintenance ANYONE does not last 10 seconds with me, never did. If you are my friend then YOU KNOW I rarely answer my phone. I don't care WHO you are, if you are not my husband or my kids you are lucky if I pick up. I don't even check my vm's sometimes for weeks. My dear friends know this and they don't take offense. They understand that if I am hiding from the world it is because I am not feeling positive and don't want to spread that to them or that I am simply wrung out from MY LIFE and will be THRILLED to hear about THEIR LIFE when I have recovered.

I reply to texts when it is convenient but I do get back quickly. I used to text and drive all the time. Now I have trouble focusing from the small letters on my phone to the distances on the road so I DONT DO IT AS IT IS NOT SAFE. If it is someone like my kids then I pull over and reply IMMEDIATELY.

My sister and I skype (She is not in the US) and she is having a hard time and I just couldn't deal with it so I turned the skype off for weeks. She contacted her husband who contacted my best friend who finally called my husband so that my sister could talk to me. She reamed me out for hiding from her (she was justified to a great extent) but she also realized that for me to hide from her for THAT LONG I must have been growing through some hairy crap... so we cool now.

As for the cussing. It will be consistent with your level of frustration. I know you are probably tired out from being pregnant and all the stress this will continue to cause in your life, even happy stress is still stress. Don't fret too much on it.

As for your friend... just don't answer any of her calls/texts. If she can't *get* that your life is about to major big change and you are putting yourself first (for the last time for a very long time) then fuck her.

Stileto - I feel you on the whole working with incompetent peeps/being put in a shitty place thing... sucks ASS when your boss drops the ball and it is made to look like YOU are somehow failing.

EXACTLY. She is my husbands sis and we seem to butt heads alot. She gets pissed at me all the time for stupid reasons. She was pissed at me on New Year's because she had a big party and I didnt go. Its like, every time she has a party I have to go, and every time she calls I have to answer. Princess Beth. I will probably delete this because the very very little chance there is she will find this lol. Could you imagine how mad she would get then?? lol. My MIL called the next day to see why I hadnt answered her daughters calls. lmao. I was sleeping thank god. I love them both, but sometimes I need a break. I feel like I've done nothing wrong and broken no friend code. I do this with all my other friends sometimes; and anger would never cross my mind if one of them didnt pick up and didnt return my call/text for a couple of days.


Back last summer I went in half for her bridal shower and I helped throw the whole thing. Set up tables, I bought the food, I assembled the centerpieces. It took half a Saturday and a whole Sunday. It was an elaborate Bridal shower. She was pissed because I didnt act right at the shower. Moving the tables (20) I had pulled something in my neck and I had a headache. Can you believe after all the money I spent and all the time I put into it - it still wasnt good enough? She is always mad at me, and I never do anything good enough to keep her happy it seems. I cant even not answer the phone when she calls when i dont feel like talking. I almost give up.

 

[Bikini Mod]

EXACTLY. She is my husbands sis and we seem to butt heads alot. She gets pissed at me all the time for stupid reasons. She was pissed at me on New Year's because she had a big party and I didnt go. Its like, every time she has a party I have to go, and every time she calls I have to answer. Princess Beth. I will probably delete this because the very very little chance there is she will find this lol. Could you imagine how mad she would get then?? lol. My MIL called the next day to see why I hadnt answered her daughters calls. lmao. I was sleeping thank god. I love them both, but sometimes I need a break. I feel like I've done nothing wrong and broken no friend code. I do this with all my other friends sometimes; and anger would never cross my mind if one of them didnt pick up and didnt return my call/text for a couple of days.


Back last summer I went in half for her bridal shower and I helped throw the whole thing. Set up tables, I bought the food, I assembled the centerpieces. It took half a Saturday and a whole Sunday. It was an elaborate Bridal shower. She was pissed because I didnt act right at the shower. Moving the tables (20) I had pulled something in my neck and I had a headache. Can you believe after all the money I spent and all the time I put into it - it still wasnt good enough? She is always mad at me, and I never do anything good enough to keep her happy it seems. I cant even not answer the phone when she calls when i dont feel like talking. I almost give up.

My dear... just wait. If you think this broad is a bitch NOW... How badly does she want kids? If you had *the balls* to get pregnant first, hell hath no fury. Are there any other grandchildren for your husband's family or will your baby be their first?

I feel badly for you.

I would tell my bitchster-in-law to piss off right properly if she pulled that kinda crap with me.

Oh wait... nevermind... I DID! Motherfucker did THAT feel good!

To this day my fucking bitchsters-in-law (though the one who treated me really badly when I was married to her brother has according to my kids never badmouthed me in front of them since I split from him so I will lay off her) are FURIOUS that I had *the audacity* to have female children when they both wanted a daughter more than anything and only *got boys*.

My girls were always annoyed by how poorly they treated me when I was married but since all of this custody drama my kids CANT STAND them... they just aren't allowed to verbalize that to anyone.

 

[cindylou]

My dear... just wait. If you think this broad is a bitch NOW... How badly does she want kids? If you had *the balls* to get pregnant first, hell hath no fury. Are there any other grandchildren for your husband's family or will your baby be their first?

I feel badly for you.

I would tell my bitchster-in-law to piss off right properly if she pulled that kinda crap with me.

Oh wait... nevermind... I DID! Motherfucker did THAT feel good!

To this day my fucking bitchsters-in-law (though the one who treated me really badly when I was married to her brother has according to my kids never badmouthed me in front of them since I split from him so I will lay off her) are FURIOUS that I had *the audacity* to have female children when they both wanted a daughter more than anything and only *got boys*.

My girls were always annoyed by how poorly they treated me when I was married but since all of this custody drama my kids CANT STAND them... they just aren't allowed to verbalize that to anyone.

She actually got pregnant before me. She's due two weeks before me.

So she will have the first grandchild, and to be honest, Im glad. She did it on purpose and thats fine. I dont think she would be able to stand it if I had the first grandchild. lol. Well, I dont know if thats true. I want to think better of her so Im not going to think that. Waht happened was that his parents were pressuring us to have kids because we've been married awhile, nothing too pressuring, just a couple jokes but the time was coming we both knew it. Beth got engaged last Winter so we used that as an excuse to hold off the pestering for a year, and I honestly didnt want to become pregnant while she was planning her wedding. Not do it on purpose anyway. I made the mistake of telling her that Johnny and I were gonna start trying in Decemember. She was just married in October. I dont know if you could call it trying, I thought it would take at least 6 mo to become pregnant and I wasnt doing anyting in particular, just having sex. lol. So I wasnt trying really...hard. i WAS SHOCKED and it was totally random I precame preg when I did. Lol. I cant believe it happened like that. Well , a week before I find out I was preggerz she tells us she is preg. I was all of the sudden so jealous! I told her congrats and that I was happy but that wasnt enough. She was pissed at me for not being happy enough. I coudlnt help it - I also was confused because I was so jealous. I've never felt like that about anything before. Little did I know, I was also pregnant so that worked out. I could have reacted differently, so that was probably wrong on my part. But I still acted happy and everyting, I just wasnt GUSHING like she wanted me too. I cant win.

I am a twin so Im used to sharing things....like attention. I have to really work at understanding where she comes from.

Maybe Im the bad sister in law? I dunno. lol! Its sure differnt than having a regular sister, thats for sure.

 

[walliwalibus]

I couldn't keep reading.... but fuck 'em. Sorry, but if they don't understand that you have thngs to do then fuck 'em. Especially if it isn't business. I guess I am a bit older than some and well, a cell phone is a luxury and to some it may be needed in business. But it's mostly bullshit. Fuck 'em, fuck 'em all to hell dammit!

 

[Bikini Mod]

Everything you posted up makes you 100% NORMAL and you sister-in-law is the bitch.

I wouldn't say that unless I firmly believed it. I would just say nothing.

I'm sorry for the angst your SIL is causing you. Try not to let it get you down but you heard it here first (only because I want you to be prepared if you aren't already) your SIL will cause MAJOR problems for you and your husband and your inlaws in general. It will be anything ranging from stupid little things like not getting your kid the gifts that YOU REQUESTED to pitching a fit because your mother and father inlaw got "your kid" a better gift than hers.

Is your husband favored over his sister by his mother?

I don't mean to pry and you don't have to answer but this is just more of the *wierd shit* that nobody ever thinks about before they become parents. And you shouldn't have to. It's TOTAL BULLSHIT but sadly, when you got family like that it DOES interfere in your marriage. I am just trying to help you out so that you don't get too upset when this stuff happens.

 

[cindylou]

Everything you posted up makes you 100% NORMAL and you sister-in-law is the bitch.

I wouldn't say that unless I firmly believed it. I would just say nothing.

I'm sorry for the angst your SIL is causing you. Try not to let it get you down but you heard it here first (only because I want you to be prepared if you aren't already) your SIL will cause MAJOR problems for you and your husband and your inlaws in general. It will be anything ranging from stupid little things like not getting your kid the gifts that YOU REQUESTED to pitching a fit because your mother and father inlaw got "your kid" a better gift than hers.

Is your husband favored over his sister by his mother?

I don't mean to pry and you don't have to answer but this is just more of the *wierd shit* that nobody ever thinks about before they become parents. And you shouldn't have to. It's TOTAL BULLSHIT but sadly, when you got family like that it DOES interfere in your marriage. I am just trying to help you out so that you don't get too upset when this stuff happens.

That really is a relief to hear because I would want to know if I am causing my own problems with her (besides the phone deal lol) because I WANT to have a good relationship with her. I really do. I dont want it to be the way it is.

I know it will cause problems and even more so because now our kids will be so close to the same age.

In my honest opinion she is favored over Johnny but they have loving parents who are really great so I doubt that one is majorly favored over the other.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Then that is a good thing - that the parents are loving to both children (meaning your husband as well as his sister) so maybe it will just be minor run-of-the-mill irritations.

I bent over backwards to accomodate my in-laws in every way. Me and my kids were always treated poorly as my exhusband simply refused to be a man and step up to defend his wife and kids. Here is a good example of what I mean. My inlaws always had this thing for the whole family getting together for Christmas Eve. Well as my in-laws kids got older and I started to have my kids (very close in age) my bitchsters-in-law decided that they didn't want to host or couldn't host (for lack of cooking skills, etc) the entire family in their home so they thought a RESTAURANT was an acceptable alternative. Well I was due CHRISTMAS DAY with my 4th child in 5 years. So they expected us to dress our small girls up in uncomfortable christmas dresses and those damned slippery maryjanes so they could ooh and aah over them for HOURS while the children were expected to remain seated and be *little angels* and me, big as a house.... *lucky me* I delivered my baby on 10 DEC. So their attitude was like, "Our brother can bring the kids to the restaurant while you stay at home and rest."

HUH?

First off, what NORMAL CHRISTIANS go to a restaurant with a truckload of kids that are barely 5 years old and expect to sit there FOR HOURS.... ON CHRISTMAS EVE?!?!

Secondly, is that not MY FAMILY? Are those not MY CHILDREN? Did I not carry and give birth to them?

So, they decided to come to MY HOME INSTEAD!

I had 4 children, 4+ down to a two week old breast-fed newborn. I had over 40 people in my house, my in-laws' BRATS DESTROYING MY HOME... they came, they destroyed, they left...

Yea, I was married to a GREAT GUY.

... but that was my marriage, not yours.

I just wanted you to know where I was coming from. I am happy to hear that your in-laws aren't the absolute nutjobs mine were.

 

[cindylou]

Then that is a good thing - that the parents are loving to both children (meaning your husband as well as his sister) so maybe it will just be minor run-of-the-mill irritations.

I bent over backwards to accomodate my in-laws in every way. Me and my kids were always treated poorly as my exhusband simply refused to be a man and step up to defend his wife and kids. Here is a good example of what I mean. My inlaws always had this thing for the whole family getting together for Christmas Eve. Well as my in-laws kids got older and I started to have my kids (very close in age) my bitchsters-in-law decided that they didn't want to host or couldn't host (for lack of cooking skills, etc) the entire family in their home so they thought a RESTAURANT was an acceptable alternative. Well I was due CHRISTMAS DAY with my 4th child in 5 years. So they expected us to dress our small girls up in uncomfortable christmas dresses and those damned slippery maryjanes so they could ooh and aah over them for HOURS while the children were expected to remain seated and be *little angels* and me, big as a house.... *lucky me* I delivered my baby on 10 DEC. So their attitude was like, "Our brother can bring the kids to the restaurant while you stay at home and rest."

HUH?

First off, what NORMAL CHRISTIANS go to a restaurant with a truckload of kids that are barely 5 years old and expect to sit there FOR HOURS.... ON CHRISTMAS EVE?!?!

Secondly, is that not MY FAMILY? Are those not MY CHILDREN? Did I not carry and give birth to them?

So, they decided to come to MY HOME INSTEAD!

I had 4 children, 4+ down to a two week old breast-fed newborn. I had over 40 people in my house, my in-laws' BRATS DESTROYING MY HOME... they came, they destroyed, they left...

Yea, I was married to a GREAT GUY.

... but that was my marriage, not yours.

I just wanted you to know where I was coming from. I am happy to hear that your in-laws aren't the absolute nutjobs mine were.

omg. that IS crazy. With all those kids and a newborn baby. Yikes. I would have just had christmas at my house with my own family and let them all got to the restaurant themselves. that would have also caused a huge ordeal too Im sure. Im not sure what I would have done. Oh my gosh.

 

[Bikini Mod]

omg. that IS crazy. With all those kids and a newborn baby. Yikes. I would have just had christmas at my house with my own family and let them all got to the restaurant themselves. that would have also caused a huge ordeal too Im sure. Im not sure what I would have done. Oh my gosh.

I told my exhusband that if he EVER chose them over OUR FAMILY (meaning, him, me and our children) I would divorce his sorry ass. The next year he stood up to his family and said, "Sorry but our girls are too young to be put through such an ordeal during what is supposed to be a happy time for THEM." His father was *committing suicide*, his sisters were calling me an evil bitch and WE had THE ONLY HAPPY CHRISTMAS MY CHILDREN AND I HAD EVER HAD... It was heaven. And these rules applied to my family as well... We told my family, "This is how it will be if you all want to join us, great. If not, happy holiday and we will try to get together when and how it suits us both." My family was like, "Cool." His family had a HEARTATTACK and we were essentially cut off... that is, until my ex beat me up and I kicked him out about 2 years later.

My one bitchster-in-law never interjected herself into my divorce or custody battle and my children told me several times that she has NEVER badmouthed me to them, that she actually even complimented me to them. So I won't mess with her - the past is the past and this was always about what is best for my kids. She did right by my girls so I will forgive the past. As for the other... THAT C*NT and her husband have PERSONALLY gone out of their way to help my ex take my kids and CONSTANTLY badmouth me to my girls...

I will not rest until THAT C*NT and her husband are bankrupted for what they have done to my girls.

So now is it karma that is the bitch... or is it me?