Do any of you have trouble with casual sex?

[Grizzly]

Ok, this question is for people who have actually had the opportunity. It's not for people who would like to have a one nighter or whatever because I love the idea of meeting some cutie and then fucking the shit out of her after knowing her only a few hours, but I just can't really do it. After 5 one-nighters I know that they're not my bag.

So, do any of you have trouble with casual sex? I had a great opportunity last night, but I just talked to her instead because I didn't know her well enough to feel comfortable sleeping with her. Now, tonight is a different story. I'll still feel semi-uncomfortable, but I've gotten to know her well enough to do the deed, which is good because I've wanted to get her naked for a few months now. I was just wondering if I'm weird or if ya'll people need to get to know people before you sleep with them.

 

[Sassy69]

DAMN! A guy w/ a conscience! Quick take a picture!

I'm there with ya. I have so little interest in one-nighters or any of that right now. My experience is that if you sleep w/ someone before u get to know them, that's all you will ever do with them. Meaning, you basically have established the type of relationship it will be and it can't be changed. There's pretty much no chance of having a relationship after that. Plus it seems like each person has established that they are "easy" and that may be later interpretted against them. So the chance for relationship is screwed again.

I've also found the sex relationship to be better w/ someone I know as a friend first anyway.

I guess it depends on what you want out of it. If you see a person that u know u just want to have sex with and NOTHING else, then go for it. But I am not interested in that at all, so it probably won't happen. Not to mention, the whole safe sex thing....

Just my thoughts....

 

[Xalthus]

Never in my life, would i fuck a girl not knowing who she is, what she is like.. IF i wanna fuck with a girl, i want her to love me and me to love her. Its more special.. If i just wanna fuck around i can release that tension in the bathroom with my lube...

 

[dancer]

Wait you mean to tell me that there is such a thing other than casual sex... ok there have been times that i have wanted to wait to get to know her but no such luck I just always fuck n the first opertunity and on other occasions that i have not fucked at first contact its been some sort of head game i've been playing.... PS since you didn't fuck her someone else probebly did

 

[boss]

NOT A PROBLEM AT ALL, DAMN MY GOAL IS TO FUCK THE WHOLE WORLD. [GIRLS THAT IS!]

 

[b fold the truth]

I have a hard enough problem kissing a woman, much less sleeping with her casually. Don't think that I ever could unless I loved them with everything that I had.

B True

 

[Laserdude]

I have a friend (gal) who is arranging for me to meet one of her friends. She is a latina girl and wants to fuck. So I guess with all of the test in my system right now, I will do the deed.

It is apparent that this girl met me once and she mentioned to her to arrange a "date".

I hope to hear from her tommorrow morning about it. Wish me luck as I could use a good fuck. I have great stamina, and can go for quite awhile, so she is in for a VERY good time. Lord knows I could use a good lay. Hope to do this with her more that just once.

Condom will be used, just in case.

YAW!!!

 

[rnch]

in my late teens and early twenties, having "slam-bam-thank-ya-ma'am" sex was not an issue.

now that i'm a little older and supposidly more mature, it just doesn't happen any more.

i have turned into one of those fossils that equate love with sex.

to be blunt about it, if i don't feel it in my heart, i can't feel it in my dick.

to me, sex is an expression of, an extension of, the .....warmth, tenderness, affection i feel for the other person.

i'm probably gonna get flamed and ridiculed big time for taking this view point; well, so be it.

 

[Test boy]

I pretty much lost my interest in one night stands as well. Just not worth the risks involved. And not too much more satisfying than jacking off....well OK, it is a LOT more satisfying. But still risky.

 

[Salvattore]

You are a fucking faggot dude!

 

[HamHock]

Fuck, few things beat casual sex, its the damn conversation afterwards that makes me want to shoot myself.

 

[Xalthus]

"Wish me luck as I could use a good fuck"

I wish you some STDS, fucking girls u dont even know... shame on you.

 

[StoneColdGold]

ditto to b fold and xalthus. I could never do that. And I would could never be with a girl who HAS done that.

 

[Grizzly]

Cool, I'm not that weird then. Jeez, I was starting to think that I was a disgrace to the males of the species. If you listen to what my roomates say, anyway. I am fairly amazed at the amount of times love was mentioned, though. I don't need to love a girl to have sex with her, I just have to know her a little bit and kind of like her. Or hate her, I suppose. Shit, I waited 21 years to fall in love and I'm sure not going to wait another 21 until I have sex again.

 

[b fold the truth]

Hmmm...I guess I'd wait another 21 years to have sex...I guess anyway. Never had a one night stand...never even picked anyone up at a bar/club, got a phone number or given mine. Maybe it is time to become a big bad boy? The little chickies are all scared of me most of the time though

B True

 

[Grizzly]

Hmmm...I guess I'd wait another 21 years to have sex...I guess anyway. Never had a one night stand...never even picked anyone up at a bar/club, got a phone number or given mine. Maybe it is time to become a big bad boy? The little chickies are all scared of me most of the time though

B True

No way! I don't think that's a good time to wait. I have gone 2 years without having sex...or even kissing a girl, for that matter, but 21 is way too long. You don't have to become a "big bad boy" to pick up at a bar. It seems like the most logical place to find people since most people at bars are single and looking. Of course, then you run into the problem of them not being too into fitness, but buff chicks are hard to find period since there's really not that many. Speaking of which, where do I go to find a little fitness chick?

I know of what you speak, bro. I scare the girlies, too. Maybe it's just because I'm back at school and the girls I meet are 18 or 19, but they're all scared. I swear, if I hear the word intimidating one more time I'm going to...I don't know. Do nothing since I"m sure as fuck not about to stop bodybuilding for something as pathetic as getting ass. It is kind of funny though. So many lay-people tell me "Man, if I looked like you I'd be getting laid every day." That's not it at all. Most women are intimidated by a 260lb. guy. That's alright, though, because it leaves my time completely open to be obsessed with bodybuilding.

 

[b fold the truth]

Yeah....the guys at work are amazed at how many women stop and talk to me every single day, bring me food, etc...but I never hear anything from them about my body. They always tell me "ya know, you really are very nice and sweet". Hmmm...priorities?

B True

 

[Test boy]

What is casual sex? I'm never casual when I'm having sex.

 

[bballdad]

The one-nighters have left me unsatisfied in the past.
It makes a big difference when you actually love and
care about the girl. I'm in the process of getting to know
this girl that I work with and she is really hot and sweet
and we're just taking it kind of slow. We write letters to each other
at work and talk but try not to make things obvious. E-mail
each other at night. Think about her all the time. And hopefully
before long we'll hook up and it'll be right for the both of us
without either of us feeling uncomfortable.

 

[str8cubano]

Never in my life, would i fuck a girl not knowing who she is, what she is like.. IF i wanna fuck with a girl, i want her to love me and me to love her. Its more special.. If i just wanna fuck around i can release that tension in the bathroom with my lube...

agreed..and despite what people will say im str8 up catholic and still belive in waiting..NOT THAT I WAITED, but ive realized im happier just being true to myslef and not scrweing everyting i see...when i find someone i love agian..then so be it...hopefully by that time i'll be able to marry that person...but yea, im not one to be having casual sex.....diregard my avatar..lol

 

[Johnny Zampon]

nothin wrong with casual sex. i got the herpes to prove it.

 

[Bikini Mod]

nothin wrong with casual sex. i got the herpes to prove it.

....And just what is the difference between Love and Herpes?

HERPES IS FOREVER!!

LOL Dude!!!


Casual sex is an interesting concept. I am not exactly 21 and I have only had a single one-night stand in my life. It was ok, I guess. I mean I got off several times....but as soon as we were done, I was like,"God, am I glad that is over." Don't get me wrong. I wasn't forced....it was all my idea. But it really did NOTHING for me and I can honestly say that I HIGHLY DOUBT that I will revisit a similar situation in this lifetime.

 

[Grizzly]

You know what I really hate about one night stands, besides the fact that I never feel comfortable and I don't perform very well because of it? It's because it's just one night. Call me crazy, but I figure that if you sleep with someone once, you may as well keep doing so atleast 15-20 times. I hate that. You don't have sex for months on end and then you finally get to have sex again and then that's it. It's such a tease. Better to have no potato chips than just one, right?

 

[b fold the truth]

I don't have problems getting a one night stand...I have problems doing it. Never can...never will.

B True

 

[tripleV]

nothin wrong with casual sex. i got the herpes to prove it.

ewwwwwwww

 

[tripleV]

I don't have problems getting a one night stand...I have problems doing it. Never can...never will.

B True

Never say never my friend

 

[b fold the truth]

Don't think I could. Without love...what would it mean? I need love, more than anything. Could a one night stand give that to me? No.

Listened to a song today that says it all.

Be someone, you love and understand. Baby be a Simple Kind of Man.

B True

 

[Grizzly]

Love is definitely a good thing, however, it's awfully hard to find. I will say that a one night stand isn't my deal either, obviously, but, why couldn't you just date someone for a while and get to like her and then sleep with her? I can tell you from experience that it's better to have sex with them first. The first time I slept with my ex I was in love with her. Sure, that was great! A new experience for sure, but it was a bad idea. Maybe I place too much emphasis on sex, but I think the sex better be great otherwise the relationship can't be that good. With her I wanted so much more than she was willing to give me sexually, but I stayed with her anyway because I was in love. God, what if I would have married her? Shit, then I'd have been stuck with mediocre sex for the rest of my life, unless I cheated, which I WILL NOT do. So, I guess the moral of the story is to test drive the car before you buy it.

 

[Gear Monster !]

Totally agree with you

Never in my life, would i fuck a girl not knowing who she is, what she is like.. IF i wanna fuck with a girl, i want her to love me and me to love her. Its more special.. If i just wanna fuck around i can release that tension in the bathroom with my lube...

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[b fold the truth]

Guess I just feel differently. One of my last ex's left me after a year and a half because I would not sleep with her.

B True

 

[mdd]

casual sex sucks.....

i mean its all good ad the time, but it always turns into someone wanting something more, and someone ends up getting hurt

 

[Honeynut]

I can't have casual sex because I have long-term relationship goals. Casual sex doesn't fit in that picture. I find it tough enough to deal with the fact that once you reach adulthood, sex tends to come earlier in a relatonship, and you find yourself getting to know someone in bed and out, simultaneously.

I don't want to sleep with someone, and then decide there's something I don't like about them. I never liked to deprive myself of pleasure, however, and if I decide to trust someone I don't like holding back. It was a problem that kept me single for a long time, I dated here and there, but when I met my boyfriend I was glad I'd behaved the way I had.

 

[Grizzly]

Guess I just feel differently. One of my last ex's left me after a year and a half because I would not sleep with her.

B True

Two questions. One, are you a virgin? Two, weren't you in love with that girl? I don't see the point in staying with someone for a year and a half if you don't love them. Personally, if I don't think that there's some serious potential, then I'm done with a girl after two or three or maybe four months. It doesn't make sense to me to stay with someone so long if you don't love them.

 

[HamHock]

Never in my life, would i fuck a girl not knowing who she is, what she is like.. IF i wanna fuck with a girl, i want her to love me and me to love her. Its more special.. If i just wanna fuck around i can release that tension in the bathroom with my lube...

You are obviously confronting ugly strangers. Some of the hottest chicks I ever met had my pants down that same night. All men (with functioning genetalia) will fuck a stranger if its the right stranger....ALL MEN.

 

[Abbaddon]

It depends upon what you mean by casual. Years ago I had a female friend who every 2 weeks to a month we would get together buy large box of condoms and fuck each others brains out. Now she was one of my closest friends and I would do anything for her. We were just not in love, we loved each other as friends and were extremely attracted to each other and had a lot of fun. It was a more when the moment struck kinda thing that we just kept between us. She knew about dates I had I knew about dates she had, thus the condoms. That to me was casual.

Now casual as hey I just met you at a bar and of course I trust you that you dont have any diseases, and I completely believe you that you never do anything like this normally ..lol. Please. That isnt casual sex it is dangerous sex.

I cared far too much for my health then to ever do something like that, and I am glad I am out of the dating game so I dont have to worry bout it now.

 

[max muscle121]

Interesting thread and opinions, so I'll add my .02 for what it's worth. (and with today's economy, that isn't much!

I, personally do not equate sex with love, but I did when I was younger. Although I prefer to have sex with someone I CARE about, I do not need to "Love" them in the traditional sense to meet each others needs and make someone feel good or special. I like the term "Friends with Benefits". To me, sex is a physical meeting of two people, that can reach a emotional/mental connection also. I can also love someone without having sex with them. Better put, you have to stimulate me mentally for me to "love" you in more way's than just a friend, but you don't, if we just want to have great sex. Make sense or clear as mud? Any thoughts on this?

Max.

 

[toga22]

originally posted by mdd

i mean its all good at the time, but it always turns into someone wanting something more, and someone ends up getting hurt

Boy if that isn't the truth. But, saying "hey lets go back to my place and fuck until dawn, and then I never want to see you again." Doesn't work to often.

 

[Grizzly]

Max Muscle- I tend to agree with you. I don't need to be in love with someone to sleep with them. Just caring about them is enough for me. Hell, I suppose just being highly attracted to them is enough, as long as I've gotten to know them a little bit. Although, I will say that "making love" is certainly a lot better than "having sex." I never believed that until I actually did it. I love making love. There's something about being in love with someone that makes sex all that much better. I don't know exactly what it is, but it's true.

 

[Busta]

No prob here love to have casual sex no strings!