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Do affectionate people make you uncomfortable?

Cutiebolic said:
Yes. There is obviously a story here. It would certainly help tie the thread together (pun intended... Ugh).
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had lunch with my GF and her visiting cousin tagged along. we always greet each other with hugs and we did. I hugged her cousin too who stiffened up, but didn't notice too much at the time i was excited to see my friend and we are a chatty bunch so forgot about. when were done w/ lunch, we walk to our cars, i had dropped my keys, bent down to get em and my gf slaps my butt(lol she always does that). so we are laughing and still chatting away but i think cousin was appauled by such behavior. we hug and get in our cars. I hug cousin too "nice to me have met you, blah blah", i could tell now that she was out of her comfort zone as she awkwardly tried to wrap her arms around me for hug.

and it wasn't that she didn't like me, we were chatting it up like long lost friends.

meh, it was just weird and made me uncomfortable as well.
 
brownbrown said:
Your probably attractive to her and intimidating. She might be a homophobe or have a complex.
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thats a lot of issues. And i don't think so, since talking about men took a good chunk of the convo. that and we were inconspicuously checking out some muscled hawties a few tables from us. there was no lesbo vibe in the air anywhere.
 
*ebony* said:
thats a lot of issues. And i don't think so, since talking about men took a good chunk of the convo. that and we were inconspicuously checking out some muscled hawties a few tables from us. there was no lesbo vibe in the air anywhere.
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I wouldn't worry about it too much, innocent and playful displays of affection are fine, shouldn't make anyone uncomfortable. Some people are uptight.
 
*ebony* said:
had lunch with my GF and her visiting cousin tagged along. we always greet each other with hugs and we did. I hugged her cousin too who stiffened up, but didn't notice too much at the time i was excited to see my friend and we are a chatty bunch so forgot about. when were done w/ lunch, we walk to our cars, i had dropped my keys, bent down to get em and my gf slaps my butt(lol she always does that). so we are laughing and still chatting away but i think cousin was appauled by such behavior. we hug and get in our cars. I hug cousin too "nice to me have met you, blah blah", i could tell now that she was out of her comfort zone as she awkwardly tried to wrap her arms around me for hug.

and it wasn't that she didn't like me, we were chatting it up like long lost friends.

meh, it was just weird and made me uncomfortable as well.
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I think its all about reading people. If you felt her stiffen after the first hug, then when you said goodbye you should have stuck a hand out for a handshake instead. There is a move you can make where you look at someone and hold your arms open like you're ready to accept a hug, and also kind of have one hand forward like the handshake option is also there.
Then you wait to see what the person wants to do.
A lot of people like hugs but aren't good at initiating them. So, if you appear passive and ready to accept one, it makes them feel comfortable to dive in.

Another thing; I think it works better to start with a handshake with someone you are meeting the first time. Then, you have your nice little lunch and do the hug as a goodbye, showing that you enjoyed the meeting and have moved on from strangers to friends.
 
Headholio said:
I think its all about reading people. If you felt her stiffen after the first hug, then when you said goodbye you should have stuck a hand out for a handshake instead. There is a move you can make where you look at someone and hold your arms open like you're ready to accept a hug, and also kind of have one hand forward like the handshake option is also there.
Then you wait to see what the person wants to do.
A lot of people like hugs but aren't good at initiating them. So, if you appear passive and ready to accept one, it makes them feel comfortable to dive in.

Another thing; I think it works better to start with a handshake with someone you are meeting the first time. Then, you have your nice little lunch and do the hug as a goodbye, showing that you enjoyed the meeting and have moved on from strangers to friends.
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Thnx for the good advice bro. Its just that I am much more affectionate with my fellow females, i do tend to be a bit more cautious with the men.
 
ceo said:
a hug and a peck on the cheek at "hi" and "bye".

If they stiffen or squirm, hold em tighter and longer till they accept it.
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like a fish out of water flapping and thrashing wildly around, but eventually they all become still dont they.lol

nangiggles said:
LOL, I'd knock the fuck out of you if you did this to me :worried: :cold:
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What if i smell deliciously good? still get knocked out?
 
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*ebony* said:
like a fish out of water flapping and thrashing wildly around, but eventually they all become still dont they.lol



What if i smell deliciously good? still get knocked out?
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I wont knock you for hugging me, I will however knock you if you hold me and force me into it....

Whenever I'm forced into contact I like to be unresponsive (someone hugs me and I wont hug back, someone lunges to kiss me and I'll move away) I like to make sure that A. you are clear I did NOT like it and wont welcome it and B. make you as uncomfortable as you just made me....

When I first met my brother in law it was under circumstances no one in the family appreciated, many times I lunged out of his way or blankly stared at his arm stretched out towards me...
 
I hate it when men are overly affectionate with men.
I dont even like shaking hands.
Prolly Repressed homo.
I was raised by my mom.
They're underwear not panties.
 
nangiggles said:
I wont knock you for hugging me, I will however knock you if you hold me and force me into it....

Whenever I'm forced into contact I like to be unresponsive (someone hugs me and I wont hug back, someone lunges to kiss me and I'll move away) I like to make sure that A. you are clear I did NOT like it and wont welcome it and B. make you as uncomfortable as you just made me....

When I first met my brother in law it was under circumstances no one in the family appreciated, many times I lunged out of his way or blankly stared at his arm stretched out towards me...
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Isn't the hug and kiss on the cheek common in CR?
 
no shit! nan would knock me out for humping her leg for resisting my hugs, yet she gets NO action from her husband? I'm starting to see things from hubby's point of view now.
 
smurf2 said:
True. You were hard as fuck
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LOL :sulk:

ceo said:
Isn't the hug and kiss on the cheek common in CR?
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it is, extremely is, people didnt like me much because upon introduction I would always say "Hi nice to meet you" at a distance OR went for a handshake, they looked puzzled, it was priceless :D

I remember this one time at my ex's place on his birthday, his mom and 2 friends were there, after singing happy birthday to him he leaned in to kiss me, I could see him almost in slow motion open mouthed headed towards me, bish was almost sticking his damn tongue out, I immediately leaned and he landed/drool on my cheek, he was so pissed and said I was embarrassed to kiss him, I told him it was a douche bag thing to do to try and make such a display in front of his mom, I myself consider it disrespectful, he never forgave me for it...


ceo said:
no shit! nan would knock me out for humping her leg for resisting my hugs, yet she gets NO action from her husband? I'm starting to see things from hubby's point of view now.
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LOL, he has green light to do what he wants with me, he knows the word NO will rarely come out of my mouth in the bedroom :evil: he is allowed to touch my face there :D
 
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