Divorced peeps

[shirlene29]

fuck...

you owe it to yourself and him to give therapy your best go, with as much honesty as you can muster and acknowledge that you can't force him to be honest with himself or the the therapist
you may even have to change therapists...if at the end of it all you still look at him and think, fuck this guy then at least the therapy can refocus on how to "un-couple"

I gotta be honest though, no kids...bailing is way easier

I looked at my last divorce as the best money I ever spent
I even told him in front of the judge during one of the proceedings that if a "house was all it took to get you to go away and never come back you can have it. I consider it a worthy price"

 

[oxymoron]

hard as a rock as in just hardened. never trusting and uncaring and basically a giant B forever.

 

[SpyWizard]

I went to counseling for 2 yrs.. in the end the therapist said we needed to separate and then date one another... that was all it took that was the end..

 

[WoodyO]

The wife leaving me was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I'm loaded. She left with nothing. I even bought her a car as a parting gift. I've got our son. Even my step daughter chose to stay behind with me. Now the ex can't find a job, and can't afford a place of her own. She lives on her homo friends sofa.

 

[AFeedz]

I can't say anything, Nan, except give it all you got. Every marriage deserves that

I can tell you my parents divorce after 16 years of marriage was civil, and I'm happy they did it because I never saw my parents be affectionate with one another but now, I've never seen my dad more happy and loving with his new wife (not so new, it's been some years). So sometimes, divorce really is what's best.

Sorry you're going through this, though.

 

[EarthRider]

Sorry to hear nan. I'd day with no kids and if counseling doesn't help I'd move on. It takes 2 for a marriage to work. Does he know you're considering this? Have you guys talked about it?

 

[jnevin]

Divorce sucks. The only thing I can tell you is to make sure you know that you did everything you could to make things work before you walk away. Then have him deported.

 

[mrplunkey]

Divorce sucks. The only thing I can tell you is to make sure you know that you did everything you could to make things work before you walk away. Then have him deported.

I completely agree. You don't want to leave any room to second guess the decision. Then if you do get divorced and are in a better situation years later, it feels very good.

Filing for divorce was the best investment I've ever made. It was expensive -- and worth every nickle.

 

[EnderJE]

Nan, if you have no kids...bail. That's what's keeping me here.

 

[billfred]

It's 7 years together in ups and downs, building a life together, its not that easy bro.

@zwhit, we went to therapy about 3 weeks ago so we both know how the other feels, we want to be together, but sometimes it feels like I'm jamming in a puzzle piece in the wrong place, it kinda works but it ain't right, the big picture comes out wrong

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It isn't that easy but people do it all the time with 2 or 3 kids and all kinds of houses, furnitures, cars, partnerships and trust to divide up.

Believe me, you have it much easier than you think. Throw in 25 yrs of marriage, 3 kids and $10 million dollars worth of shit, and then tell me how easy your situation seems.