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Did you ever get spankings or beatings as a child?

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How often?
 
i used to get hit on the bum with a belt only a few times till i learned to laugh about it,then it ended
 
A lot. My father kicked my ass very very often. I am glad he did. I deserved it and I respect him for it. But man, it sucked at the time. Pretty scary as a kid too, but I know he did it cause he cared.
 
every weekend id get a beating and then put in my room for all the bullshit I pulled all week when my dad was away working as a long haul trucker
 
nope... but i spank and dicipline Frisky when she's being bad. She never seems to learn..

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Angel - put a damn space between those links in your signature, like right between the [/img] tags. I hate that shit, makes me have to scroll to the right to read a thread.


My dad rarely laid a hand on me. He only did so when I absolutely deserved it and had disrespected him. I do the same with my kids.
 
My mom swatted my ass occasionally. My Dad had a piece of1 X 4 that had a handle carved in & was varnished & hung by the door. It was 'THE STICK'. Whenever my brother, cousin & I were getting on the ragged edge, Mom would threaten us with THE STICK. It usually calmed us down. About every 6 months or so Dad would actually use it for serious transgressions. It stung like a bugger but never left any marks except for flushed skin. I think it bothered him to use it, but it didn't do us any harm. Discipline with love.
 
I few times. As a younger kid though, I was actually pretty obedient considering what I saw a lot of other kids getting away with. My dad would just give me "the eyebrow" and I would listen...when ever that fuckin eyebrow was raised it would scare the shit outta me.
 
I did actually fear my father coming home from work
he laid down what was acceptable and what wasn't
I learned
 
Nope....

My mom did have an official spanking paddle - varnished with a nursery rhyme on it & figures.....she'd threaten with it, but never used it...
 
I did and I still resent my parents for it to this day.

I'd never hit my own children. If I can train a dog to do a cartwheel without ever using physical violence, I can certainly raise a child without it as well.
 
Lestat said:
I did and I still resent my parents for it to this day.

I'd never hit my own children. If I can train a dog to do a cartwheel without ever using physical violence, I can certainly raise a child without it as well.
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I guess I feel the same way on this one. I wanted to kill when I got spanked. Made me so angry, especially when I didn't see a good reason for it.
 
yeah, got a good shit kicken or two,or three,but when I was in my mid teens I told the old man I would smash his face in if he ever tried to give me a shit kicken again
 
I got spanked (never beat) a LOT!!! I would say almost every single day until i was 12. I was very stubborn, and refused to obey and ALWAYS caused trouble. My father even had a special paddle with holes for less wind resistance to spank me with because his hand got tired of the abuse. lol

I know he did it because he loved me. he's ecstatic i grew up. :)
 
it stopped when i told him " im gonna knock your ass out" ... he thought i was joking and socked me in the nose and i went to town on him , i was 20 when that happend.
 
yeah sure, when i was a lot younger, but my father (the one whose hands actually hurt) was usually quite reluctant to hit out. my mother was a lot more prone to have a swing at me, but i was a lot faster than she was, even at 11, and so she never landed a shot ;)

it was like "whooosh!" of a hand flying past my nose and my cheeky voice "ya missed me...didnt ya ;) " and getting the hell out of there ;)

i have to say, though, i was a bit of a handful ;) not that i didnt listen, but rather just the sheer amount of mischief i used to get up to ;)
 
biteme said:
I guess I feel the same way on this one. I wanted to kill when I got spanked. Made me so angry, especially when I didn't see a good reason for it.
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yep...im with Lestat on this too....couldnt ever do it to my son...he turned out fine too. :)
 
buffer1 said:
yeah, got a good shit kicken or two,or three,but when I was in my mid teens I told the old man I would smash his face in if he ever tried to give me a shit kicken again
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My ass whoopings/intimidation stopped the summer I grew a foot taller than the old man. He got in my face once when I was in my mid 20's....moments later, he realized that he'd used poor judgment.
 
I think half of those who replied as "standing up" and defeating said dad are doomed to repeat
 
hawaii50 said:
I got spanked (never beat) a LOT!!! I would say almost every single day until i was 12. I was very stubborn, and refused to obey and ALWAYS caused trouble. My father even had a special paddle with holes for less wind resistance to spank me with because his hand got tired of the abuse. lol

I know he did it because he loved me. he's ecstatic i grew up. :)
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you would think somewhere along the line he would change his methods
so are you saying you did not learn
or his continued punishment was unwarrented?
 
4everhung said:
I think half of those who replied as "standing up" and defeating said dad are doomed to repeat
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How do you figure? I come from a huge family with 7 kids and over 35 grandchildren. Not one of my brothers or sisters have laid a hand on one of their kids. My first nephew was born when I was 11 and I've been around kids just about my whole life...I don't recall ever being mad at them, let alone rasing a fist to one of them.

The old man can sometimes be a jerk. In which case the old man gets it handed to him later on....just like any other asshole in life.

Some may, but not half IMO.
 
jack_schitt said:
How do you figure? I come from a huge family with 7 kids and over 35 grandchildren. Not one of my brothers or sisters have laid a hand on one of their kids. My first nephew was born when I was 11 and I've been around kids just about my whole life...I don't recall ever being mad at them, let alone rasing a fist to one of them.

The old man can sometimes be a jerk. In which case the old man gets it handed to him later on....just like any other asshole in life.

Some may, but not half IMO.
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I said "half"
it's called intergenerational behavior
I didn't paint everyone who has complained about excessively strong punishmenet with the same brush
it was a caution
 
I got a good asswhooping every now and again. It never really hurt me much, but I do remember the thing I use to HATE was answering my father's questions before I got my ass whooped... Because he would stand there with the belt in his hand and say something like "Why the fuck did you throw a rock and break the neighbor's window?"... "Huh? Answer me!" Like most kids at that age, I couldn't justify half of the dumb shit I did so I would say: "I don't know, I just threw it, just because" and it would always end with my father taking my answer and turning it on me, saying something like "Well, I guess I'll hit you with this belt just because" >ass whooping< then there was always a final though "See now I have to go and pay for the shit you broke, you think money grows on trees? blah... blah... blah..."

I do remember that when I did something bad, I use to sit at home and think of how I would answer my old man's questions... I knew that I was getting my asswhooped no matter what I said! But I didn't care about the physical punishment since it stopped hurting by the time I was 5yrl... All I cared about was at least having a better answer than "just because".

When I got to about 13yrl and I grew out of breaking windows to breaking serious rules/laws. My old man wouldn't even threaten me with a belt anymore. He would just look at me and I could see the disappointment in his eyes, he would still ask me "Why did you do it?"... Until the day I moved out of his house, I would always ask myself “how the fuck am I going to explain this to my pops” whenever I did something stupid.

I think in his own weird way my old man did teach me a thing or two.



-BRR
 
i got the belt
 
I was spanked fairly regularly, but never beaten. I don't think it did any good, because I usually interpreted it as the parents lashing out in anger.
 
Wootoom said:
i got the belt
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I got hit with a belt too... I think when a parent has in their house, an item with the with the sole purpose of beating their kids (Like a paddle hanging on the wall or something) a serious line is being crossed...







-BRR
 
Big Rick Rock said:
I got hit with a belt too... I think when a parent has in their house, an item with the with the sole purpose of beating their kids (Like a paddle hanging on the wall or something) a serious line is being crossed...







-BRR
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it sucked
 
too much by both parents

i talked to my dad finally about it last month (i figured i would try to talk to him about it before he leaves us cause i wanted to know)and he started crying and said he to this day regrets ever doing it. we cried together and then talked for hours more, thing is i honestly dont resent him for it and i have forgiven him completly.
 
now it's what lies beneath for me. i wanted to hurt this fellow the other day. i put this guy to sleep after fighting in the parking lot. when he was lying on the black top, i had this tremendous urge to hurt him, maybe worse...........
 
Dakotah said:
too much by both parents

i talked to my dad finally about it last month (i figured i would try to talk to him about it before he leaves us cause i wanted to know)and he started crying and said he to this day regrets ever doing it. we cried together and then talked for hours more, thing is i honestly dont resent him for it and i have forgiven him completly.
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I want to spank you now that you are a grown girl.




LOL... Don't let Deva read that. He'll get all uppitty and I'll have to knock that bitch out.




-BRR
 
Big Rick Rock said:
I want to spank you now that you are a grown girl.




LOL... Don't let Deva read that. He'll get all uppitty and I'll have to knock that bitch out.




-BRR
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:eek2: :bigkiss:

um its kinda hard not to let Dev not see it when its in the thread publicly sweetie
oh yeah and i dont like spankings maybe tappin but not spankin ;)
 
Dakotah said:
:eek2: :bigkiss:

um its kinda hard not to let Dev not see it when its in the thread publicly sweetie
oh yeah and i dont like spankings maybe tappin but not spankin ;)
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Do you think I can take Deva ? He must look mean in a rent-a-cop outfit.







-BRR
 
well...my grammy used to make us go out to the tree in the back yard and pick a switch...my mom used to use a wooden spoon, ruler or a brush. not that we were beat mind you but it did teach me to find other avenues of punishment with my own kids. beatings teach you to fear the punishment but not much else (inmo)
 
There have been psychological studies done and in primates when you subject them to physical pain as punishment, in most cases when they are returned to their group of peers they exhibit some type of violence towards other primates for no apparent reason.

Violence begets violence. People use spanking because it has an instant and immediate effect, but you can shape someone's behavior quite easily without it, you just have to know what you are doing.
 
violence does not always beget violence...but in most cases I agree. the immediet reaction is fear not obedience (SP?)
 
randk said:
violence does not always beget violence...but in most cases I agree. the immediet reaction is fear not obedience (SP?)
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I can't think of any situations where it doesn't.

Take this war in Iraq for example, you don't think kids who lose loved ones are not going to grow up with vengence on their mind their entire lives? Even if only 1 in 100 does, its not worth it.
 
randk said:
thought we were talking about childhood discipline? the war in Iraq is a totaly different subject
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violence begets violence is a very broad statement.

In the context of children, the damage often runs deep and takes years to manifest.
 
this is true ... it "often does" but I think the human heart and mind is an amazing thing and the word "always" does not aply. althouth statistics show that a child that is abused often becomes an abuser themselves we do have it within us to break the with our past as long as we realise we can and are willing to put forth the effort to do so.
 
randk said:
this is true ... it "often does" but I think the human heart and mind is an amazing thing and the word "always" does not aply. althouth statistics show that a child that is abused often becomes an abuser themselves we do have it within us to break the with our past as long as we realise we can and are willing to put forth the effort to do so.
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why not just play it say and stop hitting kids.

my parents always said that the bible told them to do it. how fucked up can you be?
 
I personaly agree...never hit my kids myself. that is my point. Just because I was hit that didnt mean I hit my kids in return. there are other means of controling the world around you other than violence. this includes your children.
 
randk said:
I personaly agree...never hit my kids myself. that is my point. Just because I was hit that didnt mean I hit my kids in return. there are other means of controling the world around you other than violence. this includes your children.
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ah i see your point.

and no, i think we are intelligent enough to learn and not automatically hit our children just because we were. But I wouldn't say that we didn't suffer any negative effects.
 
cause and effect my friend...it all comes down to that. We may not be able to control the cause but can in some small way control the effect as it pertains to our own life (and therfore those closest to us)
 
randk said:
cause and effect my friend...it all comes down to that. We may not be able to control the cause but can in some small way control the effect as it pertains to our own life (and therfore those closest to us)
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and that is exactly what I plan on doing.
 
do you have children yourself now? can I ask how old you are?
 
Wow impressive!!!

what brought you to this site?

I am 28, no kids, not married.
 
my oldes (26 and the father of my beautiful grandaughter, shown in my av) was posting his journals while over seas (yes...is iraq) and I wanted to keep in touch in some small way. He is back home now and doesnt really post here but here I am still :)
 
randk said:
my oldes (26 and the father of my beautiful grandaughter, shown in my av) was posting his journals while over seas (yes...is iraq) and I wanted to keep in touch in some small way. He is back home now and doesnt really post here but here I am still :)
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cool grandkids!

my college friend got me into this site way back in the day.. now she doesn't post here anymore, but I do.... frequently.
 
i have a problem of freaking when i get stressed and i have in the past gotten violent with my stepdaughter - to this day i will never forget it tor forgive myself - thats the reason i dont want kids.
I cant handle crying for long periods if i cant pacify them and i cant handle trying to please the child and then you have the butthead bf off to the side saying geez cant you make it quit.
If im alone with the child im better off i just try to calm and stick the baby in the room to cry till i get ahold of myself.
 
Lestat said:
cool grandkids!

my college friend got me into this site way back in the day.. now she doesn't post here anymore, but I do.... frequently.
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what do you like most about the site?
 
(most of the time) I like the conversation (on all sorts of topics) sometimes it is a bit lame :) but so is life :)
 
randk said:
(most of the time) I like the conversation (on all sorts of topics) sometimes it is a bit lame :) but so is life :)
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true.. it does get lame/slow somtimes...

do things get to x-rated for you though or can you pretty much handle it all?
 
Dakotah said:
i have a problem of freaking when i get stressed and i have in the past gotten violent with my stepdaughter - to this day i will never forget it tor forgive myself - thats the reason i dont want kids.
I cant handle crying for long periods if i cant pacify them and i cant handle trying to please the child and then you have the butthead bf off to the side saying geez cant you make it quit.
If im alone with the child im better off i just try to calm and stick the baby in the room to cry till i get ahold of myself.
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How old is she? (and why is the bf asking you to make her guit? is this HIS daughter?)
 
Lestat said:
true.. it does get lame/slow somtimes...

do things get to x-rated for you though or can you pretty much handle it all?
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I find it prety amusing most of the time :) although I admit that sometimes I do get tired of hearing about how so-in-so once again went out and had the night of hi life.....but I have the power to not read that thread so....maybe I enjoy those too :qt:
 
randk said:
How old is she? (and why is the bf asking you to make her guit? is this HIS daughter?)
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sorry i sort of jumbled severall incidences into one thing

my daughter is 10 now but the violent moments happened when she was between 6-8
and it happened a couple times (enough to make me thinkn twice)

and the bf asking me to make baby quit crying was when i was watching my gf's 5 month old and she was really collicky and he was trying to watch tv and i was cooking and watching the baby and he has never been around a newborn but usually he wasnt home when i watched the baby so it made it worse having him here cause i cant do everything at once
 
randk said:
I find it prety amusing most of the time :) although I admit that sometimes I do get tired of hearing about how so-in-so once again went out and had the night of hi life.....but I have the power to not read that thread so....maybe I enjoy those too :qt:
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lol.. i love hearing about people having great times! we all share the good and the bad here.
 
it is diferent with most men when the baby is theirs (as with most women as well) dont be scared. they grow on you :)
 
randk said:
You can :) I am 46 and I have two grown sons with three grandkids.
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Ack! You're three years younger than me, and a grandparent?

Where'd I put my zimmer frame?
 
Mr. dB said:
Ack! You're three years younger than me, and a grandparent?

Where'd I put my zimmer frame?
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do you have any kids bro?
 
randk said:
whats a zimmer frame? how old are you again? :) ;0
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he's not that old.. he talks like he is ancient but he's not.
 
i find myself wanting a kid sometimes and then i think about it and get freaked out!!!!! like think about all the hard work i put into looking good and to throw it away by having a kid :worried:
 
anyway, hitting a kid is one of the worse things you can do to them. especially with an object.
 
i honestly never hit her i just got so angry i could have which scared the begeezus out of me sweriously
 
Dakotah said:
i find myself wanting a kid sometimes and then i think about it and get freaked out!!!!! like think about all the hard work i put into looking good and to throw it away by having a kid :worried:
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your figure will come back with a little hard work (you got it now right?) One extra year of working at getting your figure back would give you a life time of joy (heartache) love (teenage anger) and memories (sleepless nights) just the thought of it makes me smile (and need a nap)
 
Dakotah said:
i honestly never hit her i just got so angry i could have which scared the begeezus out of me sweriously
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i'm sorry, i hope you're not thinking that i was directing any of my posts towards you.
 
randk said:
your figure will come back with a little hard work (you got it now right?) One extra year of working at getting your figure back would give you a life time of joy (heartache) love (teenage anger) and memories (sleepless nights) just the thought of it makes me smile (and need a nap)
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lol
well i guess so but kids would make it harder to get away thats for sure especially for a woman who loves kids and prob wouldnt want to seperate even for a lil while lol


HumanTarget said:
i'm sorry, i hope you're not thinking that i was directing any of my posts towards you.
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Nope i didnt think that i was just rereading my posts and saw that i didnt clarify
 
When i have kids, I won't them.

I say that now - as I don't have any, but I seriously don't think I would hit them. I never got hit myself, and I have no need to place fear in my kids due to a threat of violence.
 
Spanky11 said:
When i have kids, I won't them.

I say that now - as I don't have any, but I seriously don't think I would hit them. I never got hit myself, and I have no need to place fear in my kids due to a threat of violence.
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you make violence a solution to a problem. that's what a little kid will relate it to.
 
HumanTarget said:
you make violence a solution to a problem. that's what a little kid will relate it to.
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that is exactly how i feel.
 
Lestat said:
There have been psychological studies done and in primates when you subject them to physical pain as punishment, in most cases when they are returned to their group of peers they exhibit some type of violence towards other primates for no apparent reason. Violence begets violence. People use spanking because it has an instant and immediate effect, but you can shape someone's behavior quite easily without it, you just have to know what you are doing.
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I don't believe this is always the case. With my brother & I our discipline & the severity was always tied to the infraction. It was always immediate, except in more severe cases where my mother couldn't do it, & we always got an extra swat from Dad for making Mom go through that. Neither my brother or myself are excessively violent people. I don't even think my brother has been in a fight since junior high.
My cousin D who lived with us & went through the same punishment is a different story. His father & step father were both violent men, who would smack their kids, just for walking past. I remember the father smacked my brother once, set him on his ass. That's the only time I ever saw my father violent, & it was just enough to get the job done. Anyways my cousins D & C went through a life of petty crime, graduating to arson, armed robbery, lots of prison time, & drug addiction.
I think violence will have an impact on personality, but discipline with love can be positive.
BTW, I never got hit from the time I was 12 'til I was 17 or so. I lied to my Mom & she slapped my face. What was I gonna do, hit her back? I don't think so.
 
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