Defense mechanisms

[Kano]

hi

 

[Scotsman]

Originally Posted by PICK3
Superior intellect



intellectualization IS actually a defense mechanism.

Yes intellectualization is part of a defense mechanism. HAVING a superior intellect is not it only enables you do to things on a higher level.

Fucking randoms is a coping method because you are using to make yourself feel better about your life/situation.

And Don't even begin to trust wikipedia as anyone can add to a definition on there.

Although if you read the definitions it does back up my points.

So thanks for playing.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Bikini Mod]

Yes intellectualization is part of a defense mechanism. HAVING a superior intellect is not it only enables you do to things on a higher level.

Fucking randoms is a coping method because you are using to make yourself feel better about your life/situation.

And Don't even begin to trust wikipedia as anyone can add to a definition on there.

Although if you read the definitions it does back up my points.

So thanks for playing.

Cheers,
Scotsman

OK so me using defense mechanisms to cope, does that make me more or less intelligent by definition? ....the whole conversation is somewhat confusing to me.

 

[Scotsman]

OK so me using defense mechanisms to cope, does that make me more or less intelligent by definition? ....the whole conversation is somewhat confusing to me.

It's not how you use them but what sort of mechanisms you develop that help define intelligence. Many defense and coping mechanisms share the same traits like withdrawl. A defense mechanism is used to shield yourself from others. It is used to keep people away and out of "you". A coping mechanism is used to deal with a problem whether internal or external. It is used to alleviate stress and emotional trauma.

Perfect examples from my life:

DM- I use sarcasm to make others disinterested in me by making them feel unwelcome and not giving a straight answer.

CM- I withdraw and listen to sad music in order to gain perspective.

So as to it defining your intelligence it really doesn't, but the methods used typically become more complex for more "intelligent" people.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Bikini Mod]

It's not how you use them but what sort of mechanisms you develop that help define intelligence. Many defense and coping mechanisms share the same traits like withdrawl. A defense mechanism is used to shield yourself from others. It is used to keep people away and out of "you". A coping mechanism is used to deal with a problem whether internal or external. It is used to alleviate stress and emotional trauma.

Perfect examples from my life:

DM- I use sarcasm to make others disinterested in me by making them feel unwelcome and not giving a straight answer.

CM- I withdraw and listen to sad music in order to gain perspective.

So as to it defining your intelligence it really doesn't, but the methods used typically become more complex for more "intelligent" people.

Cheers,
Scotsman

I see... for me, I use withdrawal period... I suppose that makes me REAL depressed. We are talking there are days where I won't even open emails and PM's answer the phone, NEVER collect the mail. I have to force myself to go to the gym... I just keep to myself. Lots of times I dont even want to be in the same room with my husband even though I KNOW he is trying to help, I just want to be left alone.

 

[gonelifting]

WTF are we talking about here?! "wolves"? That's a broad spectrum of people and issues. Depends on the situation at hand. Personally, I have no time for BS drama so it's just "NEXT!" and I get on with my life.

Why do you want to "deal" with it? Presumably to make yourself feel better, ultimately. Well, I feel much better after "NEXT!" have a good life.

The above is only valid if you are truly honest with yourself and never waver from being true to yourself. It is a difficult road to travel, but if you can do it, you will walk the Zen life.

There will ALWAYS be fucked up people trying to bring you down. ALWAYS. No time for that shit.

 

[Bikini Mod]

WTF are we talking about here?! "wolves"? That's a broad spectrum of people and issues. Depends on the situation at hand. Personally, I have no time for BS drama so it's just "NEXT!" and I get on with my life.

Why do you want to "deal" with it? Presumably to make yourself feel better, ultimately. Well, I feel much better after "NEXT!" have a good life.

The above is only valid if you are truly honest with yourself and never waver from being true to yourself. It is a difficult road to travel, but if you can do it, you will walk the Zen life.

There will ALWAYS be fucked up people trying to bring you down. ALWAYS. No time for that shit.

Oh I don't pay mind to the *random* assholes trying to drag me down. I do, however, have a REALLY hard time with the scumbag that has my kids. That's not so easy to walk away from....