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Dating someone with kids

theoak01

theoak01

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I got a chance to start seeing this girl,she is pretty cool,lives on her own etc,we get along well, but she is a single mom, it kinda creeps me out as I dont want to play the daddy role this young(20) and I know for sure my family would make my life rather hard if they knew she had a kid.

Im just wondering what other people my age and even some of the wise one's here have to say about this.

cheers
 
I only say that because you are too young.

Women with kids at a different point in your life would be fine, someone like Smurfy for example.. total catch.
 
I was thinking the same,but I know she is looking for something serious and stable,and id feel bad if I nailed her for a while then lost interest
 
ive dated a couple women with kids. Its tough. The most important thing in their life is the kids, naturally, so they seldom are able to give you their 100% attention. And then there is the matter of the ex, and his family. It can be rough. but at the same time you fall in love with more than just one person, just fall in love with the kids as well. Which is a joy. I dont want kids myself, but small children seem to adore me. So i spend more time playing with them than with the mom hehe. But then, if the relationship ends, you will loose more than just one person, and that hurts even more.
 
TheOak01 said:
I was thinking the same,but I know she is looking for something serious and stable,and id feel bad if I nailed her for a while then lost interest
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Beleieve me she knows your not staying around. Just be up front and honest with her.
 
if you dont really like her then dont get involved..................



make sure you and her are on the same page as far as what you both want
 
I didnt mean to pluralize it,she only has one kid.

and I do like her that isnt a issue,if I decide to start seeing her we will need to get on the same page, I mean hell come 3 months I may just up and leave with the army again,nothing is certain in my life
 
Lestat said:
I only say that because you are too young.

Women with kids at a different point in your life would be fine, someone like Smurfy for example.. total catch.
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Thank you. That was nice.

Oak, you're awfully young (I dont know you personally so I dont know your maturity level) to date anyone seriously who has children. That is a pretty big deal and anyone who tries to tell you its not is wrong.

How old is this girl? How many kids? Id suggest you date/bang her but dont hang around the children. You can see her without ever being introduced to the kids, if she is willing to roll like that.
 
never dated, just banged. she had 2 and was 23. many, many issues that went well beyond her gaping love canal and its improper usage. ergo, I would have never even considered dating her and I made that well known. best fuck I ever had. EVER. it was always akward though when we humped and the kids were in the next room or I would be lying in her bed naked and wake up to the little kids jumping on us. Highly stable household.
 
Dating someone with kids is very hard. Your opinion is usually not wanted or they will argue with you, which is tough, especially when the parent asks for your opinion. It helps if both parents get along. Most people don't like their kids' behavior critisized, even if their behavior is deplorable. And the kid is #1 (as they should be) and you will always be #2 or lower.....
 
KillahBee said:
never dated, just banged. she had 2 and was 23. many, many issues that went well beyond her gaping love canal and its improper usage. ergo, I would have never even considered dating her and I made that well known. best fuck I ever had. EVER. it was always akward though when we humped and the kids were in the next room or I would be lying in her bed naked and wake up to the little kids jumping on us. Highly stable household.
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see, that's what Im talkin bout. hoes.
 
Tell her what you told us and let her decide if she wants a fling or should move on. Obviously, don't meet the kids if you're not interested in something sunstantial. Also, don't be more than mommies "friend" theoak01 until you're in a committed long term relationship. That means no affection otehr than you would show a friend in front of the kids. They have enough disadvantages growing up in a broken home without men coming and going every few months. Finally, you will get attached to the kids eventually so remember that as well!
 
gotta remember you're going to have a relationship with her kids too, makes breaking up even harder if you get attached to them.
 
alien amp pharm said:
Drop them off at the pool.
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I don't think the kids even 16 yet honey... quit hitting TheOak for a fix up :rolleyes:
 
Smurfy said:
Thank you. That was nice.

Oak, you're awfully young (I dont know you personally so I dont know your maturity level) to date anyone seriously who has children. That is a pretty big deal and anyone who tries to tell you its not is wrong.

How old is this girl? How many kids? Id suggest you date/bang her but dont hang around the children. You can see her without ever being introduced to the kids, if she is willing to roll like that.
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shes 20 like me,with one kid, Ive met him before and he is a awesome kid,but due to my highly unstable ways and the fact that im seriously thinking about enlisting come april and taking off with the army,I dont think its fair to seriously date her.

I think being honest with her is my best bet and then leave the ball in her court
 
TheOak01 said:
shes 20 like me,with one kid, Ive met him before and he is a awesome kid,but due to my highly unstable ways and the fact that im seriously thinking about enlisting come april and taking off with the army,I dont think its fair to seriously date her.

I think being honest with her is my best bet and then leave the ball in her court
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Sounds like a good plan....

The guy I dated when his kids were 7 & 5 told me the youngest doesn't even remember me....
 
Kid just move on.

The truth is you'll get attached, and this girl will dump you in a second when she finds someone willing and able to help carry the load.

In six months you will be a charter memebr of the SWV's, posting endless threads about how bad your hurting. Your in college arent you? Open your mouth, there are thousands of hirls without the baggae needing some loving to maing
 
SWVs disbanded orb... wasn't that what that whole karma strike was about?
 
TheOak01 said:
shes 20 like me,with one kid, Ive met him before and he is a awesome kid,but due to my highly unstable ways and the fact that im seriously thinking about enlisting come april and taking off with the army,I dont think its fair to seriously date her.

I think being honest with her is my best bet and then leave the ball in her court
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Good Call...

I have 2 kids and believe me they come first no matter what. They have never and won't meet anyone I date or even hang with unless I know that He'll be sticking around. I wouldn't want to bring them along the rollercoaster of a ride we call 'relationships'.

She's young too.. sadly I'd say if she were older she'd prolly be more inclined to just have a fling, no strings attached... but usually at the ripe age of 20 they are looking to cling.. they want a relationship, not saying she wants a dad for her kid but she may expect more than just a f**k.

Just Be honest with her ;)
 
KillahBee said:
but bro - hit that shit at least once. for me. for us. and most importantly, for you.
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lol bro Im not even about that any more, Im happy just doing my own thing for the most part,which is another aspect of it, I think I need to have time to myself without being exclusive.

thanks for all the advice guys, I think I knew the answer all along I just needed a wall to bounce things off of and hear it back
 
TheOak01 said:
lol bro Im not even about that any more, Im happy just doing my own thing for the most part,which is another aspect of it, I think I need to have time to myself without being exclusive.

thanks for all the advice guys, I think I knew the answer all along I just needed a wall to bounce things off of and hear it back
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I forgot you were a member of the SWV - my bad. Good - stick to your own thing and it'll all be good.




























Gimme her number and I'll hit it for you broly. It'll be the best 2 minutes of her life.
 
At your age, I would move on or just have no sterings attached sex with this women. Women with kids are into that and have no problem with sex only relationships. Women have needs just like us men even though they hide it better. I have dated women with kids and it doesnt work out. There are thousands of other women out there to choose from with no kids. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
 
Dumb kids

You'd think these girls were keeping it guarded under lock and key the way they carry on about some chick.
 
JerseyArt said:
Your in college arent you? Open your mouth, there are thousands of girls without the baggage needing some loving to maing
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TheOak01 said:
lol she is yours if I dont ok bro.

btw I think customs snagged those cd's
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lol - I actually just got them back today saying I need to include an invoice on them? goddamn mounties. I'll get to the bottom of it like Tuc gets to the bottom of a 2 lb bag of Snausages.
 
KillahBee said:
lol - I actually just got them back today saying I need to include an invoice on them? goddamn mounties. I'll get to the bottom of it like Tuc gets to the bottom of a 2 lb bag of Snausages.
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lol ya its so the fuckers can tag me with a customs fee lol
 
Patrick Steele said:
At your age, I would move on or just have no sterings attached sex with this women. Women with kids are into that and have no problem with sex only relationships. Women have needs just like us men even though they hide it better. I have dated women with kids and it doesnt work out. There are thousands of other women out there to choose from with no kids. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
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I agree that the dynamics of a relationship with a single mother is very different and often complicated, i think you have to be careful making blanket statements like this LOL
 
TheOak01 said:
I got a chance to start seeing this girl,she is pretty cool,lives on her own etc,we get along well, but she is a single mom, it kinda creeps me out as I dont want to play the daddy role this young(20) and I know for sure my family would make my life rather hard if they knew she had a kid.

Im just wondering what other people my age and even some of the wise one's here have to say about this.

cheers
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Be careful bro, if its just casual dating you want, make sure she is on the same page!

If she is looking for more then casual, don't hurt this women and be honest with her.

Dating a mother with a child is great only if its something you are ready for. It is a special situation as there is a little one involved.

I married a single mom and before her I dated other single mom's. I was mature enough and was ok with it. The most important thing is be honest, always!!!
 
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