D I V O R C E - Experience anyone?

[PlateheadJim]

Well, it's heading towards an end... I suddenly stopped giving a rats ass about anything but weight lifting and my ex-girlfriend from college (whom, I've been in contact with).. My wife, and her bitchy little world just doesn't fit in.

Anybody go through this shit? Am I looking at a good ass kicking & liquidation of my assets? No kids at least....

 

[havoc]

Here comes a novel by bkmom.

 

[WODIN]

Here comes a novel by bkmom.

lmao.... oh shit.... for real.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Shut up you two!

Try mediation while you can still stomach each other. I don't know the laws in your state, but if the law is equitable distribution it makes ZERO sense to make the lawyers rich as it won't change A FUCKING THING. She will get half the assets and you will get half the debt (and vice versa).

Just draw up a list of all assets and debts and try to think FAIR.

And I concur, THANK GOD there are no children involved.

 

[addickt]

Well, it's heading towards an end... I suddenly stopped giving a rats ass about anything but weight lifting and my ex-girlfriend from college (whom, I've been in contact with).. My wife, and her bitchy little world just doesn't fit in.

Anybody go through this shit? Am I looking at a good ass kicking & liquidation of my assets? No kids at least....

Hold on bro--

Lets think about this logically..............

Do you have life Insurance on her?

 

[havoc]

Re: Re: D I V O R C E - Experience anyone?

Hold on bro--

Lets think about this logically..............

Do you have life Insurance on her?

This fool has a good point.

 

[SofaGeorge]

Re: Re: Re: D I V O R C E - Experience anyone?

This fool has a good point.

A great point!

Go to the hardware store and get a shovel and a couple jumbo plastic sheets... oh yeah... and pick up a hammer.

Also, watch a couple episodes of CSI so that you are up on things.

 

[PlateheadJim]

Re: Re: D I V O R C E - Experience anyone?

Hold on bro--

Lets think about this logically..............

Do you have life Insurance on her?

Hmmmmmm, why yes - YES I DO! Maybe we should try to re-kindle our relationship.. Do something together like hunting or river rafting....

 

[john937]

You need to talk to a lawyer BEFORE YOU MOVE OUT.
It could make a big difference depending on the laws of your state.
You want to avoid having to continue paying for the house while she gets to keep it.
If you move out she may have additional leverage like "abandonment" to throw at you.
Don't tell her about the old girlfriend, and get any proof of illegal activities out of the house.
You don't want her to be able to hold a bottle of steroids up in court and make you appear evil.
If you're on cycle, go off. The last thing you need is to show up in court looking puffy moon face.

Meanwhile - rent the movie "War Of The Roses"

 

[VooDoo Lady]

Grow up - be a man - and live up to the committment you made to your wife

 

[Bikini Mod]

I don't see the need to get lawyers involved. Believe me when I tell you that they will only fuck things up worse!

If the law is equitable distribution it won't affect the outcome ANYWAY - it will only make THE SAME OUTCOME MORE EXPENSIVE.

Just sit down with her and talk it over. Tell her that you want a divorce and that you guys should consider how best to divide the assets and debt. 50/50 is what equitable distribution of marital assets means. If you had the house BEFORE you were married THAN IT CAN AND WILL REMAIN YOURS UNLESS YOU GIVE IT TO HER. Was she gainfully employed throughout the marriage? Can she continue to work? Then there is no reason for you to think that you will have to support her. Did she work while you were in school? Then, sorry she IS entitled to SOEMTHING. You will have to eat 1/2 the credit card debt (if there is any) and she can only have 1/2 IRA's, the house, etc IF these things were acquired throughout the course of the marriage.

STAY THE FUCK AWAY FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS WHO WILL PREACH, "FUCK THAT BITCH". They will only make matters worse and certainly will NOT help AT ALL. Just as I would try and tell her the same. Look for and print out the "divorce letter to Mr and Mrs Bikinimom" thread began by Temple. Even though you have no children, it STILL has a lot of good info about the feelings that surround a divorce.

Perhaps she may also want a divorce. The less you two fight, the sooner the divorce can be resolved, the sooner you two can BOTH move on and have a life.

Above all, remember:

HATE IS A VERY STRONG GLUE.

The sooner you both let it go, the sooner you will both be free.

 

[PlateheadJim]

I don't see the need to get lawyers involved. Believe me when I tell you that they will only fuck things up worse!

If the law is equitable distribution it won't affect the outcome ANYWAY - it will only make THE SAME OUTCOME MORE EXPENSIVE.

Just sit down with her and talk it over. Tell her that you want a divorce and that you guys should consider how best to divide the assets and debt. 50/50 is what equitable distribution of marital assets means. If you had the house BEFORE you were married THAN IT CAN AND WILL REMAIN YOURS UNLESS YOU GIVE IT TO HER. Was she gainfully employed throughout the marriage? Can she continue to work? Then there is no reason for you to think that you will have to support her. Did she work while you were in school? Then, sorry she IS entitled to SOEMTHING. You will have to eat 1/2 the credit card debt (if there is any) and she can only have 1/2 IRA's, the house, etc IF these things were acquired throughout the course of the marriage.

STAY THE FUCK AWAY FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS WHO WILL PREACH, "FUCK THAT BITCH". They will only make matters worse and certainly will NOT help AT ALL. Just as I would try and tell her the same. Look for and print out the "divorce letter to Mr and Mrs Bikinimom" thread began by Temple. Even though you have no children, it STILL has a lot of good info about the feelings that surround a divorce.

Perhaps she may also want a divorce. The less you two fight, the sooner the divorce can be resolved, the sooner you two can BOTH move on and have a life.

Above all, remember:

HATE IS A VERY STRONG GLUE.

The sooner you both let it go, the sooner you will both be free.

Nice advise! I agree. She did work while I was in college though (12 years ago)... We where just living together at the time but she put up the $$$. Of course I don't plan to be greedy and will gladly split the assets 50/50 - I have no ill will for her.

 

[NY Muscle]

Here comes a novel by bkmom.

LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

 

[PlateheadJim]

A SOAP OPERA

I haven't given the whole story I suppose... What triggered me to shut down was the ex-girlfriend I referred to in previous posts. I, a long time ago, had a choice of either her or my wife. I chose my wife because she was "safe"... Not because she was the "ONE" - that was the other girl whom I pissed all over.

 

[john937]

When I got divorced I assumed it was going to be an amiable divorce,
we both wanted divorce, she obviously cheated on me and I could prove it so I didn't expect any fight...
so she said she'd have a lawyer file the papers..yadayadada

I got screwed. I wound up with all the debt and had to pay for the lawyer.. We sold the house when the market was low, and the realtor fee came out of my pocket. I wish I had my own lawyer.
If you aren't represented by legal council, then your side comes up short.