Communication during Sex

[DIVISION]

In my experience I've had to really encourage the females I've been with to let me know what feels better and what they'd like at certain times. I know all the basics and can go by feel and the vibe, but it would help if women were more sexually assertive at times......(ie. taking me by the balls in certain situations, letting me know what they are in the mood for). I know it might seem contrived, but as in all things if communication is clear, it makes the experience that much more intimate and complete.

I'd appreciate comments from both sexes on this......preferably mature.




DIV

 

[Gymgurl]

I think younger women tend to be less vocal about this....you need to teach them to talk to you and build some trust there first.....The more you talk to her the more she will talk back....however some women are not going to be aggressive in bed.

 

[DIVISION]

I think younger women tend to be less vocal about this....you need to teach them to talk to you and build some trust there first.....The more you talk to her the more she will talk back....however some women are not going to be aggressive in bed.

Yes, I know, Gymgurl....

However, I want them to do it out of their own volition......if I have to mentor them the whole way, it kind of spoils some of the innocence and sexual exploration they must learn along the way.

I want to help as little as possible, in order for them to empower themselves and learn to speak up about what they want.....

I want them to get over their fears and insecurities......(ie the words, phrases, moaning, growling, screaming).



DIV

 

[marshallmadman]

I am with a girl currently that I feel that I can say anything to in bed. Absolutely anything. She does the same in return. It is the most awesome sex I have ever had. A totally connected feeling. When they won't convey their feelings to you, it feels like you are merely using their vagina as nothing more than an apparatus to jack off with. I want someone in the moment with me.

 

[DIVISION]

I am with a girl currently that I feel that I can say anything to in bed. Absolutely anything. She does the same in return. It is the most awesome sex I have ever had. A totally connected feeling. When they won't convey their feelings to you, it feels like you are merely using their vagina as nothing more than an apparatus to jack off with. I want someone in the moment with me.

^^^Now THAT'S GANGSTA!

Props and Respect, BabyMarshall....

I'm happy for ya'......



DIV

 

[CantankerousCanook]

She can talk after I take out the gag

 

[BUBBLES]

It feels strange telling someone what to do during sex, it kind of takes out that magical moment and it turns it into a sex learning class. Using moans is ok but too much talking will probably interrupt the intimacy of the sex.

 

[wetback]

Hey Div,

As you know me and hubby have been together for 16 years. We started young(I was 17) and it wasn't comfortable for me to be "vocal" about things. But I guess in time things change. Now I have no problems telling him where to go and what I want LOL.............I do agree with GymGirl though, some women will NEVER be aggresive and will never feel comfortable speaking\acting out. I feel "good" sex doesn't really kick in until your 30's anyway. That's usually when you feel most comfortable with your body and who you are. Now this doesn't apply to everyone it just worked that wat for us, or I should say me. Hope my $.02 helped you out

Ms.

 

[*MissFit*]

Firdst time together not always easy.. but i think you have to be able to express ikes and dislikes otherwsie yuo will enver be truly satisfied.. and i also think age does have alot to do with it.. as gymgirl said

also good to laugh.. whent hings don't always go as planned..
That's another thread

 

[rsnoble-im-back]

When im banging my wife it's the only time im allowed to call her BITCH! And I take full advantage of it!

 

[BIGPAPA511]

When im banging my wife it's the only time im allowed to call her BITCH! And I take full advantage of it!

I always feel like I got clown suits on the first time I am with someone. The the more you have sex it is like a well oiled baseball glove it just fits right. I think that after you have established a good comfort level with a person is when you start haveing good sex. I say the fist 3-5 times is like a good job interview after 5 they should be comfortible enough with you and you can decide if they have the job or not. I have a funny story I got hooked up with this girl threw my buddy and his girl the fist time we saw one another the chemistry was just weird. We had a great physical attraction and in about ten days from the first time I met her we had sex at my place in the middle of the day it was like we had fucking clown suites on. After a couple more weeks of sex with one another everything was awsome we would both go home sick from work and have sex mid day like wild fucking animals. Comfort levels just take a little time some times. Sorry for the long post!

 

[rsnoble-im-back]

I always feel like I got clown suits on the first time I am with someone. The the more you have sex it is like a well oiled baseball glove it just fits right. I think that after you have established a good comfort level with a person is when you start haveing good sex. I say the fist 3-5 times is like a good job interview after 5 they should be comfortible enough with you and you can decide if they have the job or not. I have a funny story I got hooked up with this girl threw my buddy and his girl the fist time we saw one another the chemistry was just weird. We had a great physical attraction and in about ten days from the first time I met her we had sex at my place in the middle of the day it was like we had fucking clown suites on. After a couple more weeks of sex with one another everything was awsome we would both go home sick from work and have sex mid day like wild fucking animals. Comfort levels just take a little time some times. Sorry for the long post!

Has Crak been preaching to you about cliffnotes again?

 

[DIVISION]

When im banging my wife it's the only time im allowed to call her BITCH! And I take full advantage of it!

When the sex is intense and you're so deep inside her both mentally and physically that you feel almost as one, it's very natural for a woman to want to be called names, ravished, and dominated...

As a guy, that's when you need to take full advantage and absolutely devastate her, close down and punish her to the fullest extent....That time is yOURS. The harder you work and the more you push yourself, the more gratification you will feel when it's all over and you are both laying on each other...sweaty, and exhausted.....



DIV

 

[Puddles]

I was not exactly shy when I was younger but not very outgoing either. As I got older I gained more confidence and was not afraid to ask for what I wanted. If we're going at it I'll tell him if I want something different, otherwise I will give verbal praises.

Things I'll say:

Oh yeah, right there, that feels good!

Harder...fuck me harder!

Just like that...you're gonna make me cum.

I want to feel you cum in my ass.

Don't stop!

(while he's getting me worked up orally) I want you to fuck me, NOW.

 

[DIVISION]

I want to feel you cum in my ass.

Hearing a girl say that with true intent is ecstacy.

That's pure motivation, right there!




DIV

 

[marshallmadman]

I was not exactly shy when I was younger but not very outgoing either. As I got older I gained more confidence and was not afraid to ask for what I wanted. If we're going at it I'll tell him if I want something different, otherwise I will give verbal praises.

Things I'll say:

Oh yeah, right there, that feels good!

Harder...fuck me harder!

Just like that...you're gonna make me cum.

I want to feel you cum in my ass.

Don't stop!

(while he's getting me worked up orally) I want you to fuck me, NOW.

That's what I love about my girl. She just called me on the phone not 5 minutes ago, and told me that she wants me inside her, and that she wants to feel my cum go down her throat. What a freak! I love that shit!

 

[DIVISION]

That's what I love about my girl. She just called me on the phone not 5 minutes ago, and told me that she wants me inside her, and that she wants to feel my cum go down her throat. What a freak! I love that shit!

I would tend to believe you are a lucky lil' fuckface.....

You'd better appreciate that shit while you have her......or she may be taken by another man.....




DIV

 

[sigweed]

It feels strange telling someone what to do during sex, it kind of takes out that magical moment and it turns it into a sex learning class. Using moans is ok but too much talking will probably interrupt the intimacy of the sex.

im with you on

i remember in HS i was makin with this chick who hadn't had a lot of experience, well she straight up asked me to teach her how to give a handjob... well suffice to say that totally killed the mood for me cause i kinda felt bad about the whole thing anyways

 

[DIVISION]

im with you on

i remember in HS i was makin with this chick who hadn't had a lot of experience, well she straight up asked me to teach her how to give a handjob... well suffice to say that totally killed the mood for me cause i kinda felt bad about the whole thing anyways

I think your perspective is flawed, Siggy...

You should have looked at it as a learning experience, a very useful one.

Not to mention you had an overwilling participant.

Why would you let it kill the mood, you should have taught her how to give a nice handjob.....perhaps she'd then ask you to teach her how to give head.

Canadians.....





DIV

 

[BUBBLES]

im with you on

i remember in HS i was makin with this chick who hadn't had a lot of experience, well she straight up asked me to teach her how to give a handjob... well suffice to say that totally killed the mood for me cause i kinda felt bad about the whole thing anyways

I had a similar experience that is why I like something more subtle but each with their own and whatever work for them.

I am not saying there is a right and wrong either.

 

[TheOak84]

i just ask her if she likes it, and what she wants. then she answers, and i come.. maybe i should stop asking so quickly

 

[DIVISION]

i just ask her if she likes it, and what she wants. then she answers, and i come.. maybe i should stop asking so quickly

You almost singlehandedly killed my thread.

I'm wondering if I could please Dana better than you.




DIV

 

[ChefWide]

It feels strange telling someone what to do during sex, it kind of takes out that magical moment and it turns it into a sex learning class. Using moans is ok but too much talking will probably interrupt the intimacy of the sex.

"HOLY FUCKING SHIT YESSSSSSSSSSSS!!! RIGHT::: FUCKING:::: THERE!!!!!! OH GOD YESSSSSS!!!!!"


I think that rasped out of a sweat covered, panting, wild eyed woman with her nails in my back doesnt interupt the intimacy one bit. But thats me.