Hmmm. If you are going for hardness, then my answer will not suit you. However, if you want a good look without sticky shit or dandruff-like flakes going on, I can help.
Paul Mitchel's Conditioner. Use a pearl or two of it as a gel while your hair is still somewhat damp. Massage it in and then style it.
Fantastic stuff. I just bought some more, as my hair is getting longer again.
If something happens to fuck up your hair, you can just throw some water on your hair and restyle it, applying another pearl if you feel you really need it. Or, alternatively, you can just run your fingers through your hair (assuming the spiking was somewhat uniform), and the general shape, although more diffuse, should remain intact, and will look very natural.
It will also make your hair feel softer to girls who run their fingers through it.
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Hope that helped.