Big Johnson said:
Who said anything about it being good to walk away from parenthood, male or female?
Go back and reread what I wrote before you start ranting, Bmom.
ME, ranting? I typed two sentences that were tongue-in-cheek just to level the playing field a bit as it were. Perhaps you should be the one rereading posts.
Damn, and I am the one that comes off as being crazy.
Big Johnson said:
If you think that this in anyway applies to a you, its not an intentional reference. I'm talking about mothers who resent single, childless men, or mothers who are just looking to "fill the void" and could care less who the ensnared male is. To the best of my knowledge, this doesn't apply to you. Or, does it?
Darlin' I never for one second thought that you were talking about me. I automatically assumed that you were talking about the average 17 to 24 year old who laid down with some dude, got pregnant by said jackass and thought that she was doing "the fashionable and noble thing by choosing life".
As I said, I merely typed two tongue-in-cheek sentences...
Big Johnson said:
Besides, we aren't talking about men here, Bmom. I've had it pounded into my head for the last thirty years about how horrible we males are. We lie. We cheat. We skip out on our families. We beat our wives. BULLSHIT. Its getting old. ESPECIALLY when it comes from women, who NOW are statistically more likely to verbally, psychologically, and physically abuse thier spouses than men are, are more likely to cheat and lie about it, etc., etc.
Pointing the finger at men doesn't change the fact that many single mothers sometimes resent this responsibility while at the same time outwardly claiming they'd have it no other way, or that single mothers often look at men in terms of, "how well can he take care of my child," instead of looking at the human being.
How lame.
Ummmm, if one is going to go off and rant about women they must be able to "defend" men. Sorry Darlin' but all that shit that was pounded into your head is sadly, and admittedly often times TRUE. You can't say Jack shit because this comes out of the mouths OF MEN....
And as for a single mother only judging a perspective mate by who he is as a human being, you are incredibly NAIVE. There are many wonderful men on this planet that are great human beings, but not nearly good enough to be around my girls. Sorry, call me any name you want, but that is how I feel. Just because I dig you doesn't mean that you will enjoy the pleasure of being around MY girls.
Oh yes, I can and DO take care of my children. And they also have a father. As big an asshole as he can be a large percentage of the time, I can't change the fact that he is it. So no man will or has ever to feel the need that they will take his place. HOWEVER, any man that will be lucky enough to come into my family will know one thing: though he will NEVER by my children's father he can give my girls the one thing that their father NEVER CAN and NEVER COULD - THAT IS, THAT HE WILL LOVE THIER MOTHER.
Big Johnson said:
Oh, and the mail order bride thing was a bit of a joke. But, if I have to search another country for an honest, loyal, compassionate human being to live the rest of my life with, I will.
Finally, about the mail order thing -
I thought that it was quite funny too and that is why I said what I said.
PS - I guess you didn't know that I traveled all the way to France to "be found" by a man, huh?