A "Normal Life"

[Zerxes]

Do you ever get the feeling that no matter how much those of us who refuse to admit that the "normal life" (Hubby, Wife, Kids) thing isn't for them, sometimes it just seems that that is actually what might be the ONE FUCKING THING that you have yet to try in order to achieve happiness?? I mean, I have been such a reckloose all my 31 years, and always said that that shit wasn't for me, but now I'm not so sure. All this freedom has never brought me the companionship I really want nowadays. All these fucking skanky woman who are really good in bed, are starting to wear on my opinion of the fairer sex quite frankly, and I don't want to end up bitter. So, I'm gonna looks for a good girl I think, and maybe see about getting some "normal" semblance of a life together, and see where that leads. So the bottom line is, I aint joining the B.I.T.C.H.S club afterall. I needed to vent that after all this shit that went down with my ex-wifey the last few weeks, so sorry. I am just starting to come out of my mental "fog" over the whole shitty situation. I spent the last couple of weeks drowing my sorrows in ways that are not worth doing at her expense, and now I'm ready to take ME back. So that was my vent. Thanks if you listened.

 

[Drunken_Weasel]

Good choice. For some reason, I am only 18, and I already have this need that you are just coming upon. I have no urge for 1 night stands, or short flings. I have the urge for companionship, for LOVE.

Im very glad for you, and I hope you find someone that you love, and that loves you. Good Luck.

 

[Pamela]

I hope you find someone to fill your heart with LOTS OF LOVE!!

 

[2Thick]

We are listening.

Have you pushed women away before?

 

[Zerxes]

We are listening.

Have you pushed women away before?

No. Well here's what I have seen with girls who I normally go out with(Strippers, easy-access girls): A girl like that sees a man as interesting if(and only if) he doesn't cut off his other options and devote himself whole-heartedly to her. Once that happens(guy cuts off his other options) the girl he is with doesn't see him as "unattainable" as she may have initially, because now he is devoting himself to her, even though she may have said that is what she always wanted, blah, blah, blah. What I want is a girl who won't hold it against me that I WANT to give up my options and be with only her. I want a girl who will appreciate that, rather than see it as a weakness, and hence a detraction from my attraction, if that makes sense. So that being said, it is just the opposite bro. I go out with women who don't appreciate me any further than my bank account or my penis, and I'm sick of it. I have been the one who is "pushed away", but only because I go after the wrong type of woman, and that is what I want so BADLY to change. Like Moms said to me the other night though....."It's all about the choices you make"! Wise words.

 

[2Thick]

No.So that being said, it is just the opposite bro. I go out with women who don't appreciate me any further than my bank account or my penis, and I'm sick of it. I have been the one who is "pushed away", but only because I go after the wrong type of woman, and that is what I want so BADLY to change. Like Moms said to me the other night though....."It's all about the choices you make"! Wise words.

It will be a difficult transition mainly because you will need to open yourself up and that means you probably will be hurt and hurt badly.

It seems that you found comfort in something that was guaranteed to be temporary. I am here to say that it is a difficult game because it is the blind leading the blind. Neither one of you will know what is next and that is where the escitement (and danger comes in).

Finding the one you are looking for will involve heartache. Are you ready for that?

 

[Zerxes]

It will be a difficult transition mainly because you will need to open yourself up and that means you probably will be hurt and hurt badly.

It seems that you found comfort in something that was guaranteed to be temporary. I am here to say that it is a difficult game because it is the blind leading the blind. Neither one of you will know what is next and that is where the escitement (and danger comes in).

Finding the one you are looking for will involve heartache. Are you ready for that?

Better to have loved & lost........ Your quote about the temporary thing is true though. Story of my life.

 

[vinylgroover]

I'm pretty tired of looking to be honest Zerx. No bitterness or angst, but just haven't seen anything out there to really motivate me about doing the chasing thing again. People have changed bro, both men and women.

 

[Zerxes]

I'm pretty tired of looking to be honest Zerx. No bitterness or angst, but just haven't seen anything out there to really motivate me about doing the chasing thing again. People have changed bro, both men and women.

YYYUP! What used to be "ice that needed broken" is now a fucking iron curtain. Its a bitch breaking the walls down, if that makes sense.

 

[Bigsatan13]

What is normal to some is outrageous to another.
I have a wild life but I consider it normal and wouldn't have it any other way. I'll tell stories from my weekends at work and the guys can't believe it. I only tell them the mild shit too. The key is to become happy with yourself and it's all gravy from there.

 

[Ceebs]

I wonder sometimes if love is just an evolutionary response to keep us propagating the species... not that it makes it any less valid an emotion, but it is a chemical reaction, and not much different from pouring vinegar on baking soda and watching it bubble.

Happiness is not a snatch you can catch, grasshoppa. It's easy to get caught up in the drug-like euphoria that infatuation and companionship bring, but ultimately it has to come from you. I wish you luck in your pursuit - from reading your posts, you seem like a cool guy, and you deserve good things.