Does Your Wife/Girlfriend Get MAD when You Check out Other Chicks?

[curling]

I mean we(dudes) can't help it. We are programmed to look. I mean it is like a dog when you throw a bone he is going to check it out. We don't mean nothing by it afterall we are with YOU! I mean what is the deal with throwing such a fit are we going to run over to her in the busy restaurant and get down? Come on. Lighten up chicks we are just looking not touching.

We're men that's what we do. And if some pussy guy says he don't look at other girls when he is out with his. He is a freak'n liar!

 

[Big Buck]

That's why u date bi-sexual girls so they'll look too....

 

[Kakdiesel]

this has got to be either a rhetorical question or bullshit.no flame...and i know people say theres no such thing as stupid questions, just stupid answers...but cmon

wouldnt you get piss if she was checkin out some bigger more shredded guy than you and said, "damn why cant you be built like him?"

Girls get horny too and everybody likes to think about strange every now and then playa

no flame man, just bein real with ya

 

[WombRaider]

I've always wanted a bi girlfriend..... any tips/techniques for attaining this?

 

[Kakdiesel]

Finding bisexual girls is like finding a girlfriend...you cant go looking cuz you wont find it..it has to come to you most of the time..


for example, I'll just meet a girl and we'll talk about sex and out of the blue she'll say something about how she's had a 3 way before or how she has done lesbian shit before too.

I always "stumble" across bi girls..its crazy..

I dont know any "tips" but I know there are more out there than you might think

 

[The_RAIDER]

My wife make points them out to me if I miss them.
As long as I'm giving it only to her, and I don't make a spectacle of myself while checkin them out, she could care less...

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Scoop her eyeballs out.

Problem solved.

 

[curling]

Kat,

That's cool dude. But I don't get mad if she checks out a dude unless she makes it too obvious. Which I try not to do but damn sometimes the chick in question is just too hot to take your eyes of if you know what I mean. Then I guess I deserve the tongue lashing after that.

 

[luv2workout]

want a chicks perspective??

It never bothered me much until I met my husband because he is one of those guys who would deny that he even looked in the vicinity of another woman..but I catch him ALL the time...that is what pisses me off...It happens on a daily basis - really every where we go...any of my other boyfriends - we would discuss whether or not this girl was pretty or not and none of them ever seemed to be so looky looky....but this situation is totally different - I cant really explain it...

 

[WombRaider]

SG and juice,
Your tactics are definitely effective, but probably not conducive to a long term relationship. I like the bi angle, however.. Anyone have a bi GF and gets to have fun regularly?

 

[theoak01]

i look occasionally and ive been known to yell out of car windows just for fun,my girlfriend is pretty easy going and laughs cuz she knows shes hott and that i dont want them and i prefer her

 

[curling]

luv2workout,

I can see why you get mad because he denies it. Nobody likes to be lied to. You should do the same check some dudes and then deny it and see how he likes it.

 

[luv2workout]

curling

Im think Im going to try that!
He lies about everything..this is the same man who rented 65.00 in porno while I was out of town and when I got the bill - he denied it..Like I was supposed to believe that someone broke into our house - and only rented some movies......

 

[velvett]

I check out everybody - so how could I get mad if a beau did too.


...it's what he does behind my back that would piss me off (and no I don't mean just looking.)

 

[curling]

$65? Damn that's alot of porno. I bet his dick was raw after that weekend.

 

[luv2workout]

He rented 5 while I was out of town and then a couple more when I would leave to go play tennis or workout..I never would have thought that's what he was doing..I was shocked really...this man cant ever get enough sex either..Im beginning to think he has some sexual hangups or something

 

[strongchick]

yes, my boyfriend gets mad when I look at other women.

 

[curling]

yes, my boyfriend gets mad when I look at other women.

I wouldn't.

Luv2,

How long did you date this dude before you got hitched? As far as the sex thing is he on a cycle right now?

 

[THeMaCHinE]

Ogling other women in sight of your wife is a serious sign of disrespect. Looking briefly is another thing. If you're staring in such a manner as to piss your SO off, you're probably ogling.

When I'm out with my wife, I don't harldly notice other women. I'm there with her and I'll make it a point not to stare at other women by purposely turning my back to hotties, etc... Not saying I don't notice a beautiful woman, that's obviously not true, but I'm in it for the long haul, so I will show her, and our relationship, respect.

 

[luv2workout]

Cycle?? LOL!! He's probly only stepped foot in the gym 4 x's and one of those in when he went to get a massage!! Oh Im in a mood today! I dated him about two years or so, but back then I believed his lies..that was the whole problem..I truly thought that he was telling the truth - boy was I an idiot!! Ive gotten letters in the mail from other women - He claims to not know who the hell the are..and I believed him..one lie after another......Im finally waking up, but the very sad thing is that you cant change someone - you cant make them tell the truth and once youve been lied to - you start thinking everything they say is a lie and that's where Im at right now...

 

[luv2workout]

Ogling other women in sight of your wife is a serious sign of disrespect. Looking briefly is another thing. If you're staring in such a manner as to piss your SO off, you're probably ogling.

When I'm out with my wife, I don't harldly notice other women. I'm there with her and I'll make it a point not to stare at other women by purposely turning my back to hotties, etc... Not saying I don't notice a beautiful woman, that's obviously not true, but I'm in it for the long haul, so I will show her, and our relationship, respect.

Yet another reason why I LOVE this man! What a sweetie!

 

[pauly]

I just appreciate beauty. If a girl looks good, I point it out to her, same goes for guys.

 

[rudedawg]

Ogling other women in sight of your wife is a serious sign of disrespect. Looking briefly is another thing. If you're staring in such a manner as to piss your SO off, you're probably ogling.

When I'm out with my wife, I don't harldly notice other women. I'm there with her and I'll make it a point not to stare at other women by purposely turning my back to hotties, etc... Not saying I don't notice a beautiful woman, that's obviously not true, but I'm in it for the long haul, so I will show her, and our relationship, respect.

Ditto..... altho I might still look.... I try not to get caught and if I do I will make some lame ass remark about her, shirt, shorts, pants, fake tits/nose/eyes/lips etc...

 

[THeMaCHinE]

Yet another reason why I LOVE this man! What a sweetie!

Luvs, you make me smile

I'm getting a little upset over your post though. I hate to be the one to break it to you, but it sounds like your H might be playing around on you... letters in the mail (and his secretive behavior in general) IS NOT a good sign. Have you opened any of the letters and read them? Can you check his e-mail? Normally, I wouldn't advocate these type of things, but it sounds like you have suspicions already. And I absolutely believe in finding out the truth -- even if it is a bad truth.

BTW, a person CAN change, IF they're willing. Just because things aren't as good as they once were, doesn't mean it has to stay that way. Have you spent any time on www.marriagebuilders.com -- check it out, starting with the basic needs. It is POWERFUL, LIFE-CHANGING stuff. But it isn't easy. EM me if you want to talk.

I hope I'm wrong about your H.

MACHINE

 

[curling]

Ogling other women in sight of your wife is a serious sign of disrespect. Looking briefly is another thing. If you're staring in such a manner as to piss your SO off, you're probably ogling.

Well, I try not to ogle to often.(if I do that is when she gets mad). Try to be inconpicuous as possible. Looking at chicks is just a weakness of mine. I don't do em or nothing I just like to look. They are like looking at a pretty flower to some green thumb nut to me. Should I get help? Because I think chicks are the prettiest thing on our planet.

Luv2,

I'm really sorry to hear about your problems. I hope they work out. Maybe just sit down and have a heart to heart with him.

 

[THeMaCHinE]

Well, I try not to ogle to often.(if I do that is when she gets mad). Try to be inconpicuous as possible. Looking at chicks is just a weakness of mine. I don't do em or nothing I just like to look. They are like looking at a pretty flower to some green thumb nut to me. Should I get help? Because I think chicks are the prettiest thing on our planet.

If it's to the point where it is impacting your relationship with your wife in a negative way, and you are unable to change the behavior that is causing the negative impact, then yes, you should get help.

 

[WombRaider]

luv2,
your husband has something on the side, trust me. i'll put $100 on it no prob. you need to get out of it b4 he brings home an unexpected 'gift' (STD, crabs, etc..). i feel bad for your situation, there's too much of this kind of shit going on today. it's like no one gives a shit about anyone else anymore. anyhoo, press the eject button ASAP and clear yourself of this.

 

[curling]

No its not that bad. I am pretty discreet most of the time. But it never fails when you see the prettiest chicks your ole dady is with you.

 

[THeMaCHinE]

luv2,
your husband has something on the side, trust me. i'll put $100 on it no prob. you need to get out of it b4 he brings home an unexpected 'gift' (STD, crabs, etc..). i feel bad for your situation, there's too much of this kind of shit going on today. it's like no one gives a shit about anyone else anymore. anyhoo, press the eject button ASAP and clear yourself of this.

Don't start advocating an end to the relationship yet. It's not always (or even the most often) way these things end up once exposed. It can be worked through. Marriages should not be ended until all other options, no matter how caustic, are exhausted.

There's not even any proof that the guy is doing anything in the first place. Or an acknowledgement that it MIGHT be happening.

I for one, hope I am totally off base with this one. Just don't get a good feeling, and don't like to see somebody in the 'dark'.

 

[luv2workout]

I have thought about it and it hurts He owns a big truck (Peterbuilt) and drives for himself...He is usually home every night ,out of town occasionally but the business he is in there is NO way to check on him...He is all over the place..He could be screwin half the state of Louisiana and I would never know....
I recently bought a voice activated tape recorder...I was going to hide it in his truck, but I cant seem to get the guts to put it in there...I feel guilty almost for even suspecting....I did open and read the letter he received in the mail and I tried like hell to find out all I could but it led no where...
My brother got drunk and confessed to me that when he rode w/my H and few mts. ago - he was all over girls (just flirting though) of course he denied it all...so I dont know anything else to do - I havent CAUGHT him so far, I never know if he is lying or telling the truth...Im just at a standstill...Im just trying to stay strong (dont know if its working though) and be the best person I can be...

Machine - I did look at that website..I really need to spend more time there..I just feel like I cant do it all by myself..you know...You are an awesome guy and your wife is one lucky lady!! I love your heart

 

[manny78]

a lot...... but im use to it....

 

[curling]

Luv2workout,

Man that breaks my heart just reading your post. Keep your chin up camper.


Also I hate to ask this but how is your sex life with your ole man? Are ya'll pretty regular or do either you or him shoot down advances from the other? Sometimes a guy will stray if he isn't getting enough at home. So maybe flood him with it for a while and see how that works out.

 

[luv2workout]

One word to describe him - SEX ADDICT - the man cant get enough....If he were to stray, it would not be for a lack of on my part...

Thanks for all of yalls sweet and encouraging words..they mean so much to me right now....

 

[vixenbabe]

Luvs- Sorry!

If I recall, you are a very pretty lady as well!

Don't let it get to you...Men are such visual "creature's".

YOU CAN LOOK JUST AS LONG AS YOU DON'T TOUCH IS OUR MOTTO!

I point to the hotties for my hubby..but he's so sweet and says I'm hotter...Even if it's not true, he's so sweet saying that to me!Bastard better, OR he'd be eatin pop tarts for dinner 7 days a week...hehehe

Let your eyes wander- it'll make him mad as hell I bet!

 

[big4life]

There is nothing wrong with looking, just make sure the lady you are with knows you are still with her. Treat her with respect and she probably will understand, if she does not understand, maybe you need to look at your actions, maybe you went overboard in your looking.

 

[karde]

My GF points out other chicks to me! lol

 

[Frackal]

Ogling other women in sight of your wife is a serious sign of disrespect. Looking briefly is another thing. If you're staring in such a manner as to piss your SO off, you're probably ogling.

When I'm out with my wife, I don't harldly notice other women. I'm there with her and I'll make it a point not to stare at other women by purposely turning my back to hotties, etc... Not saying I don't notice a beautiful woman, that's obviously not true, but I'm in it for the long haul, so I will show her, and our relationship, respect.

Yep..besides...what happens if you're chick is the hottest one there?

 

[smallmovesal]

My GF points out other chicks to me! lol

lol that's just like me too!

 

[THeMaCHinE]

Luvs

Hang in there. You are not alone. You should not feel guilty over the actions that you have taken. It sounds more like you are afraid to find out for sure (and who wouldn't be?). But deep down, you already know, right?

I implore you to find a good individual/marriage counselor. Most insurance plans will cover it (individual counseling -- couples counseling is usually not covered, but easily can be if you know how to approach it ((EM me for details))). Start out individually and let it progress to couples (if he will even take part). This type of thing lives with you and eats at you each moment of the day. I know. It can really put a downer on your outlook and be a severe confidence-killer to boot. If you ask around, you can probably find a good counselor, if not that way, start with the phone book and ask questions. I have been through this process first-hand and cannot express how much it helped me on an individual level.

Knowing or not knowing for sure is really secondary at this point. It sounds like there are other issues. Having somebody that is professionally trained and unbiased can make a world of difference. You have to take the first step though. Remember, there are no dress rehearsals in life, this is it. Do this for yourself, and for your relationship.

There is a great discussion board over at www.marriagebuilders.com -- lots of good folks over there. Might be a good place to lurk and/or vent. Some good books to read include: LOVE MUST BE TOUGH by James Dobson, RELATIONSHIP RESCUE by Phil McGraw, HIS NEEDS/HER NEEDS by William Harley, GIVE AND TAKE and SURVIVING AN AFFAIR (also by Harley) are also excellent reads. (SUA is an excellent read whether or not there has been an affair)

You are a good person. You deserve to be respected and loved. There are people out there for you if things can't be worked out. You do not have to be alone, and nor are you. Many, many people are in your situation. This may be just the thing to get you back on path with your H. To shake things up a little bit.

Stay tough and listen to your instincts.

Again, EM me if you want to talk or vent.

*hug*
MACHINE

 

[luv2workout]

Machine

Thank you, thank you, thank you....I will email you today...