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The K&Y His+Hers lube that comes in like test tubes? comments? Im thinking of buying one for when my husband gets here...
Has anyone tried this?
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I think it's actually called K&Y Yours+Mine 
So 30+ people have seen this thread and no posts? I guess no one has used it 
Waverly6969
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Hi, I have actually tried this stuff. It was definitely interesting. Was very warm. Strangely, it almost made it feel tighter.
At first, the woman I was with said it felt strange. But she did end up having a great orgasm.
At first, the woman I was with said it felt strange. But she did end up having a great orgasm.
did u try the blue and purple or strawberry and chocolate waverly?
Waverly6969
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It was blue and purple tubes. I didn't know they had different colors/flavors.
Tried it my gf didn't like it as it burned/irritated her which really blew for me. Might want to try some alone so you don't ruin the moment...
pbhardbody
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There are soooo many chemicals in most personal lubricants, and it's stuff that, frankly, a lot of people aren't necessarily tolerant of (propylene glycol is my personal favorite, a lot of people are intolerant of it, but don't know they can't tolerate it because it's so pervasive). Read the labels on lubes, talk about stuff you definitely don't want near your bits and pieces *shudders*
kx250rider
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Never tried it, but we use plain K-Y if needed sometimes, or very rarely my wife uses a small amount of Emla gel (basically K-Y with lidocaine in it), in case she's sore for any reason. I think the other stuff is all a bunch of marketing hype.
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Waverly6969
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I tried one of those vibrating cock rings made by condom companies. Not very good. The placement of it didn't really hit her directly on her clit, and apparently the vibration wasn't very strong (that's what she said!)
I agree those vibrating rings barely vibrate, I never really need lube but want to try something dif with hubby when he gets here...
If you want one of those vibrating rings you have to go to a sex shop or order it online, the "disposable" kind isn't going to have any motor power.
Honey, the only thing you're gonna need when you and hubby get together for the first time after a long separation is a sexy piece of lingerie and a nice wax job
You dont know this man... he was zero intrigued about the K&Y when I told him....If you want one of those vibrating rings you have to go to a sex shop or order it online, the "disposable" kind isn't going to have any motor power.
Honey, the only thing you're gonna need when you and hubby get together for the first time after a long separation is a sexy piece of lingerie and a nice wax job
Well, Nan, I've told you before (and please take no offence) I don't get your relationship. I can't understand spending the best years of your life with someone whose sex drive isn't in at least relatively synchronous with yours. To me it seems like a recipe for relationship disaster sooner or later. It just seems like it's got to be incredibly demoralizing to you.You dont know this man... he was zero intrigued about the K&Y when I told him....
Well it is, but I guess I feel most of the good in him compensate that one area, we get along in almost everything but that....
I'm not saying anything about him as a person as I don't know the man. I'm just speaking as someone who is 45 and has been married (to two different men) since she was 18 and I'm telling you, a successful relationship is about caring about meeting the needs of your partner.
My first relationship had major issues from the word go, but the straw that broke the camel's back, so to speak, was when he started rejecting my sexual advances. He literally showered me with stuff. Holidays were like BestBuy, Kay Jewelers and Victoria's Secret exploded in my house. But he also used all sorts of ways to control the relationship. I kept becoming who I was though, so he started rejecting me sexually, more power control. That's when I quit. I had put up with a lot of shit but I had hit overload. He became too much work to put up with and the stuff he kept giving me to make up for the fact he was emotionally distant just irritated the fucking shit out of me.
In hindsight, the absolute truth is he didn't really understand or care about my feelings or what I really needed or wanted on an intellectual/emotional level. I was a possession. He had fallen in love with the image of me, his ideal, but the truth was the person I was on the inside was not what I was when I dressed up to go out on a date. We were radically different people (we didn't know each other very long before we got married). As he came to know who I really was he didn't like or understand me, and the feeling was mutual. Honestly, if I hadn't gotten pregnant one month after we were married I probably would have divorced him before the year was out. I've often wondered if half the reason he said he wanted the baby so much was so I wouldn't leave him because he sure as shit was a rotten father.
t3st
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Well I am a horndog and could do it every minute of every day and I think that I have ruined a few relationships by caring about sex to much. Just saying. Sometimes I think you have to find a middle ground.
Her husband only has sex with her about once a month, if I recall correctly he isn't really enthusiastic about it when it does happen, and puts her off the rest of the time whereas she has a normal drive. There is nothing medically wrong with him. This is old territory.
Simply put, either extreme is not healthy or sustainable when both partners aren't on board.
there were point hat yea sex was once a month, in the last year or so it got better to like 2 maybe 4 times a month (weekly) which is really less that I want but I have a very high sex drive, when we do it he does perform quite well most of the time, but I always have to initiate and if I touch him in a sexual/intimate way out of the blue he will get angry for not "respecting his body" .... yeah it's weird... but I guess I decided to take it as is and live with it, I rather be with him with these circumstances and not with another guy who sexes me up all night every night, putting the sexual issues a side I am pretty happy with him, with the separation I thought maybe things would change but A. he told me "good luck with that" about the K&Y (he later did seem a bit more enthusiastic) B. I shouldnt really expect things to change if I truly decided to stay with him as is which I did so I am no longer expecting much when he comes here... I dont think it has much to do with me, I think he has some sort of hang up or trauma that causes this to happen, he isnt very sexual at all, no porn no toys no anal, no fantasies, sex just isnt on his mind much until I remind him at which point he'll be busy or not in the mood or jump right in.....
Generally speaking, my current husband and I are about once a weekers, too. We both react really badly to stress (unusual for a man, but it totally puts him off) so weekends and vacations are our busy times. But we're very "touchy feely" we snuggle, hug, touch, even hold hands when we're just walking around and stuff. I think if my husband ever got angry at me for just touching him out of the blue I'd be utterly devastated. Our bodies are each others spaces, if that makes sense.
I can certainly understand a man with a low drive, I can't imagine one who doesn't want to have fun at all with an adventurous partner. Usually it's men complaining their wives are too vanilla.
It does sound like he might have had something very ugly happen to him once upon a time and he won't deal with it, which is so sad, because it's an injury that continues to hurt him and is now hurting you. Perhaps someday he'll consider speaking to someone or maybe you two can work on it together in counseling if he won't go by himself.
Funny, shamanism has a ritual for just this sort of problem, it's called soul retrieval. It comes to mind because I just got a book about it not too long ago. Basically, shamans believe that when a person suffers a severe enough trauma (and what qualifies as trauma varies from person to person) a part of their soul can get broken off and lost in the lower world. It's the loss of that soul fragment that causes the person to be unable to fully recover from the traumatic experience. The woman who wrote the book is actually a therapist and uses the soul retrieval ritual in the course of therapeutic work and claims she's had good results.
I'm rambling, don't mind me, I have work to do and I'm procrastinating ...
and can a shaman fix him? 
Last time we had "the talk" we almost broke up and he was pretty desperate to stay together i'd never seen him like that he actually suggested therapy but instead i just decided to accept him as he is and he did improve a great deal,....
He also likes sex mostly in the mornings, i guess he likes to take advantage of morning wood
Last time we had "the talk" we almost broke up and he was pretty desperate to stay together i'd never seen him like that he actually suggested therapy but instead i just decided to accept him as he is and he did improve a great deal,....
He also likes sex mostly in the mornings, i guess he likes to take advantage of morning wood
Underwraps
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and can a shaman fix him?
Last time we had "the talk" we almost broke up and he was pretty desperate to stay together i'd never seen him like that he actually suggested therapy but instead i just decided to accept him as he is and he did improve a great deal,....
He also likes sex mostly in the mornings, i guess he likes to take advantage of morning wood
Oh, no, you should definately get him to go to counseling while the idea is still warm! I don't have time right now to add my 2 cents from my perspective, but you can probably guess a lot of it from my stories. Tell him he can go by himself OR with you - whichever he feels is most comfortable. It is not normal and he needs to address it b/c whatever harmed him may only get worse in the future and manifest in other ways besides the low interest in sex. Let's say you have a child and if he has fears, it can affect his parenting. I'm quite severe and overly protective of my kids b/c of what I had experienced as a kid. Nothing really really bad, but enough to weird me out quite a bit for life. I think it has affected me mentally and is part of the reason why I did the things I did so easily after repression for so many years.
I accepted my sexual incompatibility (20 reasons) with my spouse until that and 80 other reasons drove me to do the things I did. I then experienced "fake love"- an illusion of what sex with someone you are truly mutually attracted to feels like and it has devastated me since. It crushed me to know that my warm contented love for my spouse was just a drizzling rain compared to the passion one is suppose to feel for someone you are in love with with all your heart mind and soul. It was not love, but it was what it SHOULD feel like. I yearn for it everyday now and am deciding if I can live with this knowledge (like I ate of the fruit of knowledge in the garden of paradise) and go back to warm consistent drizzling rain and forget all about thunder and lighting or if I should really give up on it. I'm just warning that I hope you don't find yourself in my situation 15 years later when you realize how much of being human is the sexual part of us. I discounted its importance all these years and denied that it was important as long as the comfortable contentment was there. Don't wait till your almost perimenopausal like me to flip out! LOL!
Musclemom, when you have time, I would love your 2 cents on my situation since you've been through 2 marriages and you're just a bit older so your experiences would give more weight to your opinions. But, that's another thread another day.
He should get help. He's not going to turn into a raging sex maniac, he'll just be released from an old burden.and can a shaman fix him?
Last time we had "the talk" we almost broke up and he was pretty desperate to stay together i'd never seen him like that he actually suggested therapy but instead i just decided to accept him as he is and he did improve a great deal,....
He also likes sex mostly in the mornings, i guess he likes to take advantage of morning wood
Maybe a tiny sticking point semantically but I haven't been through two marriages, I'm in the 9th year of my second marriage quite happily.
Actually, I'm not quite sure what you want my two cents on. The fact you gave up passion for security because you have a disabled child or ??? Because I made the opposite choice once upon a time and in hindsight the only regret has ever been that we waited as long as we did to make the jump (the man I found my passion with is still my husband to this day).
While my child is not severely autistic my son was once labeled by a school district psychologist as having one of the most severe cases of ADD/ODD in the entire school district, and considering five elementary schools mitriculate into one high school, that's a pretty big district. My current's husband's daughter has Asperger's (although that was only diagnosed in the past two years, the poor kid was slapped with every label but that throughout her childhood).
If you want to take this to more detail I'll have to go to PM. I've put enough of myself publicly on these boards over the years and there's some stuff that just doesn't need to be told or re-told.
Put it this way, you and I have walked very similar paths but there came a time we were both faced with choices and I think we made different ones.
Interesting stuff in PM MM thx 
He got them checked in CR but they never really gave/explained the results, hopefully once here we'll do it right.... he's very unenthusiastic about other stuff like going out with friends, I've always suspected low T, will wait to see...
Ezekiel
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It really does sound like low T, especially combined w/ not really wanting to do other stuff as well...
If you knew what his results were from the test in CR I could help explain them...
For what it's worth, you are an attractive lady, so I am sure it's nothing personal on his part... Purely hormonal...
Underwraps
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Thanks, I appreciate you didn't block the request. I'm going to take a few more different steps and then see. I'm switching counselors. I knew I was not at a good one from the get go since she's of a religious background and I confessed that I do TAKE my kids so they can make their own choices and understand love in cooperation, but that I am still just a "student of religion" myself. She didn't really hear what I said and is taking me for a thorough believer and prayed for me at the last session, thinking I'm a full believer. That crossed the line for me. And I'm too nice to say, "Lady, wtf?" Prayer never hurts so I let her do it. Prayer to me is meditation w/hope and a request so no harm done, but now I need to find another therapist. I have not been able to mention ANY of the infidelity issues on my part b/c of her being of a religious background and people like that although they mean well, and think they understand sin and darkness, I always feel they are naive. Sin btw to me is just a 3 letter word for pain intentionally or irresponsibly inflicted on someone, including oneself. I've sinned badly....
So, Nan, if he does go for therapy to supplement any discovery in low T levels, you still have to shop around a bit for a good counselor, in short. Don't bag the whole thing if you get a dud therapist. Oh, as for the original topic on the KY tubes, I've tried those and I find them annoying. One is suppose to feel cool and the other hot and I almost thought it should be reversed where the dude's should be the pink one, etc... And it didn't make sense they'd be different if you're going to get it all mixed up in the intercourse anyway, except for what you just dab on the clit. I'm like you in that if you only mess with the little c that it just gets ticklish and annoying and I always have to have the lower/inner G spot area too stimulated and that stuff can make you feel numb vs stimulated. I'd try one alone like the pink one for the ladies, and then the other.
adventurous1
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I have tried the KY yours + mine, I practically ran to the store when I saw the commercial, I was disappointed. The "his" stuff was okay, the "hers" was unpleasant, and together.... well I had to end session to run to the bathroom and wash off. I am intregued by the strawberry stuff coming out, but have no use for the chocolate one as neither him or I like chocolate. In my opinion, the best lube thats out there is called gun oil.
But from what I read from the rest of the forum, it sounds like you need more then lube. My man works out of town, and keeps different hours from me, but when he is home, we definitely try to get in sync and get it on as much as possible lol!
But from what I read from the rest of the forum, it sounds like you need more then lube. My man works out of town, and keeps different hours from me, but when he is home, we definitely try to get in sync and get it on as much as possible lol!
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