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 Just got a letter from my ex
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Olympian 
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The one who fucked around on me,left me virutally bankrupt and threw me out for his other girlfriend. quote: "...The way that I behaved during the last weeks of our relationship was absolutely terrible. I am truly sorry for acting likea complete fucking asshole. You never deserved to be treated so poorly, and for that I am so sorry. I was a fucking jerk. This is one of the best days of my life; going through hell was almost worth it to see that someone thought I was a good thing for them. For the record, I wrote a nice letter back saying basically that life is a learning experience, and I was glad I was a good one.     | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 228 |
dont you think stalking him would be fun??? ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 787 |
Well it sounds like something good came from the bad situation...That person learned somewhere how their missbehaving was wrong and hurtfull...Perhaps you can clear some of that tension in your mind for moving forward in some way... | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 66 |
So is he wanting you back or just trying to make you feel better by explaining himself "asshole" and the way he acted/disrespected you? Just curious, I have been in a similar situation. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 85 |
Very nice....you are a strong woman | ||
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Olympian
Posts: 1755 |
kartchick...no, he doesnt want me back, nor would I even consider it. We broke up...umm..lemme think..almost 3 1/2years ago..havent spoken a word to him since he kicked me out. I certianly wouldn't make excuses for him,but he's not the type of person that would say something unless he meant it....I've been forgiven by others for many transgressions adn bad behaviour in my life and it is the least I can do to pass it on. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 228 |
burndaddy's worthless advice is... dont forgive him, fuck him (not literally), forget him and let him wallow in his own guilt... forgiving him is only a means to allow him to be at peace with himself...by acting as if he does not matter will be good for you... remember living well is the best revenge... ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 787 |
Kat I'm glad your able to forgive him. I think thats one of if not the hardest lesson in life to learn....We should all be as fortunate to learn that lesson | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 66 |
Good for you, my husband and I broke up while we were engaged, he was a total ass. People do change and forgiveness or even understanding is something we have to find deep inside ourselves because we never know when we are going to need it in return. | ||
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Mutant   
Posts: 3262 |
Kat your karma is on the upswing. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 204 |
Kat, good job! You had more of an impact on his life than you ever thought by the sounds of his letter. Not easy to admit we are wrong at times... Takes a stronger person to forgive as well!
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 242 |
Sorry, I'm with burndaddy here. You gave him exactly what he wants, which is to be at peace with himself. Obviously he doesn't give a fuck about you or he wouldn't have done what he did in the first place. To say that it was a learning experience is nothing but a pityfull excuse. If one has to learn that cheating can be hurtfull through experience...well, sorry, I just don't buy it. That's something we all know. I mean...what are the repercussions of his future behaviour? Now he can think...hey I can cheat again...and sure the girl will be pissed and hurt...but give it a couple years she'll get over it. Having said that, I do understand how such a letter could make you feel good. I would feel good too. Have you wondered what the significance of receiving this letter on Valentine's Day is? I wouldn't doubt he has ulterior motives. Besides, what makes you think you can trust him now? I'm seriously afraid that this is going to take an edge off of your jadedness [This message has been edited by Stan O'Zolol (edited February 15, 2001).] [This message has been edited by Stan O'Zolol (edited February 15, 2001).] | ||
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Mutant
Posts: 3230 |
kat....I too got had my ex call me yesterday...thank god for caller id...and he was too much of a pussy to leave a message. Sucks...then you have to think about them...and who wants to do that? | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 115 |
kat,you're strong and letters like this will make you a better person;he still has to live w/ the fact that he fucked up...you live and learn...and you learned.hopefully,he did the same...if not,i feel sorry for his current girlfriend. | ||
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Mutant
Posts: 3145 |
Wow, that's a nice letter. I'm glad it made you feel better. Aside from my current one, whom I hope does'nt turn into an ex, I have no idea where any of my ex's are even living or doing or anything. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 407 |
Its too bad he had to learn a lesson at your expense. I would agree with the others about letting him feel guilty. Does it really take 3-4 years to realize youve made a mistake? Its also odd for him to contact you on Valentines day, but thats the kind of shit men do when they want someone back. Be careful - you may still love him. I still have feelings for a women I was in love with over 12 years ago. | ||
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Olympian
Posts: 1755 |
It actually was sent on the 11th, I'm just really lazy about checking my home mail..I didnt check it until the 14th. Still love him??? BWAHHAAA...No, that is for sure. Love is a bit strong for how I felt for him in the first place....he was more my karmic punishment I felt I deserved. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 332 |
he sent a letter? When's the last time anyone sent a letter. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 970 |
im in toronto too...ill kick his ass for you | ||
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Olympian
Posts: 1755 |
LOL...well I appreciate your chivalry goleafs, but everyone does things they're not proud of. Even though it was a shitty thing, the BF I had before him suffered at my hands cause he was there when my dad died and I was neither a rational, nor normal human being for a long time. Even though I didn't do what was later done to me I consider it no less awful, and I have been forgiven. I consider it under the "what comes around goes around" category. Besides, it gave me great fodder for songs...musicans thrive on suffering and tragedy. I'm not a vengeful person anyway. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 242 |
So let's hear some lyrics from your songs. I want to see how 'troubled' you really are...lol. |
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