lol it just sux man, my gf is a super hottie and she's like how come u dont wanna do anything? is it me? and i'm like nonoonnono!!! it's just that.... lol
Just tell her that she is the problem, and you want her to try harder. If it still dont work, at least you will have had fun trying I would definately give the ECA a break and see if that corrects the problem