What's it worth? Where do you derive your drive?

[khemix]

So as some of you may have noticed, I havn't been around in a few months. I've had this girlfriend see. And we've been together a few years, and its been the greatest thing I've ever experienced. Marriage planned. Kids planned. Future secure.

And I suppose I must have been blissfull in my ignorance, because I never saw it coming. "I just don't love you anymore, Chris."

And I fall apart entirely.

So here I am, recovering, trying to eat and get back on diet and get back into the gym and such. And now I find myself questioning why I do all this. Why I put myself through this lifestyle day in, and day out.

And I think I've realized why.

Because it's all I've got. Its what I turn to when no one is there for me. Its what I do to occupy my mind and thoughts. Its where I go to let it all out. The iron helps take away the pain.

So tell me, guys, what drives you? What makes you break yourself?

Chris

 

[the elite addict]

Listen bro. I really feel for you. Not to sound like a bitch, but.. your post almost brought a tear to my eye. I have been in a relationship for almost 9 years, and I have heard those words a few years back. listen bro, its probaly for the better. It wasn't / isn't meant to be. I know it sounds stupid but I am a firm believer in that. Or there could just be other issues that she has and rather than confront you / address them with you, thats her way of showing that she needs more attention or just the oppisite,space. etc. either way it works itself out is for the better bro. Keep your head up and don't obsese over it to much. She may come around or she may not, if not, you will fall in love again. Good luck brother.

 

[bluetoolpaul]

Well bro, regardless of what bags of shit life throws at you, you'll always have the gym. Girlfriends/wives shitting on you, your job shitting on you, whatever... the gym is always there and always willing to give you back what you put into it.

What drives me? Multiple things. Wanting to look good in a mirror. Not wanting to be a bone rack. Wanting boosted self-confidence and higher self esteem. Wanting to scare children and old people. Ok, maybe not the last one....

Bro, hang in there and don't let her bring you down. Go hit the gym and then pick up a new piece of ass!!!!!

 

[eddymerckx]

i seperated from my first wife (my best friend for 15 years, married 6), my mom died (very close), and two friends died in 9/11--and my best bud from college on the scene when the 2nd tower fell (fbi--he was guarding a piece of landing gear?/) all within a month---

i turned to riding my bike for hours upon hours---

i eventually decided that i had to move on and have a good life 1. to spite my wife; 2. b/c my mom would have wanted me to; and 3. b/c my two friends had their chance taken away--and 4. just to get to ride the trails in fruita or moab everty few years with my friend that lived.

when my employer thinks i am not dedicated--i laugh and say "no, I just value life more than anything you can offer"

 

[eljesse]

Actually Khemix it's a great post..!
For me tomorrow is my birthday but also it's been one Year with lot of effort to keep moving, I discovered June 17th 2007 with a DNA test that I didn't have a Daughter that I thought was mine for 2 years, was the moment when my heart broke in parts.
It's been a Year with the support of my Family, my Friends, my work and other life expectations that are keeping my life moving and hopping that something better will came for Me.

So Always live the moment with lot of energy and pasion.!
Pasion can make the difference.!

Hope I can see You post more..!

Regards,

JessE

 

[Big_Joe]

Well most people their life is getting up early to get the suit and tie on. The drive or bus to some big building where they kno maybe two people. They sit in a cubicle for eight or more hours. The hit a bar on the way home to get enough alcohol in their system so they don't have to think about what they are, Then the next day they do it again.

Yea it sucks that you're girl dropped you. But so what. Would you rather it be now or after you have three kids and mortgage???

I will share with you what I have learned about myself. I went through a bunch of relationships. When the last one broke up and I watched my X drive away in my 1965 nova I asked myself "why is this happening to me over and over again." All the women I had been with were very different woman. The only thing we had in common was we were in bed with each other before we "fell in love." I resolved to never do that again. This was tough. Many time I had women that really wanted to go t bed with me but I said no. I got called every name in the book. But after a few years I did find a woman that listened to what I had to say and wanted to give it a try herself. She didn't want to breakup after a few years any more either. So we didn't have sex until we were just about to marry. We have been together for seventeen years now. Have two great kids and things are pretty good for us.

SO my advice is don't lead with your dick until your heart tells you it's OK. I think you will find you won't get laid as much, until you're married at least, but your heart won't be taking as much of a beating in the long run.

One thing I think I should add. Tell the women you are dating what you are doing. Some girls feel very bad about themselves if you don't want to fuck them. But this goes away if you tell them you want to see if there are a good prospect for a long term relationship. Some will drop you right away because they just want to fuck. But the good ones will find this very interesting.

 

[rip_torn]

As one door closes another one opens,at some time in our lives some of the problems listed above come to us all.It seems life will never be the same again but time heals the wounds and we all move on.One thing is constant amongst us all as we wrap our hands around the barbells and dumbells,push against the weight of the squat bar and leg press and pull against the cables and chin bars.We empower ourselves to enjoy the life we have infront of us to the best of our physical ability and as healthily as we can.Hopefully in the process we are delaying/defying age related disease and illness.
We have inner strength an aura about us that the week around us want, but cant live with it.These people enter and then leave our lives until we find like minded souls.
The one constant in all of our lives is this! everything else is transitional.

 

[artificialaspirations]

I enjoy the discipline and feeling healthy. I like the pump, the exhaustion, the burn, the euphoria after a good workout and the intense relaxation I get from it afterwards.

Oh yeah, and looks from the girls!

 

[SpyWizard]

So as some of you may have noticed, I havn't been around in a few months. I've had this girlfriend see. And we've been together a few years, and its been the greatest thing I've ever experienced. Marriage planned. Kids planned. Future secure.

And I suppose I must have been blissfull in my ignorance, because I never saw it coming. "I just don't love you anymore, Chris."

And I fall apart entirely.

So here I am, recovering, trying to eat and get back on diet and get back into the gym and such. And now I find myself questioning why I do all this. Why I put myself through this lifestyle day in, and day out.

And I think I've realized why.

Because it's all I've got. Its what I turn to when no one is there for me. Its what I do to occupy my mind and thoughts. Its where I go to let it all out. The iron helps take away the pain.

So tell me, guys, what drives you? What makes you break yourself?

Chris

Sorry to hear about that situation man, What i share with people is, a relationship that ends is often just like a death in the family, it takes time for you to mourn, time to heal.

Most will tell you, and life will teach you that men and women make decissions for many different reasons, women especially (i'm sure i'll hear about this) will make decisions based on emotional influences, where as men will make decisions on what makes them happy..

To answer your question, when i work out for me, i do strength training, when i do body building it's for the wife, so it seems like 1/2 the year it's for me, and 1/2 it's for her..

bulk cut bulk cut..

I am just like many, my worst enemy, "Check the ego at the door" that's what i advise, and the one major rule i always break..

oh well.. good luck..

 

[sweed]

Getting picked on a lot from older kids back in the day. I had enough and in high school through college grew up to where people were afraid of me and would never think to piss me off. Well I will never fight and I'm a genuinely nice guy. But it feels good to be in control.

Sorry to hear about that chris. I always say this when something bad happens. 'It happens for a reason.' And I have had a lot of bad things happen to me lately, but I always look to the positive.
Good Luck bor!