Wierd question about break ups, and relationships.

[HS Lifter]

When I break up with a girl or vise versa, I usually want nothing to do with them and try my hardest to erase them from my memory. If I see them in public, I will say "Hi" or something and thats it.

However, Ive noticed something wierd/interesting about the relationships around me( from friends).

Anyways, so they hook up, and things get shitty real quick.

Always argueing and fighting, not spending much time together...shit like that. This goes on for 2-4 weeks and then they break up.

Once they break up, they usually get back together within the week and then the reltionship is magicly great again...

What the fuck is that all about? I guess im missing something, but it just doesnt make sense.

Its like the break up in the first place is a desperate cry for attention from one of the parties involved...or something.

Im 20 years old and can honestly say that modern dating for the most part is fucking ridiculous. Or im just too mature for my age....

 

[EnderJE]

1) Fear of being alone makes people shape really quick.
2) Fear of losing a steady stream of sex makes people shape up real quick.

Take your pick.

 

[Daisy_]

^^ yep.

 

[HS Lifter]

1) Fear of being alone makes people shape really quick.
2) Fear of losing a steady stream of sex makes people shape up real quick.

Take your pick.

Interesting...didnt know people were that desperate that they would simply put up with their SO's shit for the above reasons.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Im 20 years old and can honestly say that modern dating for the most part is fucking ridiculous.

Get used to it...

 

[HS Lifter]

Get used to it...

Its gonna be hard, but yeah, I must learn to adapt with childish, immature antics associated with modern dating.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Its gonna be hard, but yeah, I must learn to adapt with childish, immature antics associated with modern dating.

Nothing to do with immaturity....
Read some of the older peeps posts, it's the same shit.
Adapt or become me

 

[EnderJE]

Nothing to do with immaturity....
Read some of the older peeps posts, it's the same shit.
Adapt or become me

And you don't want to do that...there's only one Billy.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

And you don't want to do that...there's only one Billy.

...but I could use the bitter company since Nordstrom left.

 

[HS Lifter]

No wonder the divorce rate is roughly 60% these days....

Our society is doomed.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

No wonder the divorce rate is roughly 60% these days....

Our society is doomed.

No it's not. It is in flux though.

 

[EnderJE]

No wonder the divorce rate is roughly 60% these days.

Not among the gays...

 

[Growth&Courage]

Once they break up, they usually get back together within the week and then the reltionship is magicly great again...

What the fuck is that all about? I guess im missing something, but it just doesnt make sense.
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May be the sex pulls them inwards together despite the failure to communicate effectively in the relationship and thus always quarelling intermittently and seen magically in a pair shortly after a good fuck or so. (?)


EnderJE mentioned good points.

 

[HS Lifter]

The funny thing is, that in the reltionships I described, there was NO sex involved.

Which makes it even wierder.

 

[Growth&Courage]

The funny thing is, that in the reltionships I described, there was NO sex involved.

Which makes it even wierder.

HUH? NO sex involved?

Shit, are you kidding me?

 

[HS Lifter]

HUH? NO sex involved?

Shit, are you kidding me?

I kid you not.

Crazy shit huh?

 

[CrazyK]

It's from all the feminism woman are being taught these days. I'll say it once and I'll say it again, men and women are NOT equal. They are like Yin and Yang, each side has positives and negatives the other doesn't. Once women realize this, the divorce rate will magically go down.

 

[Growth&Courage]

I kid you not.

Crazy shit huh?

I can't possibly imagine what goes on in their "relationship".

 

[BrothaBill]

They are just inexperience in the way to handle relationships, simple fights that can be avoided and breaking up b/c they lack skills to communicate. Its a maturity thing, but yes the older peeps on the board are still in that stage and havent progressed. They just need to understand the Tao in order to make the relationship progress. Its about taking control of the direction of the relationship by actually not taking control. Then and only then can it lead to success, by letting go, yet remaining in control of their emotions. One cannot react with emotions, you lose the Tao that way.

 

[Growth&Courage]

BrotherBill,



Would you be my Sensei?

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

BrotherBill,



Would you be my Sensei?

Yeah, really...me too.

 

[BrothaBill]

Just watch the Tao of Steve movie about relationships, its a freaking riot!!!