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Why Arent You Un/successul?
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THeMaCHinE
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I think I am successful at some areas of my life and unsuccessful at other areas. I'm not sure I can blanketly say I am successful or unsuccessful in general. I am not content, that is for sure.
IT DEPENDS ON WHAT LIFE MEANS TO YOU
IS LIFE FOR ENJOYING CHILLING RELAXING AND LAUGHING
OR IS LIFE FOR PROGRESSING, CONQUERING ACHIEVING AND EVOLVING
WHAT DO YOU THINK LIFE IS FOR?
WHEN YOU DIE WILL YOU HAVE LIVED FOR A PURPOSE IN YOUR OWN EYES
YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT TIME KEEPS MOVING, AND AT THE END OF THAT TIME, WAS YOUR TIME WELL SPENT?
IS LIFE FOR ENJOYING CHILLING RELAXING AND LAUGHING
OR IS LIFE FOR PROGRESSING, CONQUERING ACHIEVING AND EVOLVING
WHAT DO YOU THINK LIFE IS FOR?
WHEN YOU DIE WILL YOU HAVE LIVED FOR A PURPOSE IN YOUR OWN EYES
YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT TIME KEEPS MOVING, AND AT THE END OF THAT TIME, WAS YOUR TIME WELL SPENT?
THeMaCHinE
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Liberator said:
Life means a little bit of all of those things to me, plus other things. It's not all of one or the other. What do I think life is for? I don't know, I exist by chance, not choice. No purpose has dropped out of the sky for me yet. I hope that someday it will, life would be much simpler. I can't speak to the future, so I don't know if I will feel fulfilled when I die or not. It doesn't change the fact that I'm going to one day die though. The only thing life seems to be about is the pursuit of happiness on a personal and familial level. Ultimately, and in a general sense, it seems that the things people do are motivated by greed, though sometimes "good" things do come from these actions. Life and perceptions change, just as time does, what seems important to me now, might mean nothing later in life. That makes it hard to have a centralized purpose -- because my thoughts, outlook and perception are constantly evolving. Therefore, saying that time was well spent is really a relative matter.
MAYBE LIFE IS FOR YOU TO FIND A PURPOSE AND NOT FOR ONE TO FIND YOU
OR MAYBE LIFE IS FOR NOTHING
I MEANT BASED ON YOUR TREND SO FAR, WHY DO YOU HAVE TO WAIT TO SEE IF IT WAS? WHY CANT YOU SAY SO NOW IF YOUR TIME WILL BE WELL SPENT?
HAPPINES VS SADNESS
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE?
DO YOU THINK THAT ALL HUMAN ACHIEVEMENTS WERE BASED ON HAPPYNESS?
OR MAYBE LIFE IS FOR NOTHING
I MEANT BASED ON YOUR TREND SO FAR, WHY DO YOU HAVE TO WAIT TO SEE IF IT WAS? WHY CANT YOU SAY SO NOW IF YOUR TIME WILL BE WELL SPENT?
HAPPINES VS SADNESS
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE?
DO YOU THINK THAT ALL HUMAN ACHIEVEMENTS WERE BASED ON HAPPYNESS?
THeMaCHinE
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Liberator said:
Maybe there is no purpose in life. And even if there is no purpose in life, that doesn't necessarily mean it's for nothing. It doesn't have to be one or the other. Perhaps life can have meaning, even if there is no purpose on an individual level. Perhaps people who are unaware of their purpose still have a purpose. Perhaps even if you haven't realized a purpose doesn't mean you aren't fulfilling one. Lots of options.
Up to this point, my life has been spent well in some ways, and not well in other ways. I can't say that in the future I will believe my time will have been well spent because my definition of well-spent will likely evolve. And I'm not sure if that evolved definition will find the things I have done to this point important or significant.
Do I think all human acheivements were/are based on hapiness? Probably not. Sometimes accidents happen and achievments are accomplished independant of intention. I think intentional acheivements are in large part precipitated by happiness. Doing something feels good to the individual so they keep doing and acheive, which may in turn, benefit others. But it was still achieved because of the happiness it created in the individual(s) that originated it. Other accomplishments are probably born of fear, not happiness, i.e. we do this in order to avoid experiencing this.
THeMaCHinE
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BOO! Where'd you go?
LeviathanX
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By other's standards I am a success, by my parents standards I'm a failure. You see, my father is an Anesthesiologist who graduated from Yale and is President of some international Anesthesia society. My mom is a Ph.D. research scientist working at UPENN as director of a state-of-the-art facility.
Then there's me. I go to UVa. (not bad, a Top 20 school), and maintain about a 3.5 GPA there at the McIntire School of Commerce (#5 or #6 in the nation) majoring in Finance and Marketing. In addition, I keep myself in good shape through bodybuilding, martial arts, basketball, and swimming.
My problem is, because my parents have always demanded so much, I never feel like I've been a true success. I always feel like I'm fighting just to keep up with them. To a certain extent this is good, because I'm never satisfied with who I am, and I'm always trying to better myself. But, on the other hand, it makes me a very competitve person and it's hard to relax.
Has anyone else had a similar experience?
Then there's me. I go to UVa. (not bad, a Top 20 school), and maintain about a 3.5 GPA there at the McIntire School of Commerce (#5 or #6 in the nation) majoring in Finance and Marketing. In addition, I keep myself in good shape through bodybuilding, martial arts, basketball, and swimming.
My problem is, because my parents have always demanded so much, I never feel like I've been a true success. I always feel like I'm fighting just to keep up with them. To a certain extent this is good, because I'm never satisfied with who I am, and I'm always trying to better myself. But, on the other hand, it makes me a very competitve person and it's hard to relax.
Has anyone else had a similar experience?
satanic goatslayer
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Drugs me like heroin lots. Times beer good when drink with fishlike.
LeviathanX said:
Yeah dude. Same deal.....parents not doctors but same idea.
I'm glad they were that way...pushed me hard and I continue to push myself hard.
strongchick
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good question.
yeah, success is relative. Problem is sometimes I set my goals to low, then when I reach them, I go, geez, that was almost too easy, now what?
But if I set the goals too high, or don't think about my long term goals in terms of steps rather than leaps, I don't get there...
I remember three years ago I was dying to be a computer nerd, and now I am...I am a mostly self-taught programmer with a liberal arts BA....step by step I got there, even though no one expected me to do so.
I remember I was 201 lbs a year ago, now I'm 145lbs. Step by step, I forgot/ignored what everyone else was saying and just did it.
The tech market is in a slump, so I just took a really ridiculous dinky job selling gym memberships....but then, I also just enrolled in a Master's program for computer science...my new job is so easy that I can concentrate on my real interests....
life is hard, nothing is promised....you have to go with your gifts and passions.
I'm one of the lucky few who remain passionate about life...and have hobbies and interests to keep me from traveling down that road of depression, drugs, and anonymous sex...wait...anonymous sex is fun....
But success is nothing without a love, family, and friends. I judge my success by whether I'm happy or not. Right now I am very happy.
yeah, success is relative. Problem is sometimes I set my goals to low, then when I reach them, I go, geez, that was almost too easy, now what?
But if I set the goals too high, or don't think about my long term goals in terms of steps rather than leaps, I don't get there...
I remember three years ago I was dying to be a computer nerd, and now I am...I am a mostly self-taught programmer with a liberal arts BA....step by step I got there, even though no one expected me to do so.
I remember I was 201 lbs a year ago, now I'm 145lbs. Step by step, I forgot/ignored what everyone else was saying and just did it.
The tech market is in a slump, so I just took a really ridiculous dinky job selling gym memberships....but then, I also just enrolled in a Master's program for computer science...my new job is so easy that I can concentrate on my real interests....
life is hard, nothing is promised....you have to go with your gifts and passions.
I'm one of the lucky few who remain passionate about life...and have hobbies and interests to keep me from traveling down that road of depression, drugs, and anonymous sex...wait...anonymous sex is fun....
But success is nothing without a love, family, and friends. I judge my success by whether I'm happy or not. Right now I am very happy.
