Where do you situate your life at the moment?

[Growth&Courage]

Curious to learn where everyone stands in their life interms of personal fulfilments such as career wise (going towards the career path as intended?); social wise (established decent and true friendships?) and interms of relationships (found ya monogamous significant other/soul mate yet? or are you the unaccompanied one throughout lonely nights?) or any other things that currently defines an important point in your life, please feel free to share.

Where does everyone situate themselves at?

 

[seizer]

Where do you situate yourself at?

 

[squatpuke]

I'm 38, married with 3 kids (oldest 5)....so NO social life....

My wife hasn't had a paycheck in 5 years, thus I'm going back to school to better my career (IT) and advance there....single income sucks. However, I love being a dad and my wife is doing a GREAT job as a full-time homemaker & mommie.

I work 50+ hours a week, go to school 8-10 hours a week...barely have time for my family and struggle to hit the gym when I want....

But I know someday it will get better; if I could only pick the right powerball numbers.

 

[Golemnium]

I'm 38, married with 3 kids (oldest 5)....so NO social life....

My wife hasn't had a paycheck in 5 years, thus I'm going back to school to better my career (IT) and advance there....single income sucks. However, I love being a dad and my wife is doing a GREAT job as a full-time homemaker & mommie.

I work 50+ hours a week, go to school 8-10 hours a week...barely have time for my family and struggle to hit the gym when I want....

But I know someday it will get better; if I could only pick the right powerball numbers.

Now I feel lazy and worthless.
I'm a spoilt student living off state and parent money aching to get myself to study for a few hours to pass my tests.

Hats off to you

 

[KillahBee]

25, single

career: Pretty goddamn good. A) I know what I want to do, I am in that industry, and I have a lot of passion for it. B) The agency I work for is top 5 in the country in our industry. It is also probably the greatest office culture I have ever seen - very young, very relaxed, very fun. I have integrated myself into my company successfully. I get increasing responsibility and phenomenal feedback from coworkers and clients alike. I work very long hours, but that is okay with me for now. C) Don't make much money and live in one of the most high rent areas of the country. But I am young and in the early stages of my career and I realize that the experience I am getting right now will pay off later. D) There are times I want to do more (i.e. more consulting then event management), but event marketing and more B to C work is the number one area of growth my agency is looking to get into. I want to be along for that ride - fuck it, I want to lead that ride.

social / relationships: tough to say. haven't "dated" anyone in a while and have absolutely no desire too. I also don't really go out much or even hang out with people my age and really have no desire to. not sure if it is a phase or not, but I have become a VERY private person and am extremely happy with the way I am. that being said, part of me hopes this is a phase and that at some point I do feel the desire to have more friends or girlfriends, but I am not going to fight myself on this. I am the way I am and I will go with that til I die. Very happy right now with it.

misc: I don't like where I live at all. That is probably a big reason for my mindset with my social life. I am just not feeling these people around here. While I really miss the culture, the people, the girls, the food, the style back home, I realize that if I moved back right now I would be bored in no time.

training: pretty goddamn bad, all things considered. I have not had consistent training in a long time and it is depressing. lots of injuries, lots of questioning if this game is even for me, b/c of these injuries. Caught in limbo between bulking and cutting for a long time too. just not good and when my training is not right I get very down.

day to day life: one of my coworker's that I have worked with on a few events lately figured me out pretty easily and worries about me. I have inhereted a lot of traits from my father, one of the biggest being work ethic. From watching him I realize that this is probably my greatest strength and greatest weakness. I really do love work (the act of working, my industry, and my actual job) and it is pretty much my life. While I think this is ok at this stage in my life, I fear that I will turn out like him and miss out on life because of it....

 

[Elite_Fry]

in the development stage of the business life cycle

 

[n0th1ng]

I have no friends, Im unemployed, I've never been in love, I have no plan for the future, I hate where I live, and I hate my life. But I feel great.

I think Im going to join the military and take a few tours of Iraq. I think killing some people might help me find new meaning in my life, and if I get KIA then my problems won't matter anyway. So either way its win-win.

 

[Growth&Courage]

Where do you situate yourself at?

I work for the government. To be precise the Ministry of Foreign Affairs in the administration department. Financially speaking it is shit pay, however
I am gaining so much valuable expereince and obtaining alot of connections- which is going to come in handy for all kinds of purposes in the future.

Other areas of my life are not exactly the most exciting, unfortunately with the sort of work I have situated myself into, my work life is strictly professional and hence it isn't exactly fun - no internet allowed at work at all (for security purposes), when you have to deal with Embassies and consular affairs the work is serious.

Socially speaking, most of my acquaintances & friends are work-related. I am obviously younger for these crowds, however I have cordially adapted to their social status whilst maintaining my characteristics and values that I hold. On a Friday night, if all goes well I will have a drink or two with them. I am not into clubbing. I much prefer to dine in a fine restaurant than go clubbing.
The majority of time I just don't have the luxery or time like many peeps here to be infront of a computer- logging on into EF and hold endless discussions on topics like " Pwned!" "Take his life!!" etc You get what I mean.
I get up and prepare to go to work around 5.50 am, I won't reached work until 8.00am. Work finishes 4-5pm then as tired as I get I push myself hitting the gym 4-5 days a week. By the time I get home I am completely dead tired, barely enough energy left for a dinner, take a shower then hop into bed for it all to happened again the next day. 5x days a week.

Relationship wise, I too am single but rest assured there are other means of getting sex without falling into the category of a "relationship" though I admit that some nights my bed does seemed empty...

Physically speaking I am loosing alot of muscles as I speak due to work commitment and whether good or not it appears that I have become more accustomed to normality ie: - just having a plain-looking physique like everyone else in the office, not hypertrophied. My avatar and pix in my gallery are about 4-5 months back then, I am now toner than that with the exception of my quads and strangely I am not beating myself to death of it. I have learned to appreciate every phases of my physical development, this phase calls for me to be pratical in day-to-day living- I can't be a beefy ass employee- that ain't pratical for my lifestyle now.

A future plan of mine is to get a year or two off work to obtain a Masters somewhere in a foreign country, probably in the social science/liberal arts or humanities.

Killahbee, I don't think your love of work is going to stop you from expereincing the fun part of life, from the several discussions we've had it sounds like you are a naturally fun guy to hang around with.
Why is the area where you live making you feel unable to connect and relate to them? What is the underlying problem here?

squatpuke, I like your attitude there, thanks for the response.

 

[KillahBee]

Killahbee, I don't think your love of work is going to stop you from expereincing the fun part of life, from the several discussions we've had it sounds like you are a naturally fun guy to hang around with.
Why is the area where you live making you feel unable to connect and relate to them? What is the underlying problem here?

It's tough to say. It may sound petty, but I grew up in an area that has the second highest amount of Italian Americans (per sq mile) in the country. Along with that comes an entire mindset, a culture that means a lot to me. They do not have that here. As a matter of fact, it's pretty damn boring from that standpoint. I am not necessarily "homesick", as I have lived away from home for the majority of the last 8 years, but I miss it. I feel like myself there. This place is boring. I think it also has to do with my age group - mid twenties caught in that stage where they are either still clinging to the college lifestyle or trying to figure out how to live like adults. That being said, I am far from miserable and I get along with pretty much everyone with no problems. But it's still missing something.

 

[*MissFit*]

29, Dating / Communications and advertising Specialist

career: Very good doing what i'm good at, not what i ant to do, but im with a world wide company in a position that could lead me places and carry me through till retirement that has many different paths. We are number one in many divisions and although we have alot of compeition, we come out number one ina few areas. I get to work with clients, internal depts and agencys. Make propsals and meet alot of ppl that can further mydevelopment.

On the downside alot of the execs are male and its dminated by men. I know that the fact im a woman is not on my side and that the way i look plays against me.


social / relationships: Dating someone who i really like right now and have been for 2 months. We talk alot on the phone, but don't see each other as much as i like because he is working agaisnt a tight deadline which is going to be done this upcoming tuesday. (Thankgod). Although so far he appears to be what i'm looking for we shall see. I'm really afriad on these types of commitments and have spent the bulk of the last year avoiding them for alot of reasons...

Friendship wise i have some of the bestfriends a persn could ask for and have for many years. They have been with me through thick and thin and have been there for me when i thought no one would be. I have a few that i wish would disappear such as "kramette" the neighbour.. but owell.. we all got a few

Home: I live with my twin, and hope this will chnge by about september where i think im gonna live alone.. i can't lie with anyone else.. i just cant get used to other ppls habits or little.. ways of doing things they drive me mad

 

[PICK3]

I'm surprised at the candid replies. Usually internet responses fall in line with making high 6 figures, dating supermodels, etc ...

BTW, my life sucks.

 

[Delinquent]

I'm 25, recently married, unemployed, and in the middle of personal turmoil as I still can't find a career that I'm passionate about. I'm thinking about going back to school and getting my AS in Animal Sciences but most people that have that degree and work for a zoo make like $8/hr which is what I'm struggling with. Should I say fuck it and get back into the corporate hell but make more money or should I make us live paycheck to paycheck and be happy at work. I guess I could go on to getting my BS but they still don't make that much more. The only decent type of money is when you get your doctorate in Biology/zoology. That means that I wouldn't finish with school until I was 32 which I'm not sure if I'm ready to accept that.

 

[wootoom]

Stable

 

[calveless wonder]

Good question.... My life has been extremely turbulent for the last year but finally have found the silver lining and have been able to roll with it.

1.)Career wise, I finally got my head straight and went back to the business i should have stuck with when i first got into it 2 years ago. It's the perfect industry for me, although stressful, and it forces me to go out there and make connections and be social while making excellent money. I work with a great, fast growing company with good people, who although brief, already feel like a very close bunch. I'm only 22 and have been involved in it since i was 20, so luckily i'm in the biz very young, which gives me alot of time.
most people don't enter the mortgage industry till they're in mid to late 20's.
On top of that, my brother in law is one of most successful and top names in the industry so once i can make a name for myself the possibilities are endless.

2.) Socially, my life has been lacking. For one, I was in a very deep depression and had a great deal of anxiety issues which caused me to go into a shell. I didn't hang out or call anybody for months and pushed alot of people away in the process. I couldn't do much about it in that state, but the ones who know me understand and are ok with it. I"m a very social person by nature so i know things will work themselves out as long as i go out there meet and invest time in people.
Luckily, my job has allowed my social life to pick up again as almost everybody i work with here in South Beach is from NY/NJ with a very similar mindset as me.

3.) I am fortunate to say i met my soulmate a year and a half ago. It's been a wild ride since we met each other. It seems like we get thrown a new obstacle everyday..alot of these things we'd never imagine we'd have to deal at our age, but it's made us stronger and we've overcome them everyday. We have the best relationship imaginable but horrible circumstances surrounding it...so it's been tough, but we are both closer to getting our lives stable and once we are we feel the world is ours.

The only thing that really is lacking as is my fitness goals but those are 2ndary right now...once i can address the other things in my life and have them ok i can go ahead and start making sure i eat right again and work out again, but when you're in the office all the time it makes it a little harder. I was at my peak in my life from a fitness aspect last year. I was big for my frame, lean and ate extremely well. But i realized that i had alot more time to invest in that and little responsibility at the time. Since then my girlfriend moved down here, i'm working alot of hours and have to tend to my social life and the like which gives me alot less time to invest.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

career wise: Not what I wanted. Last job closed/moved. This is what I got, cuz I didn't want to move. 37% pay cut
social wise: 4 friends in life. 2 moved. 2 died. I visit the 2 that died.
relationships: Never had one. Nothing...I think I give off a (I'll fucking strangle you and rape your corpse, the first chance I get) vibe or something...I've lived alone for years now. No visitors.
Family: The only family I got left is my senile grandma. Car accident damaged most of her brain. I fix stuff that breaks around the place and help with other stuff. She calls me Matt, I'm Stephen.

Where does everyone situate themselves at?

A person on deathrow wouldn't trade lives with my sorry ass.

 

[Raina]

I have a good job that pays my bills. I'm okay with where I'm at with school despite a setback that's going to keep me out until fall 06 though. I was crushed at first, did all I could to fix the situation, and now I'm fine with it.

I'm just going to make the best of my free time until I start school again. When I'm working and being a full time student I really lack time to enjoy the little things in life. Right now I'm working on my home-- finally getting to do the landscaping I wasn't able to do last summer due to microbiology.

I'm content in my marriage. I'm loving the hell out of the dog school I'm going to and can't wait to compete. I'm happy with my diet and training.

Day to day is a struggle sometimes but such is life. Overall I feel fortunate to be 26 and have so much going for me. I feel like I'm on the right path.

 

[calveless wonder]

social / relationships: tough to say. haven't "dated" anyone in a while and have absolutely no desire too. I also don't really go out much or even hang out with people my age and really have no desire to. not sure if it is a phase or not, but I have become a VERY private person and am extremely happy with the way I am. that being said, part of me hopes this is a phase and that at some point I do feel the desire to have more friends or girlfriends, but I am not going to fight myself on this. I am the way I am and I will go with that til I die. Very happy right now with it.

I was like that for awhile too bro.....but i hope for your sake it's a phase. It was when i was really caught up in school and training. That's all i did...go to school, train, eat and smoke pot sometimes. I became very introverted.

But then i came to the reality that you certainly need people and need to know people....in every aspect of your life, especially in business. Networking means everything.
I think it's about finding that balance.....where you can maintain friendships, connections, relationships etc but while still having your own private time.

I can also relate because i moved to miami from new jersey.....the attitude was completely different and quite frankly the people suck. I was accustomed to all the italians and irish and the general Tri-state mentality, but when i came here it was all these stupid self centered, vain, inconsiderate hispanics.

But you gotta adjust...there are good people no matter where you go, its just a matter of finding your niche socially.

 

[theoak01]

careerwise,Im not even close,right now Im a security guard making 8 bucks a hour working tons of shit hours,when I have a education to be a cop

friends-I have a close group who I trust and im happy with that

as for my love life-non exhistant but Im somewhat content with that

 

[Growth&Courage]

I'm surprised at the candid replies. Usually internet responses fall in line with making high 6 figures, dating supermodels, etc ...

BTW, my life sucks.

I don't framed questions that would otherwise allowed for stupidity or bullshit. These candid replies gives great insights to each of these member's unique life.

 

[Growth&Courage]

Home: I live with my twin, and hope this will chnge by about september where i think im gonna live alone.. i can't lie with anyone else.. i just cant get used to other ppls habits or little.. ways of doing things they drive me mad

I too am a twin. I have a twin brother and it drives me mad to have him looking very similar to me whilst I try my best to seperate away from him and construct my own identity. I only wish to observe him once in a long while.

Raina: Day to day is a struggle sometimes but such is life - that applies to almost everyone I'd say including me.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

I am 29 and single. I'll be 30 in August.

My "career" has turned out better than I could have thought. After college I was in the army, then I did IT shit for a while. Now, I am at the top of a financial / legal / insurance / logistics empire that is now expanding into other countries. This "door" opened through luck - I pushed it to where it is now through working hard and some good breaks.

My social life is this: I have a "best friend" who is a mentor to me and so close that he is like an "older brother". I love the guy. I have two other close friends from the Army, and one from college, and another dear friend that I met off of this site. I wish I could see those people more; we've scattered to the four winds.

I have a lot of acquaintances that I don't see as much as I would like, including the people I met off of here, especially you ATL clowns...we need another meetup with more people some time in the next few months.

I don't date that much. I don't think I have the maturity for a serious relationship, even if I had the time. I still, for better or worse, see the world as unlimited potential, and I am hesitant to impose too much structure on that. Maybe I am wrong...my younger sis is happily married with a daughter, and my younger brother is getting married this summer.

I do the best I can with training. I no longer want to be the guy that lifts the whole gym, so I have been doing more cardio, though it takes more out of me than it did when I was "cardio first, weights second" (in college and the Army).

I am pretty close with my family, which gets more and more valuable as I get older.

 

[KillahBee]

I don't think I have the maturity for a serious relationship, even if I had the time. I still, for better or worse, see the world as unlimited potential, and I am hesitant to impose too much structure on that.

couldn't have said it better myself. agreed 100%

 

[habitualhealth]

I have a lot of acquaintances that I don't see as much as I would like, including the people I met off of here, especially you ATL clowns...we need another meetup with more people some time in the next few months.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

couldn't have said it better myself. agreed 100%

The challenge, of course, is to impose your own structure though self discipline so you do not waste time.

That's the hard part.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

I actually couldn't be happier with my life. Actually, that isn't entirely true. I do wish I lived closer to my family. I miss the hell outta my parents, and with my dad's health scare this winter, I wish I saw them more. Add my pregnancy on top of that, and I truely would be happier if I were closer to them.

I am 31, will be 32 in October.

Career - I love my job. I am a 4th grade teacher and just love my job. I wish I got paid more, who doesn't? But I wouldn't trade what I do everyday for more money doing something else. I am at a great school, with a very demanding administrator and community. I bust my ass everyday. I am well-thought of by most in the school. I am one many people turn to when they need help, ideas, or just someone to count on. My administrators often assign me extra tasks or ask me to help out other people - which I do happily and consider this a compliment. ALthough pay is relatively low, I a blessed with many days off during the year (although I work half of those when I don't have to!).

Education - I am 2 classes away from my Masters degree. This is the only area I hate in my life. I wish it was over already. I am glad I am getting my masters - it makes me proud of myself. I enjoy school, but I am tired of it!

Love life - I love my husband, I love being married. We have a great relationship - filed with love, laughter and hope. We are very compatible and love being together. We are expecting our first child in January 2006 - a gift we are thrilled about. It is still so early in my pregancy, that we are keeping our fingers crossed that everything remains healthy and safe.

Social - I have several friends which I can turn to and talk with, go out with, etc anytime. I do not go out much - I love staying home - in my old age (lol) I have mellowed. I hate clubs, the bar scene bores me. I would rather spend a nice night at home with my husband or grab dinner with friends. Most of my friends are through work or school. They are dependable and trustworthy.

Diet/Training - I have been a little off-track with this for awhile. I was doing okay with training, but lax in diet. Since finding out that I am pregnant, things have been GREATLY altered. My diet is NOT restricted at all, and my training is very low-key. I am still working out, but the intensity is down. I am trying to remain eating well - choosing healthy foods, but once morning sickness kicks in - I will eat whatever I can hold down. I am adapting to this change - it is hard. I am having a little trouble with the thoughts that all these foods I avoided for years I now HAVE to eat (milk!, OJ!)

 

[calveless wonder]

I actually couldn't be happier with my life. Actually, that isn't entirely true. I do wish I lived closer to my family. I miss the hell outta my parents, and with my dad's health scare this winter, I wish I saw them more. Add my pregnancy on top of that, and I truely would be happier if I were closer to them.

I am 31, will be 32 in October.

Career - I love my job. I am a 4th grade teacher and just love my job. I wish I got paid more, who doesn't? But I wouldn't trade what I do everyday for more money doing something else. I am at a great school, with a very demanding administrator and community. I bust my ass everyday. I am well-thought of by most in the school. I am one many people turn to when they need help, ideas, or just someone to count on. My administrators often assign me extra tasks or ask me to help out other people - which I do happily and consider this a compliment. ALthough pay is relatively low, I a blessed with many days off during the year (although I work half of those when I don't have to!).

Whoa, i never expected you to be a teacher...........
i bet alot of parents show up for parent-teacher meetings

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Whoa, i never expected you to be a teacher...........
i bet alot of parents show up for parent-teacher meetings

LOL, I wish. Most parents could care less about meeting with their child's teacher. That might actually mean that they would have to DO SOMETHING to help their child. God forbid.

 

[patsfan1379]

career: im a project manager for an advertising agency. its great. best culture on earth. i basically run the show as far as office policts goes. i do what i want, when i want and no one gives a shit. i kind of fell into the career, to me its just a job. no real meaning. just a means to an end.

social: eh, it comes and goes. im 25, and i lost almost all of my friends through a breakup with a long term girl. long story. i have a a handful of real friends. my family is always there.

my mom beat cancer last year so it kind of put a perspective on things. that same year i broke up with a girl i was with for 5 and a half years. we were going to get married. that tore a pretty big fucking hole in me.

im good now, i bought a condo in the town i grew up in. sometimes i feel like im stuck here because of the mortgage etc...

i bought a motorcycle with the money i was saving for an engagement ring and obviously didnt need anymore. my mom insists i have a death wish.

this bike has been my saving grace. anytime i get in a funk i get on it and just fucking ride as hard as i can out in the middle of nowhere.

summer is the best, ridin at night full bore... stars... beautiful...

ive been learning to wheelie lately and its fucking cool.

i too feel there is something missing........................