When your friends start having kid friendly parties

[ponyfitness]

Friend of mine is having a "big bash" this weekend. Mostly to show off his new house, which is fine. Only problem is I look at the guest list and it's all married couples with kids, and of course the invite says "kid friendly". And it starts in the early afternoon.

Don't get me wrong, I love kids. The only problem is when a bunch of parents get together it's all they can talk about. I'm not married and don't have any kids so really the whole thing would honestly make me feel a little uncomfortable if I was the only person there in that situation (and odds are that I might be). I really don't care to hear how little Johnny actually hit the toilet last night or what kind of daycare they are using and it seems like that is all they can talk about.

Did you ever get to that stage in life where your friends were split between having families and not, and hanging out with the parent group seems to get weird? I feel like I'm at that stage right now. Obviously I'm going to go because I want to see my friends, but probably cut it a lot shorter than I normally would.

 

[Creepusmaximus]

Yes. My single friends and party hard married ones wrote me right off as soon as I had a child and that happens to everyone for the most part. Once kids get involved you move into a whole different social circle.

 

[rnch]

once your married friends have kids, their priorities change. if you take them out to dinner the rug rats have to come along also, they want "kid friendly" restaurants and menus...arrrgh

i have lost several good bro friends to marriage.


and then 5 years later they ask you why you stopped coming by or calling.....

 

[Beachboy6294]

Yes I was the last one in my group to get married or have kids so alot of my friendships changed because their priorities changed. Then the friends that had gets but didn't change their priorities would alway blame everything on me to their wifes. I still stayed friends with most but found different friends to go out with but would still stop by the kid friendly parties for a little while to show I cared.

 

[calveless wonder]

Yes I was the last one in my group to get married or have kids so alot of my friendships changed because their priorities changed. Then the friends that had gets but didn't change their priorities would alway blame everything on me to their wifes. I still stayed friends with most but found different friends to go out with but would still stop by the kid friendly parties for a little while to show I cared.

sounds about right!!

 

[javaguru]

lol...you get excluded a lot as the single guy. The wife doesn't like single friends putting crazy ideas in their husband's head.

 

[rnch]

lol...you get excluded a lot as the single guy. The wife doesn't like single friends putting crazy ideas in their husband's head.

it's like you are a reminder of an alternative lifestyle that she wants to banish for all eternity, like you are a threat to her existance...but she still gets to keep HER pre-marriage friends...

 

[javaguru]

it's like you are a reminder of an alternative lifestyle that she wants to banish for all eternity, like you are a threat to her existance...but she still gets to keep HER pre-marriage friends...

They'll still lobby for "girls night out" and she doesn't have a big problem when he has a few drinks after work with married guys but once Brian is included the shit hits the fan.

 

[rnch]

a classic example of my father's observation that "feminine logic is a contradiction of terms"

 

[javaguru]

a classic example of my father's observation that "feminine logic is a contradiction of terms"

Poor Pdaddy.

 

[rnch]

yup!

 

[javaguru]

yup!

I'm afeared he may make a mutual decision to leave EF because of all the negative influences.

 

[rnch]

if he does it won't be "his" decision...it will be "our" decision, made together with her calling all the shots.

 

[Beachboy6294]

I had a friend that was married and talked me into going with him to meet these two girls well I didn't like the idea because I knew his wife. Well we go and he hooks up with one and I don't even like the other and don't think shes all that so I just get a BJ. Well were leaving their house and his wife cuts us off in her SUV and she throws his door open and starts trying to pull his pants down so she can smell if he was with another women! Lol.. I am tripping by now and in shock! Well he gets away from her and takes off in his car so I stuck standing there and she just starts going off on me and asking me all kinds of questions. So I just said fuck this and ran to the nearest bar and hid in the mens bathroom. Well of course he somehow blamed it on me and that he was just there so I could hook up with some girl I've been wanting to be with. So she still hates me!!

 

[Creepusmaximus]

I had a friend that was married and talked me into going with him to meet these two girls well I didn't like the idea because I knew his wife. Well we go and he hooks up with one and I don't even like the other and don't think shes all that so I just get a BJ. Well were leaving their house and his wife cuts us off in her SUV and she throws his door open and starts trying to pull his pants down so she can smell if he was with another women! Lol.. I am tripping by now and in shock! Well he gets away from her and takes off in his car so I stuck standing there and she just starts going off on me and asking me all kinds of questions. So I just said fuck this and ran to the nearest bar and hid in the mens bathroom. Well of course he somehow blamed it on me and that he was just there so I could hook up with some girl I've been wanting to be with. So she still hates me!!

What are friend for? LOL.

 

[pdaddyII]

if he does it won't be "his" decision...it will be "our" decision, made together with her calling all the shots.

This could not be farther from the truth, I call the shots here and what i say is always the final word.


Shit I gotta go she has to use the computer

 

[javaguru]

This could not be farther from the truth, I call the shots here and what i say is always the final word.


Shit I gotta go she has to use the computer

I got your back bro....I'm experienced at being the single guy your wiminz likes but doesn't like.

 

[rnch]

This could not be farther from the truth, I call the shots here and what i say is always the final word.

keep telling yourself this, bro....self deception and rationalization are the internally generated narcotics that keeps most married men from comitting murder in the middle of the night.

 

[heatherrae]

Friend of mine is having a "big bash" this weekend. Mostly to show off his new house, which is fine. Only problem is I look at the guest list and it's all married couples with kids, and of course the invite says "kid friendly". And it starts in the early afternoon.

Don't get me wrong, I love kids. The only problem is when a bunch of parents get together it's all they can talk about. I'm not married and don't have any kids so really the whole thing would honestly make me feel a little uncomfortable if I was the only person there in that situation (and odds are that I might be). I really don't care to hear how little Johnny actually hit the toilet last night or what kind of daycare they are using and it seems like that is all they can talk about.

Did you ever get to that stage in life where your friends were split between having families and not, and hanging out with the parent group seems to get weird? I feel like I'm at that stage right now. Obviously I'm going to go because I want to see my friends, but probably cut it a lot shorter than I normally would.

I used to hate parties like that before I had a rugrat. I really did. I feel your pain.

 

[javaguru]

I used to hate parties like that before I had a rugrat. I really did. I feel your pain.

Are you suggesting that he should pull a puddlemonkey?

 

[Go For Gains]

What is kid Friendly?

I have friends that have get togethers and partys all the time and people bring their kids..babies to 16 yearolds.....

Kid friendly..is that a johnny jumper in th e back yard or something?

 

[biggernu]

yeah my lifting partner is having a kid soon, so the gf is cutting back on his already non existent fun. Wait there going to get married to, she already has him by the nuts. grrr its a sad time for me.

 

[javaguru]

What is kid Friendly?

I have friends that have get togethers and partys all the time and people bring their kids..babies to 16 yearolds.....

Kid friendly..is that a johnny jumper in th e back yard or something?

I assume it's not a "key party."

 

[heatherrae]

Are you suggesting that he should pull a puddlemonkey?

No, I don't want him to knock up some random ex gf...lol.

 

[Go For Gains]

I assume it's not a "key party."

Well it if its for 30 years olds it might be little low key..But if its a Keg party that a high school kid would have maybe not.


If its a party..Its all about respect....for the host and friends.....so having your little ones around it can be fun and not all that bad..where one as an adult can have fun.