What would you do

[anthrax]

What would you do if you suspect you've been dumped (or fallen in the "good friends" category)?

 

[*MissFit*]

move on

 

[biteme]

"The difference being... what Stonefinger wants, Stonefinger gets." Tell me what show that came from and I'll give you 10000 karma points

 

[anthrax]

"The difference being... what Stonefinger wants, Stonefinger gets." Tell me what show that came from and I'll give you 10000 karma points

The Flintstones

 

[biteme]

The Flintstones

WTF? How in the hell did you know that. LOL. I was sure than noone would know that one.

 

[anthrax]

WTF? How in the hell did you know that. LOL. I was sure than noone would know that one.

I was a fan of the Flintstones in the 70s

and, thank you Sir

 

[biteme]

I was a fan of the Flintstones in the 70s

and, thank you Sir

I think the Flinstones was the greatest cartoon ever. For some strange reason, that Stonefinger quote will pop into my head outta nowhere. "Will the real Fred Flinstone please stand up."

 

[Raina]

Ask?

 

[nycgirl]

Did you ask her "What's up?" ? Have you talked to her about what you are feeling? At least, get confirmation before you move on. Who knows you may be wrong? Sometimes when I'm going through something, I become distant. Maye she's going through something.

Talk to her.

 

[anthrax]

Did you ask her "What's up?" ? Have you talked to her about what you are feeling? At least, get confirmation before you move on. Who knows you may be wrong? Sometimes when I'm going through something, I become distant. Maye she's going through something.

Talk to her.

I may be wrong for sure (even though I highly doubt it)

I don't want to sound either desperate and most of the time when someone dumps you she/he uses lame excuses to avoid telling you the truth

 

[nycgirl]

I may be wrong for sure (even though I highly doubt it)

I don't want to sound either desperate and most of the time when someone dumps you she/he uses lame excuses to avoid telling you the truth

Getting confirmation isn't desperate. At least you will get the truth.

 

[biteme]

I may be wrong for sure (even though I highly doubt it)

I don't want to sound either desperate and most of the time when someone dumps you she/he uses lame excuses to avoid telling you the truth

Amen to that. I'm too proud to ask them. Fuck em. LOL

 

[anthrax]

Getting confirmation isn't desperate. At least you will get the truth.

Makes sense
I'm just not sure how to formulate the question....

 

[nycgirl]

Makes sense
I'm just not sure how to formulate the question....

Oh, yes, you are a guy. We (females) are good at this.

"I get the feeling that this relationship is coming to an end. I could be wrong. Maybe it is just me. But your actions or lack thereof has me thinking your mind, and quite, possibly your heart is some where else. Is that the case? Where do you see this relationship going?"

Or, you could just say "What's Up?"

 

[biteme]

Getting confirmation isn't desperate. At least you will get the truth.

More than likely he'll get a lame excuse rather than the truth. I've been guilty of giving those lame excuses myself. "I'm just not ready for a relationship right now." Actually it's, "I'm ready, just not with you." LOL. Most people don't like to hurt other's feelings. I don't even give them the chance because I never ask. Just too proud.

 

[nycgirl]

More than likely he'll get a lame excuse rather than the truth. I've been guilty of giving those lame excuses myself. "I'm just not ready for a relationship right now." Actually it's, "I'm ready, just not with you." LOL. Most people don't like to hurt other's feelings. I don't even give them the chance because I never ask. Just too proud.

At least he will get something, in lieu of just moving on without knowing.

 

[biteme]

At least he will get something, in lieu of just moving on without knowing.

True. But, when you move on without knowing, you don't give them the chance to dump you because you act like you don't care even if you do. Leaves them wondering.

 

[anthrax]

Oh, yes, you are a guy. We (females) are good at this.

"I get the feeling that this relationship is coming to an end. I could be wrong. Maybe it is just me. But your actions or lack thereof has me thinking your mind, and quite, possibly your heart is some where else. Is that the case? Where do you see this relationship going?"

I like that (very well written) but as Biteme and I've figured out most women just won't tell a guy that "it's simply over"
In my case she emailed that she would gladly spend some time with me for Xmas but she's too busy
Thta's the worst excuse ever: if you truly love someone you can find some time

 

[nycgirl]

I like that (very well written) but as Biteme and I've figured out most women just won't tell a guy that "it's simply over"
In my case she emailed that she would gladly spend some time with me for Xmas but she's too busy
Thta's the worst excuse ever: if you truly love someone you can find some time

Oh, I see. Yes, you are right.

OH, she's spending it with someone else. That is the worse excuse.

I STRONGLY agree with you on the last sentence.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

I like that (very well written) but as Biteme and I've figured out most women just won't tell a guy that "it's simply over"
In my case she emailed that she would gladly spend some time with me for Xmas but she's too busy
Thta's the worst excuse ever: if you truly love someone you can find some time

How long have to you been dating? Some people get weird around the hoidays. I wont bring a guy to my family unless we are going out for at least 4 months even then I will hold off. My mom want grand kids way to freakin badly and get her hopes up way to easy.

 

[EnderJE]

How long have to you been dating? Some people get weird around the hoidays. I wont bring a guy to my family unless we are going out for at least 4 months even then I will hold off. My mom want grand kids way to freakin badly and get her hopes up way to easy.

Give into Doris...or rent the kids for a day. I've got a few....

 

[anthrax]

How long have to you been dating? Some people get weird around the hoidays. I wont bring a guy to my family unless we are going out for at least 4 months even then I will hold off. My mom want grand kids way to freakin badly and get her hopes up way to easy.

Alright... I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and wait for her to contact me later on

and I agree that you shouldn't involve your parents until you're sure it's a serious relationship

 

[nycgirl]

Alright... I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and wait for her to contact me later on

and I agree that you shouldn't involve your parents until you're sure it's a serious relationship

How long have you been dating? I was under the impression that this was more than 6 months.

 

[anthrax]

How long have you been dating? I was under the impression that this was more than 6 months.

"just" over 4 months

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Give into Doris...or rent the kids for a day. I've got a few....

Ummm fuck no and I found a solution somewhat I get my friends with kids to come by visit then she gets to see the cute babies but I don't actually have to have one.

 

[nycgirl]

"just" over 4 months

OH, that's something different. QT is right.

What about establishing a tradition? How about celebrating X-mas, exchanging gifts on New Year's Eve?

 

[tiger88]

id call up dayna and tell her to move to phx, az

 

[*MissFit*]

R u being overly.. enthusiastic?

how often do u see her?

 

[anthrax]

R u being overly.. enthusiastic?

how often do u see her?

Am I enthusiastic?????
Right now I'm rather pessimistic

Was I too enthusiastic?
"Love is blind"
Well, she seemed somehow into me, at least if I rely on what she said (even though I'm fully aware that what women say is sometimes way different from what they think and do)