What to make of this comment? Ladies help.

[Nathan]

Just ask what the hell was up with that? Tell her it kind of freaked you out a little and be honest. You don't have to tell her just yet you want to be in a relationship again, just make it clear you don't want her out of your life. There's my advice. Now play ball.

 

[bdog527]

Me and a girlfriend of mine met for lunch today. We are both in town for the summer and have been hanging out almost every day. We have a lot of history together, we were in a long relationship (3years) but have both dated other people since. She recently broke up with a boyfriend from where she goes to school and truth be told I have never stopped loving her so I am thinking this might be an opportunity to restart something.

Well anyways we met for lunch today and I was late because of traffic. She is doing an internship and doesn't want to be late from lunch so was giving me hell about it. I apologized for it but she still kept giving me shit (typical woman). We get our food and honestly I was never that hungy to begin with just wanted to hang out with her so I kinda picked at my food really didn't eat too much. When she asked what was wrong I said jokingly "I guess you being mad at me made me lose my appetite". Now mind you I was joking when I said this and had a smile on my face. Well she replys "Well maybe we shouldn't be spending this much time together if I have this much control over you". At first I thought she was kidding and I started laughing but then she says with a straight face..."I just tell it like it is". What the fuck?! I was like oookaayy?

Anyways the waitress comes by and interrupts us and she is like I have to go I'm going to be late so she gets up gives me a hug and kiss on the cheek and says I will call you later tonight and leaves.

So I am sitting here thinking I am a fucking chump and she is using me as company for the summer. Fuck that shit.

Help please.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

make sure you know what you are getting into.

If the two of you have different expectations, someone gets hurt.

Seems like she was elsewhere and so werey ou. hang out again and see what happens.

Comments mean nothing, actions are everything.

 

[gettinlarger]

She's garbage. Tell her to get a fucking grip, then walk away.

Then you'll see how much of a friend she really is.

 

[Nathan]

She's garbage. Tell her to get a fucking grip, then walk away.

Then you'll see how much of a friend she really is.

Best shitty advice ever.

 

[gettinlarger]

Best shitty advice ever.

No way. I've seen it man.

Seriously, get pissed and stop talking to her for a while. She'll come crawling back to you.

 

[jerkbox]

she sounds like a fucking head case


i avoid them like the plague

 

[bdog527]

make sure you know what you are getting into.


Comments mean nothing, actions are everything.

Thanks I'll keep that in mind. That's kinda what I was thinking too.

 

[bdog527]

Just ask what the hell was up with that? Tell her it kind of freaked you out a little and be honest. You don't have to tell her just yet you want to be in a relationship again, just make it clear you don't want her out of your life. There's my advice. Now play ball.

Thanks man.

 

[rushx79]

sleep with her best friend. that will show her how much control she has over you.

 

[vixenbabe]

Tell her you like woman who take "control"...Then leave her with the tab next time she asks you for lunch!

 

[bdog527]

Tell her you like woman who take "control"...Then leave her with the tab next time she asks you for lunch!

haha

The thing is this girl is pretty straight. For the most part she is not a headcase or anything like that. She even offered to pay for lunch but I said don't worry about it. She would have paid too, she buys me shit all the time.

This is why it's so confusing.

 

[gettinlarger]

This is why it's so confusing.

She's a typical girl.

 

[vixenbabe]

We all have bad days I guess. The key is not to take it out on other people too such an ugly extent!

 

[bdog527]

She's a typical girl.

She's anything but typical. That's why I love her.

Most of the time I would rather bail than deal with all the drama and other shit. If she was anyone else this would not be an issue. I would take the same approach you are. But I can't deny that I would like to restart things with her.

I have a feeling this is going to go very poorly for me.

It's like casavant said in a thread a while back. Something about him treating his roommate with decency and like a fellow human being and how she would never be interested in him for it. I don't understand why most women only respond to abusive behavior. I know it works, I won't deny I have been an asshole to a few but I don't think I could bring myself to treat her like that.

Thanks for listening anyways.

 

[Lumberg]

Chill out and abandon all hopes of getting back together with her. Don't kid yourself kid. Move on and if you feel like you can deal with her as a friend fine. If not then don't call her any more.

She sounds like she has her head on straight.

At the same time don't let her take advantage of you if the feelings on your side are stronger than the feelings on her side.

I need to go take some Ativan

peace out

 

[MFMan]

She sounds like a nut. I'd avoid her like the plague. If she is giving you this much trouble now think of how it will be when you are waking up next to her everyday.

 

[bdog527]

>I guess you being mad at me made me lose my appetite".

You need to work on your comebacks dude.

-= nav =-

What are you talking about? We weren't arguing or engaged in a battle of wits.

Thanks for your help.

 

[XBiker]

Sounds like you're a chump to me.

Get over it, get a new girl and get on with your life.

 

[Optimus B]

sleep with her best friend. that will show her how much control she has over you.

i second that motion.