Wedding question

[Werd]

I want very badly to attend the wedding of a friend but I honestly can not afford any sort of gift. I can't just show up empty handed and I dont want to not go because he has been such a good guy, very supportive of me for the last few years...

How do I tell him?

What would you guys do? I never been in such a situation, but seriously, I just applied for government aid till my ex coughs up enough money to help take care of the kids so I honestly dont have the money right now.

And please dont say that if he is a real friend he will understand. He would actually bitchslap me LOL for bringing it up. You ll have no idea how it felt to put my tail between my legs and go ask for government assistance, but if I didn't I would not be able to pay my rent next month. I have had a job since I was 14 and have NEVER accepted help from anyone, with the exception of my family.

I FEEL VERY BADLY about so much shizzle anymore and dont want to put this burden on my friend at such a happy time for him. I dont want to cause problems for him with his in-laws by not having a gift.

 

[onebigab]

How about making something for them?

 

[Deterass]

What about your boyfriend?Is he friends with the guy?

 

[Werd]

How about making something for them?

I thought of giving them an original work of art but I dont know if they would like it...

I just dont want to come off like I am cheap or that I dont care because I DO and I am so pleased to have been invited but now so much shtuff is so scary that I am feeling like just pulling the covers over my head and not getting out of bed.

I REALLY hate it when I get like this.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Werd a gift doesn't have to be bought you have mad skillz in the art department why not make them something?

 

[starfish]

If he is a good friend and knows about your situation, I'm sure he would be pleased as punch to just have a beautiful card to remember you attending his wedding.

I would be more hurt if a friend did not attend vs getting a silly gift.

 

[Y_lifter]

Give him some of your Govmt Cheese

 

[Smurfy]

Give him some of your Govmt Cheese

OMG LMAO

Werd, you could just attend the ceremony, make sure he sees you there supporting him and leave a card there for he and his new bride, but dont go the reception? I dont know that sounds kinda geigh i guess.

 

[Werd]

LOL @Ylifter.... I hope that fucking cheese tastes good at least!

<-----trying hard to laugh at that sitch.

I hear ya QT and Starfish... I have been working on something for a while now but it is a gift for my girls. I couldn't bear to part with it.

I was thinking of attending and perhaps making something for THEM after I have met the bride. I only know the groom... Do you think that it would be acceptable for me to write in the card that I will make the gift AFTER I meet them both?... my impressions of them and their life together... what it is that I hope FOR THEM?

I just made a birthday gift for some one that I love very much... It has a lot of meaning for me and I know that he will love it, but I know that not everyone is enamoured with my style as it is so whimsical and geared towards children.

 

[Smurfy]

actually, i believe there is wedding etiquete that states that you have up to a year after the wedding to give a gift. but yeah its hard to be the one who shows up, eats and drinks all night and doesnt bring a gift.

 

[Lestat]

want me to get the gift for you? are they registered online?

 

[Werd]

want me to get the gift for you? are they registered online?

That is very kind of you to offer, but I must refuse... thank you. I honestly appreciate it. Actually, if you will allow. I can email you the newest work (the bday gift for a friend) and if you could resize and post it I would appreciate that most sincerely.

Thank you Lestat...

 

[Deterass]

What would Bikinimom do?

 

[Y_lifter]

How about some Naked Pics of Yourself..

8x10 signed, framed and all

 

[Werd]

What would Bikinimom do?

Why that is easy! She would take Lestat's money, then send personally autographed neked pics to ALL in attendance while offering 1/2 price blowjobs in the parking lot at the church!

 

[Werd]

What about your boyfriend?Is he friends with the guy?

My man and I have cooled things off... We need to sort some shit out for ourselves while deciding whether or not to continue. C'est la vie.

But even then, my man was not friends with this friend of mine though he would have loved to attended with me.

 

[Lestat]

That is very kind of you to offer, but I must refuse... thank you. I honestly appreciate it. Actually, if you will allow. I can email you the newest work (the bday gift for a friend) and if you could resize and post it I would appreciate that most sincerely.

Thank you Lestat...

sure, go ahead and email me.

 

[Werd]

sure, go ahead and email me.

LOL I need your email addy again.... I know I had it, but I dont think I saved it. Shoot me an email to my yahoo addy... thanx.

 

[Deterass]

Why that is easy! She would take Lestat's money, then send personally autographed neked pics to ALL in attendance while offering 1/2 price blowjobs in the parking lot at the church!

Karma to ya!

 

[HumorMe]

Give him some of your Govmt Cheese

 

[Lestat]

LOL I need your email addy again.... I know I had it, but I dont think I saved it. Shoot me an email to my yahoo addy... thanx.

Done

 

[Y_lifter]

Why that is easy! She would take Lestat's money, then send personally autographed neked pics to ALL in attendance while offering 1/2 price blowjobs in the parking lot at the church!

That's one Wedding even I wouldn't mind sitting thru..

 

[jh1]

Sexual favors?

 

[ChefWide]

While you are mulling over the options... I know EXACTLY what you can give me for any occasion...

 

[gonelifting]

I think the note in the card is an acceptable solution to your dilemma. Just give them the gift after you`ve met her. It will be nice to receive something after the wedding is long done. It would be a nice reminder of the special event for them.

If you did`nt know him that well, then all bets are off, but since you do, it`s OK.

Be a friend...

Be a good friend... Love thy neighbor and hath not what comes unto thee and into one`s self acknowledgement for justice.

thanks thanks

 

[Werd]

Thanks guys... I'll put the response in the mail and go! I won't know anyone but the groom but who knows how much fun it'll be?! I'll make them a little card and letting them know that a very personal gift will be on the way. I'll create something original for them and cross my fingers and hope that they will like it! Who knows, in a few months time I may even be able to afford to have it framed nicely. My work can be very 3-D so it is very expensive to frame them in shadow-box style frames. I have had four portraits that I made of my kids done and the cheapest was $125.

Thank you for all the input. I am glad I posted this, should have done it sooner. Otherwise I might have missed this wonderful occasion.