Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below scares the shit out of me. we have been togeather for 7 years. some great some not so great. I just do not see what the point of having a legal commitment to eachother is? If we got married tomorow nothing would change. We would still be living togeather, still sharing all the finances, housework and everything else. I just do not see the point of it? Any thoughts ?
thoughts on marrige
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KAYNE
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YOU AND I SEE EYE TO EYE ON THIS ISSUE. EXCEPT ONE THING. I WOULD MAKE HER KEEP A PLACE OF HER OWN IN HER NAME. JUST SO SHE CANT USE THE COMMONLAW SHIT AGAINST YOU AND GET YOU FOR HALF.
FUCK MARRAIGE. IT IS SHITTY. WHY PUT YOURSELF THROUGH SOMETHING THAT IS A NO WIN SITUATION FOR THE GUY.
WHAT HAPPENS? YOU MEET THIS CHICK. HAVE A GREAT FEW YEARS TOGETHER. GET MARRIED. HAVE A KID. HAVE A FEW MORE GOOD YEARS TOGETHER. SHE FUCKS YOUR BEST FRIEND BEHIND YOUR BACK. YOU DIVORCE HER. SHE GETS CUSTODY ALONG WITH 25% OF YOUR MONEY EACH MONTH.
FUCK MARRAIGE.
KAYNE
FUCK MARRAIGE. IT IS SHITTY. WHY PUT YOURSELF THROUGH SOMETHING THAT IS A NO WIN SITUATION FOR THE GUY.
WHAT HAPPENS? YOU MEET THIS CHICK. HAVE A GREAT FEW YEARS TOGETHER. GET MARRIED. HAVE A KID. HAVE A FEW MORE GOOD YEARS TOGETHER. SHE FUCKS YOUR BEST FRIEND BEHIND YOUR BACK. YOU DIVORCE HER. SHE GETS CUSTODY ALONG WITH 25% OF YOUR MONEY EACH MONTH.
FUCK MARRAIGE.
KAYNE
I disagree. Be strong. If you fail so fucken what! If you decide you wanna just get up and leave to upgrade her to a community college dropout that's barely legal that's your right.
What us fella's should do instead is push the feminazi's back into the limite of decency, and stop this premise of "divorce warrants revenge".
What us fella's should do instead is push the feminazi's back into the limite of decency, and stop this premise of "divorce warrants revenge".
p0ink
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this is how I see marriage. Marriage is a fucking joke and a bad business deal. The other person will eventually fuck you over and leave you for someone else. And the best part is, she'll take half of your shit. So you will be paying someone you hate on a monthly basis and having het get half your shit. im also one jaded son of a bitch though
Hmmmmmmmm...
That can go both ways..... When my parents got divorced, my mom had to pay my dad- still is..... Both my parents are successful but she had more.
Marriage can be AWESOME if it's to the right person. People are allready planning their divorce and they are not even hitched yet.
What's up with that???
starfish
That can go both ways..... When my parents got divorced, my mom had to pay my dad- still is..... Both my parents are successful but she had more.
Marriage can be AWESOME if it's to the right person. People are allready planning their divorce and they are not even hitched yet.
What's up with that???
starfish
spentagn
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starfish said:Hmmmmmmmm...
That can go both ways..... When my parents got divorced, my mom had to pay my dad- still is..... Both my parents are successful but she had more.
Marriage can be AWESOME if it's to the right person. People are allready planning their divorce and they are not even hitched yet.
What's up with that???
starfish
exactly.
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Warik
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djardin said:
The fact that you see marriage as nothing but a legal commitment is precisely why you do not see the point of it.
-Warik
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Code
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I'd like to get married again. But I'm cool with things as they are.
But if you've been with a girl for 7 years, at some point you have to put up or shut up. 7 years is a long time to date someone.
But if it ain't right, and the booty's good....*grin*
But if you've been with a girl for 7 years, at some point you have to put up or shut up. 7 years is a long time to date someone.
But if it ain't right, and the booty's good....*grin*
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KAYNE
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starfish said:
HOW OFTEN DOES THAT HAPPEN? 1% OF THE TIME. WOMEN GET HALF 99% OF THE TIME. YOU (AND ALL OTHER FEMALES) KNOW IT. THEY EVEN TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THAT A MAJORITY OF THE TIME. THEY CAN LEAVE A MAN FOR NO REASON AND FUCK UP HIS LIFE. THEY CAN EVEN CHEAT ON A MAN AND STILL FUCK UP HIS LIFE. WHY IS THAT???
P0INK
YOU AND I ARE ONE IN THE SAME.
KAYNE
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Citruscide
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Again... this is a thread I just have to read the title to make my comment...
First off -- BWWWAAAAAA HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
Second... all marriage does is give your wife an excuse to get fat, suck your money, and then divorce you and get child payments and alimony all the while you get the kids on the weekend like a sucka!
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First off -- BWWWAAAAAA HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
Second... all marriage does is give your wife an excuse to get fat, suck your money, and then divorce you and get child payments and alimony all the while you get the kids on the weekend like a sucka!
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if youve been with the chick for 7 years you might as well marry her. are you living together? she will probably qualify for common law if you are living together. i myself will never get married without a pre-nup. if the girl doesnt love me enough to say she wont take half my money if she gets tired of me, then she dont love me at all.
First of all, yea we have been living togeather for the full 7 years. and we share everything. There is nothing we would not do for each other. She has stuck by me through my years of self employment, which was not an easy thing to do!
I was going to get married once when i was in my 20's. I called it off 2 weeks before the wedding. It just hit me ant the stag and shower that i was going to do something that i would be paying for the rest of my life.
We are very happy, She is a school teacher ( with 38 dd's ). and i have sold my business and just taken a good job with a great company. Things are good. I just do not see how signing a piece of paper is going to strengthen it.
And for all of you that think that marige is this all loving testament, try being selfemployed and working 19 hour days 7 days a week and barely seing each other, not making enough to support yourself in the begining. That is the ultimate test o stating togeather, Not saying " I DO "
I was going to get married once when i was in my 20's. I called it off 2 weeks before the wedding. It just hit me ant the stag and shower that i was going to do something that i would be paying for the rest of my life.
We are very happy, She is a school teacher ( with 38 dd's ). and i have sold my business and just taken a good job with a great company. Things are good. I just do not see how signing a piece of paper is going to strengthen it.
And for all of you that think that marige is this all loving testament, try being selfemployed and working 19 hour days 7 days a week and barely seing each other, not making enough to support yourself in the begining. That is the ultimate test o stating togeather, Not saying " I DO "
I want to marry Puc, he is a little hesitant, but I grew up in a church so that's why marriage is important to me. That and I'm sick of people telling me we won't work. I know we will and this way people will understand that we are serious. We have been through so much together that i know we are strong enough to make it work. Nothing would make me happier than marrying puc.
p0ink said:
17, puc and i have been dating for a year. many of you probably don't understand but there is not a doubt in my mind that we are meant for eachother. i'm not saying our relationship is perfect, we have gotten in arguements but we care about eachother. that's what is important.
theoak01
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i cant believe some of you people,i swear half of this board is going to end up old and alone wondering why
marrige is a sacred bond between to people who love each other and cant stand to be apart,it may not always workout in the end but that love must be there in the beginning or there is no point to marry
marrige is a sacred bond between to people who love each other and cant stand to be apart,it may not always workout in the end but that love must be there in the beginning or there is no point to marry
p0ink
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i'm 19 and the thought of marriage is ridiculous to me, well atleast for another 10-15 years. no offense, but i think 17 is way too early to think about marriage dood...just wait till you go to college...there are sooo many people. But you sound like a really sweet girl, so good karma for you =)
The Canadian Oak said:
God I wish i was young again. Let me tell you something. try living with some one for four, five , six years. We will see if your thoughts on the subject of love change. And remember your love for each other when the little things that you loved about each other drive you to the point of insanity.
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Well said maeby but answer me this. What is so different mentally if we were to get married? Would i love her more? Would i do more for her. I do not think so. My daily routine consists of getting up before her, Making breakfast, pressing her clothes for the day, packing the lunches for the day, and taking care of the rest of the chores while she gets ready. When i get home from work she usually has been home for about half an hour, I start supper while she takes a shower. after supper I clean up. Then we usually snuggle watching a movie or have some coffee and listen to Art Spencer ( he is the local love song dj on the radio ) I always ask her about her day and i never ask for any special treatment in return. We are in a relationship with common goals. Now you tell me that i would feel diferent about her if we would have a ceramony? I don't think so.
Hannibal said:
Well said maeby but answer me this. What is so different mentally if we were to get married? Would i love her more? Would i do more for her. I do not think so. My daily routine consists of getting up before her, Making breakfast, pressing her clothes for the day, packing the lunches for the day, and taking care of the rest of the chores while she gets ready. When i get home from work she usually has been home for about half an hour, I start supper while she takes a shower. after supper I clean up. Then we usually snuggle watching a movie or have some coffee and listen to Art Spencer ( he is the local love song dj on the radio ) I always ask her about her day and i never ask for any special treatment in return. We are in a relationship with common goals. Now you tell me that i would feel diferent about her if we would have a ceramony? I don't think so.
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HighIntensity
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ah marrige, once something I thought was soon to be my life. This is how I see it, I could not wait to get married to my ex. We had the best of everything, so I thought. I thought marrige was the next logical step. We were so close, why not just make it legal, put the pen to the paper to express our love to the world.
I even asked her before I could afford a BIG TIME ring, and the answer was YES!!! We went out and got wedding bands for the time being (her idea). We talked about the wedding, organized it in our heads, discussed it with her parents.
Point being we are NOT GETTING MARRIED, her mind is now own partying and dateing another guy. You should not talk about it until your are sure, im embarresed that I asked her...now I will always know that whoever I marry, I will have already asked the question before to another girl. People always told me to be careful with all the marrige talk, but I laughed, confident in my "perfect thing". But in life nothings perfect, and with marrige we got to be for sure.
I even asked her before I could afford a BIG TIME ring, and the answer was YES!!! We went out and got wedding bands for the time being (her idea). We talked about the wedding, organized it in our heads, discussed it with her parents.
Point being we are NOT GETTING MARRIED, her mind is now own partying and dateing another guy. You should not talk about it until your are sure, im embarresed that I asked her...now I will always know that whoever I marry, I will have already asked the question before to another girl. People always told me to be careful with all the marrige talk, but I laughed, confident in my "perfect thing". But in life nothings perfect, and with marrige we got to be for sure.
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Warik
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daised said:
Pardon me if I'm incorrect, but isn't Puc old enough to be your daddy?
-Warik
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Warik
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Re: Re: Re: Re: thoughts on marrige
The reason you keep getting the wrong answers is because you keep asking the wrong questions. Getting married is not like saying "damn I think I'll buy the Maxima over the Kia because I'll get so much more out of it and it will make me happier." If you get married with the expectation of getting something out of it that you did not have before, then you can bet that you won't be happy.
Such a simple concept, yet so difficult to understand for some...
-Warik
djardin said:
The reason you keep getting the wrong answers is because you keep asking the wrong questions. Getting married is not like saying "damn I think I'll buy the Maxima over the Kia because I'll get so much more out of it and it will make me happier." If you get married with the expectation of getting something out of it that you did not have before, then you can bet that you won't be happy.
Such a simple concept, yet so difficult to understand for some...
-Warik
Taps
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I agree with what Warik said.
I'd also like to add that of all the married people I know, only one couple is truly happy. That would be my mom and step dad. Took both of 'em 2 marriges each to get it right.
Everyone else is miserable, or completly disillusioned with thier partners/themselves.
I'd like to get hitched one day....far, far, far in the future. Hell, I can't even handle my own problems much less deal with someone elses.
I'd also like to add that of all the married people I know, only one couple is truly happy. That would be my mom and step dad. Took both of 'em 2 marriges each to get it right.
Everyone else is miserable, or completly disillusioned with thier partners/themselves.I'd like to get hitched one day....far, far, far in the future. Hell, I can't even handle my own problems much less deal with someone elses.
warik, Funny you should give the maxima and kia analogy. Those are the exact cars that we own. Anyway i respect your opinion but i guess i do not get the point that you are trying to make. why would you do anything ( marrige ) if you do not get something out of it ?
I agree with spatterson about the kurt and goldie thing
I agree with spatterson about the kurt and goldie thing
This one is gonna be an endless chain. Either you feel marriage is a important step to commit finally in your relationship or you feel it is a waste of good paper. I had a slash and burn first marriage, yet even with all that bitterness and ( I'll never make that mistake again attitude) I still found someone I wanted to marry and did and it's great.
Y_lifter
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Too many people get married because they feel they should, as the next natural step in a long term relationship.
There is nothing wrong with loving someone for your entire life and staying unwed.
Life long Commitment to another person does not require a license.
But as an Old Timer, I think that if that lifelong plan includes starting a family, the right thing to do in today's society is to be
legally joined for the sake of making your childrens lives more stable both legally and in the eyes of society.
This is not to imply that a person can't do a fine job of raising a child alone, it just seems society makes it more difficult to do so.
This perception and reality is SLOWLY changing but I don't think it is the right direction IMO.
There is nothing wrong with loving someone for your entire life and staying unwed.
Life long Commitment to another person does not require a license.
But as an Old Timer, I think that if that lifelong plan includes starting a family, the right thing to do in today's society is to be
legally joined for the sake of making your childrens lives more stable both legally and in the eyes of society.
This is not to imply that a person can't do a fine job of raising a child alone, it just seems society makes it more difficult to do so.
This perception and reality is SLOWLY changing but I don't think it is the right direction IMO.
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