Some advice please.

[chewyxrage]

Okay-


I need some help sorting through this. This topic has been bothering me for some time now.

I have this one lady who I have been in a previous relationship for 3 1/2 years, and we just broke up this summer. We goto the same college but are both from the same hometown(we went to college together). We broke up over the summer time, but we have still been seeing each other a few times a month. Most times it has been conversational but ended up being sexual. We know each other very well and know how to please each other, which is why it makes this situation so hard to leave.

I have this other lady that I have known my whole life and have been great friends with. I had never known any sexual attraction untill recently (about 5 months after long term girl and i broke up). On new years- we were both intoxicated as hell and ended up having sex. This was the 3rd (yea thats right) the 3rd person that i have sex with in my whole life. We ended up being together the next night also alone. After all this happened, we both went to our different schools (she goes to a school about 3 hours aways). Basically, it seems to me that she wants a full time commitment. Personally, I can't fathom this from 3 hours away at different schools. I don't even think I want anything serious at this point in my life.

To make things even more difficult, I have this other girl that is younger than me who is all up on me. I am attracted to her, but she knows of my situation with the long-term girl and she is constantly asking me about it.


Wow......

To make a long question short -



How do you deal with girls that you hook up with once (not necessarily sex) and then realize that you don't want to be with?

What the hell do you say?

And what should I do with this long term girlfriend shit? Tell her to fuck off and stop worrying? I mean it seems she exists to fuck with my emotions so....

Need some advice....any comments will help.

 

[chewyxrage]

I'll prolly be told I'm a pussy and that i should hit them all....but i need some real advice....

 

[Lumberg]

why don't you start a new chapter in the history of male-female relationships and actually be honest?

or you could do what the rest of the scumbags do and just stop returning her phone calls/IMs/emails.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

been in a similar position, and got through it by deciding not to make a decision

i just acted like i was dating and had no loyalty to any of them. when they got peeved and started firing questions i told them (truthfully) that i was a bit confused, but i really enjoyed their company and wanted to just hang out (and have sex if it came up) for a while until things settled in my mind

works great as long as you arent too attached. it gave me the time i needed to make up my mind, and it was nice having a handful of women who were doing their best to please me, and were up for sex all the time

its also quite fair and bastardish at the same time. cant believe i pulled it off for so long

 

[ChefWide]

Hmmm... do what Curling would do. That should keep her from calling back.

 

[EnderJE]

To make a long question short -

How do you deal with girls that you hook up with once (not necessarily sex) and then realize that you don't want to be with?

What the hell do you say?

And what should I do with this long term girlfriend shit? Tell her to fuck off and stop worrying? I mean it seems she exists to fuck with my emotions so....

Tell them that you want to break up. Tell them that its not them, its you and you see them as a friend.

lol

 

[stuffperson]

Drag it out man, Keep things going with all of them unless it is too stressful. You're in college? There is more important shit to do right now, finish school w/ decent to good grades, try to secure a job or at least do internships so you'll have experience to get a job once you graduate.

Girls will waste all your fuckin time at this point, plus you don't HAVE to choose shit right now, i'd personally keep the situation up as long as possible until i was comfortable enough to make a confident decision on my own.

 

[chewyxrage]

Thanks for replies


^

 

[chewyxrage]

Re: Re: Some advice please.

Tell them that you want to break up. Tell them that its not them, its you and you see them as a friend.

lol

This only works on the O.C.

 

[gonelifting]

Truth bro. Some will accept it some won`t. It will make your life easier in your situation because you don`t want to be with the one`s that don`t accept it anyway at this (stressful college) point in your life anyway or ever for that matter.