So sad....

[flexygrl]

Debated about posting this....

Over the summer I met this guy. He was perfect, physically, finanically, but emotionally he was the biggest a-hole I ever met in my life. I gave him soooo many chances hopeing things would work out then mysteriously he vanished...


Weeks went by and occasionally I would email him. He would always reply back, it was polite. We made plans to get coffee soon...

Today, I followed up...he's seriously dating someone. Get this though, he said he would still meet me for a drink.

I know he isn't the type of guy that would be right for me, but my heart sank....

oh well....

 

[Sassy69]

Debated about posting this....

but emotionally he was the biggest a-hole I ever met in my life.
I know he isn't the type of guy that would be right for me, but my heart sank....

oh well....

oh well?? First, what comes around goes around. Second, that guy would be the biggest anchor around your neck. You would spend more time letting him just make you feel worse & worse. People like that are emotional black holes and they will suck the life out of you.

So. I personally think you might want to thank him for giving you a better life by staying out it!

 

[Smurfy]

did anyone see yesterday's oprah episode? there was a guy from sex and the city on there who recently wrote a book about women and how we often sit around waiting on men or wondering if they are interested in us. if you have to second guess yourself or ask yourself "do they or dont they?" , then the answer is

"he's just not that into you"

move on girl., you deserve to be the center of someone's world. not a side dish

 

[jenscats5]

did anyone see yesterday's oprah episode? there was a guy from sex and the city on there who recently wrote a book about women and how we often sit around waiting on men or wondering if they are interested in us. if you have to second guess yourself or ask yourself "do they or dont they?" , then the answer is

"he's just not that into you"

move on girl., you deserve to be the center of someone's world. not a side dish

Excellent words!!

It's better to be alone than to SETTLE with someone who doesn't make you #1........ Don't be so hard on yourself....

 

[Smurfy]

hell yeah Jenz. i mean, why waste your time with someone who you describe as an asshole? doesnt make sense.

another line from that Oprah episode goes like this:

"dont waste the pretty"

youre pretty. dont waste it on someone who cant appreciate the pretty.

 

[flexygrl]

hell yeah Jenz. i mean, why waste your time with someone who you describe as an asshole? doesnt make sense.

another line from that Oprah episode goes like this:

"dont waste the pretty"

youre pretty. dont waste it on someone who cant appreciate the pretty.

LOL! You guys are great!!! Yes, I am familiar with the episode. I didn't see it, but my friend told me about me...

Funny thing though. Last night I was contacted by a "ghost". A guy that I met when I first left my ex-husband instant messaged me yesterday. This guy and I hit it off right away and we had an awesome time and then suddenly it just went sour. I would still think of him from time to time though. Well apparently he must think of me too. We are going out tomorrow. : )

 

[jenscats5]

LOL! You guys are great!!! Yes, I am familiar with the episode. I didn't see it, but my friend told me about me...

Funny thing though. Last night I was contacted by a "ghost". A guy that I met when I first left my ex-husband instant messaged me yesterday. This guy and I hit it off right away and we had an awesome time and then suddenly it just went sour. I would still think of him from time to time though. Well apparently he must think of me too. We are going out tomorrow. : )

You go girl!! Be yourself -- if the guy doesn't appreciate you for who & WHAT you are then he is NOT worth YOU!! Also, as someone who was in a situation similar to yours once, once you are comfortable with yourself and enjoy being by YOURSELF and don't NEED someone to complete YOU -- then that special someone will come along..... Be patient -- You are worth it!!

And have fun on your date!!

 

[flexygrl]

You go girl!! Be yourself -- if the guy doesn't appreciate you for who & WHAT you are then he is NOT worth YOU!! Also, as someone who was in a situation similar to yours once, once you are comfortable with yourself and enjoy being by YOURSELF and don't NEED someone to complete YOU -- then that special someone will come along..... Be patient -- You are worth it!!

And have fun on your date!!

Jen,

I completely agree with this! Finally, almost 8 months later, I am finally there. It's okay to be home alone on the weekends...it's okay to go to a movie alone...no one has the right to treat me like shit...

LOL! It didn't take me THAT long...plus in the process I became soooo much closer to my girlfriends and family. So even though I'm "alone", I'm not really alone...

 

[Smurfy]

what happened with this guy that it suddenly went sour? thats a red flag to me.

 

[flexygrl]

what happened with this guy that it suddenly went sour? thats a red flag to me.

Yes, it is a red flag...to me too. These things I'll share eventually. I just want to see how it'll be on Saturday. I'll keep you all posted. : )

 

[Smurfy]

ok well good luck.

 

[Pamela]

Don't ever sit around and wait on a guy.

They will break your heart if you do..
Take it from someone with that experience.

 

[Raina]

My thought is generally (though contradicted a few times in my past in moments of insanity) that it's better to be alone than with being with someone who doesn't treat you right. At minimum, it's fair to expect another person to give the same percentage of effort you're going to put in. You deserve someone who will treat you like a queen and make you feel wonderful.

 

[Seashell]

did anyone see yesterday's oprah episode? there was a guy from sex and the city on there who recently wrote a book about women and how we often sit around waiting on men or wondering if they are interested in us. if you have to second guess yourself or ask yourself "do they or dont they?" , then the answer is

"he's just not that into you"

move on girl., you deserve to be the center of someone's world. not a side dish

Great post!

I've loved that line ever since it first came up on Sex & The City, and it's so very true. If you have to ask...

As women, sometimes we don't do each other favours when trying to console one another.. saying things like "maybe he's afraid of commitment", "maybe he needs more time".. when the bottom line is, he's not that into you. Why waste time trying to make it work with that person, when there's so many others out there?

 

[flexygrl]

Great post!

I've loved that line ever since it first came up on Sex & The City, and it's so very true. If you have to ask...

As women, sometimes we don't do each other favours when trying to console one another.. saying things like "maybe he's afraid of commitment", "maybe he needs more time".. when the bottom line is, he's not that into you. Why waste time trying to make it work with that person, when there's so many others out there?

I completely agree...


Honestly, I was very sad when I found out that guy was married. But, I would never want a man like that in my life. He's MARRIED but still willing to go for a drink with me. It made me sad cause I started to feel, well, why not me? Then, I realized why not me, cause I don't need him in my life. I deserve better.


The other guy...

Well, we did go out. But just as it was before, he's a complete flake. He doesn't know what he wants and I refuse to waste my time on anyone like that. I know what i want. I have plenty of girlfriends and do not need a guy as a friend, thank you very much.

Turns out he contacted me because he had gotten a little typsy. Typical...

So, I asked him to NEVER contact me again. On to the next chapter.

Oh and btw, I'm not actively looking for ANYONE. I've resigned myself to being alone and I'm cool with that.

 

[Seashell]

I completely agree...


Honestly, I was very sad when I found out that guy was married. But, I would never want a man like that in my life. He's MARRIED but still willing to go for a drink with me. It made me sad cause I started to feel, well, why not me? Then, I realized why not me, cause I don't need him in my life. I deserve better.


The other guy...

Well, we did go out. But just as it was before, he's a complete flake. He doesn't know what he wants and I refuse to waste my time on anyone like that. I know what i want. I have plenty of girlfriends and do not need a guy as a friend, thank you very much.

Turns out he contacted me because he had gotten a little typsy. Typical...

So, I asked him to NEVER contact me again. On to the next chapter.

Oh and btw, I'm not actively looking for ANYONE. I've resigned myself to being alone and I'm cool with that.

Good for you Flexy! Sounds like you have the right attitude.

I've been doing my own thing for over a year now, and I don't mind at all. It takes a bit of getting used to when you first come out of a serious relationship, but now I love it. No stupid drama, no games. I date, but I won't put up with any BS.