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patsfan1379
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How many of you guys have this story? Loved someone, broke up and reunited later? Anyone care to share some stories?
Do you believe in second chances?
Do you believe in second chances?
Second chance at first love?
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Meantime1
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I do believe in second love chances
Sometimes people come into our life's at the wrong time, sometimes at a period where you are still trying to find out who you are as a person, knowing your strength and your weakness, And sometimes if life is Kind to you it will bring your paths together again, That is why i STRONGLY believe, ( what is truly meant for will NOT pass you by)
NO one can take away what is meant for you
Sometimes people come into our life's at the wrong time, sometimes at a period where you are still trying to find out who you are as a person, knowing your strength and your weakness, And sometimes if life is Kind to you it will bring your paths together again, That is why i STRONGLY believe, ( what is truly meant for will NOT pass you by)
NO one can take away what is meant for you
I'm curious to hear this answer as well..
I've always been of the mind that once you break up, there's very little point getting back together.. mainly because I always see that it just leads to another breakup.
So, of those of you that are happily married (yeah, all 2 of you), did you ever break-up and then later decide, okay now things are perfect, lets be together forever?
I've always been of the mind that once you break up, there's very little point getting back together.. mainly because I always see that it just leads to another breakup.
So, of those of you that are happily married (yeah, all 2 of you), did you ever break-up and then later decide, okay now things are perfect, lets be together forever?
patsfan1379
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Well I'll fill everyone in. Quickly...
Me & GF... Together 5 1/2 yrs. Talk about marriage, kids future etc...
Always "expected" we be together.
We break up. She nervous & not ready for "real life" yet.
At breakup she says I love you, if its meant to be, it will be. If i come back and spend the rest of my life w/you i want to be 100% ready.
I was her first real love.
She was mine.
She wanted to be young and have fun w/her friends. I wanted the same for me.
One of my best buds got engaged to a girl whom he broke up with and got back together...
Just got me thinkin bout things...
Me & GF... Together 5 1/2 yrs. Talk about marriage, kids future etc...
Always "expected" we be together.
We break up. She nervous & not ready for "real life" yet.
At breakup she says I love you, if its meant to be, it will be. If i come back and spend the rest of my life w/you i want to be 100% ready.
I was her first real love.
She was mine.
She wanted to be young and have fun w/her friends. I wanted the same for me.
One of my best buds got engaged to a girl whom he broke up with and got back together...
Just got me thinkin bout things...
Forge
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Well, I've never had a second chance at love with someone. One did come back to me half a year later (many many years ago), but by that point she had abused my trust so bad that I could never love her like that again.
Still, and I'll be honest, if my ex-wife came home today and said she was willing to compromise on her truck driving job, and make at least some time for the two of us, I'd give her a second chance in a heartbeat. I haven't truly moved on yet, and the feelings are still there. However, if I was involved with someone and she came back, I'd turn her away.
So I believe in second chances, but only under ideal circumstances. I don't believe it's ever easy though.
Still, and I'll be honest, if my ex-wife came home today and said she was willing to compromise on her truck driving job, and make at least some time for the two of us, I'd give her a second chance in a heartbeat. I haven't truly moved on yet, and the feelings are still there. However, if I was involved with someone and she came back, I'd turn her away.
So I believe in second chances, but only under ideal circumstances. I don't believe it's ever easy though.
fistfullofsteel
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patsfan1379 said:
nope, i am doomed and so are you. stop the insanity. if you are really in love with her then you surely know she will eventually do her best to destory you.
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*MissFit*
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I have..
I have fallen in love and ran away because i was afraid to take a risk with my feelings
Got my second chance at it..and because of the first time.. it failed the 2nd...
Ppl change alot when your apart..
I would still try it again a 2nd time.. even if i know it would still not work out.. Just to try to get that feeling back again...
He meant the world to me at one time and as it just felt right..
I have fallen in love and ran away because i was afraid to take a risk with my feelings
Got my second chance at it..and because of the first time.. it failed the 2nd...
Ppl change alot when your apart..
I would still try it again a 2nd time.. even if i know it would still not work out.. Just to try to get that feeling back again...
He meant the world to me at one time and as it just felt right..
patsfan1379 said:
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fistfullofsteel said:
gotta love an optimist
fistfullofsteel
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patsfan1379 said:
hey brotha, just looking out for a fella NFL fan.
HumorMe
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patsfan1379 said:
I do.
Met my wife in 1979. Dated for about 6 months and then her mother died. I tried to console her and be there for her and she pushed me away and we wound up breaking up.
We actually wound up hating each other for about 2 years and didn't even speak when we saw each other around town. She called me one day and wanted to talk face to face. I took her out to eat and we talked all evening.
Decided to just be friends and do things together like going to movies, out to eat, dancing, etc. Over the next 6 years we fell in love with each other and got married in 1987.
18 years later we are more in love now than we have ever been. Good times the whole time we have been together. She is the best thing that could have ever happened to me. There is not a mean bone in her body. I don't know what I have done to deserve her but I always wonder where I would be if she had not called me and wanted to talk that day.
I used to never give second chances but I do believe in them.
strangebrew
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My wife and I broke up twice before getting married.
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big4life said:
This is true.
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The Shadow
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agree....
parting as friends is the ideal.....
doesnt always hapen.....and sometimes its worth the effort to try again...
parting as friends is the ideal.....
doesnt always hapen.....and sometimes its worth the effort to try again...
patsfan1379
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I agree with all of you.
We parted on pretty good terms. We really have no reason to dislike each other, never cheated wasn't other people etc...
I believe she thought it through, but what she thought through, was the "now" that "now" she needs to be independant, on her own, knowing she can do everything herself. I understand that.
What I don't think she understands is the future....
People talk about regrets... Which would you regret more?
Doing those things, having the "peter pan" mindset...
or giving up the first true love of your life, the person who you planned everything with...
We parted on pretty good terms. We really have no reason to dislike each other, never cheated wasn't other people etc...
I believe she thought it through, but what she thought through, was the "now" that "now" she needs to be independant, on her own, knowing she can do everything herself. I understand that.
What I don't think she understands is the future....
People talk about regrets... Which would you regret more?
Doing those things, having the "peter pan" mindset...
or giving up the first true love of your life, the person who you planned everything with...
Forge
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patsfan1379 said:
Sounds like my wife. She is thinking only of herself and what she wants, but years from now when she is tired of being on the road constantly, what will she have left to come home to? When she thinks back to the loving marriage she sacrificed so she could drive a truck 12 hours a day every day, will she have regrets?
I worry about her, she is quickly becoming her mother (72 yrs old, in poor health, broke and alone) and following in her footsteps. I hope she finds happiness and security down the road without me.
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The Shadow
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patsfan1379 said:
For me....
I would regret not giving the relationship another try, IF both parties are open to it, somewhere down the road etc
But I would regret STAYING in an unhappy relationship, even if she was my first love, even more...
patsfan1379
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The Shadow said:
agreed.
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The Shadow
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patsfan1379 said:
No one knows the relationship but the two people involved.
You will definitely know when its time to move on.....its the toughest thing you might ever go through
patsfan1379
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The Shadow said:
you couldnt have said it better.
i have moved on, but just not given up hope in the back of my head.
im open to new people... I dont think Im doomed to be alone etc...
I know there are tons of others...
Theres just this deep deep feeling in my gut that it will eventually work out. That and the fact that for 5 years we told each other we were "the ones".
I'm such a fag.
P.S. Whats up Woot!!!!!!!!
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patsfan1379 said:
I SO understand where you are coming from on that......
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The Shadow said:
I am an AMAZING judge of character and I have a crazy intuition. I usually can tell you how a person is, or what they are like within 15 minutes. Don't ask me how, I just know...
What I get from her, is that she is young and lost... That she needs to find herself before realizing what is truly important in life.
Time will tell. It sucks balls, but time will tell.
Steve The Bluesman
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I don't think it works...I am an old guy for the board (37) and I have been in many LT relationships. A couple of times after months or years without being in touch with an ex, I got back in touch with the ex's. (from courage or desperation, I don't know which)
One I met for a drink, we closed the bar together, she all lovey-dovey, but I knew whatever we had once had was gone...the other I met for lunch. She was engaged to be married, but evidently had cold feet - again, I saw her, talked to her, but there was just nothing there, and she felt she was betraying her fiancee' by meeting me. I regretted it both times.
Old GF's are like finding an old pair of nice shoes that hurt your feet worse and worse the longer you wore them but you decide to try them on again. As soon as you do, you know why you don't wear them anymore.
Bluesman
One I met for a drink, we closed the bar together, she all lovey-dovey, but I knew whatever we had once had was gone...the other I met for lunch. She was engaged to be married, but evidently had cold feet - again, I saw her, talked to her, but there was just nothing there, and she felt she was betraying her fiancee' by meeting me. I regretted it both times.
Old GF's are like finding an old pair of nice shoes that hurt your feet worse and worse the longer you wore them but you decide to try them on again. As soon as you do, you know why you don't wear them anymore.
Bluesman
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chesty said:
I strongly disagree. I'm sad that my marriage has ended and it's wrecked me pretty good, but I know that I'm a much stronger and wiser man because of the 7 years I spent with her. I've learned so much about women, myself, sex, marriage and relationships. Mine ended on strange circumstances, but I now have no doubt in my mind that I can make a marriage work, as long as the woman is also willing to make it work. I've learned about what's really important to me, what I really want in life, and it's not what I used to think it was before I got married. I've just gained so much perspective from being head over heels in love. I've changed alot over these 7 years, and for the better too.
Even if I knew all those years ago that my marriage would someday end this way, I'd still do it all over again in a heartbeat. What I've gained is more than worth the pain I'm feeling now. So I would have to say that it is definately better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. How else do we learn in life?
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