Relationships

[biteme]

Have you ever been in a relationship that you wanted to get out of but dreaded hurting the other person? How long did it take you to end it once you decided that you needed your space?

 

[biteme]

Here we go again for me. I'm dating another woman. This makes about the 10th since my divorce 4 years ago. I'm almost certain it won't last that long.

 

[ajtomasi]

tell her a woman from you past has contacted you that you are the father of two of her children.

 

[plornive]

Tell her from the start that you are unsure you want to be in a relationship. Have an exit strategy. When you want to end it, it's all about just not caring... Just my opinion.

 

[biteme]

Tell her from the start that you are unsure you want to be in a relationship. Have an exit strategy. When you want to end it, it's all about just not caring... Just my opinion.

That's the strategy that I always use and employ. I'm just getting tired of it. I think I should just quit dating.

 

[plornive]

If you look hard enough, you could find ladies who just want to fuck...

what are you looking for?

 

[biteme]

If you look hard enough, you could find ladies who just want to fuck...

what are you looking for?

I guess I'm screwed. I don't want that anymore either. I like affection but only for a little while. I just want a part time lover and noone seems to be game for that.

 

[BowlingForSoup]

Man, I could be totally wrong but it sounds like you kind of need a break...ya know? As though it's all just irritating you right now.

 

[HumanShell]

Take Ms. Rosey Palm out for a couple of months.

 

[ANABOLICK1]

When I hook up with a new chick, and I know she's not a keeper, I put on an act pretending I really dig her, just to get the casual sex. I know it's dishonest but I don't care. It's hard enough getting steady sex when you're single.
When i find someone new (or better) I let the other one go. Cold? Maybe. But guys get rejected a hell of a lot more often.

 

[biteme]

Take Ms. Rosey Palm out for a couple of months.

I've been taking Mrs. Rosie Palm out for 25 years. She is always available, a cheap date, and rarely ever lets me down.

 

[biteme]

When I hook up with a new chick, and I know she's not a keeper, I put on an act pretending I really dig her, just to get the casual sex. I know it's dishonest but I don't care. It's hard enough getting steady sex when you're single.
When i find someone new (or better) I let the other one go. Cold? Maybe. But guys get rejected a hell of a lot more often.

That is cold. But I understand, a guy needs to get laid. If that's the only way, then it's better than nothing.

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

When I hook up with a new chick, and I know she's not a keeper, I put on an act pretending I really dig her, just to get the casual sex. I know it's dishonest but I don't care. It's hard enough getting steady sex when you're single.
When i find someone new (or better) I let the other one go. Cold? Maybe. But guys get rejected a hell of a lot more often.

Leading someone on just to get laid is pretty deceptive. Why don't you just get a fuck buddy? You should meet a girl in a swingers club. Or go to college parties. LOL

 

[biteme]

Leading someone on just to get laid is pretty deceptive. Why don't you just get a fuck buddy? You should meet a girl in a swingers club. Or go to college parties. LOL

I agree. That's what I need, just a few fuck buddies who you can call out of the blue and say, "Do you want to come over and fuck like animals?"

 

[biteme]

I think the problem is that I've been conditioned to think that it's abnormal to just have sex. I always think there has to be romance involved. When I was younger, I could just fuck to fuck. But for some reason it bothers my conscience more now, so I have to have romance to justify the sex.

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

I think sometimes men think you either have to fuck a woman without any feelings and probably with some disrespect, or you have to be romancing her.

It is possible to be sensual and kind and respectful, and yet just be hittin it. I know I definitely have several female friends who would love to find that in a man. Instead, the only guys usually up for a non-comittal, casual sexual relationship usually treat them like shit, or like sluts. Maybe they worry that treating them otherwise would be leading them on? I dunno. I think its pretty important to be upfront about what you're looking for. Saves all the bullshit.

 

[biteme]

I think sometimes men think you either have to fuck a woman without any feelings and probably with some disrespect, or you have to be romancing her.

It is possible to be sensual and kind and respectful, and yet just be hittin it. I know I definitely have several female friends who would love to find that in a man. Instead, the only guys usually up for a non-comittal, casual sexual relationship usually treat them like shit, or like sluts. Maybe they worry that treating them otherwise would be leading them on? I dunno. I think its pretty important to be upfront about what you're looking for. Saves all the bullshit.

LOL. They need look no further, I don't treat anyone like shit. I usually go out of my way to make them as comfortable as possibe. I've had quite a bit of casual sex, mostly in the past. I love sex, and if you're not in love, IMO you shouldn't have to go without sex. I love the human contact, touching, holding, all of it.

 

[Baoh]

Leading someone on just to get laid is pretty deceptive. Why don't you just get a fuck buddy? You should meet a girl in a swingers club. Or go to college parties. LOL

When in doubt, cheat on your boyfriend, aye?

 

[Baoh]

I think sometimes men think you either have to fuck a woman without any feelings and probably with some disrespect, or you have to be romancing her.

It is possible to be sensual and kind and respectful, and yet just be hittin it. I know I definitely have several female friends who would love to find that in a man. Instead, the only guys usually up for a non-comittal, casual sexual relationship usually treat them like shit, or like sluts. Maybe they worry that treating them otherwise would be leading them on? I dunno. I think its pretty important to be upfront about what you're looking for. Saves all the bullshit.

"or like sluts"

So, do they behave as their common friend who is at Rutgers? If so, they should be worried, as that would be what many have come to know as the truth.

 

[ANABOLICK1]

Leading someone on just to get laid is pretty deceptive. Why don't you just get a fuck buddy? You should meet a girl in a swingers club. Or go to college parties. LOL

Yea, a fuckbuddy is what I'm looking for, but most women want some kind of commitment..

 

[ANABOLICK1]

I think sometimes men think you either have to fuck a woman without any feelings and probably with some disrespect, or you have to be romancing her.

It is possible to be sensual and kind and respectful, and yet just be hittin it. I know I definitely have several female friends who would love to find that in a man. Instead, the only guys usually up for a non-comittal, casual sexual relationship usually treat them like shit, or like sluts. Maybe they worry that treating them otherwise would be leading them on? I dunno. I think its pretty important to be upfront about what you're looking for. Saves all the bullshit.

All the women I've been with I've treated good. Even though I wasn't completely forthright in my intentions with them...
I've tried being upfront with women about what I'm looking for, but when you mention casual sex ,they lose interest. They just don't buy it. It's only when you've been with someone awhile where they might actually consider it. But to mention that right off the bat..forget it. I suppose they have to warm up to you first.